Relationship milestones

DonnaDarko09

Hi ladies, just wondering if you celebrate a dating milestone or anniversary with your OH? Or is this more of a silly thing you did when in school??

Sapphire

We don't celebrate it really but we would acknowledge it. We might cook a nice dinner and get a good bottle of wine. I suppose if we were married then we would just do the same on the anniversary of our wedding date.

Milly33

We still do as such, but like Sapphire it isnt anything mad just a nice evening Steak and Red wine night perhaps or just a day spent together... Tis nice to think back on the different stages we went through getting to us... This year will be our first wedding anniversary so would like to make sure we do something nice for that...

Malari

We got married on our dating anniversary. Fewer dates to remember. This year will be our first wedding anniversary so we'll probably do something special, like a high five.

eviltwin

We don't celebrate our wedding anniversary. We do sometimes acknowledge our dating anniversary but it's the day before my birthday so it tends to get forgotten.

IvyTheTerrible

We're thinking of having a party for our first wedding anniversary. We had such a ball at our (small, low-key, very relaxed) wedding that we'd like to have a similar get-together for the anniversary.

bee06

We just celebrate our wedding anniversary. I couldn't tell you off hand the date of our first kiss and we never had a first date as the start of our relationship wasn't conventional.

Penny Tration

We're not married and don't "celebrate" dating anniversaries, but we both know the date, say "happy anniversary" each year and get a takeaway and wine instead of cooking. but tbh it's just an excuse for a takeaway and wine

Milly33

sounds loverly Ivy good plan...We were thinking the same with dates to have one close to the other so we would remember much easier so it is... I always remember and love chatting on these days about things that made us smile or laugh at the time... such fun memories

mahamageehad

Yeah, I was thinking about this one lately (myself and the OH are about to hit the 5 year mark). What do people celebrate these days? If I was married tomorrow, having been together for 5 years already it would seem strange to celebrate our "first" anniversary next year. I guess it wasn't such an issue a few years ago as people tended to get married younger but still seems odd.

Like do you say it with a caveat? "This is our 2nd wedding anniversary but actually we were together for 8 years before that."

I know the date (or at least Facebook does) and we'll go out for dinner probably but other than that it's nothing special

meeeeh

No. We are not married, the first date is vaguely remembered because it's sometime half way between begging of the premiership and Monza weekend (yes, I know, how romantic) but we do nothing. We don't even celebrate Valentine's.

rainbow kirby

We go out for a meal on our dating anniversary generally, our first wedding anniversary is later this month and we'll probably do the same thing.

Sapphire

mahamageehad wrote: »

Yeah, I was thinking about this one lately (myself and the OH are about to hit the 5 year mark). What do people celebrate these days? If I was married tomorrow, having been together for 5 years already it would seem strange to celebrate our "first" anniversary next year. I guess it wasn't such an issue a few years ago as people tended to get married younger but still seems odd.

Like do you say it with a caveat? "This is our 2nd wedding anniversary but actually we were together for 8 years before that."

I know the date (or at least Facebook does) and we'll go out for dinner probably but other than that it's nothing special

Yeah, us too. After 12 years together and us parenting together for a good bit of that it would be strange to be referred to as newlyweds. As if we are starting off getting to know each other when we are way beyond that.

The idea that length of time of marriage = solidity of relationship is not something I get tbh. I know couples who have been miserable together for years and teetering on the brink of divorce but they do all the anniversary stuff for facebook and instagram waffling on about how long they've been married. Equally I know couples who will never marry and who are rock solid in their relationship. You see it on wedding forums from time to time where a person gets an invite as a single because they are not married to their partner, despite being together as long if not longer, than the couple getting married. I see it in my own set-up - I'm not officially family to some of the in-laws yet, which I do get a bit of fun out of from time to time.

eviltwin

Sapphire wrote: »

Yeah, us too. After 12 years together and us parenting together for a good bit of that it would be strange to be referred to as newlyweds. As if we are starting off getting to know each other when we are way beyond that.

