Valentines Day. Would you prefer it didn't exist?

BrokenArrows

The day itself is a bit of a sham. Forced purchase of expensive flowers and a present.

I personally purchase random flowers and presents throughout the year for my wife and she does the same for me.

Birthday, anniversary, Christmas, valentines. Its just too much and too much pressure.

My wife has it easy. She buys me stuff i need. Clothes, new cologne, techy things etc. Regardless she always worries that i wont like it.

I on the other hand never have any idea what to get her. She buys all the jewelry, clothes, makeup, perfume she wants herself.

I've already bought her loads of jewelry over the years and she doesn't need anymore.

Anytime i try and get something inventive its generally a failure and seen as a waste of money.

You need to put in an option for "I don't care"

Himself and me won't do anything I'd say. It's just not a "thing" for either of us. We don't need a particular day to show that we care. It would seem a bit contrived to us.

RedXIV

I like it because it's my birthday

mahamageehad

Just give her a good rodgering as a special treat?

biko

It's fine

When I have a partner we do something nice.
When I don't have one I don't much care.

The Backwards Man

Where's the 'Business owner: I make money out of it fleecing gullible fools' option?

GLaDOS

Myself and herself barely acknowledge it. Buying presents is something that doesnt happen.

Graces7

Deleted User wrote: »

You need to put in an option for "I don't care"

Himself and me won't do anything I'd say. It's just not a "thing" for either of us. We don't need a particular day to show that we care. It would seem a bit contrived to us.

You beat me to it!

Hercule Poirot

I personally think that if you do love someone you will show it over the course of your relationship via those special moments, unexpected gestures or little unannounced gifts rather than joining in with the facade that is Valentine's Day

bee06

BrokenArrows wrote: »

The day itself is a bit of a sham. Forced purchase of expensive flowers and a present.

I personally purchase random flowers and presents throughout the year for my wife and she does the same for me.

Birthday, anniversary, Christmas, valentines. Its just too much and too much pressure.

My wife has it easy. She buys me stuff i need. Clothes, new cologne, techy things etc. Regardless she always worries that i wont like it.

I on the other hand never have any idea what to get her. She buys all the jewelry, clothes, makeup, perfume she wants herself.

I've already bought her loads of jewelry over the years and she doesn't need anymore.

Anytime i try and get something inventive its generally a failure and seen as a waste of money.

Myself and my husband are the opposite of you. He always knows what to get me and buys brilliant presents but I never know what to get him.

We usually just do cards. He bought me a present this year though because we were in a shop and saw a pair of runners I loved but wouldn't buy for myself so he got them for me.

johnny_tractor

looking fwd to it

i'll be in berlin next week so i'll be at a techno party or an irish pub


love is in the air

I usually am not massively pushed about it. It can be a nice excuse to do something nice but not on the night itself. If you go for dinner it's set menus everywhere. And I don't like flowers

mickmac76

This is one day that is a complete sham. Just people working in marketing exploiting the young and foolish and selling them cheap tat.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Doesn't matter if it exists or not, no ceasefires in our house no matter what day it is

The Master

mahamageehad wrote: »

Just give her a good rodgering as a special treat?

Every rodgering should be a good one and feel like a special treat.

Mr. FoggPatches

Looking forward to it this year. I've got a hot date with 6" of prime meat.
And its all free at subway once you buy a large fizzy drink.

osarusan

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Where's the 'Business owner: I make money out of it fleecing gullible fools' option?

Be thankful it's only once a year then, at least.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I too would like an 'I don't care' option.
If you love someone you show it every day in everything you do.

We don't bother with it (48 years together) although Mrs S has suggested we go out to breakfast that morning just for the hell of it.

quadrifoglio verde

She will be wished a happy hallmark day and that will be about it.
We both despise it.
Incredibly corny, unromantic and in no way shows your love and affection for someone.

Some men enjoy it because it gets them sex. If flowers, chocolate and overpriced presents are the only way you're getting sex, you need to trade her in lads and upgrade her for the 171 model

Junkyard Tom

It's handy to have a whole year to plan for a spontaneous outburst of love.

Noveight

Not too bothered either way. It's only a month before myself and the OH's anniversary so we agree to just swap cards and go out for a bite to eat, no need for extravagance.

Boom_Bap

Mrs. Bap will be getting a Top Gun high 5 this year.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Myself and my wife don't do Valentine's Day. It's a crock of shíte driven by retailers and manufacturers. We don't even buy cards as that's the biggest rip off of the whole thing, €7/8 for a flippin piece of card with a stupid cheesy message, fcuk off!

It probably once held meaning for those celebrating it but nowadays it's a complete marketing sham.

Boardz Fiend

Jim Jefferies says it best... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgTU8I7ta-Q

*Warning contains strong language*

CaptainR

The discounted chocolates in the shop the next day are the only thing I care about.

Hercule Poirot

osarusan wrote: »

Be thankful it's only once a year then, at least.

To be fair that is much worse - imagine some poor girl lavishing this young lad with gifts in February and then getting f**k all in return come March 14th, it's a bit sad really

whiskeyman

Don't care for it.


