Neighbour leaving notes on car

Beanybabog

My visitors have been getting unsigned notes on their cars asking them to park in their own driveway when visiting me. I actually do have space for another car in my drive behind my own car but people often leave it outside. It's a public road, it's very wide, the cars are outside my wall, not blocking anyone and plenty of other houses park their cars outside their house. I have a fair idea that it's the person across from us who has glared at a few of them as if waiting for them to move but funnily enough, half the time she parks her jeep Outside her own house which she can't do if someone is parked outside mine as then people couldn't get by. If she calls over should I tell her where to go? I don't feel like asking people to park in my drive as it's clearly not an obstruction at all. Plus I don't appreciate the passive aggressive notes.

I'm also annoyed about the fact that when someone random parks outside my wall, which they do on occasion, they'll get a note and think it's me!!

Kristopherus

I'd tell her to take a running jump !!!!

Beanybabog

Thanks, glad you agree!! I was thinking is it "neighbourly" to suck it up and ask them to park in the drive but given she only wants them to move so she can park outside I don't want to!! I reverse out with her jeep parked across no problem so she can do the same.
Plus if it's not her and it's someone else it wouldn't make any sense whatsoever. It's not one of these beighbourhood where there's no parking either, there's loads

Beanybabog

cruizer101 wrote: »

Try get her on camera and then pop her a letter saying you are looking for her to pay for a damaged window wiper

I don't want to go that far. I don't want to start any arguments but I just wanted to see if people agreed with me or would they do anything for a quiet life. Next time I'm going to get someone to park outside and put a note of their own car that says "NO, I will not" !

lawred2

What's the big deal with asking your visitors to park in your drive?

Not telling you either way what to do, just wondering!?

Big Bag of Chips

Maybe she's a really bad driver and can't park her jeep in her own garden without risk of damaging it? Either way, not your problem. I'd just ignore all notes.

punisher5112

lawred2 wrote: »

What's the big deal with asking your visitors to park in your drive?

Not telling you either way what to do, just wondering!?

Public road no restrictions anyone can park there so the issue really is the fool leaving notes as its not up to them and life is too short to get into such little stupid issues that actually aren't even an issue.

Don't live in an estate if you feel you have ownership of the road outside your house.

Beanybabog

lawred2 wrote: »

What's the big deal with asking your visitors to park in your drive?

Not telling you either way what to do l, just wondering!?

Most do actually. It's just when someone comes and rings the bell and they are parked outside I don't ask them to move. It's literally maybe once every two weeks that someone parks there. Also it's not the type Of road that gets congested, and people can't get by- if that was the case I'd make sure people used my drive

Beanybabog

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Maybe she's a really bad driver and can't park her jeep in her own garden without risk of damaging it? Either way, not your problem. I'd just ignore all notes.

I thought that but I can get my car out no bother when her jeep is across from me. Also half the time she parks it across from mine when her drive is empty. I just think it's her as one person said she drove up and waited and glared at them when they got out of their car waiting for them to move they think. It could be some other house but that would make even less sense

readytosnap

Beanybabog wrote: »

It's a public road, it's very wide,
half the time she parks her jeep Outside her own house which she can't do if someone is parked outside mine as then people couldn't get by.!

Obviously not that wide then.

Beanybabog

readytosnap wrote: »

Obviously not that wide then.

I mean if there was two cars parked straight across from each other it'd be a squeeze. In fact you could still get through but no one parks like that around here , it's not necessary when there's so much space.

dbagman

Give her a wide berth and just ignore the notes. People are mad. Just moved into a new house myself and having similar issues with next door neighbour.no notes but he's pulled his car out of the driveway and parked outside our houses while iv gone to the shop. He only has one car. Came home this evo to the neighbour the other side almost apologising for parking outside my house. Told her it's fine but I got the impression yer man might have said something to her as iv met her multiple time getting in and out of her car outside mine and strange she's chosen now to say something and in the manner she did. End of day I don't own the road and either does anyone else.

