Custody

Sally D

I'm looking for someone in a similar situation that can help us out.
My sisters ex baby daddy not ex husband has thru court and manipulating their daughter gotten full custody of her. He is unfortunately a very hard person to communicate too which makes the situation worse.
The child been taken from another sibling who was also asked but decided he didint want to move and loving home and is now a very sad upset child. She now wants to move back but is afraid of letting her dad down or upsetting him. He's afraid of the dad.
Court date for review isint for a few months and my sister is looking to see has anyone gone thru this as she is desperate to have her family whole and doesn't know where to turn. She has wasted on bad solicitors and been let down by a disgraceful justice system.

FortySeven

On what grounds did he get custody? It is pretty exceptional to hear of a father getting full custody from the mother without good reason. Splitting siblings is also exceptional. There is more to this than child manipulation. What was the core reason and has it been resolved/addressed?

simdan

Please give us some indication why?

Sally D

The child initially requested it but they also got a Guardian Ad Litem report and that person only chatted child and family once and concluded that because the child requested to move it would be in his best interests to move. There was never any violence or child neglect.
I can't for privacy go into alot of case detail.
But we're not at the stage the child's been there 8 months and tried it out doesn't want to stay there and wants to go back to mum. But mum is at a brick wall and doesn't know where to get the child help as she doesn't have full custody.
It's a failure in this country that a child asks to move from parents home and this is brought thru courts that a judge grants it not taking into consideration the psychological affects. And maybe down the line the child regrets it.
Mum has also granted the dad access and guardianship in past . Never any hassle with that

stefanovich

Sally D wrote: »

The child initially requested it but they also got a Guardian Ad Litem report and that person only chatted child and family once and concluded that because the child requested to move it would be in his best interests to move. There was never any violence or child neglect.
I can't for privacy go into alot of case detail.
But we're not at the stage the child's been there 8 months and tried it out doesn't want to stay there and wants to go back to mum. But mum is at a brick wall and doesn't know where to get the child help as she doesn't have full custody.
It's a failure in this country that a child asks to move from parents home and this is brought thru courts that a judge grants it not taking into consideration the psychological affects. And maybe down the line the child regrets it.
Mum has also granted the dad access and guardianship in past . Never any hassle with that

Don't understand why you think this is such a travesty. Court decided that it was in the best interests of the child to be with the father. The big bad man manipulated the child? Doubt it.

The failure you perceive is the judge's failure to agree with you.

FortySeven

Ok. So sounds pretty simple if child requesting return. If there is no abuse or child endangerment then sit it out until the review and the judge will look at the child's request. Perhaps your sister and ex should work towards a joint custody parenting plan to save the child having to make the decisions?