Why are Irish people so stuck in their ways

brianregan09

So basically one of my friends a filmmaker had his 30th birthday the weekend so he like a lot of us isn't really a drinker so instead of the traditional going out getting pissed like most Oirish seem to do we hired out a screen in the odeon and gave him a suprise advance screening of his newest feature movie which we've all worked on over the last year

After that we hired out a boardroom and private bar in a hotel from 6-1.00 am and a crew of about 20 of us played cards (cards against humanity) jenga and basically had a great laugh and so on and so forth

I brought my Girlfriend with me (she's a drinker) and was bored off her face there and was bemused by the whole expeirience as was anyone we've told about it since my sister in law going as far as almost dropping something she laughed so hard ......

So my question is are we weird ? or are all Irish people just stuck in the old stereo type of if we can't drink it , its no good , It's wrecking my head anytime I say it I get funny looks and things

Heroditas

Did your girlfriend not have a few drinks in bar?
Sounds like a pretty cool evening to be honest!

tomwaterford

In fairness it's a long evening/event to drag someone there who has no interest in being there

brianregan09

She had one , the rest of us were are mostly like non drinkers or will have one or two , she said she even felt uncomfortable even going up getting another after I don't even get how

It was a great night one of the best i've ever had , My jaws were still aching from laughing the following day

dbagman

brianregan09 wrote: »

So basically one of my friends a filmmaker had his 30th birthday the weekend so he like a lot of us isn't really a drinker so instead of the traditional going out getting pissed like most Oirish seem to do we hired out a screen in the odeon and gave him a suprise advance screening of his newest feature movie which we've all worked on over the last year

After that we hired out a boardroom and private bar in a hotel in limerick city from 6-1.00 am and a crew of about 20 of us played cards (cards against humanity) jenga and basically had a great laugh and so on and so forth

I brought my Girlfriend with me (she's a drinker) and was bored off her face there and was bemused by the whole expeirience as was anyone we've told about it since my sister in law going as far as almost dropping something she laughed so hard ......

So my question is are we weird ? or are all Irish people just stuck in the old stereo type of if we can't drink it , its no good , It's wrecking my head anytime I say it I get funny looks and things

but....but...you hired out your own bar......

Heroditas

brianregan09 wrote: »

She had one , the rest of us were are mostly like non drinkers or will have one or two , she said she even felt uncomfortable even going up getting another after I don't even get how

It was a great night one of the best i've ever had , My jaws were still aching from laughing the following day

Meh, her loss!

brianregan09

tomwaterford wrote: »

In fairness it's a long evening/event to drag someone there who has no interest in being there

She didn't go to the cinema part so I even went especially back out home to collect her because she was mad for a party ...To be fair I didn't know myself what to expect until we got in there

brianregan09

dbagman wrote: »

but....but...you hired out your own bar......

Yeah we did , and people did drink ...Just not to the usual excess that you usually get at parties here

The Backwards Man

Your mates can't be serious jenga boys if they don't like to party

CaraMay

Are Irish people stuck in THEIR ways? Some are and some aren't but there's clearly an element who can't enjoy themselves without booze. Quite one dimensional beings IMHO but you can't generalise that to the whole society.

brianregan09

CaraMay wrote: »

Are Irish people stuck in THEIR ways? Some are and some aren't but there's clearly an element who can't enjoy themselves without booze. Quite one dimensional beings IMHO but you can't generalise that to the whole society.

Some went too far the other side and became grammar and spelling nazis

Peter Anthony

If the guy whos birthday it was had a good time, thats whats important. It also sounds like there was bar (??) anyway for those who wanted one. It sounds different, unique and memorable. Not weird.

Some people here just aren't used to or believe they cannot socialise without heavy consumption of alcohol. Also it helps I suppose to know what the scene is before you go, is it a mad piss up or something more like this.

CaraMay

brianregan09 wrote: »

Some went too far the other side and became grammar and spelling nazis

Or some were so set in their ways they continued to use incorrect spellings well into adulthood.

Baron Kurtz

How funny exactly were the people there? Your jaw was still aching from all the lols. Sounds also like you're few days away from telling your girlfriend what you think of her drinking

Agricola

Wouldn't say that's Irish specific. Nerdy stuff is nerdy and people who aren't nerdy will always view it as a bit odd. Much of western culture revolves around alcohol for celebrations, Ireland is particularly heavy hitting in that field. Go against the flow, you are an oddball. Good thing is when you get to a certain age, and 30 would sound about right, you really shouldn't give a shít and just get on with it.

ArtSmart

Oops, thought this was the Wanker Watch thread.

