Am I in the wrong?

JW23

My girlfriends in college up in Donegal and living with 4 housemates one is her friend the others don't really talk to her. If she walks into the sitting room they look her up and down as if to say why are you here...But anyways they have a problem with me coming down the odd time... I don't understand why though I pay for my own food, I throw my girlfriend money for bills and clean up after myself I understand it's there home like and have to do my bits... I came down this week on the Tuesday because it was her birthday and we were going for dinner. I'm not really in there way either as when I'm in the house I do be in the room most of the time at the evenings and do be out during the day, only time im in the kitchen or in the way is when we're making food.

Your Face

Yes.
Never pay a b#tches bills.

s15r330

Didn't read it, but yeh

JW23

s15r330 wrote: »

Didn't read it, but yeh

Nice to know you care :P

ClovenHoof

This is most women behave. Women are disgusting to one another and then somehow find a way to blame it on men.

MarkR

Could be sexual tension. Let them know you're up for the tag team.

Raging_Ninja

They're just mad jealous that she has a boyfriend and is getting the sexytime.

osarusan

If she's 'up' in Donegal, how can you 'come down' to her?

Something very fishy about all this.

JW23

osarusan wrote: »

If she's 'up' in Donegal, how can you 'come down' to her?

Something very fishy about all this.

Haha just my wording is fishy sorry;)

The King of Moo

osarusan wrote: »

If she's 'up' in Donegal, how can you 'come down' to her?

Something very fishy about all this.

Trust me, these things can definitely go together.

JW23

Raging_Ninja wrote: »

They're just mad jealous that she has a boyfriend and is getting the sexytime.

One of them have a boyfriend but yeah some girls are mad...

Tilly

ClovenHoof wrote: »

This is most women behave. Women are disgusting to one another and then somehow find a way to blame it on men.

You're messing yeah????

Winterlong

Dude...they looked her up and down. Enough said. Get her out of there and call the cops.

osarusan

Sounds like they have a problem with her, and then you by extension.

If they have their own friends around, what's the problem? Is the girl who is her friend also getting along with the other two? Can she shed any light on what's wrong? Was there some agreement about nobody staying overnight or something?

HensVassal

Break something in the house before you leave. Something that's easily fixable (by you, but not by them).
When they call you for help, you rock on up, sort it out and save the day. After that they'll appreciate you a bit more.

The King of Moo

I imagine that this what watching Hollyoaks is like.

whoopsadoodles

ClovenHoof wrote: »

This is most women behave. Women are disgusting to one another and then somehow find a way to blame it on men.

Ooooooh, looks like someone needs a blow job!

Walter H Price

No fk em OP , houseshares are always a pain in the hoop , just get on with your own thing keep doing what your doing and pay no heed , if it comes to a row then have it but dont stress it .

HensVassal

osarusan wrote: »

If she's 'up' in Donegal, how can you 'come down' to her?

Something very fishy about all this.

Donegal, by definition, IS fishy.

Wossack

try and make friends with them, earn their trust and then BAM the ole fork in the eye

Winterlong

HensVassal wrote: »

Break something in the house before you leave. Something that's easily fixable (by you, but not by them).
When they call you for help, you rock on up, sort it out and save the day. After that they'll appreciate you a bit more.

Good idea. The heating, immersion or hair dryer would be good candidates here.

Rory28

Wossack wrote: »

try and make friends with them, earn their trust and then BAM the ole fork in the eye

unorthodox but I like it. ya got moxy kid.

JW23

osarusan wrote: »

Sounds like they have a problem with her, and then you by extension.

If they have their own friends around, what's the problem? Is the girl who is her friend also getting along with the other two? Can she shed any light on what's wrong? Was there some agreement about nobody staying overnight or something?

Yeah I don't know it's weird like my girlfriend is pretty shy so she finds it hard at times and they always comment that she's quiet that's the only problem they have I think. The girl just told my girlfriend that they think I'm there too much and they want to talk to her, The other girl said she has no problem with me there...They don't have any agreement whatsoever during freshers week they all had people down.

@HensVassal one of them asked me to get rid of a spider out of their room, they were being d1cks the whole day so I just said no...

GingerLily

Why did you not get rid of the spider? That was f***ing stupid

alchemist33

osarusan wrote: »

If she's 'up' in Donegal, how can you 'come down' to her?

Something very fishy about all this.

She's probably in college in Killybegs.

JW23

GingerLily wrote: »

Why did you not get rid of the spider? That was f***ing stupid

Haha I'm a bit afraid of spiders:(

HensVassal

Winterlong wrote: »

Good idea. The heating, immersion or hair dryer would be good candidates here.

Yep, when they wake up to cold showers and are miserable...he comes back and tops up the water pressure in the boiler that he drained.

