Do you call your parents by their real name?

Andy From Sligo

Do you (or did you used to) call your parents by their first name or still refer to them as Mam and dad (or mum and dad) ?

If so at what age did you start doing it from?

Do you think its in some way dis-respectful calling them by their names and not addressing them as mum and dad ? - or do you think its more affectionate or proper?

Do they prefer it if you call them ma and da , or are they not fazed?

stimpson

Apparently he prefers not to be called Mr. Milkman.

jimmycrackcorm

It's the height of disrespect. If young corm turned around to me and addressed me by Jimmy I'll be sending him in to a drugs rehab centre or else to the doctor to get put on some drugs.

Son0vagun

I call mine by their real names, Mum and Dad!

longshanks

I call them by their names, and have done since I was about 11 or 12. Seeing grown adults call their parents Mammy or Daddy seems childish to me.

Edups

Do I **** still call them ma or da or anything. About 13 I'd say, I was.

TerrorFirmer

I just call them mum and dad. What people want to call their parents is obviously up to them and doesn't bother me, but it somewhat disturbs me to hear fairly young kids call their parents by their first name.

Andy From Sligo

longshanks wrote: »

I call them by their names, and have done since I was about 11 or 12. Seeing grown adults call their parents Mammy or Daddy seems childish to me.

yeah, admittedly mammy and daddy - but ma and da, or mum and dad is OK surely?

munster87

Son0vagun wrote: »

I call mine by their real names, Mum and Dad!

Then who is agun?

HellSquirrel

Mum and Dad for me, although with my mum, I do call her by her first name when we're at a group hobby we both do. It's a different context, sorta.

SEPT 23 1989

I wasn't brought up in a hippy commune so it's Mam and Dad

Harvey Normal

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

yeah, admittedly mammy and daddy - but ma and da, or mum and dad is OK surely?

Of course. I've seen 60 years olds call their 80 year old parents that.

Andy From Sligo

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

It's the height of disrespect. If young corm turned around to me and addressed me by Jimmy I'll be sending him in to a drugs rehab centre or else to the doctor to get put on some drugs.

I must say personally I am glad mine still call me dad and their mum ... er mum

they are 23 and 21 at moment - hope they continue to call us mum and dad forever

linpoo

Have always called my mam and dad by their actual names ever since I can remember. My brother and sisters do too apart from my younger sister who calls them maaaa and daaaa. It'd feel strange to to call them anything but their name at this stage

Senna

longshanks wrote: »

Seeing grown adults call their parents Mammy or Daddy seems childish to me.

It's as much a term of affection as anything else, they will always be your mother and father and you will always be their child, no matter how much of an ungrateful little sh1t you are:)

Calibos

I, like many eldest children called their parents by their given names because thats how we heard everyone else in our life refer to them. Generally once we start school we realise that most other kids call their parents mam and dad etc and so most switch to that. Then our siblings following behind us call our parents mam and dad from as soon as they can speak because we eldest will pinch them and call them poopoo heads if they dont.

Witchie

Usually call them mum and dad but occasionally they will get their nicknames.

My sons call me mum but their dad by his first name coz he is barely in their lives. I think they call him dad to his face but they always refer to him by his real name when talking to anyone else.

I have a double barrelled name that ends in Ann so my eldest sometimes calls me Mammy-Ann when he is being affection or cheeky.

I don't care what my now adult sons call me as long as they call me about once a week for a chat.

LordSutch

Our family the tradition has always been Mum & Dad, although I do have a friend who always refers to his parents by their 1st names, which I find peculiar.

suicide_circus

only when they've been bold

Olishi4

Up until about 6, I called them Mammy and Daddy but I remember my brother called me aside and said I was too old to be calling them that, it was cooler to call them Ma and Da so I settled on calling them Mam and Dad.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I did if they stopped answering to mom and dad.

Da. Daaaa. Dad! DAD!! Daddy? Da. DA! Dadddddddddddy?
FIRSTNAME!!!!

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I called my dad daddy up until I was 25. Not even sorry

andekwarhola

When I hear about kids calling their parents by their real names, I instantly think of The Modern Parents in Viz.

It's Ma and Da and always will be.

KoolKid

Then you have the Irish country tradition where the husband calls the wife Mammy all his married life.

jackwigan

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I called my dad daddy up until I was 25. Not even sorry

Did another man get bestowed the title at that time?

Agricola

People who call their parents by their actual names give me a large dose of the shíts to be honest. Calling them Mam & Dad isn't some childish thing to grow out of, like believing in Santy. They are, and always will be your Mam & Dad.

heldel00

Many moons ago when I was meeting a junior infant parent in a bit of a rush, I asked the little fella "what's your mammy's name?"
He looked at me like I was stupid and says "Ma".
Says I "no, no what does daddy call mammy?" and, as innocent as could be, he says "a wagon"!!

Olishi4

KoolKid wrote: »

Then you have the Irish country tradition where the husband calls the wife Mammy all his married life.

My granda use to call my granny "aul nannier". Not out of affection or tradition though, just to annoy her which it did

Karmella

My almost 6 year old has been calling me by my name for almost a year now :rolleyes: I keep hoping it's just a phase and he'll grow out of it but it's not looking likely!! And as a result my 2 year old is also calling me by my name. I guess I'm destined to never be called mum ever again!!
I get really embarrassed when we are out because I think that people are judging me I'm not a new age hippy parent I swear!!!

