Anything silly that turns you off?

pilly

I was thinking today about a relationship I was once in for 6 months.

We had great fun together, physical attraction was huge and never rowed. He was a little bit mean when it came to money but I didn't let that bother me too much, no-one is perfect.

Fast forward 2 months and I went to stay in his for the 1st time (he lived in the UK). He had slippers at the door for both of us and I don't wear slippers so just took my shoes off. He wasn't happy with that and insisted I wear them.

That was it for me. Just struck me as so anal I just wasn't physically attracted to him anymore.

Seems silly now. Just wondering if anyone has ended a relationship for something like that or is it just me?

REM76

pilly wrote: »

I was thinking today about a relationship I was once in for 6 months.

We had great fun together, physical attraction was huge and never rowed. He was a little bit mean when it came to money but I didn't let that bother me too much, no-one is perfect.

Fast forward 2 months and I went to stay in his for the 1st time (he lived in the UK). He had slippers at the door for both of us and I don't wear slippers so just took my shoes off. He wasn't happy with that and insisted I wear them.

That was it for me. Just struck me as so anal I just wasn't physically attracted to him anymore.

Seems silly now. Just wondering if anyone has ended a relationship for something like that or is it just me?

An ex of mine used to wear those sanitary pads, the ones for absorbing some light fluids from gee. Except, she'd pretty much abandoned wiping her arse for these, so I would regularly see her panties with these **** soaked pads in the gusset lying around.

I said it to her, but she could see nothing wrong with it. We went out for almost two years. She had spectacular tits, they were the pale ones, but with perfect nipples. They also jiggled ever so slightly when she walked. Hence, I could forego the ****ty gusset.

readyletsgo

That's gross.

For me, spitting, like, hacking up turf spitting, total turn off. Bad wonky teeth too. Yuck.

Vincent Vega

Phone fiddlers.

Especially when its somebody who constantly suggests spending time together.

If you can't go more than a few minutes without, I probably don't even want to be your friend, nevermind a relationship.

The_Valeyard

Kept turning off the PlayStation instead of shutting it down

pilly

REM76 wrote:

An ex of mine used to wear those sanitary pads, the ones for absorbing some light fluids from gee. Except, she'd pretty much abandoned wiping her arse for these, so I would regularly see her panties with these **** soaked pads in the gusset lying around.

In fairness, that's not a silly thing.
That's disgusting!

pilly

pilly wrote: »

In fairness, that's not a silly thing.
That's disgusting!

I doubt it's true.

pilly

Candie wrote:

I doubt it's true.

Yeah I just noticed who it's from. Can't do the ignore thing on my phone though.

pilly

Anyway, anyone else got any real stories?

holy guacamole

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Kept turning off the PlayStation instead of shutting it down

This would drive me crazy.

Reminds me of an ex who used to go through the channels on TV by just pressing up and down on the remote and scrolling through them that way. There was no such thing as using the menu or the TV planner, was just fly through them all, stop momentarily on one you like, and then keep going.

That wasn't why we broke up mind.

pilly

holy guacamole wrote:

Reminds me of an ex who used to go through the channels on TV by just pressing up and down on the remote and scrolling through them that way. There was no such thing as using the menu or the TV planner, was just fly through them all, stop momentarily on one you like, and then keep going.

Channel surfing! That's drives me mad too! Pick a ****ing programme!

Malari

Driving - I was casually seeing a guy years ago and he drove us somewhere one day, which effectively was his undoing in my eyes. He was completely lacking in confidence, couldn't get through a gap a truck had just driven through in front of him, spectacularly failed to negotiate a roundabout, mashed every gear change and just made me really uncomfortable. He wasn't a learner, he was just terrible!

It was an instant turn-off.

pilly

Malari wrote:

It was an instant turn-off.

I'm so glad it isn't just me!

When I copped that he wasn't calling to say goodnight; he was calling to make sure I was home. Only knew him a few weeks too.

Unreasonable jealousy is a big turn-off.

Angry driving is another.

me_right_one

Tattoos turn me off. Nothing screams "I'M INSECURE, APPROVE OF ME" like a tattoo.

Mister Vain

A chick with a stick. She used to keep poking me with it. So annoying.

DEFTLEFTHAND

Casual swearing.

NikoTopps

Was briefly with a guy who constantly rang his mother to tell her where he was. Everywhere we went he would ring her and say what he was doing and when he would be home. This was grown man. It started off as fwb but once I realised he was doing that I had to call it quits.

pilly

NikoTopps wrote:

Was briefly with a guy who constantly rang his mother to tell her where he was. Everywhere we went he would ring her and say what he was doing and when he would be home. This was grown man. It started off as fwb but once I realised he was doing that I had to call it quits.