Beanybabog

I probably will just ignore it and if she wants to call over I'll say no. It's just really annoying me, probably more than it should!

fricatus

Next time, scrunch the note up without even looking at it and put it in the bin. Make sure as much of this as possible is visible to anyone who might be peering out a window.

Your visitors are doing nothing wrong as long as the road isn't being blocked, and they shouldn't have to put up with this sort of passive-aggressive harassment from people who haven't even got the manners to identify themselves. Neither should you.

Armchair Andy

I'd ignore them OP. Usually the type of person who engages in that kind of smarmy behaviour won't stop at that should they feel they got one over.
If that person had knocked on your front door I'd have had a lot more respect for them.
I'd park my own car on her footpath for good measure.

the_syco

Put the notes under her wiper?

Dial Hard

the_syco wrote:

Put the notes under her wiper?

That's criminal damage, apparently...

Beanybabog

the_syco wrote: »

Put the notes under her wiper?

I don't know it's her. I don't know her at all but after the "glaring" and the location of that house the only person it could be. In fact I'm not even sure she lives there, the jeep is only there a few days a week. I always thought she was a visitor. I'm starting to wonder did she take to parking the jeep across from my house to make a "point" and I didn't get it!!

dev100

Best thing you can do is ignore the bully behaviour and laugh at the stupidity of it all .... I personally wouldn't go banging on doors or leaving notes or whatever . You canT teach common sense to stupid people . It's wasted energy

If you do find out its your neighbour you could be smart and tell your visitors to park on your neighbours side or when she parks outside on road go over and leave a note on her bus but that's all a bit childish . Anyways if there's enough room for a car to get by well then it's plenty , most housing estates are a tight squeeze anyways and people there learn to accept it .

markpb

dev100 wrote: »

most housing estates are a tight squeeze anyways and people there learn to accept it .

Just leaving this here:
https://twitter.com/DubFireBrigade/status/845373089840054272

https://twitter.com/DubFireBrigade/status/845624050407915521

Beanybabog

markpb wrote: »

Just leaving this here:
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It would be nothing like that (there's rarely more than one or two cars outside on the whole road) but a good point nonetheless

lawred2

Beanybabog wrote: »

Most do actually. It's just when someone comes and rings the bell and they are parked outside I don't ask them to move. It's literally maybe once every two weeks that someone parks there. Also it's not the type Of road that gets congested, and people can't get by- if that was the case I'd make sure people used my drive

Never mind her then.

road_high

I'd just ignore all notes and carry on as usual. Nothing she can do and she knows it. She thinks by persuing this passive aggressive thing she'll get her way because you'll feel somehow intimidated. Don't give in to the non sense.

4ensic15

Beanybabog wrote: »

! I reverse out with her jeep parked across no problem so she can do the same.

You should reverse in, not out!

Samuel T. Cogley

road_high wrote: »

I'd just ignore all notes and carry on as usual. Nothing she can do and she knows it. She thinks by persuing this passive aggressive thing she'll get her way because you'll feel somehow intimidated. Don't give in to the non sense.

Exactly, if anything can be left with neighbours leave it. If you've got good neighbours treasure them! With a little understanding... okay this has gone far enough. Joking aside though there's no point in having a confrontation.

beauf

markpb wrote: »

Just leaving this here:
https://twitter.com/DubFireBrigade/status/845373089840054272

If these is illegal parking then why wasn't it enforced. Were all these cars towed?

I wonder why these problems are only dealt with when its a crisis. Why no one is responsible for allowing the situation to happen in the first place.

Ken.

markpb wrote: »

Just leaving this here:
https://twitter.com/DubFireBrigade/status/845373089840054272

https://twitter.com/DubFireBrigade/status/845624050407915521

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6JRU5JkD0fM

dev100

markpb wrote:

Just leaving this here:

It's called bad planning more than anything else ....

sassyj

If she leaves a note every time, preempt her - next time someone is coming, having a large note ready to put inside car window. « please stop leaving notes on visitors'cars. This is a public road and all arefree to park as they wish. Call to house if you wish to discuss, butNO MORE NOTES.....»

