Death will come for us all

Elessar

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under. In fact, everyone has the same fate. No matter how rich, successful, famous or powerful you are, you will die. Its lifes only 100% guarantee.

It's hard to fathom, in our day to day lives, going to work, speaking to friends/family, browsing boards etc., whatever. We're completely removed from this universal truth. But when you're around those who have already died, it hits home fairly quickly. I've been having a bit of an existential crisis ever since. What am I going to do when my only remaining close family member passes on? I'll be completely alone in the world. What do I really want from my life? Is this truly it? Maybe I should quit the job, travel, fall in love. Get completely out of my comfort zone.

If anything, it's been a blessing in disguise. It's forced me to re-evaluate my life and is a bit of a humbling wake-up call.

What do other boardsies think of this 'I'm actually going to die one day' thing?

Realt Dearg Sec

Elessar wrote: »

What do other boardsies think of this 'I'm actually going to die one day' thing?

No I'm not.

Lurkio

Elessar wrote: »

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under. In fact, everyone has the same fate. No matter how rich, successful, famous or powerful you are, you will die. Its lifes only 100% guarantee.

It's hard to fathom, in our day to day lives, going to work, speaking to friends/family, browsing boards etc., whatever. We're completely removed from this universal truth. But when you're around those who have already died, it hits home fairly quickly. I've been having a bit of an existential crisis ever since. What am I going to do when my only remaining close family member passes on? I'll be completely alone in the world. What do I really want from my life? Is this truly it? Maybe I should quit the job, travel, fall in love. Get completely out of my comfort zone.

If anything, it's been a blessing in disguise. It's forced me to re-evaluate my life and is a bit of a humbling wake-up call.

What do other boardsies think of this 'I'm actually going to die one day' thing?

It's true. We're all on a clock and looking at what age you are you can have a very rough idea of how long (all things going well) you have left.

I think in older times people were more connected to death - nowadays it is possible to be mostly shielded from it until you get to adulthood and so it can be a bit abstract. It's part of the price we all must pay for getting to experience being alive. Personally, when the fact of my mortality dawned on me as a teenager, I was literally obsessed with my future death (in particular the way i would die, and the pain associated with it, rather than the finality of not existing again which never really bothered me and which I think is impossible to genuinely comprehend anyway) for about 8 years afterwards and it is only in the last year maybe that I have come to terms with it to a degree I am comfortable with.

the evasion_kid

It hit me at around 30,I've my mind made up to see as much of this world as possible before I leave it...

One eyed Jack

Elessar wrote: »

What do other boardsies think of this 'I'm actually going to die one day' thing?

It's a shíte way to look at life. I prefer to think in terms of I have so much to live for, rather than spending any time thinking about dying.

Call Me Jimmy

We lack key insights and perspectives because we deny ourselves certain psychedelic drugs that are as close to a panacea for these feelings about death as nature could offer.

Alf Stewart.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M

_Tombstone_

A Kid born today might not ever die.

Jake Stiles

Yep - you'll be dead long enough without thinking about it when your still alive.

tomwaterford

Lurkio wrote: »

It's true. We're all on a clock and looking at what age you are you can have a very rough idea of how long (all things going well) you have left.

And what of those who come from families where there is a lot of sudden deaths <35 years old :eek:


Though I'd be pure sickened if waterford win the all Ireland a week after I dieing

Fr_Dougal

Twink never died.

The_Valeyard

On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero

monkeysnapper

Better to burn out than to fade away

Cee-Jay-Cee

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Twink never died.

She just looks like she did.

Stigura

Strange, mad celebration ..........

ToddyDoody

What's that song "who wants to live forever?"

smash

For us all? That's a lot of coming... Wonder how he does it?

Conor Bourke

smash wrote: »

For us all? That's a lot of coming... Wonder how he does it?

Tantric sex?

Galwayguy35

"The glories of our blood and state are shadows not substantial things, there is no armour against fate, death lays his icy hand on kings"

The only poem I remember from the Inter Cert but the geezer that wrote it sums it up, we'll all be in a pine box one day.

jimgoose

Death comes for us all, Oroku-Saki. But something much worse comes for you, for when you die it will be without honour. Hard to believe a rat said that!

galljga1

tomwaterford wrote: »

And what of those who come from families where there is a lot of sudden deaths <35 years old :eek:


Though I'd be pure sickened if waterford win the all Ireland a week after I dieing

Nothing to worry about.

Mister Vain

Get busy living or get busy dying.

Prickly Pete

tomwaterford wrote: »

Though I'd be pure sickened if waterford win the all Ireland a week after I dieing

and you were pure probably sickened that you were alive for the 2008 All Ireland.

jobless

Once I get to a decent age and still have quality of life and it's not painful I don't mind.. .. In some ways thinking about my mortality makes the stupid little things that sometimes worry me go away.. They mean fcuk all in the grand scheme of things

Antar Bolaeisk

Just think of it as doing your part for the continued survival of the human race!

trashcan

Antar Bolaeisk wrote: »

Just think of it as doing your part for the continued survival of the human race!