Weirdly though they call their dad Daddy.

Rubberlegs

KoolKid wrote: »

Then you have the Irish country tradition where the husband calls the wife Mammy all his married life.

My Dad did that
Dad was always Dad, Mum is Mum. I can remember being half scandalised, half in awe as a child when a new family moved onto our road and the son called his parents by their first names. We are Mam and Dad, even to the eldest at 23. I prefer it to be honest, it would feel odd to be called by my first name.

B0jangles

Ma and Pa for me and I'm well into my thirties.

The way I think of it is that there will be hundreds, maybe thousands of people who'll call you by your given name over your lifetime, but there are very very few who'll ever get to call you their Ma or their Pa so it's something to be valued and held on to.

KoolKid

Both my parents have passed away. Reading this I have just realized myself, my brother and my sister all still refer to them as mam and dad in any conversation about them.

lawlolawl

I don't call them Mam and Dad, that'd be weird.

I call them by their God given names....... Adolf and Eva.

Andy From Sligo

Karmella wrote: »

My almost 6 year old has been calling me by my name for almost a year now :rolleyes: I keep hoping it's just a phase and he'll grow out of it but it's not looking likely!! And as a result my 2 year old is also calling me by my name. I guess I'm destined to never be called mum ever again!!
I get really embarrassed when we are out because I think that people are judging me I'm not a new age hippy parent I swear!!!

Weirdly though they call their dad Daddy.

Maybe its time for a little gentle reminder, you can do it in a nice way. Just explain that you like to be called mummy (if thats what you really want ), and that its much better name than your real name and makes you happy, then (hopefully) they will start calling you mummy again

Andy From Sligo

KoolKid wrote: »

Then you have the Irish country tradition where the husband calls the wife Mammy all his married life.

i noticed the other day when our kids were in the room I said something to me wife and she ignored me and i went "isnt that right mum!" and that got her attention ... i think thats it now i am gonna be calling her mum a lot more often now

It always has been and always will be mammy and daddy

Karmella

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

Maybe its time for a little gentle reminder, you can do it in a nice way. Just explain that you like to be called mummy (if thats what you really want ), and that its much better name than your real name and makes you happy, then (hopefully) they will start calling you mummy again

Hah that would never work! I would be better off going the reverse psychology route and tell him that calling me mum would really annoy me & wreck my head. He'd probably start calling me it instantly :rolleyes:

Mr. FoggPatches

I'm lucky in that my mother is called Marmaduke and my dad is called darfur, so it's ma and da for short

paska

They have passed on but it was always Ma and Da. My kids now say Mam and Dad. Its personal, nobody else has the good fortune to call me Dad.

jluv

KoolKid wrote: »

Then you have the Irish country tradition where the husband calls the wife Mammy all his married life.

We have friends (a couple) and he calls her mammy and she calls him daddy even when they are out socially as a couple:eek:

pillphil

Agricola wrote: »

People who call their parents by their actual names give me a large dose of the shíts to be honest. Calling them Mam & Dad isn't some childish thing to grow out of, like believing in Santy. They are, and always will be your Mam & Dad.

I call my mum mum, I call the ould lad by his first name.
I started doing it to annoy him and it's just habit now.

oeb

jluv wrote: »

We have friends (a couple) and he calls her mammy and she calls him daddy even when they are out socially as a couple:eek:

Do they have kids?

selous

I was out meeting an ex's family for the first time and her brothers wife started chatting then turned around and said "isn't that right Da Da" to her husband, I nearly choked on my food, it's what she called him everywhere and anywhere, I cringed, no one else batted an eyelid..

I call mine Mom & Dad....Ma really p***es her off, so she gets called that sometimes

pillphil

oeb wrote: »

Do they have kids?

No, that'd be weird :P

jluv

oeb wrote: »

Do they have kids?

Yeah but mid teens...they're only late 40's...call each other by name when out socially! It's been said to them but they're so used to doing it, it's habit.

Loveinapril

They are my ma and da so that's what I call them. I know some people call their parents by their names but it is weird to me that people speak of 'growing out' of calling their parents by their titles!

amtc

Mam and Daddy. What is really weird is my Mam has never ever called my dad by his first name and they've been married since 1970. Since I was small it was 'your father' or if talking to friends 'a's father'. Or simply introduce each other as husband/wife and let them proffer their name. I think it's because both use variations of their second name but use one professionally and one personally. Hence I was very purposefully given s name that cannot be shortened.

aaronjumper

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I did if they stopped answering to mom and dad.

Da. Daaaa. Dad! DAD!! Daddy? Da. DA! Dadddddddddddy?
FIRSTNAME!!!!

I do this too.

Surreptitious

Mater and pater, *adjusts monocle*

Jakey Rolling

Our eldest called me "Jakey" since he started talking. I thought this was funny and a nice kind of different at first. By the time he was 5 I realised that most others, kids and parents, found this strange. Also, in some interactions I'm sure it made people assume I was an absentee father.

So I asked him to start calling me dad, which he was fine with. Problem was his mother continued referring to me as Jakey in her conversations with him. i.e. "ask Jakey" instead of "ask your dad". Took 3 years to finally get her out of the habit, at which time he finally changed. His siblings always said Dad.

Crea

Not a hope in hell. We would get the wooden spoon!