Late 30s, single, tired of pubs/club scene... How do I meet men?

Dreamy12

I'm in my late 30s, really bored of the pub scene here but miss the potential for flirting... How do I go about meeting eligible men?! I'd like to meet a partner :-)

mansize

Tinder?

KikiDee

There's tonnes of dating sites out there. Have a look and see.

Milly33

Would there be any clubs maybe like tag rugby or something sporty you could join..Orienteering could be a good one too

That or just take up every offer or a house party or bbq you can.. Friends friends are a great way to meet new potential bit of tastiness... Youd probably get on with them better also if they are from the same friend group...

kylith

I feel like a shill sometimes but: Meetup.com is fantastic. Join groups you're interested in and meet people. My social calander runneth over these days. It's a great way to meet people.

Emme

kylith wrote: »

I feel like a shill sometimes but: Meetup.com is fantastic. Join groups you're interested in and meet people. My social calander runneth over these days. It's a great way to meet people.

You're right, it's a great way to meet people. However the OP wants to meet a partner. The worst thing anyone can do is join Meetup.com for the express purpose of getting into a relationship. There are dating groups but they're not as much fun as the general social groups or hobby based groups. I would advise the OP to join Meetup.com with the intention of expanding her social circle, making new friends and maybe trying a new hobby. Anything else is a bonus.

lazygal

Honestly, I don't know anyone who met a partner through suggestions like taking up a sport or joining a club. The last couple I know who got married met online through a dating agency. If you want to meet a partner and you're having no luck with the usual places, I would try that.

kylith

Emme wrote: »

You're right, it's a great way to meet people. However the OP wants to meet a partner. The worst thing anyone can do is join Meetup.com for the express purpose of getting into a relationship. There are dating groups but they're not as much fun as the general social groups or hobby based groups. I would advise the OP to join Meetup.com with the intention of expanding her social circle, making new friends and maybe trying a new hobby. Anything else is a bonus.

Fair point I was on my phone so I didn't really want to do a lot of typing

Meetup is great, and can help find a partner by getting you together with people with similar interests. While I wouldn't advise joining it specifically with the intention to meet someone, if you join a few groups which appeal to both genders (e.g. hiking, cinema clubs) who knows what could happen? And even if you don't meet a partner you can make a lot of new friends and, who knows, one of them could introduce you to the partner of your dreams.

lazygal wrote: »

Honestly, I don't know anyone who met a partner through suggestions like taking up a sport or joining a club.

I have. Unfortunately it didn't work out, but it was great while it lasted.

Milly33

Half n half then I know lots of people who have meet that way or through general interest..

SarahMollie

There are a huge mix of ways people meet. Just thinking about my friendship group;
1 pair have been together since school
1 pair met through work
1 pair met out canvassing for the same party
1 pair met in coppers
1 pair met on POF

So everything works....just not all of the time.

Say yes to every invitation. Try to expand your social circle. Don't limit yourself by having too long a list of "must have" criteria. Maximise your chances!