Tinder Question

Piggystardust

Hey Guys,

Just a quick one, a few months ago I matched with a lovely guy on Tinder. I recognised him and realised that he lives in my building! We were chatting for a while but then he took ages to reply to one of my messages and I stupidly thought meh, he msutn't be interested and unmatched him.

By 'took ages' I mean he hadn't replied in a few hours but he had mentioned he was hungover and we'd only been chatting for about two days. Very sily of me.

Anyway, today as I was leaving for work, the lift doors opeed and there he was. He looked gorgeous. He smiled and said, well this was bound to happen at some point and we both laughed. We got to the ground floor and he said after you and let me out first. We both then smiled and walked seperate ways. I was gonna say hey if you wanna talk again, let's swap numbers but it was only 8am and I wasn't quite awake!

I had actually left Tinder cos I was meeting all the wrong types of guys so tonight rejoined and found him! I swiped right obviously, but no match sadly.

Does that mean he knows I swiped right and is blanking me or does it mean he just hasn't liked me back? This sucks. I wish I hadn't unmacthed him.

All I can do is hope we run into each other again in the lift. We obviously go to work at the same time althought this is the first time I've seen him. He lives on the floor below me. So annoying knowing he's there but I can't just talk to him!!

We must have fancied each other to have swiped in the first place right? He started the conversation too.

Anything I can do guys?!

Thanks!!!

Wilberto

Piggystardust wrote: »

Hey Guys,

Just a quick one, a few months ago I matched with a lovely guy on Tinder. I recognised him and realised that he lives in my building! We were chatting for a while but then he took ages to reply to one of my messages and I stupidly thought meh, he msutn't be interested and unmatched him.

By 'took ages' I mean he hadn't replied in a few hours but he had mentioned he was hungover and we'd only been chatting for about two days. Very sily of me.

Anyway, today as I was leaving for work, the lift doors opeed and there he was. He looked gorgeous. He smiled and said, well this was bound to happen at some point and we both laughed. We got to the ground floor and he said after you and let me out first. We both then smiled and walked seperate ways. I was gonna say hey if you wanna talk again, let's swap numbers but it was only 8am and I wasn't quite awake!

I had actually left Tinder cos I was meeting all the wrong types of guys so tonight rejoined and found him! I swiped right obviously, but no match sadly.

Does that mean he knows I swiped right and is blanking me or does it mean he just hasn't liked me back? This sucks. I wish I hadn't unmacthed him.

All I can do is hope we run into each other again in the lift. We obviously go to work at the same time althought this is the first time I've seen him. He lives on the floor below me. So annoying knowing he's there but I can't just talk to him!!

We must have fancied each other to have swiped in the first place right? He started the conversation too.

Anything I can do guys?!

Thanks!!!

You could leave Tinder, rejoin again, and when you come across his profile again then swipe up to "superlike" him. Then he'll definitely know you like him, and you'll know if he'll swipe right as well.


Of course, he also could have left Tinder himself in which case you just have to hope ye meet again in the morning.

nhunter100

Piggystardust wrote:

Anything I can do guys?!

Yeah... go down stairs knock on his door and invite him out for a coffee/ drink.

Mint Sauce

He may not have been on line since you rejoined. If you meet him again, simply ask if you want to go for a drink, coffee, meet up sometime. If he matches with you, don't waste any time on asking for that meet.

Piggystardust

Wilberto wrote: »

You could leave Tinder, rejoin again, and when you come across his profile again then swipe up to "superlike" him. Then he'll definitely know you like him, and you'll know if he'll swipe right as well.


Of course, he also could have left Tinder himself in which case you just have to hope ye meet again in the morning.

Well I found him about an hour ago so he hasn't left Tinder! If you like someone do they know or just superike? I'm not used to Tinder!!!!
Will he get a message saying I superliked him? Is that not a bit sad on my part? How cringe if he doesn't reply and I run into him in the lift!
Imagine the lift then broke down!! Haha

njs030

Piggystardust wrote: »

Well I found him about an hour ago so he hasn't left Tinder! If you like someone do they know or just superike? I'm not used to Tinder!!!!
Will he get a message saying I superliked him? Is that not a bit sad on my part? How cringe if he doesn't reply and I run into him in the lift!
Imagine the lift then broke down!! Haha

I'd say just like him and leave it at that. If he wants to talk to you he knows what to do- unmatching him because he didn't reply in a few hours after talking for all of 2 days was waaaay over the top and intense and then doing a superlike just after seeing him will reinforce that image.
Just relax and let things unfold.