Everyone know's Love Day is where it's at!!

dublinman1990

In fairness; Valentine's Day is a sh1t day for me. My granny had her funeral on that day a few years back so it is a bit depressing.

Plus Tubridy will be doing the LLS Valentine's special on RTE tomorrow night. I'd rather eat a few curries & sh1t myself to death if I watch that sh1te.

Surreptitious

Mr. FoggPatches wrote: »

Looking forward to it this year. I've got a hot date with 6" of prime meat.
And its all free at subway once you buy a large fizzy drink.

Don't wear out your hand now :P

wakka12

Poll is a bit extreme, Im completely and utterly indifferent to it

trixychic

At this stage I just don't see the point in it. I mean maybe yrs ago it was your only chance to make a romantic gesture (make or female) but i think it's just turned into pressure for younger ones and "meh" for older ones.

I'm not bothered by it. I just don't see the point.

whoopsadoodles

I care deeply about valentine's day and if I'm not completely spoiled then I assume that it means he doesn't love me enough.

KaiserGunner

Don't like Valentine's Day at all, completely pointless as I don't need a day like that to show love for my partner.
However I did used to enjoy the weekend around Valentine's Day when I was single though :pac:

Summer wind

Never liked going out on Valentine's night. It's so cringy in a we're a hotter couple than you way. Always buy and receive a card and present though.

ToddyDoody

As a self-declared champion of the economy, I'm glad it exists.

How to be sure VAT receipts from the day's takings aren't going to ppl on the dole tho...

Robineen

Me and the huz don't celebrate but I don't mind if it exists. Makes no difference to me.

PucaMama

I think I'd enjoy the standard eating out, cinema, drinks if it was guaranteed to not be stressful and I didn't have to organise any of it.

darkpagandeath

It does not exist. It's a manufactured holiday. Just like giving diamonds to women when you marry them. That was introduced by the de beers mining company.

PucaMama

darkpagandeath wrote: »

It does not exist. It's a manufactured holiday. Just like giving diamonds to women when you marry them. That was introduced by the de beers mining company.

But almost every tradition that exists was started by someone with some vested interest. Why is valentines any worse? Is it a general decline in the effort put into relationships?

darkpagandeath

PucaMama wrote: »

But almost every tradition that exists was started by someone with some vested interest. Why is valentines any worse? Is it a general decline in the effort put into relationships?

Why would you need hallmark to tell you how to love your partner ? Mothers day was an actual holiday. When women worked for example in big houses as servants. Older daughters would do that days work so the mother could have a break.

PucaMama

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Why would you need hallmark to tell you how to love your partner ? Mothers day was an actual holiday. When women worked for example in big houses as servants. Older daughters would do that days work so the mother could have a break.

Who said they need hallmark? Who mentioned Mother's Day?

Valentines is one day. It wouldn't hurt to make an effort.

FanadMan

Never bothers me - never get a card or have anyone to send one to.

DanielODonnell

I am a narcissist so sometimes I would buy the valentines chocolates for myself when they go on sale.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

PucaMama wrote: »

Who said they need hallmark? Who mentioned Mother's Day?

Valentines is one day. It wouldn't hurt to make an effort.

Do you not make the effort every day?

darkpagandeath

PucaMama wrote: »

Who said they need hallmark? Who mentioned Mother's Day?

Valentines is one day. It wouldn't hurt to make an effort.

Who's not ?

andekwarhola

It's a bit of a pain. I personally think birthday, anniversary, Christmas and whatever random times you gift each during the year should be enough.

I'm getting herself some small Valentines gifts from the kids though because they like doing it.

eviltwin

Never celebrate it. It's a bit twee. I can see the significance if it's your first Valentine's as a couple or if your young but don't see the point otherwise.

zedhead

I'm not too bothered. We give each other cards, but I just really like cards and keep them all. I like the little messages we write each other. That being said if she decided he didn't want to do cards this year it wouldnt bother me in the slightest.

We also take advantage of the special M&S dine in for 2 deal they run most years, because its great value and why not.

If I were single I wouldn't care about the day. If its important to some people then who are they hurting. No reason to wish it didn't exist but don't care much about it.

B00!

B00! wrote: »

What's not to like? A good reminder to celebrate the good things in life - togetherness and love.








Yup, hate it. Didn't like it then, don't like it now. Serves more as a glass-half-empty day (even when you have someone). It's enough for me to endure the "perfect" couples on bookface every other day. VD is one day I don't go out amongst the lovebirds, for my self-esteem. Also one of the highest rated suicide days of the year - expectations and comparisons are hard to ignore.

Ah jaysus! Don't let one day and the idea of "lovebirds" hurt your self-esteem.

Lorelli!

It doesn't really bother me. Some years we do something like go for dinner and other years we don't. We usually get each other a card. I've never felt any pressure or anything though and once or twice, we've completely forgot.

I use to work with a girl and her bf had ordered flowers to arrive to the job as a surprise but he ended up having to ring her and tell her to wait back because the flowers were going to be late and she had to stay back in work for something like two extra hours to get the flowers it was a shame it didnt work out as he'd planned and it kind of ruined the surprise.

KERSPLAT!

I'm a romantic prick everyday of the year, not just Valentines.