Things you want to say to ex wife or gf etc

py2006

Based on a similar thread in a parallel universe...

What would you like to say to that ex gf/bf or wife/partner? We've all been through various relationships and some of us have been married before. Some horrific experiences and some positive.

If you had one thing to say to them, what would it be?

quadrifoglio verde

If I ever run into my ex gf of 5 years it would be to say thanks for helping me to change from the shy loner that I was at 18 to the confident guy I am today

FortySeven

Children are not weapons. Bitch.

Timberrrrrrrr

You thought you had broken me, I'm stronger than you will ever know.

cantdecide

You were wrong about me. I wouldn't take it. You couldn't bully me into begging you not to leave. I know it drives you crazy that I didn't let myself down by reacting like you wanted. If you don't grow up, you will repeat this cycle forever but you're not my problem any more.

Wibbs

A couple I would thank for being there at the exact right time and think of them fondly still(goes for a couple of flingettes too), a couple I would be thanks, but no thanks you self centred muppet child women, a couple I would be WTF was I thinking and a couple I'd have regrets about and sometimes some might be all of the above.

I can't be too wound up about any of them mind you, nor could I hold anger about it, or wish them ill. After all the one consistent feature, good and bad of my relationships was me.

That said I can afford to think like this as I never got anyone up the duff and have no kids, so any connection with exes if present would have been by my choice.

everlast75

FortySeven wrote: »

Children are not weapons. Bitch.

I think we have a winner!

ongarboy

Does feeling the need to want to say something negative to an ex suggest in some way that you are not still over them? If you were truly over them, wouldn't you feel nothing but indifference and hence should have no reason to say anything at all to them?

FortySeven

ongarboy wrote: »

Does feeling the need to want to say something negative to an ex suggest in some way that you are not still over them? If you were truly over them, wouldn't you feel nothing but indifference and hence should have no reason to say anything at all to them?

Not when kids are involved. I have 11 years I have to pander to a vindictive wagon until I can consign her to history.

Wibbs

FortySeven wrote: »

Not when kids are involved. I have 11 years I have to pander to a vindictive wagon until I can consign her to history.

I've had two mates go through this and a third currently in limbo. Kids make a huge difference alright.

Jawgap

FortySeven wrote: »

Children are not weapons. Bitch.

FortySeven wrote: »

Not when kids are involved. I have 11 years I have to pander to a vindictive wagon until I can consign her to history.

I've found over the years that I'm better off not saying anything to the ex because I've also found that "anything you say may be taken down, corrupted and repeated in court to a gullible judge only too willing to believe the worst about Dads"

So for the ex, there is nothing I want to say to her.......my preference is a good life, well lived........and posted all over Facebook with minimal privacy setings so the next time she wants to print it off and use it in court she doesn't have to get a 'friend' to betray me

......God, that felt good!!!

Aside from that......I'd go with.....

"The bit of weight suits ya."

"You do understand the repayment concept of a loan?"

Angel2016

py2006 wrote: »

Based on a similar thread in a parallel universe...

What would you like to say to that ex gf/bf or wife/partner? We've all been through various relationships and some of us have been married before. Some horrific experiences and some positive.

If you had one thing to say to them, what would it be?

Oh by the way you were rubbish in bed you have a small manhood and it's true what they say about Scottish men you are all stingy !
Hows about that lol...

Angel2016

My mam always gave very good advice she said when you break up with someone walk away with dignity don't get into a war of words and make yourself look like you are desperate and needy, hold you head high and think I am the better person plus never go out in public wearing smelly old tracksuits in case you meet them and they think you have fallen to pieces lol...

I never did say anything to my ex even after he tried to cause trouble in my job and called me all sorts of names he got with another girl a few months after me they got married 3 years ago she seems smitten with him so I hope they are happy.

Corvo

Hi Carly,

Remember when you rubbed your new found relationship in my face, but ended up realising he was a disaster of a man?

I'm doing fine by the way,

Adios

py2006

Angel2016 wrote: »

Oh by the way you were rubbish in bed you have a small manhood and it's true what they say about Scottish men you are all stingy !
Hows about that lol...

