When was the last time you lost your temper?

DEFTLEFTHAND

Had an incident today.

Was lifting wood into the boot of my car with my brother.

He didn't want to help me at all, he was being real pissy about it.

The incident occurred when he dropped a log up against my motor and scratched my paintwork. A careless sloppy action.

I saw red and cursed him out of it. I used terrible phrases like "you stupid fcking cnut" and "useless bastard".

I've calmed down now and feel bad about the incident. He left after I got thick and now won't answer my calls.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

That's losing your temper? Oh boy.
A few years ago I put the handle of a garden spade in through my brothers windscreen, that's losing my temper.

I lost my temper a couple of times as a teenager, but it's not something that would have been obvious to anyone else. I get irritated at times but losing the rag is something I don't really do. When I have lost my temper I can be sharp enough verbally, but I'd never get physical with anyone or any thing.

I lose regard for people who regularly lose control, I expect adults to be able to moderate their words and actions under stress, at a bare minimum.

begbysback

You live in the woods?

DEFTLEFTHAND

begbysback wrote: »

You live in the woods?

In the country, woods nearby.

We use firewood for heating the stove.

MadDog76

I have a ferocious temper and a vicious tongue when riled which I've been working on for years now, slow progress but progress none the less .......... I've thankfully gotten the violent aspect of my temper completely almost completely under control though.

begbysback

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

In the country, woods nearby.

We use firewood for heating the stove.

Text him, tell him youre sorry

You do have a mobile phone?

Cupcake_Crisis

I don't really lose my temper. It takes an awful lot to rile me up. I get a bit angry, then very angry, then I just start crying.

Terrifies the men folk so it does

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I don't recall ever actually losing my temper with anybody.

I'll have to ponder that one for the night and see if I can remember anything.

aaronjumper

HOW DARE YOU ASK SUCH A PERSONAL QUESTION!

A few weeks I'd say, I've gotten it mostly under control these days.

DEFTLEFTHAND

There's nothing worse than when you're drunk and lose it.

I've done things that I wouldn't even confess to a Priest on my deathbed while under the influence of alcohol.

I have a tendency to bottle up issues instead of expressing them there and then. What happens then is that I explode. Usually occurs when I meet the person who has upset at a later date in a drinking situation.

An awful problem to have.

andekwarhola

Closest I've got this week was making a wanker sign at a motorist when I was out for a run.

Pretty mild really.

Mister Vain

This morning when I got into my car and sat on an expensive pair of sunglasses which I had stupidly left on my seat yesterday.

MadDog76

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

I don't really lose my temper. It takes an awful lot to rile me up. I get a bit angry, then very angry, then I just start crying.

Terrifies the men folk so it does

Women crying during an argument/disagreement really flares my temper even more so .......... I just think it's pathetic, if you can't argue you're point without turning into a blubbering mess then stop biting off more than you can chew ........ I've often said to my wife (during a heated discussion) "just because you're crying doesn't make you any less wrong!".

MilesMorales1

2004 I think. I'm generally either mellow or just push the anger down, far as it can go.

DEFTLEFTHAND

MadDog76 wrote: »

Women crying during an argument/disagreement really flares my temper even more so .......... I just think it's pathetic, if you can't argue you're point without turning into a blubbering mess then stop biting off more than you can chew ........ I've often said to my wife (during a heated discussion) "just because you're crying doesn't make you any less wrong!".

Happens a lot with me and my partner. Always when she's in the wrong.

If you can't win the argument just break down and cry and make the man feel bad.

Rubberlegs

We had gotten a takeaway and the eldest two kept sniping at each other as per usual. I repeatedly asked them to stop as my food was going down in lumps, couldn't enjoy it at all. They carried on so I picked up my box of fish and chips and fired it across the room. They looked shocked momentarily, and then carried on arguing. Meanwhile I had lost my dinner, and had to clean it up while shaking with rage. Not one of my finest moments !

MadDog76

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

Happens a lot with me and my partner. Always when she's in the wrong.

If you can't win the argument just break down and cry and make the man feel bad.

That's what angers me even more, this pathetic attempt to make me feel bad because you're in the wrong .......... it doesn't work though, I don't feel bad.

