Teen Sexting

aivarss

Hi. As hard it is i'm asking for help. Just found out again, that my teenage daughter(14) is sexting(sending sex/porn messages to people that she even doesn't know)
First me and my wife found out before Christmas when checked out her phone. we found loads of chats in snap chat, Flickr and apps like that.We found loads of porn and rely discussing chats with friends and strange people. We had a long talk about it, banned her from internet for nearly two months and so on. Two weeks ago she got her phone back, and today we checked it and found even worst. Now she's chatting with strangers about sex and pornographic nature things(i even can't describe in pleasant language for example Ride me like you ride your tractor and sh** like that) Is there any organizations or doctors where we could turn? Any help would be great. We looking thru net, but couldn't find anything. Thanks in advance

Jack the Stripper

Take her phone off her and switch off the wifi.

marty_carrasco

throw her out of the house

benjamin d

Nokia have re-released the 3310. Get her one of those and lock out the WiFi on laptops/tablets.

marty_carrasco

your obviously a weak father,

set the goddam lines and some consequences

The_Valeyard

3310 is a good idea.


Maybe a scare about the legality of what she is doing. Other than that, maybe their are councillors who could offer you proactive advice.

Orion

marty_carrasco wrote: »

your obviously a weak father,

set the goddam lines and some consequences

you're obviously a troll. Goodbye

jameorahiely

If she really needs a phone, time to get a non internet connecting one and conselling for her. Does she use it as a way of boosting her self esteem,? Ask her gp to refer you when you bring her in to sort contraception.

Iseedeadpixels

marty_carrasco wrote: »

your obviously a weak father,

set the goddam lines and some consequences

F*****g harsh!

allthedoyles

you as parents must challenge her on this . forget about doctors etc

Wexy86

What's her reasoning when you ask her why she is doing this?

aivarss

Any serious advice?? Now days to live without net is impossible especially if you live in countryside, where is no friends around and so

jameorahiely

allthedoyles wrote: »

you as parents must challenge her on this . forget about doctors etc

There is no harm in the parents getting support. They have tried to resolve it but she hasn't taken it on board. It's brave for a parent to stand up and ask for help.

aivarss

Wexy86 wrote: »

What's her reasoning when you ask her why she is doing this?

She says everyone is doing like that in school.

Shannon757

aivarss wrote: »

Any serious advice?? Now days to live without net is impossible especially if you live in countryside, where is no friends around and so

Let her keep the phone but monitor it closely. You can't have her cut off from the rest of the world but you can't give her free reign. It's all about finding the balance.

Shannon757

aivarss wrote: »

She says everyone is doing like that in school.

Almost all teens sext these days.

jameorahiely

aivarss wrote: »

She says everyone is doing like that in school.

Have you spoken to the school about it? Regardless of what others are doing you have to set your own standards as a parent.

Shemale

Why does she need a phone at her age.

Get an app lock, make sure you install everyone of the apps she uses and lock them all with a huge password made up of numbers, upper and lower case letters and symbols. This way she cant use them, uninstal them or instal them as they are already on the device. Make sure to lockdown the factory reset option with a password too.

Boaty

aivarss wrote: »

She says everyone is doing like that in school.

Assuming the other people are of similar ages to her, why don't you educate her on being safe as a "modern teenager".

jackinthemix94

Some of the advice on here is terrible - 14 year olds are like the 18 year olds of yesterday - she'll find a way of getting another phone and getting on the internet. Get f****ng real - you're just showing how old you are.

What you and your partner need to do is sit down with her and have a very frank discussion about what she's doing, why she's doing it, and the potential consequences of her actions.

punisher5112

Look up YouTube how to catch a predator.

Maybe an intervention is needed.

14 way too young for a smart phone. Its a ridiculous argument oh but everyone else has or does it.

Parents need to say NO.

I'm in no way old but we were told no and done us no harm.

Op get it sorted asap or she will be so far gone and possibly off doing god knows.

nhunter100

aivarss wrote:

Any serious advice?? Now days to live without net is impossible especially if you live in countryside, where is no friends around and so

You and your wife should sit down with her and a have frank and open conversation let her know the dangers . As you say you live in the countryside maybe she is lonely and is craving attention. Talk don't shout. Is there any pursuits sports etc she can engage in locally?

jameorahiely

Shannon757 wrote: »

Almost all teens sext these days.

Almost all.. So not everyone is doing it (the ones with respect for themselves, )

Shannon757

jameorahiely wrote: »

Almost all.. So not everyone is doing it (the ones with respect for themselves, )

You can't say that most teenagers don't have respect for themselves.

Boaty

punisher5112 wrote: »

Look up YouTube how to catch a predator.

Maybe an intervention is needed.

14 way too young for a smart phone. Its a ridiculous argument oh but everyone else has or does it.

Parents need to say NO.

I'm in no way old but we were told no and done us no harm.

Op get it sorted asap or she will be so far gone and possibly off doing god knows.

The op hasn't mentioned the ages of the strangers, they could be the same age as the ops daughter for all we know,

riffmongous

Make sure she knows and understand the dangers of grooming

punisher5112

Boaty wrote: »

The op hasn't mentioned the ages of the strangers, they could be the same age as the ops daughter for all we know,

Well look up the thing I mentioned as the guys pretend to be young dumb and post young pics of themselves.... Not themselves really though.

jameorahiely

Shannon757 wrote: »

You can't say that most teenagers don't have respect for themselves.

I don't need to say it if they demonstrate it.

Teenagers always think they know it all. It's only when they mature they realise how daft they were.

Shannon757

jameorahiely wrote: »

I don't need to say it if they demonstrate it.

Teenagers always think they know it all. It's only when they mature they realise how daft they were.

I don't think most teens have no respect for themselves. If you are sexting that doesn't mean you have no respect for yourself.
It's not a case of thinking we know it all, it's about having to common sense about who you are sending the messages to.

Shannon757

jackinthemix94 wrote: »

Some of the advice on here is terrible - 14 year olds are like the 18 year olds of yesterday - she'll find a way of getting another phone and getting on the internet. Get f****ng real - you're just showing how old you you are

This.


I often have people come up to me to buy or borrow phones when they get there's taken of them. They use them in school and when they go home the parents are none the wiser.

endacl

aivarss wrote: »

Any serious advice?? Now days to live without net is impossible especially if you live in countryside, where is no friends around and so

It's really not. Millions have done it before.