How do I find out who the neighbour is

The Raptor

We have a lovely chatty neighbour who always stops and have a chat if he sees you.

The first time took me by surprise because i wasn't expecting it living in the city. So i never really stopped him, 'i'm sorry who are you'.

So it's been like this for the past year. Chatting to him and I don't really know him.

How do I find out who he is?

TheBully

Late at night, hop over the garden wall and check his washing line, he may have his name written on the tag of his favourite garments.

The Raptor

TheBully wrote: »

Late at night, hop over the garden wall and check his washing line, he may have his name written on the tag of his favourite garments.

If you're asking me to check out his underwear on the washing line, no.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

Thom's Directory.

Olishi4

It's the worst when you forget someones name. In normal conversation you barely say the other persons name and don't even notice but when you are conscious of not knowing some ones name, youre thinking constantly whilst trying to talk", what will I call them, how can I avoid saying something where I need to say their name?"

old_aussie

You could ask him his name.

xzanti

Just call him Dave.

Olishi4

xzanti wrote: »

Just call him Dave.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qkiix0aveRk

Sam Kade

old_aussie wrote: »

You could ask him his name.

Would it not sound a bit stupid after chatting to him on an off for a year?

irishgeo

If he bought the house you can check it out here https://www.landdirect.ie/pramap.aspx/ and buy a look at the deed to the house. Should have his name on it

Specialun

Ask the postman

HS3

Ask one of the other neighbours?

Del2005

Specialun wrote: »

Ask the postman

Mugging the post person would be more discreet.

BBDBB

Do you realise we have been chatting for over a year and I still don't know your name?

Alun

Just introduce yourself the next time you have a chat, "My name's <name>, by the way, I'm sorry I don't know yours?" or something like that.

corner of hells

Give yourself a box in the face , next time he see's you tell him that you fell over,but your head and have amnesia.
That's your excuse to ask him his name.

Your Face

Grow a pair and tell them the situation.

BettePorter

Make a fake 'sponsor ' card and ask him to buy a line. Charge 20 quid a line though so you at least get paid for your ingenuity

SEPT 23 1989

Ask your wife

Sam Kade

Does he know your name?

Capt'n Midnight

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Or some dark night stick a 10m tall giant inflatable frog in his garden and an anonymous tip to the local paper.

You'll see his name in the next edition.

Badly Drunk Boy

Capt'n Midnight wrote: »

Voters register.

If you mean the online version, that doesn't work. You need to know the person's name.

XrayGolf

Have a rummage through his green bin for when it's out on the kerb for any post/bills/letters/envelopes he may of thrown out. That or his name may be on the sticker on the bin.

marklazarcovic

postie only supposed to give a customers name to gardai if asked..legally

XrayGolf

Or you could always just take him to Starbucks and the barista will ask for their name and write it on the cup for your name-learning convenience.

Or have a friend with you when you meet him and then awkwardly stand there while they make their own intros.

Discodog

The Raptor wrote: »

We have a lovely chatty neighbour who always stops and have a chat if he sees you.

The first time took me by surprise because i wasn't expecting it living in the city. So i never really stopped him, 'i'm sorry who are you'.

So it's been like this for the past year. Chatting to him and I don't really know him.

How do I find out who he is?

How sad is that ? I lived in london for 9 years & got to know half the road plus shopkeepers, tube staff etc. Why are people so scared to say hello ? Everyone is scared to make the effort. Invite him in for a cuppa, tell you have a hopeless memory for names & get to know each other.

When I moved here I deliberately knocked on my neighbour's doors & introduced myself. I now never need to worry about security. If I get delayed they will let my dogs out & feed them. They take in parcels etc & I would help them in any way I could. It's how it used to be & still should be.

Widdershins

I was going to suggest Amnesia but someone's already thought of that.
The bin sticker is a good idea.
Of course you could just ask him but it would be nice not to have to.

Capt'n Midnight

Badly Drunk Boy wrote: »

If you mean the online version, that doesn't work. You need to know the person's name.

of course not, use the physical one

Samaris

Capt'n Midnight wrote: »

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Or some dark night stick a 10m tall giant inflatable frog in his garden and an anonymous tip to the local paper.

You'll see his name in the next edition.

Definitely this one.

BettePorter

I saw some etiquette tips thing once and it suggested that in this kinda situation you say ; sorry what's your name again? Then when they (insulted) reply 'dave ' or whatever, you then say, oh no I obviously know that dave , I meant your last name.

