friendship separations

niamho94

So I'm moving soon and my friends leaving at the end of summer.. We've known each other sine we were 7 and now 22/21. I've tried to make the effort to see her over the next few weeks because I know I won't be back up for her leaving party but she's not bothering at all to make an effort and I'm at a loss because I feel like I'm bothering her when I message her. Is this it ? Does she just not care about me or what? Any advice is welcome x

RacoonQueen

Unfortunately, lots of childhood friendships can drift apart as you get older, start building your own lives and start developing into the person you were born to be. Someone who you had the same interests in as a kid (lets be honest how much is there to it as a child)...you may develop totally different hobbies as adults. I know me and my 'best' childhood friend have zero in common now other than we grew up together. We don't enjoy the same things and when I think back - we never really did.
Life becomes busy then when you move apart - we only live about 6 miles away from each other but both working, living our own lives, pursuing our own hobbies - we rarely see, speak or even text each other. Try as you might. It's always like you've never been apart when you do call / see each other.

I would have no doubt she does want to see you but perhaps she is just busy getting herself sorted on top of just normal life. I'd be the same with a lot of people I won't ring them / text them as I don't want to 'bother' them....which is silly.

Cassie.B

While it may seem to YOU that she is not making an effort, did it not occur to you that maybe she is also sad over it and doing her best to not over react?