Nah, fuch the human race. This is all about meeeee:p

MilesMorales1

Bruce Forsyth is proof we can all live forever.

ThinkProgress

the evasion_kid wrote: »

It hit me at around 30,I've my mind made up to see as much of this world as possible before I leave it...

Seen it. Bought the t-shirt.

It's pretty much the same pile of monkey muck everywhere.

Challenges are my exploration. Keep finding new ones... that's the key to a happy existence. A lot of people are actually dead inside long before they actually die... because their life is stale and too 'safe'!

Challenges keep you alive, and make you live longer!

Like mikey says to rocky: "I think that people die sometimes when they don't wanna live no more."

Wibbs

Actually I find graveyards to be a good reminder of how good I have it. Even in my more pitiable moments the vast majority of those now silent souls would give anything to have five more minutes of my woes just to feel alive again. It gets me out of myself and any funk I may be going through.

Mister Vain

ThinkProgress wrote: »

Challenges keep you alive, and make you live longer!

Yeah and married men live longer too. Me bollix.

tomwaterford

Prickly Pete wrote: »

and you were pure probably sickened that you were alive for the 2008 All Ireland.

Not alone was I alive I was there

Holy fcuk that nearly 8 years ago.....what have I being doing with my life

thomasj

Elessar wrote:

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under. In fact, everyone has the same fate. No matter how rich, successful, famous or powerful you are, you will die. Its lifes only 100% guarantee.

Elessar wrote:

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under. In fact, everyone has the same fate. No matter how rich, successful, famous or powerful you are, you will die. Its lifes only 100% guarantee.

Elessar wrote:

It's hard to fathom, in our day to day lives, going to work, speaking to friends/family, browsing boards etc., whatever. We're completely removed from this universal truth. But when you're around those who have already died, it hits home fairly quickly. I've been having a bit of an existential crisis ever since. What am I going to do when my only remaining close family member passes on? I'll be completely alone in the world. What do I really want from my life? Is this truly it? Maybe I should quit the job, travel, fall in love. Get completely out of my comfort zone.

Elessar wrote:

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under. In fact, everyone has the same fate. No matter how rich, successful, famous or powerful you are, you will die. Its lifes only 100% guarantee.

Elessar wrote:

What do other boardsies think of this 'I'm actually going to die one day' thing?

How do you know you weren't on the titanic?

picturehangup

funny this thread has come up the day after my hubbie and i took a walk through our local cemetery only yesterday.
I could literally feel the pain between the living and the dead, and of particular note was the frighteningly high number of child deaths. We found this especially difficult.
We are only here in this life for a short while.
In fact I myself was faced with the big 'D' following a serious haemorrhage after I delivered my second child. Was given certainly a glance of hell. I felt that I was being pulled down to a horrible place by ugly tentacles surrounding me, underneath a lake of murky, dirty waters, marshy, to pull me down and down and down...
then i came to.. hospital sirens... and a crowd of 8 doctors surrounding my bed.
Took me years to come to grips with all of this. I believe I was going to hell. Why, I don't know, as I led a 'good' life!!
Why.. I don't know. There was no doubt, some good reason.

esforum

Ricky Bobby wont, not until 300 anyway

Summer wind

I'm 41 and when I go to the graveyard to visit my dads grave I also see the graves of 8 people that were in my class at school. It always reminds me of how so so lucky l am to be alive. There's nothing I can do about the fact that someday I will die too but it's something I rarely want to waste time thinking about. Never take your life for granted live well and be happy.

mad muffin

There can be only one!

nacho libre

From the east to the west with plauge bearing steps I march
My sharp arrows of instant death I shoot in every beating heart
I will not spare you; I will not care how much you cry
I am the face of death; weep you humans for now you die

Violent death is storming from all corners of the earth
I burn the ground, poison the air, all seas and every well.
I crush all kingdoms, I kill all men I, crush anything of worth
I unlock the dusty gates of hell

I points spears of pure black death at each and everyone
At all the unborn I laugh in spite, I killed you before your life began
I am the angel and the dragon bringer of Orion's curse
On wings of death without a heart I tore apart the universe

Baron Kurtz

The_Valeyard wrote: »

On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero

Thanks Tyler.

whatismyname

Elessar wrote: »

I was visiting a relatives grave recently and as I walked through the graveyard I couldn't help but think that this will be me eventually - 6 ft under.

Not me.



Gonna get cremated.

Supergurrier

Im going to pass away like my grandad peacefully in my sleep, not screaming in terror like his passengers.

esforum

My mortgage has a whopping 30 years left on it.