My mistake.

brianregan09

It was the card game we were playing cards against humanity google it I'd never heard of it before the other night

And yeah he definitely had a great time we even got his relation from New Zealand to give him a surprise call

As for telling her off about her drinking , Nah I wouldn't do that plus I'd go out and drink myself it'd just have to be a good occasion and I wouldn't be going out to get pissed and be sick the following day

Like I live out in the countryside so maybe its the kind of people I'm usually around are all brought up that way that you can't socialise without drink...**** it sure I used to be the same in my teens but I always felt i was doing it to fit in and not being myself

Frostybrew

Whatever about Irish people being stuck in they're ways, I've always found that alcoholics tend to label anything that doesn't involve drinking as boring. They have a very subtle way of making you feel that doing anything non alcoholic is weird, and their way of doing things is the norm.

kneemos

CaraMay wrote: »

Are Irish people stuck in THEIR ways? Some are and some aren't but there's clearly an element who can't enjoy themselves without booze. Quite one dimensional beings IMHO but you can't generalise that to the whole society.

You can generalize that to the whole society if it's a societal trait.The very question he was asking.

Red King

brianregan09 wrote: »

So basically one of my friends a filmmaker had his 30th birthday the weekend so he like a lot of us isn't really a drinker so instead of the traditional going out getting pissed like most Oirish seem to do we hired out a screen in the odeon and gave him a suprise advance screening of his newest feature movie which we've all worked on over the last year

After that we hired out a boardroom and private bar in a hotel in limerick city from 6-1.00 am and a crew of about 20 of us played cards (cards against humanity) jenga and basically had a great laugh and so on and so forth

I brought my Girlfriend with me (she's a drinker) and was bored off her face there and was bemused by the whole expeirience as was anyone we've told about it since my sister in law going as far as almost dropping something she laughed so hard ......

So my question is are we weird ? or are all Irish people just stuck in the old stereo type of if we can't drink it , its no good , It's wrecking my head anytime I say it I get funny looks and things

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRsPheErBj8

eviltwin

Why is liking a few beers when you go socializing seen as being stuck in your ways

Ruu

Jenga, you mad bastid!

FTA69

In fairness if I was invited to a birthday party and it turned out to be a load of people sitting in an empty bar playing board games or whatever I'd probably find it a bit weird as well.

freshpopcorn

Speaking as somebody who doesn't drink. Apart from a little when I started college. I'd find that evening very boring and would be counting down the minutes from when the cinema bit ended.

Speedsie

Told some work colleagues about a great night out at Funky Seomra. They couldn't understand an alcohol free night club for anyone over 18.

Someone said it might work, but you'd need to tank up first... 😵

http://www.dancefree.ie/

brianregan09

eviltwin wrote: »

Why is liking a few beers when you go socializing seen as being stuck in your ways

My bad I probably worded it wrongly , Not stuck in you're own ways really but the fact that not having the same few beers is almost ridiculed almost scorned at

brianregan09

Speedsie wrote: »

Told some work colleagues about a great night out at aFunk Seomra. They couldn't understand an alcohol free night club for anything over 18.

Someone said it might work, but you'd need to tank up first... 😵

http://www.dancefree.ie/

That kind of reaction is EXACTLY what I'm talking about

K-9

Gambling culture really is taking over...

ShiddyArze

So out of the 20 odd people there, Your Girlfriend was the only one who didn't like it as it wasn't a drinking session, yet your judging the whole of Ireland on 1 person out of 20 not enjoying themselvess? Logical assumption

SEPT 23 1989

All that party is missing is a clown and face painting

frozenfrozen

Bit of a mad thing to post online with your real name and where it happened?

brianregan09

ShiddyArze wrote: »

So out of the 20 odd people there, Your Girlfriend was the only one who didn't like it as it wasn't a drinking session, yet your judging the whole of Ireland on 1 person out of 20 not enjoying themselvess? Logical assumption

I never said I was judging the whole of Ireland I also said anyone we told about it afterwards gave us funny looks to downright laughing at us , and I didn't even judge I asked the question , Obviously every body is different and enjoys different things , But even before any of this like I said earlier I don't drink that often and when im out I'm often met with the question why aren't you drinking and when i answer no I get that big stupid dough eyed look as if to say what the hell is wrong with you

lawlolawl

eviltwin wrote: »

Why is liking a few beers when you go socializing seen as being stuck in your ways

It's got more to do with the fact that most Irish people go out specifically to get blathered and any socializing only happens because there happens to be other people out trying to do the same thing.

"Alternative" nights out that aren't just 'predrinks-pub-club' are very rare in this country, particularly outside The Pale.

jackinthemix94

lawlolawl wrote: »

It's got more to do with the fact that most Irish people go out specifically to get blathered and any socializing only happens because there happens to be other people out trying to do the same thing.

"Alternative" nights out that aren't just 'predrinks-pub-club' are very rare in this country, particularly outside The Pale.

In one of my ex jobs I used to suggest gatherings that didn't revolve around boozing and they'd look at me like I have 2 heads.