Piggystardust

notjustsweet wrote: »

I'd say just like him and leave it at that. If he wants to talk to you he knows what to do- unmatching him because he didn't reply in a few hours after talking for all of 2 days was waaaay over the top and intense and then doing a superlike just after seeing him will reinforce that image.
Just relax and let things unfold.

Yeah, I wouldn't superlike anypne, it just seems a bit cringey. I'll just leave it. It's Friday night so he might be out. If he likes me, he'll see me on Tinder. My only concern is he won't swipe right cos I unmatched him last time. He probably thinks I'm not into it.

If I happen to run into him again, I'll ask him out. Hopefully he'll say yes but who knows! Life is a mystery!

the reason I unmatched him so quickly was because I'd just joined tinder and had tons of weird guys messaging me and stuff and my head was a bit wrecked. Lesson learned!

Wilberto

I have to say, in my own defence, I've never actually superliked anyone either! That said, I only used the app for like a month and got bored! I just thought in your case it might have actually been more appropriate than it usually would be, but yeah, you're probably right to be fair.

368100

The ideal would be to meet him again and ask him on a date but in the absence of that ....Super like him.....it may be cringy to us Irish but we need to be more like Americans and put ourselves out there.

Sounds like he's interested but if for some reason he's not, you'll no longer be wondering.

Life is too short so go for it

Piggystardust

368100 wrote: »

The ideal would be to meet him again and ask him on a date but in the absence of that ....Super like him.....it may be cringy to us Irish but we need to be more like Americans and put ourselves out there.

Sounds like he's interested but if for some reason he's not, you'll no longer be wondering.

Life is too short so go for it

How does that work though? My phone just beeped saying i'd been superliked but how do i find out who did it? I know you see as you go through sometimes that some one has superliked you.. is that what you mean? Or does tinder tell you who has superliked you?
Maybe this ship has sailed. I'd love to run into him in the lift again though!!!

368100

Piggystardust wrote: »

How does that work though? My phone just beeped saying i'd been superliked but how do i find out who did it? I know you see as you go through sometimes that some one has superliked you.. is that what you mean? Or does tinder tell you who has superliked you?
Maybe this ship has sailed. I'd love to run into him in the lift again though!!!

I've never been super liked so couldn't tell you for certain ;-(....does it not show up in recent matches?

Dial Hard

Piggystardust wrote:

How does that work though? My phone just beeped saying i'd been superliked but how do i find out who did it? I know you see as you go through sometimes that some one has superliked you.. is that what you mean? Or does tinder tell you who has superliked you?

You get a push notification telling you you've been Superliked and they show up within the first couple of profiles you'll be shown, with a big blue border around their photo and a star below it saying they've Superliked you.

Piggystardust

368100 wrote: »

I've never been super liked so couldn't tell you for certain ;-(....does it not show up in recent matches?

I only rejoined an hour ago and the only person i've liked is lift boy so I have no matches! :pac:
Awwwww why isn't he staring at Tinder trying desperately to find me on a Friday night like a loser haha
I'm easy to find. He knows my name, age and location...above him...wish it was on top of him!!!!

Piggystardust

As an aside, it's scary how easy it is to find people on the internet these days. All I know is his first name and our apartment block but I just found him on facebook so easily.

I'm not a stalker by the way, just sitting here bored and curious about this guy but that's how easy it was to find him...literally his first name and a street name. Scary really!

njs030

Piggystardust wrote: »

Yeah, I wouldn't superlike anypne, it just seems a bit cringey. I'll just leave it. It's Friday night so he might be out. If he likes me, he'll see me on Tinder. My only concern is he won't swipe right cos I unmatched him last time. He probably thinks I'm not into it.

If I happen to run into him again, I'll ask him out. Hopefully he'll say yes but who knows! Life is a mystery!

the reason I unmatched him so quickly was because I'd just joined tinder and had tons of weird guys messaging me and stuff and my head was a bit wrecked. Lesson learned!

You'll come up on his tinder again if he's still using it. He might be dating someone and just not have deleted it yet or many other things, it could be any number of days before he even sees you on there.
Dating is as much about patience as it is about dates sometimes!

Like I said relax, don't overthink a short interaction from months ago. Talk to other people and if he gets in touch great....if not it wasn't meant to be!