BlinkingLights

beauf wrote: »

If these is illegal parking then why wasn't it enforced. Were all these cars towed?

I wonder why these problems are only dealt with when its a crisis. Why no one is responsible for allowing the situation to happen in the first place.

It's likely that it's not illegal as there are no parking restrictions on that road. It's just inconsiderate by whichever one of those cars parked last. In all likelihood, I would not think it was intentional. You would also find it is more hassle then it's worth to try and prosecute that as a parking offence. Which car do you blame? One parked there causing no obstruction. The other arrived later and parked opposite and there are no parking restrictions signed or marked.

On narrow roads they really need to do alternating double yellows or something to ensure that's not likely to happen.

The local authorities need to ensure access for fire and other large vehicles is kept clear.

A lot of urban streets in Ireland are too narrow and it's fairly inexcusable that relatively modern housing estates, built long after the advent of the car are that narrow.

If the OP is not parking obstructing an entrance or the road and is on a street without parking restrictions just ignore the silly notes.

I was parking to go to a bank in Dublin 7 a while back and someone came out of her house yelling at me about how i couldn't park there a it was her space. I just ignored her and pointed out it was a public road and i was paying for parking (park by text).

She told me she would call the guards. I just said that'd fine. Ring away! I'm sure they'll rush out to remove a legally parked car and continued about my business.

daheff

If you find out its her putting notes out, save all the notes your visitors get. then start putting them on her car when she parks on the road. She'll get the message fairly quickly.

Failing that, go park outside her house.

weldoninhio

Beanybabog wrote: »

My visitors have been getting unsigned notes on their cars asking them to park in their own driveway when visiting me. I actually do have space for another car in my drive behind my own car but people often leave it outside. It's a public road, it's very wide, the cars are outside my wall, not blocking anyone and plenty of other houses park their cars outside their house. I have a fair idea that it's the person across from us who has glared at a few of them as if waiting for them to move but funnily enough, half the time she parks her jeep Outside her own house which she can't do if someone is parked outside mine as then people couldn't get by. If she calls over should I tell her where to go? I don't feel like asking people to park in my drive as it's clearly not an obstruction at all. Plus I don't appreciate the passive aggressive notes.

I'm also annoyed about the fact that when someone random parks outside my wall, which they do on occasion, they'll get a note and think it's me!!

Next time one of your friends is going on holidays, offer to car sit for them and leave the car outside for 2 weeks.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

People are so strange. This situation is so odd. If the person left notes explaining why you shouldn't park there, then maybe you could rationalise (that's if the reason is logical), if they just don't want you to park there, then f them.

I have been in situations like this before, but the twat always made himself known so I politely told them to get f***ed. I was a student in my early 20's so they probably thought I was a pushover.

lawred2 wrote: »

What's the big deal with asking your visitors to park in your drive?

Not telling you either way what to do, just wondering!?

This question has no merit what so ever. There's no reason for the OP to ask anybody to park in his drive. Nobody should have to facilitate the arsehole neighbor and his arseholey ways.

d9oiu2wk07blr5

Once the vehicle is taxed, NCT'd and insured, anybody can park outside anybody's house on the proviso that it's not a disabled spot or there's no single or double yellow lines. Nobody owns the road space outside their house.

Logo

Karson Hallowed Fingertip wrote: »

Once the vehicle is taxed, NCT'd and insured, anybody can park outside anybody's house on the proviso that it's not a disabled spot or there's no single or double yellow lines. Nobody owns the road space outside their house.

So if a neighbour has one car in their driveway and another on the public roadway for the last year - both of which are un-NCT'd/ taxed - who can I call to get them removed?

king_of_inismac

Don't underestimate the value of a quiet life.

You are within your rights to completely ignore the notes. However, given the amount of effort required to make your neighbour happy, why not just do it?

Being right isn't always the only thing that is important.

MugMugs

I had this problem. Apartments across from my house with no designated spaces. Myself and friends were getting notes for parking in their supposed space.

So I now park there all the time.

Boom_Bap

Is where the car is parked directly opposite her driveway? Is it possible that its making it awkward for her to get in and out of her driveway?

