Is this dress appropriate? Because I love it :(

SarahMollie

Hello,

So I'm going to many a wedding this summer (5 between now and the August BH weekend) so I'm trying to be reasonably organised with dresses etc to wear.

So I've just seen this dress in Asos and I LOVE it but my only concern is that its maybe a bit in appropriate since its quite pale pink, lots of tulle, and even though its short, there are elements of bridal about it.

http://www.asos.com/Chi-Chi-London/Chi-Chi-London-Premium-Midi-Prom-Dress-with-Embrodery/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=6600051&cid=17245&Rf900=1465&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=204&sort=-1&clr=Nude&totalstyles=219&gridsize=3

Would any Brides have an issue if a guest wore this? Its from the "wedding guest" section on Asos, but I'm just having slight second thoughts.

TIA!

SM.

Keane2baMused

Personally I think it's too close to bridal. Especially if the bride has tulle in her dress and even a pinkish tone.

I think it's beautiful. If a guest wore it to my wedding I wouldn't bat an eyelid but I wouldn't personally wear it to someone's wedding. Hope that makes sense!

Actually that probably doesn't help you much LOL :O

eviltwin

Wouldn't bother me but I can see how some people might object. Its a gorgeous dress but its pink so not in direct competition with the bride. I think go for it.

dudara

It's a stunning dress, just absolutely gorgeous, but I think it's a bit too close to bridal. Even if the bride didn't care, there's bound to be someone who will.

You might be able to make it stand out, and not look so bridal, if you used bright accessories, i.e. shoes, shawl, handbag etc.

ChampagnePop

In the sun light pale pink can look white in photos. It happened to a friend of mine who wore a light baby pink to a wedding, she's so embarrassed that all the pictures circulating on Facebook make her look like she's wearing white.

Laura_A

Personally if it was my wedding I really wouldn't bat an eye lid but if you are worried now that it might bee too close then I would just find another dress as you will be self conscious all day!

SarahMollie

So I saw some of the sizes were going out of stock so I panicked and I bought it! :O

But in my minor defence, I can send it back.

I also found it on the ChiChi London website and it looks quite different there, the pink isnt as pale for a start.

http://www.chichiclothing.com/products/Chi-Chi-Penny-Dress.html

I'll see what its like IRL, and if I love it, then I'll keep it for a non wedding activity.

Laura_A

It looks much more pink in that link - if it is that colour then definitely wear it, fab dress!

Keane2baMused

Haha if in doubt buy it anyway

I splashed out for a wedding i'm going to in June.

Now in a million years I would rarely spend this much on a dress as a wedding guest, but I plan on wearing it on my honeymoon and possibly the night before my wedding too for dinner and drinks.

The pictures don't do it justice, the one off the model even makes it look very 'busy' (which I hate) but it is absolutely gorgeous on and gives a real hour glass shape.

http://www.karenmillen.com/ie/womens/new-in/floral-print-off-the-shoulder/015559.html?cgid=new-in&dwvar_015559_color=39&position=1#&start=1&categoryID=new-in

rosebell1238

Beautiful dress, but if you're that concerned why not go for the blue option? even though I personally think the pink is beautiful.

Not really sure what colour accessories you could go with it do it isnt too bridal looking, maybe gold or silver or even a darker pink?

SarahMollie

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Haha if in doubt buy it anyway

LOL, this is my motto in life! I keep those delivery and returns companies in business

rosebell1238 wrote: »

Beautiful dress, but if you're that concerned why not go for the blue option? even though I personally think the pink is beautiful.

I'm not sure why, but blue (especially baby blue) is not a colour I've ever gravitated towards before. I think maybe its the pale skin/dark hair/green eyes.... I just never feel like it suits me.

I love wearing pinks and purples the most probably, and I've probably got things in most other colours (doing instant mental inventory of wardrobe) I have plenty of reds, yellows, greens, metalics etc....

I think perhaps that baby blue looks better on blondes.

Keane2baMused

SarahMollie wrote: »

LOL, this is my motto in life! I keep those delivery and returns companies in business



I'm not sure why, but blue (especially baby blue) is not a colour I've ever gravitated towards before. I think maybe its the pale skin/dark hair/green eyes.... I just never feel like it suits me.