I will have the last laugh and die before its paid off, take that bank!

FizzleSticks

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gctest50

and all the time you sleep before your turn :

http://www.hillarys.co.uk/your-life-asleep/

12Phase

Cryogenics!

Ruu

DEATH! Death is coming, death is here! Who's that knocking on the door? Oh yes, it's Death!

JupiterKid

Well, this is a depressing thread.

topmanamillion

It's beginning to snow again. The flakes, silver and dark, are falling obliquely against the lamplight. It's probably falling all over the island; on the central plain, on the treeless hills, falling softly upon the graveyards, upon the crosses and headstones, upon all the living and the dead..."
SHUT THE FECK UP!

Valentina

I used to worry about dying but since I lost my mum I don't really care anymore. I don't believe in an afterlife so for me, this is it.

It says on my grandfather's headstone:

Sum quod eris, fui quod sis

(I am what you will be, I was what you are)

Death is a part of life. Worrying about it is a waste of time.

Esel

Six feet? Be lucky.
Buried? Be grand.
Dead before buried?
Happy days. Sand castles.

zcorpian88

Hits everybody like a slap in the face the whole death lark, especially when you lose people you knew your whole life.

Most people's first experiences are grandparents, I've lost 3 so far, my Gran in 2004 to pneumonia and the freaky thing about it she knew she was going to go, she had a really bad flu and she hated doctors after an operation on a slipped disc in her back left her almost unable to walk, she put on an awful lot of weight as a result, anyway she was on the phone to my mother the night before, I could hear her in the background as I was down looking around for a midnight snack, my Gran says to my mam "Your brother is home for the weekend, I'm going to give him the flu and it's going to be the death of me" the following morning my aunt found she passed away in her sleep. I'll never forget the landline ringing that Sunday morning, I was in secondary school then so I loved my Sunday lay in so I was thinking "F**k that I'm not running down to answer it because any time I do it stops ringing the second I make it to the phone, and it's often a wrong number, it's always somebody looking for the local newspaper office which had a similar number to us.

The phone rang for must have been 10 minutes straight non-stop, which I thought was peculiar, still wasn't getting out of bed to answer it, just as I fell back asleep, the front door is being pounded on, it was my mam's sister with the worst news ever. It was bloody awful.

This followed my mam's Dad in 2009, lung cancer withered him away.

Lost my Father's dad in January, who lived only across the road from me for all of my 27 years, he had some severe pain in his stomach around Christmas week, by new year he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, went up to Dublin in mid January for a biopsy and he was in no form for going up there because of the pain and discomfort he was in but they lugged him into an ambulance and brought him up, as soon as he was returned to our local hospital there was a new air bed there for him, tea and biscuits for everyone and the doctors seemed more all over him than the previous fortnight.

My Dad and his siblings went home at about 10pm, my Dad was just about relaxed after a long enough week running around after Grandad, he went to bed at 2am, next thing the phone rang and there was a mad panic as Grandad took a turn, my mam and two of my Dad's sisters went out, Dad couldn't even get out of bed because of a sleeping tablet he took. In the space of that mad panic of 15 minutes, Dad emerged from his room and told my sister and I he was gone. It was so mad how quick it happened and we were lost for words. My sister and I stayed up all night and were very shook over it, I was only out in the hospital 3 days before hand too and gave him some headphones for his radio, it was one of his better days, wasn't in as much pain but I'd imagine he was drugged up, he didn't look that sick other than his stomach looked a bit swollen.

The next few days were very tough, having to see him in a box. The wake was so surreal, I don't think I ever laughed and cried as much in years between the hilarious stories I was told about Grandad and the sadness of him not being around anymore. Everybody put in bits and pieces into the coffin including a can of Guinness, Bounty Bars, someone put an Irish flag pendant on his shirt, my aunt put in a Kilkenny jersey at his feet, I printed off a load of pictures and gave them to everybody to put in, my sister who is pregnant with her first child was supposed to bring him a picture of her first scan for his locker but he died hours before she was going to visit, so that picture went in beside him as well.

I was a bit terrified of carrying the coffin with my Dad, uncle and a few cousins after feeling the weight of it before everyone else did when I was asked to help two of the undertakers put the coffin into the hearse when we were taking him from the house to the church, I happened to have been standing closest to it and they called me over to do it real quick but at the church we were all grand carrying it in and out. Another uncle played bagpipes when we brought Grandad to the graveside, it was the saddest part of the whole thing hearing those pipes, then when we put Grandad on them ratchet strap things and the last of the prayers are said. I never stood that close to the grave before, not even with my other Grandparents, so it was really final watching them lower him in, was almost like looking into a jagged clay bottomless bit, it looked like it had no end. Don't think I ever want to be buried after looking at that.

Can't imagine a day where I'd have to bury anyone closer to me, hopefully none will be before their time and it's as painless as possible.