My sister went out with a guy who had to be home for dinner every day come hail, rain or snow. Soon ended!

And he called his Mam "Mother". Very Norman Bates!

NikoTopps

pilly wrote: »

My sister went out with a guy who had to be home for dinner every day come hail, rain or snow. Soon ended!

And he called his Mam "Mother". Very Norman Bates!

The guy in question called her "Mummy". I thought it was cute at first that he was ringing his mother to have a chat quickly realised it was checkup!

pilly

pilly wrote: »

My sister went out with a guy who had to be home for dinner every day come hail, rain or snow. Soon ended!

And he called his Mam "Mother". Very Norman Bates!

Conversely, someone who speaks of and/or treats their mother/father badly or disrespectfully, I don't want to know. Even if she's a bitch, you don't have to publicly say so to a near stranger, same with exes.

Oh, and a friend of mine had a bf who refused to eat vegetables, fish, potatoes in any form other than chips, and insisted he'd never go on holidays anywhere they had 'strange' food. I wouldn't be able to bear that.

Boardz Fiend

Snoring... plain & simple. I know its not your fault... but if i hear it regularly you are getting the boot! Thats right, still single as a result

MadDog76

Used to go out with a girl who would give me 10-15 second bl*wjobs ........ she would start (great!) then, literally seconds later, stop and say "I think you've had enough of that now."
I finally told her, after this happened a few times, "No, I haven't had enough! You'll know when I've had enough, there's a very definite ending in this scenario!! :mad:".

Got rid of her ..........

pilly

Boardz Fiend wrote:

Snoring... plain & simple. I know its not your fault... but if i hear it regularly you are getting the boot! Thats right, still single as a result

Could you not sleep in separate rooms? I've done this before. After the deed is done obviously!

Sleeper12

The_Valeyard wrote:

Kept turning off the PlayStation instead of shutting it down

Should be left on 24/7 just in case. Most women don't get this

Boardz Fiend

pilly wrote: »

Could you not sleep in separate rooms? I've done this before. After the deed is done obviously!

Tried that with the last one, she wasnt impressed me feckin off to the other room after the deed. Nor was she fond of waking up alone.

_Whimsical_

People with no interest or ability in the technology sphere, and now I mean zero interest.

I suggested an intelligent person in his early 30s try Netflix not so long ago and he told me didn't know how to download an app. That was definitely a big no for me immediately. Enough basic passing curiousity about life in general to at least have tried that would be the minimum I could bare in a person.

pilly

Boardz Fiend wrote:

Tried that with the last one, she wasnt impressed me feckin off to the other room after the deed. Nor was she fond of waking up alone.

Ah well rid so!

Exclamation Marc

Constant selfie and food picture takers do my head in.

Merkin

Meanness with money is a hangable offence.

I once had a couple of dates with a nice enough chap until I saw that he kept his keys on a key ring ON HIS BELT. I'm still not right from it.

I had a shocking crush on a guy until I saw him put his phone in a little holster in his belt - I know it's common enough with over-50's but this guy was under 30. I never understood why he was single before.

Instant crush cure.

Alun

People who fiddle with their food, or leave anything on their plate, including garnish.

pilly

Candie wrote:

I had a shocking crush on a guy until I saw him put his phone in a little holster in his belt - I know it's common enough with over-50's but this guy was under 30. I never understood why he was single before.

Oh God yeah! Especially on Farah slacks!

dreamers75

Put coffee in the sugar bowl when making a cup of coffee.

Seriously fcuk right off.

seenitall

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

People with no interest or ability in the technology sphere, and now I mean zero interest.

I suggested an intelligent person in his early 30s try Netflix not so long ago and he told me didn't know how to download an app. That was definitely a big no for me immediately. Enough basic passing curiousity about life in general to at least have tried that would be the minimum I could bare in a person.

Heh, you really wouldn't like me then! Just as well, as I wouldn't be your prefered gender either

I was once seeing someone who didn't do French kissing, i.e. he kissed without tongue! He would just open his mouth and left it there, gaping... Reminded me of a fish for some reason... Needless to say, bedroom action wasn't up to much either.

Poor guy, I think he is still single, more than 15 years later. I do NOT wonder why! Although a really nice guy; it's such an extraordinary thing when someone completely lacks any carnal instinct.

pilly

Merkin wrote:

I once had a couple of dates with a nice enough chap until I saw that he kept his keys on a key ring ON HIS BELT. I'm still not right from it.