It's not illegal but it could be just making life a little more difficult for her and this is her way of communicating it.

d9oiu2wk07blr5

Logo wrote: »

So if a neighbour has one car in their driveway and another on the public roadway for the last year - both of which are un-NCT'd/ taxed - who can I call to get them removed?

Well i suppose you have three options. You can mind your own business. Or you can act like a grown up and call to the neighbours door and ask them to remove the vehicle on the road which is causing you some bother. Or you could call the council or the Gardai. Once a car is taxed, NCT'd and insured, you can park wherever you like providing you're not blocking a driveway, or parking in a disabled spot or on double or a single yellow line. The neighbour in this case cannot dictate where another neighbour or their visitors choose to park.

pilly

Boom_Bap wrote: »

Is where the car is parked directly opposite her driveway? Is it possible that its making it awkward for her to get in and out of her driveway?

It's not illegal but it could be just making life a little more difficult for her and this is her way of communicating it.

This was exactly my thoughts on it. As a woman who's not very good at parking it is a pain if there's a car directly across from you.

She may be too shy to knock on your door either.

I mean if there's a space in your driveway I don't see the problem. Why go out of your way just to make things awkward for people?

TheUnderfaker

pilly wrote: »

This was exactly my thoughts on it. As a woman who's not very good at parking it is a pain if there's a car directly across from you.

She may be too shy to knock on your door either.

I mean if there's a space in your driveway I don't see the problem. Why go out of your way just to make things awkward for people?

What if one of the OP's guests is a poor unfortunate person who's not very good at parking and the passive aggressive neighbour is parked on the road?

pilly

TheUnderfaker wrote: »

What if one of the OP's guests is a poor unfortunate person who's not very good at parking and the passive aggressive neighbour is parked on the road?

Yeah, good point. I don't know, it's all a bit tit for tat isn't it?

TheUnderfaker

pilly wrote: »

Yeah, good point. I don't know, it's all a bit tit for tat isn't it?

It's always a shame when neighbours cause problems for each other, we're all just trying to live our lives! I'd be on the OP's side here, a note on a windscreen would normally make a situation like this worse in my opinion!

The proper thing to do would have been to knock on the OP's door and ask nicely, maybe explain why it's causing such hassle for her. If the neighbour is too cowardly to do that and thinks bullying with notes is the way to manage the situation then I'd be very reluctant to give in as well!

For the record, I'm rather cowardly too and the thoughts of knocking into my neighbour for a matter like this makes me feel sick! The last thing I'd do is leave notes though!

embraer170

Get a hunting camera from Aldi/Lidl or online and point at where people are leaving notes. You'll quickly know who is doing it.

Beanybabog

Thanks all. Well I've just come in and they have one car parked in their drive And one outside on the road, directly opposite mine. So if it is them, that's the exact thing they told us not to do so I'm inclined to say f them. And if it's not them, I don't know what lunatic it could be

foxatron

First course of action should be to find out exactly who is putting them there.

Beanybabog

foxatron wrote: »

First course of action should be to find out exactly who is putting them there.

To be honest all the solutions to that problem are more hassle than the notes!! I'll just ignore them. I'm not investing in CCTV or whatever!

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Beanybabog

....... wrote: »

Can you not see who is doing it from your house?

No, sure I'd have to spend the whole day looking out the window!! Plus I have a hedge so I couldn't see the car, so I'd have to look out te upstairs window. I'm not that upset that I'd do that

Dearg81

Do nothing and if they ever call in to your house to complain just explain to them in a calm assertive manner that you dont think it's a big deal for your friends to park on a public road and that you wont be asking them to move their car into your driveway if they do.

If they dont like that then it's really their problem not yours. Leave it at that and dont bother getting into arguments over stupid stuff like this, it's not worth it.

Dublinstiofán

Next time you've a friend over with a car outside pop your phone in the upstairs window and record a video for a few hours. You should be able to identify who it is by scanning through the footage after they leave a note without investing in expensive CCTV. When you know who it is you can decide what course of action to take (if any).