Why am I a grumpy bastard?

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

I have been informed that I am a grumpy bastard by:
My girlfriend.
A few of my mates.
My boss.
One of those crap Facebook 'which dwarf are you?' tests.

I'm healthy, fairly well off and had a privileged upbringing.

I'd like to be more cheerful. Perhaps a religious faith would prove character changing?
Any thoughts welcome, thanks.

Conformity is key I am led to believe So sure - subscription to a "faith" may benefit you. And even better - your commitment to it often only has to be superfluous in order to influence the opinions of others

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Why would you want to be cheerful? Smiling at babies and helping old ladies off the bus? Way more satisfying loudly complaining when Spanish students step out of nowhere and stand in front of you to take a pic. Get up ta fucck

Maximus Alexander

I'd say it's because you have a great need for other people to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself because you have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.

Even though you are disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside and at times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others, and some people misconstrue this as grumpiness.

boobar

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

I'm healthy, fairly well off and had a privileged upbringing.

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That's your problem right there. See if you started with nothing or close to nothing, you'd be more grateful and less grumpy.

Maximus Alexander

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

I'd say it's because you have a great need for other people to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself because you have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.

Even though you are disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside and at times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others, and some people misconstrue this as grumpiness.

Sounds like one of those yearly horoscopes. A bad year for Capricorns, perhaps.

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Why would you want to be cheerful? Smiling at babies and helping old ladies off the bus?

Or perhaps your definition of cheerful is flawed? Have you considered for example making scary faces at babies - and head butting old ladies as they come off the bus?

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

Maximus. Your post describes my character traits perfectly. Do you counsel?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Deleted User wrote: »

Or perhaps your definition of cheerful is flawed? Have you considered for example making scary faces at babies - and head butting old ladies as they come off the bus?

If I could compare myself to one Disney character it would be malificent. That movie is basically me. I say I hate children, but they love me for some reason. And then I end up getting really attached to certain little terrorists but I would never admit that out loud to anyone!

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

If I could compare myself to one Disney character it would be malificent.

Unless you throw their dad off the top of a castle at the end of this story - and then have them thank you for it - I am not buying it

Cathy.C

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

Maximus. Your post describes my character traits perfectly. Do you counsel?

Just all barnum statements really.

Maximus Alexander

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

Maximus. Your post describes my character traits perfectly. Do you counsel?

I don't, but that just means you're normal. My post describes most people's character traits perfectly.

Maximus Alexander

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

I don't, but that just means you're normal. My post describes most people's character traits perfectly.

The horoscope school of personality analysis.

PARlance

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

I have been informed that I am a grumpy bastard by:
My girlfriend.
A few of my mates.
My boss.
One of those crap Facebook 'which dwarf are you?' tests.

I'm healthy, fairly well off and had a privileged upbringing.

I'd like to be more cheerful. Perhaps a religious faith would prove character changing?
Any thoughts welcome, thanks.

Why are all these people making you grumpy is the question I would ask them!

Tell them to up their game.

pgj2015

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIiWe3tGfX0

corner of hells

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Why would you want to be cheerful? Smiling at babies and helping old ladies off the bus? Way more satisfying loudly complaining when Spanish students step out of nowhere and stand in front of you to take a pic. Get up ta fucck

My friend pointed a shotgun at a load of Spanish students years ago on the top deck of a bus.
He was in a bad mood after his car broke down when he was going hunting and had to lug all his hunting gear home in the bus.

Now he was a grumpy bastard.

JackieBauer

It's hard not to be grumpy when your Irish. I take it you're Irish but you could be from the vast depths of Indo China. Either way, cheer up pal -:)

4068ac1elhodqr

JackieBauer wrote: »

It's hard not to be grumpy when your Irish.

Agree thus a Lack of Vitamin D (low sunshine at 54oN most of the year), perhaps also combined with lack of Vitamin B, or maybe too much lead in the tap water.

To be fair those Spanish students think nothing of forming small blocking circles on the pavement and talking(shouting) non-stop till the wee hours, which could anger many.

Prescription: 3wks in Jamaica eating Shellfish & Liver to restore levels.

old_aussie

You just need to eat a snickers, all will be fine.

Story Bud?

Are you grateful?