Having said that, my wife is one of the few people in my life that have a calming effect on me ......... we'd very rarely ever argue.

pickarooney

I used to be calm and unflappable but since about a year ago I live in a state of permanent seething rage which unfortunately bubbles over too often into incandescent fury.

vicwatson

Picked a hot pan out of the oven once forgetting the tea towel. Holy **** balls

IvyTheTerrible

pickarooney wrote: »

I used to be calm and unflappable but since about a year ago I live in a state of permanent seething rage which unfortunately bubbles over too often into incandescent fury.

What happened?
I used to have a very bad temper as a teenager but I've learned how to control it , I'm very cool now.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

MadDog76 wrote: »

That's what angers me even more, this pathetic attempt to make me feel bad because you're in the wrong .......... it doesn't work though, I don't feel bad.

Having said that, my wife is one of the few people in my life that have a calming effect on me ......... we'd very rarely ever argue.

Maybe she's crying wondering what on earth she's ended up in a relationship with

DEFTLEFTHAND

vicwatson wrote: »

Picked a hot pan out of the oven once forgetting the tea towel. Holy **** balls

I have oven tray scars on both arms.

It actually is a third degree burn. All layers of the epidermis are harmed beyond repair.

Armchair Andy

Did I read that right? OP lifting wood with his brother?

vicwatson

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

I have oven tray scars on both arms.

It actually is a third degree burn. All layers of the epidermis are harmed beyond repair.

Took two firepeople to angle grind the bastardin pan off me hand

Neames

To my shame, I lose my temper far too often.

I regret losing my temper at home especially when I present my best side to others that I shouldn't care one jot about.

I'm working on this and will continue to do so.

Wanderer2010

Candie wrote: »

, I expect adults to be able to moderate their words and actions under stress, at a bare minimum.

Most people get angry from time to time, some quietly others like a volcano, it doesn't make them bad people they just express themselves different. You sound like the kind of person who would judge others for the everyday normal emotion of anger, I cant stand people like that.

pickarooney

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

What happened?
I used to have a very bad temper as a teenager but I've learned how to control it , I'm very cool now.

Bit of a Falling Down moment. Just had it with accepting ****ty situations with unreasonable demands and it spiralled from there. If I could pass any bit of advice on to my kids it would be to put yourself first sometimes and speak up when things are not fair.

Permabear

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Cupcake_Crisis

MadDog76 wrote: »

Women crying during an argument/disagreement really flares my temper even more so .......... I just think it's pathetic, if you can't argue you're point without turning into a blubbering mess then stop biting off more than you can chew ........ I've often said to my wife (during a heated discussion) "just because you're crying doesn't make you any less wrong!".

Ah I don't do it on purpose! I can more than hold my own in an argument, but the way some people can't control their anger I can't control crying. Even if I'm 100% in the right I'll get to a certain point of anger or frustration and then BOOM....crying like a youngwan at her debs.

neonsofa

MadDog76 wrote: »

That's what angers me even more, this pathetic attempt to make me feel bad because you're in the wrong .......... it doesn't work though, I don't feel bad.

Having said that, my wife is one of the few people in my life that have a calming effect on me ......... we'd very rarely ever argue.

See I'm one of these people who, like a previous poster, gets angry and then get so I angry I cry, mainly out of frustration, and it's something I actively try to suppress but if I'm angry it just happens and then I feel so stupid and betrayed by my own body for crying when all I want to do is sound rational and make a valid point! And then the person I'm arguing with thinks it's a guilt trip and that frustrates me more so I cry more! It's awful!!

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I cry from sheer temper. I'll be losing my rag like there's no tomorrow, verbally chewing the balls off him but I'll look like George pig with the tears because there's just too much of the power of satan in me to cope and it has to come out somewhere as I wouldn't be a physically aggressive person

Permabear

Permabear wrote: »

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Keeping your head when all about you are losing theirs in a crisis is the hallmark of a person in control who can take control, to borrow a little from Kipling.

It does help to be even tempered by nature though, I appreciate some people are naturally a bit more volatile than others and most can manage to keep a lid on things rather than go full 'Falling Down'.

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KERSPLAT!

Can't remember, likely years and years ago.

Surreptitious

I don't get mad. I get even.

tomwaterford

Years and years....if I did noone would understand me anyways


I usually just let it build up and be sitting in bed at night pissed off and thinking of things I wish I'd said

Then if people keep pissing me off....I just cut them out....which may seem inexplicable to them...but that's just who I am

fussyonion

I have a fiery temper but I'm really trying to reign it in because when I lose it, it affects me for the rest of the day.