I love wearing pinks and purples the most probably, and I've probably got things in most other colours (doing instant mental inventory of wardrobe) I have plenty of reds, yellows, greens, metalics etc....

I think perhaps that baby blue looks better on blondes.

It's funny because I always thought the same.

What I've noticed with me though is that baby pink completely washes me out (even more, I have really pale skin and dark hair and green eyes lol), I'd have to wear fake tan to not look ill!

But the dress I got does quite the opposite, I think it's the deep pink and orange tones running through the baby blue that warms it all up

SarahMollie

Keane2baMused wrote: »

It's funny because I always thought the same.

What I've noticed with me though is that baby pink completely washes me out (even more, I have really pale skin and dark hair and green eyes lol), I'd have to wear fake tan to not look ill!

But the dress I got does quite the opposite, I think it's the deep pink and orange tones running through the baby blue that warms it all up

Interesting, maybe I need to give it a chance.... I only started wearing red a few years ago, as I'd also previously decided that red didnt look good.

Its funny, because i actually really like light blue, but its just light blue "on me" that I've always had an issue with.

I know what you're saying about baby pink having the potential to wash you out, I definitely have to be careful how i wear it. I actually find my hair gives a nice contrast, and I'd usually wear a bit of Dove Summer Glow, not to look tanned as such (because I'd be fooling no one) but just to make sure I don't look grey and pasty.

ChampagnePop

Blue and green dresses are my go to dress colors, I've red hair and it really does make it pop.
Its funny because I'm no model but a lot of dresses I buy for functions end up looking better on me then the model online because my warm complexion compliments the dress, and most models have much cooler complexions.

Faith

Will you report back on the fit and quality when you get it? I fell in love with a few Chi Chi London dresses, but posters over on Fashion & Appearance said they've had to return dresses due to poor fit and quality .

ChampagnePop

Faith wrote: »

Will you report back on the fit and quality when you get it? I fell in love with a few Chi Chi London dresses, but posters over on Fashion & Appearance said they've had to return dresses due to poor fit and quality .

Where are you based? Thet sell Chi Chi in thr Pamela Scott in Dundrum SC

SarahMollie

Faith wrote: »

Will you report back on the fit and quality when you get it? I fell in love with a few Chi Chi London dresses, but posters over on Fashion & Appearance said they've had to return dresses due to poor fit and quality .

Sure will Might be a while though because its not due to arrive until next friday and by that point, I'll be in sunny Spain (for a wedding of course)

I've actually bought one dress from them before and had no hassles with it. In fact i'm wearing it to the same said wedding in Spain next week.

I think the quality was good considering it wasn't the most expensive ever (maybe £70? ordered it about 2 months ago so cant remember). Its a bit of a knock off of the Self Portrait dresses that are so popular at the moment and cost about €330, but I'm on the booby side, so the real dresses were too low cut for me, so the Chichi option actually looked better.

SarahMollie

ChampagnePop wrote: »

Where are you based? Thet sell Chi Chi in thr Pamela Scott in Dundrum SC

Oh this is good to know! I live really near Dundrum, but Pamela Scotts just isnt a shop I'm in the habit of going into.

Is it in the outside bit near Tesco/TK Maxx?

ChampagnePop

SarahMollie wrote: »

Oh this is good to know! I live really near Dundrum, but Pamela Scotts just isnt a shop I'm in the habit of going into.

Is it in the outside bit near Tesco/TK Maxx?

Yes, I think it's fairly new, I recognised one of the dresses and went in and there were a load there!

Maireadio

Gorgeous dress but too close to bridal, IMO. Even if you wore a coloured shawl over it, that will come off at some stage!

bee06

It depends on the bride really. I personally wouldn't care and even had a few people wear cream to my wedding which didn't bother me in the slightest. I would say most brides would be the same. I'd say you'd know yourself which women would be likely to be bothered by it as well.

jlm29

bee06 wrote: »

It depends on the bride really. I personally wouldn't care and even had a few people wear cream to my wedding which didn't bother me in the slightest. I would say most brides would be the same. I'd say you'd know yourself which women would be likely to be bothered by it as well.