Jesus, I was just about to say that I am not scottish!!! :eek:

LegacyUser

I can't believe you didn't see it coming ? The signs were all there and I tried to talk to you time and time again. I spent a year trying to get through to you and you wouldn't listen.

Things were f#cked long before you got pregnant. Things were more f#cked after you lost the baby and still you wouldn't listen. It was tough on both of us but everything fell apart............it was always going to fall apart.

You think I walked out on you. Left you and abandoned you..... and you never realized I was doing everything I could to save us. I realize now that you couldn't listen - it's who you are. I'm glad I tried and I'm glad I left.

Angel2016

py2006 wrote: »

Jesus, I was just about to say that I am not scottish!!! :eek:

I'd have said alot more to him but took my mams advice he was on social media chatting to friends of mine really inappropriately too but they were showing me it all so I saw exactly the type of person he was.

py2006

In my younger days, I would like to have said a big fcuk you.

However, with a teaspoon or two of years and a sprinkling of maturity (relatively) I find that silence is often loudest response.

Speedwell

Angel2016 wrote: »

Oh by the way you were rubbish in bed you have a small manhood and it's true what they say about Scottish men you are all stingy !
Hows about that lol...

That's a bit of a funny thing to say to an ex-wife or ex-GF

If the question were raised about what we'd say to an ex-husband or ex-BF, I'd have a thing or two to say, but the question has not (so far) been raised.

Timberrrrrrrr

Speedwell wrote: »

That's a bit of a funny thing to say to an ex-wife or ex-GF

If the question were raised about what we'd say to an ex-husband or ex-BF, I'd have a thing or two to say, but the question has not (so far) been raised.

Unless they are gay

hairyslug

in a childish Nelson Muntz way "HA HA"

Speedwell

Timberrrrrrrr wrote: »

Unless they are gay

Trying to insult an ex-wife or ex-GF by saying they have a small manhood is still an exceedingly odd thing, no matter who is gay or trans in the ex-relationship. Or so I'd guess; I don't know many people who identify as women who would be significantly offended by such a thing.

Angel2016

Timberrrrrrrr wrote: »

Unless they are gay

lol...no it was a bloke and I am a women I never saw him after we broke up he called me all the names under the sun I was very mature and dignified I told him it wasn't working out and left it at that he had a lovely list of names to text and call me and then tried causing trouble in my job but he didn't realise when he was doing that I had just left my job. He was a horror he used to tell me I was fat and he didn't like my hair this way or that way and comments on make up etc..I was a very confident person before I met him so when I could see my confidence weaning I realised get rid of him and quick.
He was always asking for presents too and would conveniently forget his wallet when out to dinner.
He sounds like a right oul gem doesn't he a lucky catch lol..

OU812

Two of the serious ones, I've spoken to in the last year, both of them regretted splitting up with me & considered me the one that got away (yes, I'm awesome), and hinted heavily that if I ever wanted to, I could give them a "call". It won't be happening.

One of them I haven seen since we split up. She looked like Sandra Bullock circa 1994 but with a huge pert rack and long naturally curly hair . Assuming I was single (I'm not), To her I'd say...

So... Eh... Any chance of an aul rattle for old times sake?

Lucas Hood

https://gfycat.com/SafeGleamingIsabellineshrike

Angel2016

OU812 wrote: »

Two of the serious ones, I've spoken to in the last year, both of them regretted splitting up with me & considered me the one that got away (yes, I'm awesome), and hinted heavily that if I ever wanted to, I could give them a "call". It won't be happening.

One of them I haven seen since we split up. She looked like Sandra Bullock circa 1994 but with a huge pert rack and long naturally curly hair . Assuming I was single (I'm not), To her I'd say...

So... Eh... Any chance of an aul rattle for old times sake?

Lucky you

Previous to that one ex I am friends / social media acquaintances with most of my ex boyfriends my husband is friends with two of his ex GF we even went to the wedding of one of them I gritted my teeth for that lol...
Not all break ups are bad

Dravokivich

I've always found this kind of thing to be a bit trivial. Then again I've preferred to hold no grudges, or get caught on any hangups.