The idea that length of time of marriage = solidity of relationship is not something I get tbh. I know couples who have been miserable together for years and teetering on the brink of divorce but they do all the anniversary stuff for facebook and instagram waffling on about how long they've been married. Equally I know couples who will never marry and who are rock solid in their relationship. You see it on wedding forums from time to time where a person gets an invite as a single because they are not married to their partner, despite being together as long if not longer, than the couple getting married. I see it in my own set-up - I'm not officially family to some of the in-laws yet, which I do get a bit of fun out of from time to time.

Yes to all of this. One of the reasons we don't celebrate our wedding anniversary is because we had years of living together and raising a family before we got married. It seems wrong somehow to just start marking our relationship from the date of the wedding. It made sense years ago when marriage happened very fast and it literally marked the start of a shared life, now not so much. I always look on our dating anniversary, the day we changed from friends to a couple, to be the most significant date because it's the anniversary of Us.

Meauldsegosha

Myself and the OH aren't married and have no plans to be. We see our first date as our "anniversary" date. We met on a June bank holiday weekend so always plan something around that time.

Sunny Dayz

We would celebrate our wedding anniversary, first year or two was with a night away, now dinner out is fine. We do acknowledge the anniversary of when we first got together and also of when we got engaged. Usually with some flowers and a nice dinner at home.

lazygal

I love celebrations so we make an effort. We have two wedding anniversaries, within a week of eachother, so a good excuse for two nights out. We'd also make an effort for birthdays. We met and married within less than two years so didn't have many anniversaries before then.
Since we got married I don't think we've celebrated the day we met or the day we got engaged at all. I think the wedding dates kind of took over. My only serious relationship has been with himself so I love having things to make a fuss about.

Faith

I think we used to make an effort to acknowledge the date we officially got together. We might have gone out to dinner or for a drink. We got engaged on my birthday, so that's not celebrated separately. We got married 2 weeks before our "dating" anniversary so I imagine we'll just celebrate our wedding anniversary in the future.

AppleBottle

Only been with my current boyfriend for three months but I'd like to mark our anniversay's...Nothing fancy. Just like dinner and a drink.

Lia_lia

We got together on his birthday, so we tend to celebrate his birthday rather than our "anniversary"!

mollybird

me and my oh are together 10 years this year so we are going all out for it and won't do anyting for our 3rd wedding annivsery. hubbie said once we got married we wouldn't really celebrate when we got together which i don't mind but i couldn't ignore our first big milestone. our wedding annivsery is the same date we got engaged do we kill 2 birds with one stone on that one.

we are heading to the cliff house hotel for our 10 year in aug and going all out. we have been following what each year represents for our wedding and given each other as close as possible a gift that represents that element. last year was cotton and hubbie gave me a chef's hat. hahaha!!! think this year is leather and ill prob give him a belt but will prob keep low key this year since we going all out the next month for the 10 year.

ElleEm

We got married on the 10th anniversary of our first kiss. We never really met as we always kinda knew in other in passing from school. It was a friend's birthday so it is easily remembered. We had always celebrated our 'first date' as our actual anniversary but I think that is gone now seen as we have our weddng anniversary. We are two weeks married now! I think we will probably go out for dinner on our first month wedding anniversary- I love a little celebration!

barleybooley

We go to the zoo for our anniversary. More of an excuse to go to the zoo than a celebration of us being together!

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Scarinae

My problem is that I don't know where to count from - at the end of June it'll be a year since we first met/kissed but we weren't really going out for the first while, but I didn't start calling him my boyfriend until maybe September, so I'm not sure what the milestones would actually be

Maireadio

Yep, we celebrate the date we met. Nothing too fancy, just a nice dinner out or cooked at home, or a few drinks. I'd much prefer this to feckin' Valentine's Day, which is just an arbitrary date. This is much more personal!

StripedBoxers

Scarinae wrote: »

My problem is that I don't know where to count from - at the end of June it'll be a year since we first met/kissed but we weren't really going out for the first while, but I didn't start calling him my boyfriend until maybe September, so I'm not sure what the milestones would actually be

A friend of mine was in a similar situation and they ended up choosing the date they became official as their anniversary, its a month before Xmas too so a lovely time of the year

For my ex and I, our anniversary was the date of our first date.

mojesius

Yeah after 5 years, we still haven't decided on an official anniversary. Met on NYE, kissed on Easter Sunday, a few hiccups happened, started up again in June then were official in September. Romance eh?