This. If you turned up to my weddjng wearing a floor length white gown with a long train, it wouldn't bother me, but some people apply an ettiquette to their own wedding that I find difficult to understand.

solerina

It's stunning, I don't see why you shouldn't wear it to a wedding !!

meeeeh

I think it's fine. You can pick some edgier shoes and clutch to make it look less sweet. Personally I think the blue one looks like something from frozen and I would definitely go for pink.

Dial Hard

SarahMollie wrote:

Would any Brides have an issue if a guest wore this? Its from the "wedding guest" section on Asos, but I'm just having slight second thoughts.

If you know the brides well, show them the dress and ask them if they have an issue with it, especially if you know they're likely to have a vintage/tea-length dress themselves. That dress is extremely like a friend of mine's actual wedding dress so it's really a case of knowing each bride's likely style.

One of my guests ran her potential dress for my wedding past me first because she knew my dress was a champagney-gold and her dress was literally the exact same colour as mine, so she chose a different one.

Sapphire

It's no harm to run it past the bride - you cant go wrong there. For all you know she might be grand with the dress but knows that one of her family are wearing the same one. She'll either say yes or no and you'll know either way before making any faux pas on the day.

Keane2baMused

jlm29 wrote: »

This. If you turned up to my weddjng wearing a floor length white gown with a long train, it wouldn't bother me, but some people apply an ettiquette to their own wedding that I find difficult to understand.

Wow and I thought I was tolerant lol But I would draw the line at someone turning up with a floor length white gown with a train :O

Gatica

beautiful dress, but tbh, very close to my own wedding dress. Bride might not mind, but other guests may be wondering whatsup with that (yes, you can tell them to go stuff it, but do you really wanna stick out?)

SarahMollie

Thanks ladies

TBF, knowing the brides as I do, I don't think it would be any of their styles (still 4 weddings that I havent yet matched dresses to!). I'd be very confident that none of them will go for tea length anyhow.

I guess I'll see what its like when I get it. I'll definitely err on the side of caution. Even if I think its ok, I'd wear quite modern gold shoes with it and I've quite a statement clutch bag that could work. I also tend to wear my hair down, where as most brides I know have gone for up styles.

I definitely don't want to stand out for the wrong reasons so I'll keep this thread in mind once I get my paws on the dress If I really love it but can't justify it for a wedding, I'll just keep it for my next birthday.

jlm29

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Wow and I thought I was tolerant lol But I would draw the line at someone turning up with a floor length white gown with a train :O

I don't much like being the centre of attention! Someone else wearing a long white dress would surely distract all that notice from me!

Keane2baMused

jlm29 wrote: »

I don't much like being the centre of attention! Someone else wearing a long white dress would surely distract all that notice from me!

Oh I'm the exact same I don't like the focus being on me but even still I would find it very odd if someone turned up in a dress like that. Unless of course I was going for a totally non-wedding dress type look, but then people may confuse the guest in white as the bride lol!

ChampagnePop

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Oh I'm the exact same I don't like the focus being on me but even still I would find it very odd if someone turned up in a dress like that. Unless of course I was going for a totally non-wedding dress type look, but then people may confuse the guest in white as the bride lol!

You have to question the motivation behind wearing a bridal looking dress to someone else's wedding....


(Obviously not referring to the OP here)

Keane2baMused

ChampagnePop wrote: »

You have to question the motivation behind wearing a bridal looking dress to someone else's wedding....


(Obviously not referring to the OP here)

Yep exactly! If someone turned up in a very obvious bridal like gown (like floor length white) it would raise a lot of eyebrows from guests. There are so many options out there there is really no need to go to anyone's wedding like that!

SarahMollie

Chichi have done it again. Thanks to facebook advertising on my phone, I've now spotted yet another "must have" dress.

http://www.asos.com/Chi-Chi-London/Chi-Chi-London-Premium-Lace-Dress-with-Cutwork-Detail-and-Cap-Sleeve/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=6600055&cid=8799&Rf-400=14147&Rf-200=9&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=36&sort=-1&clr=Nude&totalstyles=17&gridsize=3

This one is also pale pink but definitely not as bridal IMO. Presume no one would have any issues with the above?