Sorry to hear of the folks above tangled up in stuff with regards their kids. Just makes how the situation with my son living with me, stands out all the more.

endacl

Probably something along the lines of "how's things? Nice to see you again. Hope life has been good to you".

Jimmy Bottlehead

I'd have to say thanks to all of them as it got me where I am today. And truth be told, the majority were great girls who I'd happily bump into and catch up with (aside from the psycho one who broke into my gaf!).
Some really had a massive impact on my life, two in particular. They'd get extra thanks.
I ran into one of them a few weeks ago and made peace after almost two years of post breakup anger on her part. Good timing as I'm leaving the city and she's leaving the country.

A couple made predictions about my future. The interesting part is whether they'll turn out to be right or not.

OU812

Meant to add that they're all exes for a reason (including the Sandra Bullock lookalike)

eviltwin

I don't have an ex but I've been hurt in the past by various people and I'd say that while I don't forgive in all cases I'm a peace with the past and thankful for the lessons learnt.

Thank you for our wonderful daughter. Thank you for maintaining a constant presence in her life. Thank you for being the most amazing Grandad and for not begrudging Mr Maryanne No2 co parenting/grandparenting.

sunny2004

What was I thinking

Walter H Price

I Fcuking told you it wasn't mine :P hahahahaha

5rtytry56

I apologize I wasn't a nicer boyfriend generally(you are not Irish) and really hope you are in a much better position than me now.

daveyeh

I faked all my orgasms.

D3V!L

Look what you're missing :pac:

5rtytry56

To another gf: I hope you are re - united with your daughter, your only child then. Hope things are better generally for both of you too.

Second Toughest in_the Freshers

ancapailldorcha

Walter H Price wrote: »

I Fcuking told you it wasn't mine :P hahahahaha

daveyeh wrote: »

I faked all my orgasms.

D3V!L wrote: »

Look what you're missing :pac:

Less of this please.

dollyk

To my control freak ex, Id really have to say, maybe you were not a great husband, But you done a great job with our rebellious 14 YO daughter,
Who insisted on living with daddy. Im glad I went against my whole family and let her move to yours,She is now 26 and turned out to be a fine woman, despite everyone saying that weekends with Mammy wouldnt work. Of course the 4 boys stayed with mammy. :P. Was the hardest thing to do back then.

Sleepy

I'm still friends with most of them on social media and would see some of them socially somewhat regularly, actually going to one of their weddings in November.

There's one that always sticks out in the mind as "the" ex. I think most of us have one, whether it's a case of "the one that got away" or "at another time in our respective lives"...

To her, I'd say "I miss you but I'm delighted to see you so happy with your husband and new son. You'll be an amazing mother, X is a very lucky man and I'm glad to see he seems to realise it".

fancy pigeon

To one "thank you for shaping me into the person I am today"

To another "you won't fool me again you poisonous leech!"

cgh

I don't ever try and change who you are. Stop trying to change who I am.

I'd say "Thank you for all the happiness we had while we were together, and I wish you even more in the future. You're a wonderful person and I'm glad I knew you".

To the one who wasn't so wonderful, I'd say nothing at all.

corkgsxr

I had a good time. Lessons were learned. I'm a better person over you. You were exactly what I needed at the time

laserlad2010

I'm sorry I let you down. I tried so hard to be a good boyfriend but ultimately I hurt you and you didn't deserve that.

For what it's worth, I cared deeply for you and I hope sometime in the future you might see that.

arayess

17 years later and you are still a horrible cnut.

Colonel_McCoy

You are not better than everybody else, you don't have to be right all the time.

You wont look down at me anymore, I am in a far better place now.

Hope you end up living with a house of cats

5rtytry56

The ensuing song lyrics say a lot what I felt in my heart after some gfs departed

https://youtu.be/WrOwZhzpNuk?t=362

groucho marx

I recently came across an ex online,I was thrilled when she wanted to meet up. I told her she might not still feel the same as it is over ten years and we all change naturally in ten years,she told me not to worry as she had aged and put on a few pounds herself ...I told her to f off
Sorry couldn't resist