That made me laugh out loud!

pilly

seenitall wrote:

Heh, you really wouldn't like me then! Just as well, as I wouldn't be your prefered gender either

Ah you can use boards so you're not a complete technophobe.

Lorelli!

I had this weird thing when I was a teenager where i would be completely turned off if my crush got a haircut. Not even a different style or anything! After a week, it would be grand and I'd like them again!

seenitall

Lorelli! wrote: »

I had this weird thing when I was a teenager where i would be completely turned off if my crush got a haircut. Not even a different style or anything! After a week, it would be grand and I'd like them again!

That is a weird one alright!

metaoblivia

Malari wrote: »

Driving - I was casually seeing a guy years ago and he drove us somewhere one day, which effectively was his undoing in my eyes. He was completely lacking in confidence, couldn't get through a gap a truck had just driven through in front of him, spectacularly failed to negotiate a roundabout, mashed every gear change and just made me really uncomfortable. He wasn't a learner, he was just terrible!

It was an instant turn-off.

I dated a guy a few months ago - really nice guy. But the slowest driver in the world. He was going under the speed limit in the slow lane. But weirdly whenever a turn came up, he was somehow completely unprepared for it? People were passing us at every opportunity and he made no apologies. Said he was a "Sunday driver" and I'm thinking to myself, if you're this bad right now, how bad are you going to be in 40-50 years? It was so irritating and a surprisingly big turnoff.

Lorelli!

Lorelli! wrote: »

I had this weird thing when I was a teenager where i would be completely turned off if my crush got a haircut. Not even a different style or anything! After a week, it would be grand and I'd like them again!

You just don't cope well with change!

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Socks on during sex, I can't describe why but it disgusts me beyond belief. It's so distracting I'd rather stop and let him take his socks off before getting down to business. He can leave his shirt on, he doesn't even have to step outta his pants, but no socks

Gunslinger92

Excessive use of puns. If anyone was watching first dates last night and saw the ginger lad who got stood up - he would drive me insane with all the inane puns!

pappyodaniel

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Socks on during sex, I can't describe why but it disgusts me beyond belief. It's so distracting I'd rather stop and let him take his socks off before getting down to business. He can leave his shirt on, he doesn't even have to step outta his pants, but no socks

Not even a cock sock?

Ferrari3600

Excessive timidity/conformity is a turn-off for me. I prefer a touch of assertiveness. I don't mean in the bedroom as such, but people with ability not standing up for themselves in the workplace, that type of thing.

I also don't care for excessive religosity, though if someone goes to mass once a year so as not to piss off the parents or whatever, that is somewhat understandable.

pickarooney

pilly wrote: »

I was thinking today about a relationship I was once in for 6 months.

We had great fun together, physical attraction was huge and never rowed. He was a little bit mean when it came to money but I didn't let that bother me too much, no-one is perfect.

Fast forward 2 months and I went to stay in his for the 1st time (he lived in the UK). He had slippers at the door for both of us and I don't wear slippers so just took my shoes off. He wasn't happy with that and insisted I wear them.

That was it for me. Just struck me as so anal I just wasn't physically attracted to him anymore.

Seems silly now. Just wondering if anyone has ended a relationship for something like that or is it just me?

Tl;dr
Boyfriend gets anal, dumping ensues

wakka12

Lorelli! wrote: »

I had this weird thing when I was a teenager where i would be completely turned off if my crush got a haircut. Not even a different style or anything! After a week, it would be grand and I'd like them again!

I don't think thats that odd actually! I saw this post on Facebook a while ago, it was a screenshot from tumblr, it was 'if you still like your crush after he gets a haircut then you know you're in deep' and it had a few thousand likes so you're not alone:pac:

me_right_one

Ferrari3600 wrote: »

I also don't care for excessive religosity, though if someone goes to mass once a year so as not to piss off the parents or whatever, that is somewhat understandable.

Maybe I'd consider once a day very often, twice a day is excessive, but once a year is your limit? 😨

mdwexford

me_right_one wrote: »

Tattoos turn me off. Nothing screams "I'M INSECURE, APPROVE OF ME" like a tattoo.

What a stupid ignorant comment.

So every person in the world who has a tattoo got them because they were insecure and looking for approval?

andekwarhola

Leaving a cup around with a teabag in it. My wife does it. It's trivial but for some reason annoys me out of all proportion to what it is.

pragmatic1

Was going out with a fair haired girl for a while and noticed that she had some light hairs near where a man's Adams apple would be. That was it, instant turn off. Bit shallow but hair in certain places is a huge turn off.

Another girl was going out with her for about 9 months but one day watching her eating boiled eggs, which I hate, just turned me off so much that I broke up with her not long after. The spark just went out.