Piggystardust

notjustsweet wrote: »

You'll come up on his tinder again if he's still using it. He might be dating someone and just not have deleted it yet or many other things, it could be any number of days before he even sees you on there.
Dating is as much about patience as it is about dates sometimes!

Like I said relax, don't overthink a short interaction from months ago. Talk to other people and if he gets in touch great....if not it wasn't meant to be!

Bang on advice and exactly what I'm thinking. If we meet in the lift again, great and kind of sweet but even then he could say he's with someone or not interested. I'm just gonna forget it and carry on. Thanks guys

368100

Piggystardust wrote: »

I only rejoined an hour ago and the only person i've liked is lift boy so I have no matches! :pac:
Awwwww why isn't he staring at Tinder trying desperately to find me on a Friday night like a loser haha
I'm easy to find. He knows my name, age and location...above him...wish it was on top of him!!!!

Easy now!! ;-)

Piggystardust

368100 wrote: »

Easy now!! ;-)

Heh heh :pac:

Senna

Piggystardust wrote: »

As an aside, it's scary how easy it is to find people on the internet these days. All I know is his first name and our apartment block but I just found him on facebook so easily.

I'm not a stalker by the way, just sitting here bored and curious about this guy but that's how easy it was to find him...literally his first name and a street name. Scary really!

And now you will pop up as "people you might know" on his Facebook because you viewed his profile.

Piggystardust

Senna wrote: »

And now you will pop up as "people you might know" on his Facebook because you viewed his profile.

WHAT?????????????????????????:eek:

Senna

Piggystardust wrote: »

WHAT?????????????????????????:eek:

Did you never notice random people you might know of, but have no connect to, pop up on your Facebook suggestions?
That's because they viewed your profile.

Piggystardust

Senna wrote: »

Did you never notice random people you might know of, but have no connect to, pop up on your Facebook suggestions?
That's because they viewed your profile.

I never knew that...oh jesus, how can I hide it or get rid of it?????

Senna

Wouldn't worry about it, most people don't realise it's because you viewed their profile and just think it's Facebook magic:)

Piggystardust

Senna wrote: »

Wouldn't worry about it, most people don't realise it's because you viewed their profile and just think it's Facebook magic:)

Do you always show up though cos I just asked my flatmate to view me, we're not friends on facebook, and he didn't show up on that in my people you may know.
I'll never understand the algorythms of modern technology!

Senna

No certainly not, you might not show up, you might show up next week or you could pop up straight away.
But they did say that if you are a heavy user and regularly go through your suggestions, the algorithm looks for more connections, like viewing a profile.

Piggystardust

Senna wrote: »

No certainly not, you might not show up, you might show up next week or you could pop up straight away.
But they did say that if you are a heavy user and regularly go through your suggestions, the algorithm looks for more connections, like viewing a profile.

I rarerly post on facebook so hopefully that will mean I won't show up. Dang nammit!!! This just isn't meant to be I reckon. Gonna just put it behind me and hope that I never see him again. Funny, an hour ago I was fantasizing about banging (into) him in the lift haha

retro:electro

Did you speak to him at all in the lift like how are you? Or was it awkward silence?

blackcard

Piggystardust wrote: »

I rarerly post on facebook so hopefully that will mean I won't show up. Dang nammit!!! This just isn't meant to be I reckon. Gonna just put it behind me and hope that I never see him again. Funny, an hour ago I was fantasizing about banging (into) him in the lift haha

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Piggystardust

It wasn't awkward, we only went down two flights so it was quick. Thankfully I'd just gotten ready for work so my hair was freshly washed and I had make up on etc. He just looked at me and said..this was bound to happen and we both kinda laughed. Then I said how are you anyway, he said glad it's Friday!
Then we got out of the lift and he held the door open so I could go first which was nice but we walked the same direction but he crossed the street.
It was early, like 8am but I think there's a spark. Could be imagining it though!

milli milli

Hi OP, just relax. We all make stupid mistakes regarding the opposite sex.
Try not to think of it now.
If you unmatched the guy, he's going to think you're not interested, so to be honest it was mature of him to be so breezy when you met him in the lift.
If you see him again, do ask him out, don't hesitate.
I know it's a cliche, but I agree with that saying 'what's for you, won't pass you'

sReq | uTeK

Okay...no you won't show up in people you know on his Facebook. It doesn't work like that. Trust me.

But Christ almighty you live in the same building, it's not hard to bump into him. Talk to the man and ask him for a coffee

Taltos

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