I read a yokamabob there recently on mental health (not saying you gave mental health issues just because you're grumpy!) that suggested people who are grateful and who show gratitude are happier overall.

I'm generally pretty grateful for my lot, and I'm generally pretty cheerful. No statistic could be pulled from that though!

Oink

Look in the mirror, point your finger at the effin a$$hole, and ask him: "exactly what is your fookin problem mate?"

Worked for me. I'm still a pain in the arse, but now I know why!

everlast75

life makes people cynical.

therefore the older you are, the more cynical you become

Q.E.D.

heroics

Here you go OP this should sort it out

https://www.edx.org/course/science-happiness-uc-berkeleyx-gg101x-2

gramar

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

I have been informed that I am a grumpy bastard by:
My girlfriend.
A few of my mates.
My boss.
One of those crap Facebook 'which dwarf are you?' tests.

I'm healthy, fairly well off and had a privileged upbringing.

I'd like to be more cheerful. Perhaps a religious faith would prove character changing?
Any thoughts welcome, thanks.

It's taken years to reach this level. Don't throw all your hard work away now. Stay the course and soon you'll be a grumpy old bastard.

seamus

Grumpiness comes from a need to control the world around you, a realisation that you have no control over anything but yourself, but a refusal to accept this fact and get on with your life.

So you become grumpy and moany that the world doesn't work the way that you want it to.

People who have come to accept this fact usually find little point in whinging and moaning about things they can't change, instead they just roll with the punches. And so have a sunnier disposition.

People who haven't even realised they can't be in control of everything are more often angry rather than grumpy because they don't understand why things don't go the way they want.

SEPT 23 1989

You probably realise there is no meaning to existence, everything you do is a mere exercise in futility and life is utterly pointless

Lyaiera

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

You probably realise there is no meaning to existence, everything you do is a mere exercise in futility and life is utterly pointless

That's usually when I feel happiest.

5rtytry56

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

I'm healthy, fairly well off and had a privileged upbringing.

I'm plain sailing, fairly cushdy & was virtually born with a silver spoon in my mouth.

Aongus Von Bismarck

Incorporate a meditation practice into your day.

Boom_Bap

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

Incorporate a meditation practice into your day.

10 minutes of meditaion can be very benefitial. You don't have to know how to meditate to meditate either.

biko

Embrace your grumpiness

If someone says "cheer up!", punch them in the nose. That'll make them grumpy too

YFlyer

Boom_Bap wrote: »

10 minutes of meditaion can be very benefitial. You don't have to know how to meditate to meditate either.

A proper technique is usually necessary unless you are Krishnamurti.

EICVD

I'm a grumpy bastard too, can we be friends?.......

clairewithani

So you don't fawn all over them and make happy noises at everything they do and say. They have the problem, not you.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

I'd say it's because you have a great need for other people to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself because you have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.

Even though you are disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside and at times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others, and some people misconstrue this as grumpiness.

Do me, do me, do me!!

Maximus Alexander

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

Do me, do me, do me!!

You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations, though some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.

You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others' statements without satisfactory proof. At times you are extroverted, affable and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary and reserved.

Boom_Bap

YFlyer wrote: »

A proper technique is usually necessary unless you are Krishnamurti.

Agreed, there needs to be some understanding. But even taking 10 minutes and sitting down in a quiet place without distraction can be a beneficial practice.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

EICVD wrote: »

I'm a grumpy bastard too, can we be friends?.......

No. F uck off.

jimgoose

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

No. F uck off.

Yeeess, strong are you with the Cunnox.

pragmatic1

Lyaiera wrote: »

That's usually when I feel happiest.

Me too. I find that fact very comforting.

pragmatic1

Boom_Bap wrote: »

10 minutes of meditaion can be very benefitial. You don't have to know how to meditate to meditate either.

Could meditation be more of the placebo effect than anything. Our early ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom don't seem to need to meditate.

pragmatic1

Could be your hormones or lack of restful sleep OP. If I don't get a proper sleep, I want to hurt people.

0ph0rce0

If your well off get shot of the people bringing you down and buy new people who tell you everyday that your amazing. Simples

Water John

Do you have the male equivalent of 'resting bitch face' and underneath that hard shell exterior, you're a real softee??