I could order this and then decide which is nicer on.

Keane2baMused

Sarah that's so weird I saw this today and was going to post it up for you

I think it's beautiful and perfect for a wedding, not bridal imo

SarahMollie

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Sarah that's so weird I saw this today and was going to post it up for you

I think it's beautiful and perfect for a wedding, not bridal imo

Ha thats so funny! My taste is obviously easy to spot!

I've just ordered it there as 2 sizes have already gone out of stock and its clearly not been on Asos that long (I'm v.familiar with their stock!)

I'd better send at least one of them back as otherwise my collection of pink dresses of a certain length is going to be beyond a joke!

lainycool

The 2nd dress is lovely, The 1st one I think looks bridal, I wouldn't of cared at all if someone showed up to my wedding in it but if I was attending a wedding I would feel a little uncomfortable!

It's still really pretty though :-)

Keane2baMused

SarahMollie wrote: »

Ha thats so funny! My taste is obviously easy to spot!

I've just ordered it there as 2 sizes have already gone out of stock and its clearly not been on Asos that long (I'm v.familiar with their stock!)

I'd better send at least one of them back as otherwise my collection of pink dresses of a certain length is going to be beyond a joke!

Haha but they may be different shades which would make it perfectly reasonable to keep both if they are both lovely on

I just spotted this and think it's gorgeous also, would be great for a winter wedding!

http://www.asos.com/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=6265691

SarahMollie

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Haha but they may be different shades which would make it perfectly reasonable to keep both if they are both lovely on

I just spotted this and think it's gorgeous also, would be great for a winter wedding!

http://www.asos.com/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=6265691

So many nice options - although I really must stop shopping now!

My OH's sisters BF is proposing this weekend so maybe that will be a winter wedding!?!

ChampagnePop

SarahMollie wrote: »

So many nice options - although I really must stop shopping now!

My OH's sisters BF is proposing this weekend so maybe that will be a winter wedding!?!

Is this the same guy from your multiple engagements same family thread?

SarahMollie

ChampagnePop wrote: »

Is this the same guy from your multiple engagements same family thread?

No actually, that was a friend of mine and that engagement happened a few weeks ago. I don't know them that well but no diva behavior so far and I believe they're having a v.short engagement (date set for late 2016) so my friend has since calmed down thankfully

I think I'm just at that age where there are engagements everywhere I look!

Keane2baMused

SarahMollie wrote: »

So many nice options - although I really must stop shopping now!

My OH's sisters BF is proposing this weekend so maybe that will be a winter wedding!?!

Start dropping hints about how beautiful winter weddings are and how over rated summer ones are

rosebell1238

why don't you have a look on chi chis own website rather than asos? might be cheaper and perhaps more options
btw the dressed that other dress u linked is beautiful aswell

CloudCumulus

I would say its fine, as it's over the knee. If it was mid or full length with tulle maybe not.
Though somebody made a good point about the photos making it appear white, so thats a good idea to take a few when you order it.

SarahMollie

Hi all,

Just thought I'd post a quick update.

Both dresses arrived and both were quickly returned.

The first (floral) dress was definitively not a worry color wise as it was much closer to the peachy colour like the pictures on the ChiChi website, rather than the very pale pink on the Asos website, but the sleeves felt very tight and restrictive and I think I'd have felt worried about ripping them at some point, maybe dancing, so I just felt it wasn't a good idea.

The second option just simply wasnt as nice in real life as I thought it would be. It really puffed out at the waist and I felt like one of those old fashioned toilet roll dolls....not a good look.

Also, I know someone asked about the quality of Chichi.... I'd now say its hit and miss. I have a dress from them already which I brought to Spain with me for a wedding 2 weeks ago, but didnt end up wearing because the zip buckled. Thankfully I'd brought another option. Its too late to return that one as I bought it ages ago, so I'm just going to get the zip replaced as the dress is otherwise lovely.

Oh well, at least I'll have the money back to spend again!

Faith

Thanks for the update! It was me asking about quality . I've heard mostly bad reports, unfortunately .