Snoring partner

GuessWhoEh

I absolutely adore my boyfriend. I love him dearly but his snoring has gotten so ferocious I do look forward to going home to my own bed and sleep in silence.

Over the last few weeks his snoring has gotten worst. Its like he's struggling to breath when he's snoring then jumps, turns over and happens all over again. I've suggested to him to see a doctor and see what options there is to try and lessen the snoring, if that's even possible. Typically, he won't.

Does anyone have any large, soundproof earphones?

PS...I'm also supposed to be hard of hearing. Even without my hearing aids, I'm still kept awake at night. God love him though, he's lucky I haven't strangled him yet

baby and crumble

Tbh op, and I know we can't give out medical
Advice but that sounds a lot like sleep apnoea. Really try and get him to the doc.

As for your own sleep, I feel your pain. My partner snores like a truck sometimes, usually when it's really bad it means she has a sinus infection or something. Have you tried adding earplugs to your nightly routine? Failing that I just kick my gf enough for her to turn over enough to stop the snoring for a while.

GuessWhoEh

I've often found myself "accidently" waking himself up and then I turn, big sigh, and off to sleep I go. Just it hasn't sounded right for a while. A little worrying.

newcar2016

GuessWhoEh wrote: »

I absolutely adore my boyfriend. I love him dearly but his snoring has gotten so ferocious I do look forward to going home to my own bed and sleep in silence.

Over the last few weeks his snoring has gotten worst. Its like he's struggling to breath when he's snoring then jumps, turns over and happens all over again. I've suggested to him to see a doctor and see what options there is to try and lessen the snoring, if that's even possible. Typically, he won't.

Does anyone have any large, soundproof earphones?

PS...I'm also supposed to be hard of hearing. Even without my hearing aids, I'm still kept awake at night. God love him though, he's lucky I haven't strangled him yet

Bose Quietcomfort earphones are great, the sound cancelling ones. The newer model are wireless.

You could set your phone to play the sound of rain/ocean/thunderstorm and with those headphones on you will block out more noise than you would think possible; but they are designed for some noise to filter through for emergency purposes.

Is your boyfriend overweight? Could be a cause of the loudness of the snoring.

baby and crumble

I missed the question about headphones. I bought myself a set of wireless ones (these ones) and at about 1/4 of the price of Bose they're very good. I'm sure Bose are better but I don't know if they'd be 4 times better. I would say though snoring has a way of cutting right through headphones, I haven't worn these ones when herself has been snoring though. They are fantastic for general active noise cancelling however. I can't imagine they'd be too comfortable to sleep in unless you sleep on your back though.

newcar2016

baby and crumble wrote: »

I missed the question about headphones. I bought myself a set of wireless ones (these ones) and at about 1/4 of the price of Bose they're very good. I'm sure Bose are better but I don't know if they'd be 4 times better. I would say though snoring has a way of cutting right through headphones, I haven't worn these ones when herself has been snoring though. They are fantastic for general active noise cancelling however. I can't imagine they'd be too comfortable to sleep in unless you sleep on your back though.

What I will say about the Bose headphones is that they are unmatched in quality and performance and most reviews you read will say this, for example I bought my first pair in 2011 and they are still working perfectly and in pristine condition, have donated them to a friend when I bought the wireless version recently.

Obviously quite expensive though.

baby and crumble

newcar2016 wrote: »

What I will say about the Bose headphones is that they are unmatched in quality and performance and most reviews you read will say this, for example I bought my first pair in 2011 and they are still working perfectly and in pristine condition, have donated them to a friend when I bought the wireless version recently.

Obviously quite expensive though.

Fair enough, I just think for someone who's really just looking to drown out snoring I doubt music fidelity is the big concern. Just my 2c though!

newcar2016

baby and crumble wrote: »

Fair enough, I just think for someone who's really just looking to drown out snoring I doubt music fidelity is the big concern. Just my 2c though!

It's not about music fidelity, more about the quality of the noise cancelling.
Anyhow, there could be other factors at play with the snoring!

GuessWhoEh

newcar2016 wrote:

Is your boyfriend overweight? Could be a cause of the loudness of the snoring.

Nope. He's "average" weight if that makse sense. Along with the snoring, he's a really deep sleeper so his breathing can get heavy.

kylith

Honestly, I think it's time to get tough.

tell him that you can't sleep and you're exhausted and that if he won't go to the doctor and see what can be done about the snoring then you can't stay the night any more.

GuessWhoEh

kylith wrote:

tell him that you can't sleep and you're exhausted and that if he won't go to the doctor and see what can be done about the snoring then you can't stay the night any more.

Had that talk with him last night. I've knuckled down so hopefully he'll try and sort something out

Earplugs. I used to find them very uncomfortable but now can't sleep without them!

imitation

newcar2016 wrote: »

What I will say about the Bose headphones is that they are unmatched in quality and performance and most reviews you read will say this, for example I bought my first pair in 2011 and they are still working perfectly and in pristine condition, have donated them to a friend when I bought the wireless version recently.

Obviously quite expensive though.

I have the QCs, they are fantastic headphones for planes, trains or cars, anywhere you have that horrible low rumbling white noise. Where they are weaker is regular sounds that dont have a repeating pattern, snoring would be like this. I think another problem is that they dont wear particularly well, wearing every night and rolling over on top of them, I would say they might only last a few months. As they cost almost 300 euros its probably not a great use for them. I think a good pair of 50c ear plugs would be almost as good.

newcar2016

imitation wrote: »

I have the QCs, they are fantastic headphones for planes, trains or cars, anywhere you have that horrible low rumbling white noise. Where they are weaker is regular sounds that dont have a repeating pattern, snoring would be like this. I think another problem is that they dont wear particularly well, wearing every night and rolling over on top of them, I would say they might only last a few months. As they cost almost 300 euros its probably not a great use for them. I think a good pair of 50c ear plugs would be almost as good.

There is also the option of the Bose in earphones, I have them as well and are excellent. But yeah sleeping with the over ear headphones is likely to be awkward unless you lie quite still.

Liam McPoyle

I used to snore quiet heavily.

Its improved a lot since I quit smoking but I still have nights that are pretty bad.

What i found worked was having higher than normal pillows.

Nowt scientific about it but it certainly helps.

woodchuck

I feel for you OP. My ex was a terribly heavy snorer (not the reason we broke up) and it's absolutely awful lying there completely exhausted, but unable to sleep and sometimes even crying with the frustration of it.

At least it sounds like he's going to try something at least. We tried over the counter stuff, but with no major success. I used ear plugs, which helped a bit, but he was so loud it just didn't help enough. For some reason when he drank milk in the evening it got worse, so he started to avoid that. Eventually I think his snoring got less heavy and/or I got used to it. I still never had a single great nights sleep with him though tbh...

Sorry I'm not much help. Just wanted to commiserate more than anything else!

Cutie 3.14

He could try a chinstrap? Anyone I know who snores are big gaping open mouthed snorers, might be worth a try!

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Big Nasty

+1 on the whole sleeping on your side thing.

I used to shake the house down sleeping on my back but having been trained (read: prodded) constantly until I learned to sleep on my side / belly worked a treat. Can't actually sleep comfortably on my back at all now I'm so used to it.

Happy wife = happy life.