Zoo4m8 wrote: »
Your not getting ahead of yourself...I had the same thing here, probably a bit more difficult for you with two men to deal with and I can definitely relate preferring to work on other farms , I can remember a big tillage farm I helped on and being handed a big JD and grain trailer and being told to get on with it, I felt about ten feet tall..:D
Things changed here when I got married, the old man (gone now) handed over part of the place and as he got on really well with my wife he handed over the book work to her and we gradually took over from there.
With most reasonable men it's about earning trust and respect, as has been suggested above ask what's going on and why, sometimes you might spot a better way of doing something and again, as has been suggested , I wouldn't be making a tool of myself, don't be there every weekend...get a life outside the place ,you'll need it in years to come
You are not unique, reading your post brings it all back all those years ago..there are many lads like yourself , it's frustrating but in most cases it works out.
freedominacup wrote: »
What training have you? If you haven't been away it's probably time to go. I would disagree with people telling you to bide your time. At your age I was responsible for all decisions relating to nutrition here, had an input into breeding and we shared grassland management. I had done a year in college here and another in the U.K. on an intensive dairy management course. Looking back it was probably a bit much a bit too soon. I ended up more tied to work than was healthy. That said being treated as unskilled labour is a far worse situation. If you have the skills I would be demanding the oppurtunity to use them if you don't then accquire them. Either way if the situation doesn't improve be somewhere else next winter. Either in training or working somewhere your abilities are appreciated.
anonymous95 wrote: »
So basically I'm sick and tired of having no input or say on the farm. I'm 20 now and I'm still doing the same silly jobs that I was doing when I was 11 or 12 on the farm. The farm is of my father and uncle. I'm never told anything until it's already happened and it's nearly embarrassing not knowing what's happening (the neighbours would nearly hear before me). Anytime I give out I'm told that the farm will be mine someday as my brother and sister never had any interest in it (that could be 20 yrs time or next year!) It really pisses me off that one person seems to be in charge the whole time and it's always his way. I spend the weekends working there even though I was never forced to and it's taken for granted that I'm always there to help. I prefer working on other farms as I nearly have more responsibility on them and I learn more. Maybe it's been the same with others on here or maybe I'm just getting ahead of myself? Any help or advice would be apreciated.