Flatmate waking me up, am I being petty?

Kraft.l

Hey just a quick question here, flatmate started a job and he's waking me up at 6.30 am average every morning, I don't need to get up at that time, have trouble getting back to sleep, exhausted and can't focus all day, surely he could have a shower the night before and still be fresh, because I would do that to show consideration if our position was reversed , any thoughts?

Rackstar

Tell him you are waking every morning, and ask if he could shower the night before?

Tigger

Rackstar wrote: »

Tell him you are waking every morning, and ask if he could shower the night before?

And go to work manky?

Neon_Lights

get earplugs, your flatmate is entitled to have a shower before work. i think your sensitivity is the issue, if you cant live with people move out.

patsypantaloni

Get some earplugs

Tigger

Kraft.l wrote: »

Hey just a quick question here, flatmate started a job and he's waking me up at 6.30 am average every morning, I don't need to get up at that time, have trouble getting back to sleep, exhausted and can't focus all day, surely he could have a shower the night before and still be fresh, because I would do that to show consideration if our position was reversed , any thoughts?

I need a shower in the morning to wake up
What time do you get up at

Kraft.l

Tigger wrote: »

Rackstar wrote: »

Tell him you are waking every morning, and ask if he could shower the night before?

And go to work manky?

Millions of people have a shower the night before.

ThunbergsAreGo

Kraft.l wrote: »

Millions of people have a shower the night before.

Not to suit their flatmate

colm_mcm

Kraft.l wrote: »

Millions of people have a shower the night before.

Millions of people don't shower at all.

Kraft.l

Neon_Lights wrote: »

get earplugs, your flatmate is entitled to have a shower before work. i think your sensitivity is the issue, if you cant live with people move out.

I have earplugs, the wall is paperthin and it sounds like a jet engine.

Tigger

Kraft.l wrote: »

Millions of people have a shower the night before.

What time do you get up at

Grayditch

Get some 3M earplugs. They're comfy and you get used to them fairly quick. Might even have a better overall sleep, too.

Showering the night before. I don't get that. Beds are sweaty.

Kraft.l

Tigger wrote: »

Kraft.l wrote: »

Hey just a quick question here, flatmate started a job and he's waking me up at 6.30 am average every morning, I don't need to get up at that time, have trouble getting back to sleep, exhausted and can't focus all day, surely he could have a shower the night before and still be fresh, because I would do that to show consideration if our position was reversed , any thoughts?

I need a shower in the morning to wake up
What time do you get up at

8.00 am

colm_mcm

Pumped showers are annoying to be fair.
It's not unreasonable for a person to have a shower though.

Kraft.l

Grayditch wrote: »

Get some 3M earplugs. They're comfy and you get used to them fairly quick. Might even have a better overall sleep, too.

Showering the night before. I don't get that. Beds are sweaty.

Unless you're doing 50 laps of the Phoenix park all night I don't see how you can work up a sweat by sleeping still in bed.

Kraft.l

Grayditch wrote: »

Get some 3M earplugs. They're comfy and you get used to them fairly quick. Might even have a better overall sleep, too.

Showering the night before. I don't get that. Beds are sweaty.

I have earplugs, I use them every night.

Kraft.l

Any other people have this problem and how did they deal with it?

myshirt

This would piss me off aswell. I lived with a chap who woke at 5.30ish and got home at 11.30ish, a solicitor working the bollix off himself. He only took a break on a Sunday, though Saturday he'd get home early so it was only the morning that was a problem. He'd shower in the morning, shower in the night, cook, throw on his washing, put on the dryer, turn on all the lights, stomp all over the place, and have the TV on through all this.

I let him off because I said there's no way he can keep this up. My god was I wrong.

Nip it in the bud op, tell him straight out. In shared accommodation you can't be behaving like that. If that's the lifestyle he wants he will have to pay for it and get single occupancy.

Kraft.l

naughtb4 wrote: »

Kraft.l wrote: »

Millions of people have a shower the night before.