Widdershins

Discodog wrote: »

How sad is that ? I lived in london for 9 years & got to know half the road plus shopkeepers, tube staff etc. Why are people so scared to say hello ? Everyone is scared to make the effort. Invite him in for a cuppa, tell you have a hopeless memory for names & get to know each other.

When I moved here I deliberately knocked on my neighbour's doors & introduced myself. I now never need to worry about security. If I get delayed they will let my dogs out & feed them. They take in parcels etc & I would help them in any way I could. It's how it used to be & still should be.

You're both very lucky. I did the same, introduced myself, but neighbour is awful. So unfriendly that I soon gave up even smiling and saying hi when we pass. In the end it got back to me that the neighbour tells people I'm unfriendly and stuck up!

TheBully

The Raptor wrote: »

If you're asking me to check out his underwear on the washing line, no.

Surely this is the quickest and easiest way, do it late at night and you will be fine, even keep a pair of his garments, in case you forget again in the future.

TheQuietFella

Ask the postman if that hasn't been suggested already.

old_aussie

xzanti wrote: »

Just call him Dave.

Only Fools and Horses.

Rodney asks Trigger why he calls him Dave.

The Raptor

TheBully wrote: »

Surely this is the quickest and easiest way, do it late at night and you will be fine, even keep a pair of his garments, in case you forget again in the future.

Now you would like if i kept his underpants? What do you think i am

Sam Kade

TheQuietFella wrote: »

Ask the postman if that hasn't been suggested already.

It has and it was shot down

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Sam Kade wrote: »

Would it not sound a bit stupid after chatting to him on an off for a year?

"You know, we've spoken for a year and I've realised I don't actually know your name. I'm Sam."

ToddyDoody

Ask if you can see his wallet for a minute.

Capt'n Midnight

ToddyDoody wrote: »

Ask if you can see his wallet for a minute.

Hey...that's not the wallet inspector...

Discodog

Widdershins wrote: »

You're both very lucky. I did the same, introduced myself, but neighbour is awful. So unfriendly that I soon gave up even smiling and saying hi when we pass. In the end it got back to me that the neighbour tells people I'm unfriendly and stuck up!

I have had bad neighbours too, over the years, but you can only make the effort & see what happens. If you talk to lots of neighbours then they will soon realise that she is lying

jester77

Why not simply read his name from the postbox? They are usually laid out in a logical order, so it is most likely next to yours if he is the neighbour

Son Of A Vidic

The Raptor wrote: »

How do I find out who he is?

Call around naked with a bottle of wine and say that you want to know his name, so you can shout it out in the throws of passion.

The Raptor

Son Of A Vidic wrote: »

Call around naked with a bottle of wine and say that you want to know his name, so you can shout it out in the throws of passion.

Eh no, it's an old guy

Discodog

The Raptor wrote: »

Eh no, it's an old guy

That kinda suggests that you might call around naked if he was younger

The Raptor

Discodog wrote: »

That kinda suggests that you might call around naked if he was younger

Eh no

The dirty minds of after hours. I shouldn't have ever asked.

Olishi4

Seriously all you have to do is wait till the next time you are chatting to him and at the end of the conversation, just say "sorry what's your name again?" And he'l say "Dave".

And then you say "ahhh Dave, I'm The Raptor, anyway I'm in a bit of a rush so I'm gonna run, take care Dave, chat soon." And then you leggit to minimise awkwardness and then the next time you see him, you say "hey Dave".

Beware though, you cannot forget his name after this. That has happened me before where I've asked the name and then keep forgetting it

Discodog

The Raptor wrote: »

Eh no

The dirty minds of after hours. I shouldn't have ever asked.

I did try to resist & I am getting better now that I am on the pink tablets :pac:

Just talk to him. I don't know the names of most of the people that I meet around home or in town.

It's normal in Galway for someone to say "How are yer" as they pass & you are left trying to remember who they are.

Sam Kade

Jakob Crashing Babel wrote: »

"You know, we've spoken for a year and I've realised I don't actually know your name. I'm Sam."

Glad to know your name Sam, wasn't it silly of you to wait a year before asking me what my name is?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Sam Kade wrote: »

Glad to know your name Sam, wasn't it silly of you to wait a year before asking me what my name is?

Not at all. More like.

"You're right, time we were on first name terms, I'm ..."

aujopimur

I had a neighbour like that, I found out his name when I read it in the death notices, ah well, that's that problem sorted.

Antar Bolaeisk

marklazarcovic wrote: »

postie only supposed to give a customers name to gardai if asked..legally

The only solution then is to become a postman and get assigned to that particular street.