Toilet is another sabotage goodie. Crack open the cistern and break the chain that connects the plug to the handle. Adios flushing!

They'll have to use buckets to flush out their piss and dumps until our OP comes back, replaces the "worn out" chain and saves the highly embarrassed and grateful hags.

Ursus Horribilis

Boring answer alert:not everyone in house shares appreciates having couples or boinking overnight guests on their floor.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Perhaps your notion of being there occasionally is not the same as theirs. Maybe, you should pay towards food etc. if you are there regularly. Unfortunately we can't read their minds to see what is annoying them. Have you, or she, ever just asked them if there is a problem.


And, you should have got rid of the spider.

R.D. aka MR.D

How often are you there? That's the real question. If it's only once a month then it's not a big deal but if you are down every single week then I can see why it's a problem.

I shared with other girls in college and having anyone unfamiliar in the house was annoying especially if they were guys. You can't relax and enjoy your own home, even things as simple as not wanting have your knickers hanging on the clothes horse can make it a pain.

osarusan

Get your GF to release a spider or two a couple of days before you arrive. You sort it out.

Escalate to rats if necessary to really win them over.

foggy_lad

Winterlong wrote: »

Good idea. The heating, immersion or hair dryer would be good candidates here.

No Not at all, they won't work. you need to change the Wi-Fi password OP

longshanks

Burn them with piss, then blast their house down?

GingerLily

So you give your girlfriend money for her bills......does she give this to her housemates?

You aren't entitled to be there so I'd try be nice to the housemates.

You have no RIGHT to be there so yes I think you're WRONG to assume you do.

MarkR

Jokes aside, bribe them. You don't go visiting without a bottle in your hand. Bring booze and chocolate, and thank them for putting up with you. I'm sure you're lovely, but you know what I mean.

And for gods sake, put the toilet seat down. ;-D

Cee-Jay-Cee

Why not take the bull by the horns and ask them what their problem is. Girls can be right nasty little bitches but usually cower away if confronted about it. Ask them out straight what the problem is and tell them that your not going to accept them being nasty to your girlfriend when your not there for no other reason other than they're spoilt little bitches who think they can treat others however they like.

Holograph

When it comes to you staying over, how often is the odd time?

Do the other girls act hostile to her or is it a case of her building something up into more than it is, due to them not knowing each other/your girlfriend not having much dealings with them?

What might be their reason for being standoffish with her? (Not that that's usually an excusable way to behave).

Ursus Horribilis

It sounds like a miserable place to live even without you in the picture. Can she not move?

Jesus.

JW23 wrote: »

Haha I'm a bit afraid of spiders:(

Are you and your girlfriend lesbians?

TheBlock

MarkR wrote: »

And for gods sake, put the toilet seat down. ;-D

After use, makes a bit of a mess if done prior to use.

sbsquarepants

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

Ooooooh, looks like someone needs a blow job!

Speaking as a man, there's never really a time when you don't, even mid blow job oddly enough.

Mr. CooL ICE

Bring over a 16-pack of good quality toilet paper and give it to them. It's an odd present, but its pretty practical. Everyone uses toilet paper.

TheBlock

Nicolas Cage wrote: »

Bring over a 16-pack of good quality toilet paper and give it to them. It's an odd present, but its pretty practical. Everyone uses toilet paper.

Almost everyone I'll have you know....

Butters1979

HensVassal wrote: »

Break something in the house before you leave. Something that's easily fixable (by you, but not by them).
When they call you for help, you rock on up, sort it out and save the day. After that they'll appreciate you a bit more.

is there any jars that need opening?

Outlaw Pete

Just do the McMahon walk next time you both walk in together. Problem solved.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yx6niFuEcQ0

Butters1979

JW23 wrote: »

@HensVassal one of them asked me to get rid of a spider out of their room, they were being d1cks the whole day so I just said no...

*facepalm*

Golden opportunity to get in their good books and you told them to **** off. Well done.

JupiterKid

It sounds like your girlfriend needs to move as there are clearly issues between her and her house"mates." It is reckoned that 50% of house/flat shares don't work out. I was there myself at one stage.

TheBlock

JupiterKid wrote: »

It sounds like your girlfriend needs to move as there are clearly issues between her and her house"mates." It is reckoned that 50% of house/flat shares don't work out. I was there myself at one stage.

While you where there did you ask the housemates what was their problem with OP's GF?

JupiterKid

TheBlock wrote: »

While you where there did you ask the housemates what was their problem with OP's GF?

Why yes. Yes I did. And they told me that they were all jealous of her for having such a hot BF. But he wouldn't get rid of spiders. The cad!:rolleyes:

py2006

A....college.....in........Donegal...

HensVassal

py2006 wrote: »

A....college.....in........Donegal...

Big institue of technology in Letterkenny.