Not to suit their flatmate

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Collie D

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Very cranky. I think you need more sleep

Cyrus

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Half 6 isn't an unreasonable time to get up , if I was him I wouldn't be changing my morning routine to suit you sorry

myshirt

Collie D wrote: »

Very cranky. I think you need more sleep

That's exactly it. This is having a huge effect on the op's endocrine system.

colm_mcm

myshirt wrote: »

Nip it in the bud op, tell him straight out. In shared accommodation you can't be behaving like that. If that's the lifestyle he wants he will have to pay for it and get single occupancy.

I doubt getting up at 630 is the lifestyle he wants. He's just getting off his ass and working.

Kraft.l

myshirt wrote: »

Collie D wrote: »

Very cranky. I think you need more sleep

That's exactly it. This is having a huge effect on the op's endocrine system.

Not really , to be honest I don't think it's much to ask for an hour and a half extra sleep.

Kraft.l

Well I'll guess we'll have to go our separate ways then.

Deub

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Like he is entitled to take a shower in the morning.
You can ask if he doesn't mind taking a shower in the evening.
If he doesn't want, you don't really have a choice: Move out and make sure the sound proofing in your next place is top notch or your bedroom is not next to the bathroom or kitchen.

ThunbergsAreGo

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Get earplugs as many people have said

Tigger

Kraft.l wrote: »

Unless you're doing 50 laps of the Phoenix park all night I don't see how you can work up a sweat by sleeping still in bed.

A morning shower is essential If you work in a customer facing role
What does he do ? What do you do that you don't need to get up till 8

Kraft.l

Deub wrote: »

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Like he is entitled to take a shower in the morning.
You can ask if he doesn't mind taking a shower in the evening.
If he doesn't want, you don't really have a choice: Move out and make sure the sound proofing in your next place is top notch or your bedroom is not next to the bathroom or kitchen.

Right.

hairyslug

I'm a sweater at night so I need to have a shower in the morning, this guy could be the same.
I know everyone is different but 630 isn't that early and asking someone to shower at night time would be akin to suggest that you go to bed earlier.

Have you tried different earplugs, different models mould differently in your ears and can really block out everything.

ThunbergsAreGo

hairyslug wrote: »

I'm a sweater at night so I need to have a shower in the morning, this guy could be the same.
I know everyone is different but 630 isn't that early and asking someone to shower at night time would be akin to suggest that you go to bed earlier.

Have you tried different earplugs, different models mould differently in your ears and can really block out everything.

Me too I am horrible if I don't shower in the morning

Collie D

It's unfortunate OP but I don't think it's something you can ask him to change.

Not a chance would I leave the house without a shower in the morning and I think most people would be the same. If he has to be up at 6.30 for work he doesn't really have a choice. Now if he was getting up to go to gym it would be very different

FunLover18

Kraft.l wrote:

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you, Would you like to be woken up at 6.30 am every morning, if you're not going to post helpful suggestions then don't waste my time.

Last time I checked, quality of sleep isn't included in any rent agreements. However your flatmate pays rent and is actually entitled to use the shower. I'm sure it is frustrating and I sympathise but to ask him to change his routine because it wakes you through no fault of his own (paper thin walls and a pump shower) is a bit much. For me personally a shower in the morning is just as crucial to my day as a good night's sleep.

Kraft.l

hairyslug wrote: »

I'm a sweater at night so I need to have a shower in the morning, this guy could be the same.
I know everyone is different but 630 isn't that early and asking someone to shower at night time would be akin to suggest that you go to bed earlier.

Have you tried different earplugs, different models mould differently in your ears and can really block out everything.

what kind of earplugs do you recommend?

Kraft.l

Tigger wrote: »

Kraft.l wrote: »

Unless you're doing 50 laps of the Phoenix park all night I don't see how you can work up a sweat by sleeping still in bed.

A morning shower is essential If you work in a customer facing role
What does he do ? What do you do that you don't need to get up till 8

I work with people.

hairyslug

Kraft.l wrote: »

what kind of earplugs do you recommend?