Whomever said Ireland isn't heavy hitting when it comes to alcohol needs a reality check - there is HUGE problems with alcoholism here - particularly amongst people who don't realize it because it's normalized to such an extent here.

eviltwin

lawlolawl wrote: »

It's got more to do with the fact that most Irish people go out specifically to get blathered and any socializing only happens because there happens to be other people out trying to do the same thing.

"Alternative" nights out that aren't just 'predrinks-pub-club' are very rare in this country, particularly outside The Pale.

Do they? I don't see people falling out of pubs and nightclubs drunk. I like a drink, I have my preferred venues that I go to. I don't see that as a bad thing.

brianregan09

Look at any town or city centre about 2-3 am in the morning and you'll see plenty failing that they've already falling into the nearest chipper

lawlolawl

eviltwin wrote: »

I don't see people falling out of pubs and nightclubs drunk.

Ah, here.

You must have your eyes closed on your nights out.

Strumms

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

All that party is missing is a clown and face painting

No.. read the OP.. he was there.

brianregan09

Strumms wrote: »

No.. read the OP.. he was there.

wow I was starting a discussion and personal attacks come my way typical

eviltwin

lawlolawl wrote: »

Ah, here.

You must have your eyes closed on your nights out.

You said most Irish people go out with the intention of getting drunk. Yes I've seen drunks but I wouldn't go to pubs with that kind of carry on. Most people I see in Dublin of an evening are able to manage their drinking.

ronnie085

What's the story with sticking O in front of Irish when slagging us off, is it a new thing?

Strumms

brianregan09 wrote: »

wow I was starting a discussion and personal attacks come my way typical

In fairness.. I apologise that was a bit uncalled for on my part... just think it was a weird set up and somewhat of a generalisation in terms of the title of the thread and what not but whatever you guys are into... strange that you hired a bar yet your other half was not feeling right about getting a second drink... dunno.. but those who don't drink and those who want to have a few and a good time... either is fine I think.. each to their own...

wakka12

I love quirky little events with quirky people like you guys. Its not weird, its nice, you seem like good friends. But its not for everyone, just like drinking and parties (in the traditional sense) arent for you. Gotta respect other peoples tastes too

maudgonner

eviltwin wrote: »

Why is liking a few beers when you go socializing seen as being stuck in your ways

I don't think that's the issue. It's about not being able to go out socialising unless it includes a few beers. Or more than a few.

It's definitely an attitude that gets less of an issue as you get a bit older, I think. I'm not much of a drinker, and when I was in my early 20s that fascinated people that I went out with - they'd either be intent on making me drink, or finding out what my reasons were for not drinking, or they would take an attitude about it.

These days nobody remarks on it at all, maybe society has changed, but I think it's far more likely a result of the fact that we're older (:() and a little bit wiser.

brianregan09

Well to be fair we all put money towards it and knew it was a private function room but didn't much else after that his own other half did most of the organizing , And I'll admit I even found it a little odd myself when I 1st went in as this was the 1st night like this i've ever experienced and I really enjoyed it

And yes I've no problem with drinkers at all , I just don't like that I'm ridiculed for enjoying something different that's what the crux of the post means really , maybe my relations and people in my girlfriends circle are the small minded ones , But I know one of my own best friends....is a polar opposite to me and he'd have the exact same reaction (haven't met him yet) he'd rip the piss out of me

SEPT 23 1989

No shame in being a lightweight

wakka12

maudgonner wrote: »

I don't think that's the issue. It's about not being able to go out socialising unless it includes a few beers. Or more than a few.

It's definitely an attitude that gets less of an issue as you get a bit older, I think. I'm not much of a drinker, and when I was in my early 20s that fascinated people that I went out with - they'd either be intent on making me drink, or finding out what my reasons were for not drinking, or they would take an attitude about it.

These days nobody remarks on it at all, maybe society has changed, but I think it's far more likely a result of the fact that we're older (:() and a little bit wiser.

As a person in college I can tell you that it definitely hasnt changed! I have a few friends who don't go out or drink and they get SO much **** for it and it annoys me so much . I don't understand why people are so intent on making other people drink. Like why not just enjoy it yourself and leave it at that!

cml387

Never mind all that sh!t, what was the name of the film?

brianregan09

cml387 wrote: »

Never mind all that sh!t, what was the name of the film?

Rather not say as its not out for a while

LeinsterDub

Is there an equivalent to Godwin for when someone uses the word Oirish?

maudgonner

wakka12 wrote: »

As a person in college I can tell you that it definitely hasnt changed! I have a few friends who don't go out or drink and they get SO much **** for it and it annoys me so much . I don't understand why people are so intent on making other people drink. Like why not just enjoy it yourself and leave it at that!

Sorry to hear that. On the plus side I don't feel so bad now about being (well) in my thirties.

Yey me!!