But anyway, I lost my rag Thursday morning in Tallaght when a fella reversed into me.

I jumped out of the car calling him a "fkin stupid blind b*****d" and "what the fk did you think you were doing?!".

It didn't help that he was being very nice and apologetic and I felt bad but there was no damage done, I was able to calm down pretty quickly, but like I said, really going to reign it in because it's no good for anyone getting so angry.

222233

Usually when I blindly stump my toe off a hard object somewhere in the am

andekwarhola

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I cry from sheer temper. I'll be losing my rag like there's no tomorrow, verbally chewing the balls off him but I'll look like George pig with the tears because there's just too much of the power of satan in me to cope and it has to come out somewhere as I wouldn't be a physically aggressive personn

You were casually discussing putting a spade through somebody's windscreen earlier as if was the hallmark of a routine disagreement?

s4uv3

I don't lose it, I just go quiet. Scary quiet

andekwarhola

73Cat wrote: »

We had gotten a takeaway and the eldest two kept sniping at each other as per usual. I repeatedly asked them to stop as my food was going down in lumps, couldn't enjoy it at all. They carried on so I picked up my box of fish and chips and fired it across the room. They looked shocked momentarily, and then carried on arguing. Meanwhile I had lost my dinner, and had to clean it up while shaking with rage. Not one of my finest moments !

My kids were being similarly awful before and I slammed the fridge door shut -dislodging the drawer thingy on the fridge door and then ending up with my feet swimming in milk, orange juice and other crap while the kids were sniggering behind the door.

r93kaey5p2izun

I feel angry sometimes but I can't remember losing my temper since I was a child. I wish I was better at communicating my anger properly, but living in a home where any negative response to certain people resulted in being physically assaulted means I just can't bring myself to express what I really feel. I don't think that's healthy and I think it's fairly normal for some people to be a bit hot headed and vent a bit. But I lose all respect for anyone who shouts at others (unless an exceptional situation), breaks things or behaves in an aggressive way because of anger. It would be a deal breaker for me in any sort of relationship or friendship.

DEFTLEFTHAND

s4uv3 wrote: »

I don't lose it, I just go quiet. Scary quiet

It's always the quiet ones you have to watch.

Still waters run deep.

A loudmouth cocky bollox will sound off in a bar and insult all around him.

A quiet man will meticulously plan his revenge.

s4uv3

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

It's always the quiet ones you have to watch.

Still waters run deep.

A loudmouth cocky bollox will sound off in a bar and insult all around him.

A quiet man will meticulously plan his revenge.

Bingo

cbyrd

About 16 times a day. Silently now, I realised quickly that firing cups and plates just creates more work for me. Now I save it up for the gym or cleaning the house.
It takes a lot to rile me but by jaysus run when I explode.

MadDog76

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Maybe she's crying wondering what on earth she's ended up in a relationship with

I should her your post, she said you must a right bitter oul' cu ......... let's just say she has a temper herself and disagrees with you.

MadDog76

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

Ah I don't do it on purpose! I can more than hold my own in an argument, but the way some people can't control their anger I can't control crying. Even if I'm 100% in the right I'll get to a certain point of anger or frustration and then BOOM....crying like a youngwan at her debs.

Yeah, I get that .......... for a long time I thought women could just turn on the taps at will but, as my wife explained to me and as you said yourself, it's just tears of frustration or whatever so I try not to let it bother me as much on the very rare occasions when I do argue with my better half.

andekwarhola

Have to say, if I had to choose between people that do get angry, I actually prefer people that lose their temper (obviously within reason) but are quick to resolve things and move on when the air is cleared. I personally find it much harder to deal with more stealthy and long-term forms of anger: passive aggression, sulking, elephantine memories and the like.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

andekwarhola wrote: »

You were casually discussing putting a spade through somebody's windscreen earlier as if was the hallmark of a routine disagreement?

No thats losing my temper. Calling someone a dozy bastard is almost a greeting. In an arguement I'd get angry and I'd cry tears of anger from sheer temper/frustration but it rarely would escalate to anything physical, I'm not physically aggressive.

KERSPLAT!

LexieOnRale wrote: »

No thats losing my temper. Calling someone a dozy bastard is almost a greeting. In an arguement I'd get angry and I'd cry tears of anger from sheer temper/frustration but it rarely would escalate to anything physical, I'm not physically aggressive.

A spade through a window is physically aggressive, however rare.