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Self conscious about my body, I cant date anyone

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  • #32
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP I am 5'9 and size 14 with DD boobs. I have had countless nasty remarks from men/women/family members. Degrading comments from men, nasty comments from women, 'put them away comments' 'you're squashed under those!' comments from family members.

    It is not you, it's everyone else. No matter what size or shape you are or aren't, people, for some unknown reason, feel the need to comment. Next time someone tries to embarrass you, embarrass them right back. Be as blunt as they are, put a confused look on your face and ask them why they're so fascinated with your boobs/body (this works particularly well in embarrassing relatives ;) ).


  • #33
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    On the 'shallow deal breakers'' thread I read a comment by a man who ditched a girl when he realised she was very flat chested. Although I'm not flat chested, I have lost weight and gone down a cup size to a B cup. I like my new size (10) and want to stay that way, so it crossed my mind that this might be an issue if I'm going to be dating. I'm body confident but reading OP's story and that other comment gave me the chills.
    No words of advice because I know nothing about dating, really. I do think many men go for the overall 'package' rather than obsess about one area of your body but you've been unfortunate enough to meet the ones who do the latter.
    Maybe do take a short-ish break from it though and try to get past the damage people have done to you with their weird remarks.


  • #34
    njs030
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,030 ✭✭✭njs030


    Cup sizes are meaningless without a backsize, it's like saying quarter past without the hour.
    A B cup has vastly different volume in a 28 band and a 38 band so please stop letting one letter which is only half the story bother you.

    Ladies the only person losing out here is you!
    Get some counselling to move on from it if needs be but live your life!!


  • #35
    professore
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,849 ✭✭✭professore


    Why would you care about arseholes like those men? Next time it happens break up with them on the spot.


  • #36
    Smile111
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 539 ✭✭✭Smile111


    You're quite lucky to be slim.I'd say you have a lot of male attention.

    I went on a date recently and could feel the guy looking me up and down.Twas awful.I didn't think I was fat but in his eyes size 12 is big.Pretty depressing really.

    You would have no problem getting dates believe you me:)


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  • #37
    chicorytip
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,430 ✭✭✭chicorytip


    "Sorry hun, but your breasts are too small".
    "Oh really? Well so is your penis!"


  • #38
    Neyite
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,947 ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    You know what though? It's a great filter. You don't want to be with a man who sees you as a life support for 'his' boobs. Or who verbally abuses a woman because a body part is not quite up to his ridiculous standard.

    You are out dating to meet someone who will love you. Who will love you when your makeup is smeared with tears and he finds it cute. Someone who finds you gorgeous. Every last little flat chested part of you. He's out there. You just haven't met him yet.


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