Facial Hair

Corkboy16

I need some advice please!

I've started seeing a girl, shes lovely, funny, smart and really sound. But one thing that I cant ignore no matter how hard I try is she has visible facial hair on her chin and cheeks etc. To be honest its very offputting and its shame cos I do like her.

How can I let her know without being rude or ignorant or upsetting her? I dont know if shes aware of it or not so its very awkward!

Any advice ladies on how to deal with this??? Are there treatments available to remove it?

baby and crumble

Pretty much all women have "visible hair". Some women choose to remove it. Some don't. Tbh if she doesn't remove or bleach hers already I doubt she's going to- and tbh it's not really your place to tell her what to do with her appearance. There are medical reasons that her facial hair may be darker/ more visible than others. I know that's the reason for mine. I tend to get rid of it but it's my choice and I've had some terrible reactions from different products. If it's that big a deal to you to override her personality then break up with her.

bee06

Corkboy16 wrote: »

How can I let her know without being rude or ignorant or upsetting her? I dont know if shes aware of it or not so its very awkward!

You can't. Do you really think she doesn't know already?

I'm going to guess by your username that you are a teenager and so is she? If so, you saying something could really affect this girl's self confidence.

If you can't get over it then you should break up with her.

Corkboy16

bee06 wrote: »

You can't. Do you really think she doesn't know already?

I'm going to guess by your username that you are a teenager and so is she? If so, you saying something could really affect this girl's self confidence.

If you can't get over it then you should break up with her.

I'm 37 and she's 30

metaoblivia

I agree with the others. Don't bring it up, you'll only hurt her and potentially give her something to feel insecure about for years to come. If it bothers you so much, break up with her so that you both can find more suitable partners. Removing body hair is a personal decision and should ideally only be made because the person with the hair has decided so themselves, not because they feel pressured to conform to someone else's beauty standards.

bee06

Corkboy16 wrote: »

I'm 37 and she's 30

Well she definitely knows already so and is either OK with it or self conscious. Either way your input isn't necessary.

sullivlo

Corkboy16 wrote: »

I need some advice please!

I've started seeing a girl, shes lovely, funny, smart and really sound. But one thing that I cant ignore no matter how hard I try is she has visible facial hair on her chin and cheeks etc. To be honest its very offputting and its shame cos I do like her.

How can I let her know without being rude or ignorant or upsetting her? I dont know if shes aware of it or not so its very awkward!

Any advice ladies on how to deal with this??? Are there treatments available to remove it?

Mod
Okay OP. Gonna swoop in here and lock the thread. The charter says many things. The main things you're going against here:
- no medical advice
- all women are not the same and shouldn't be treated as such

I think you were given the benefit of the doubt in some responses, however as a man in his 30's I would expect a more mature attitude to women and their appearance.