Have a look at gear gremlin rocket plugs, I use them on my bike, they are the only ones I find that stay in my ears.

Tell me how

You could go to bed and hour and a half earlier OP.

PixelTrawler

Go to bed earlier, get up earlier, do something with the time. I had/have an issue with neighbours dogs. Talking / shouting didnt solve it.

Switched my routine, I get up before work, go running and use the time I was being kept awake anyway. Life is better.

James 007

I would be the same. I prefer to shower in the morning it is my preference and I feel fresh after it. As a previous poster pointed out could you go to be 1.5 hours earlier and that way you get the same hours sleep. Do what ever you need to do in those 1.5 hours in the morning time.

If you get on well with each other, is it possible for you to swap rooms, would that help.

As another poster mentioned it is up to you to check out the shower and partitions when you view a property, especially with bathrooms/kitchens beside the bedrooms.

RustyNut

You could try get the landlord to upgrade the pump. Cheap pumps can as you say sound like some industrial machine. Top of the range pumps can be almost silent but come at a price. Could be worth a try.

Teyla Emmagan

To be fair he is getting up at a normal time and you are getting up late. No one sharing a house could be asked to be quiet for someone only getting up at 8am. That is lie in territory.

Kraft.l

James 007 wrote: »

I would be the same. I prefer to shower in the morning it is my preference and I feel fresh after it. As a previous poster pointed out could you go to be 1.5 hours earlier and that way you get the same hours sleep. Do what ever you need to do in those 1.5 hours in the morning time.

If you get on well with each other, is it possible for you to swap rooms, would that help.

As another poster mentioned it is up to you to check out the shower and partitions when you view a property, especially with bathrooms/kitchens beside the bedrooms.

Surely he could use the shower in work, and show consideration for me who pays rent to live there and is entitled to my sleep.

Dial Hard

Kraft.l wrote:

Surely he could use the shower in work, and show consideration for me who pays rent to live there and is entitled to my sleep.

You're actually getting more unreasonable as the thread goes on.

andekwarhola

630 isn't an unreasonable time to have a shower. Sleep through it or get your own place.

Your answers here just make me think you're overly sensitive and a overly light sleeper. Deal with it.

Tell me how

Kraft.l wrote:

Surely he could use the shower in work, and show consideration for me who pays rent to live there and is entitled to my sleep.

Yeah, I think you're just trolling now to be honest.

Mrs OBumble

Kraft.l wrote: »

Surely he could use the shower in work, and show consideration for me who pays rent to live there and is entitled to my sleep.

You are being petty.

6:30 is a normal time to be getting up.

You are the unusual one having a job that lets you sleep in every day.

Just turn over and go back to sleep. If you cannot get back to sleep, then you didn't need it anyways.

whoopsadoodles

6.30 isn't early.

Anything after 6am during the week is normal.

Kraft.l

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

To be fair he is getting up at a normal time and you are getting up late. No one sharing a house could be asked to be quiet for someone only getting up at 8am. That is lie in territory.

When I get up and my flatmate is asleep I go out of my way to show consideration by making no noise.

martineatworld

OP, what if your housemate worked nights, and only got up at half 9?
Would you change your morning routine to suit him?

whoopsadoodles

Kraft.l wrote: »

When I get up and my flatmate is asleep I go out of my way to show consideration by making absolutely no noise at all, because it's selfish, immature and unbelievably inconsiderate to just wake people up that don't need to get up at that time, you see it's a thing that adults develop as they get older whereas to see it from the other persons point of view, children just make noise and wake people up with no consideration.

Is he knocking on your door in the mornings going WAKEY WAKEY RISE AND SHINE!?

I kind of hope he is

Kraft.l

martineatworld wrote: »

OP, what if your housemate worked nights, and only got up at half 9?
Would you change your morning routine to suit him?

Id either have a shower at whatever time that he'd be awake so as to show consideration.