First New Job... Need Advice Please

Hrududu

My advice would be to give your next job a bit more of a shot. When things are stressful on day 1 tell yourself that 2 weeks from now it will be easier. It always will be. After 2 weeks you'll know your way around. You'll know how to work the till. You'll be faster. You'll know how to handle your colleagues. All you have to do is keep the head down, keep learning and know that it will improve.

Throwing in the towel so early will never do you any good.

JakeBell

We'll never really know how much of this was your mental issues and how much was you simply not liking work. But I really don't think it was just your anxiety. I don't think you liked being faced with the reality of work and wanted out straight away. I think you were looking for justification here from the start but that didn't go to plan.
You worked in a fast food restaurant for 2 days (a 7hr shift and a 8.5hr shift) and you listed 'long hours' as a negative! You also listed 'physical demanding work' as a negative. It doesn't sound good from here. "Customers can get angry"? No sh1t.

You sound very soft and maybe there is a more suited role for you. But best of luck finding a role where you find nothing to complain about. Customers will get angry, managers will tell you to hurry up, you will have to lift stuff, you will have to work for 8 hours, it will get stressful.

A very large part of me thinks that your family should have given you a boot in the hole and told you not to dare give it up. Too many families wrap their precious boys and girls in cotton wool. But as I said I don't know exactly how much of this was genuine mental issues. Best of luck finding something to suit you.

GirlOutWest

Firstly, I think the attitude & behavior from your work colleagues and manager in charge was a disgrace. They can not expect you to be fast and efficient with no or little training. Had you received a little more patience from your work colleagues, I think you might have found the whole experience a little more rewarding. And maybe even still be in the job.

But that's the past, on to the future....

I know a lot of the other forumites will disagree with me but my first reaction would have been the same as yours, just leave the job (and the A-holes). There are other jobs out there (if you are willing to take anything) and for the stress and anxiety it caused you, I really don't think it was worth it. Life is too short. Yes, of course you have to work and first days in new jobs are NEVER easy but they shouldn't be THAT difficult and stressful either.

I think you did the right thing

jamie124

GirlOutWest wrote: »

Firstly, I think the attitude & behavior from your work colleagues and manager in charge was a disgrace. They can not expect you to be fast and efficient with no or little training. Had you received a little more patience from your work colleagues, I think you might have found the whole experience a little more rewarding. And maybe even still be in the job.

But that's the past, on to the future....

I know a lot of the other forumites will disagree with me but my first reaction would have been the same as yours, just leave the job (and the A-holes). There are other jobs out there (if you are willing to take anything) and for the stress and anxiety it caused you, I really don't think it was worth it. Life is too short. Yes, of course you have to work and first days in new jobs are NEVER easy but they shouldn't be THAT difficult and stressful either.

I think you did the right thing

Finally someone who actually understands! Thank You x

JakeBell

JakeBell wrote: »

I don't think you liked being faced with the reality of work and wanted out straight away. I think you were looking for justification here from the start but that didn't go to plan.

GirlOutWest wrote: »

I think you did the right thing

jamie124 wrote: »

Finally someone who actually understands! Thank You x

It took a while but you got it!

RossieMan

This thread is a train wreck. If the OP doesn't get the justification they ate looking for they ignore it.

jamie124

Ok so i'm not ignoring anyone AT ALL but a lot of people on here are being slightly harsh if I must say... Anxiety is an everyday struggle particularly if you have it severely... anyways, just wanted to get that out there...

Senna

Yes but everyone has issues, I could write pages on the what I've went through and what is currently going on in my life, but who cares?
It's up to you if you want to use that issue as a crutch in your life or get on with it regardless.

Only YOU care about your anxiety issues and it will be only used as justification for YOU not doing something, YOU not experiencing something or YOU giving up on something.
When you look back on your young adulthood, will you say "well I didn't do x, y or z but it's OK, I have an excuse".