When is it time to stop kissing your children on the lips?

stoplooklisten

When is it time to stop kissing your children on the lips?

I find in a bit freaky after the age of about 4, what about you?
Still snogging you're ma on the lips before you go off to the day job?

Knex*

I would suggest never starting?

What's wrong with the traditional hug and peck on the cheek?

Lights On

Never met anyone who gives as much tongue as me Da used to.

JustShon

stoplooklisten wrote: »

Still snogging you're ma on the lips before you go off to the day job?

God no, that'd be really weird.

Much prefer giving da a nice sloppy kiss in the mornings.

Junkyard Tom

After about 0.2 seconds.

Jayop

Once their not babies.

cichlid child

stoplooklisten wrote: »

When is it time to stop kissing your children on the lips?

I find in a bit freaky after the age of about 4, what about you?
Still snogging you're ma on the lips before you go off to the day job?

When they are Born.

harry Bailey esq

stoplooklisten wrote: »

Still snogging you're ma on the lips before you go off to the day job?

Nope, I snog your ma before your da returns from his night shift....

super_furry

When they start slipping the tongue.

Niemoj

I have an uncle who ever time I see gives me a quick kiss on the lips, he spent a lot of time in eastern Europe and picked it up from there.

I am a grown man.

stoplooklisten

Here's an ****ing weird interesting article about parents and children who kiss on the lips.




http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3484734/When-parents-stop-kissing-child-lips-psychologist-argues-s-wrong-mums-dads-insist-ll-never-up.html




I love the comments - you have to be careful not to give them herpes

smash

I know someone in her 30's who kisses her dad on the lips when saying good bye. It freaks the hell out of me.

stoplooklisten

Niemoj wrote: »

I have an uncle who ever time I see gives me a quick kiss on the lips, he spent a lot of time in eastern Europe and picked it up from there.

I am a grown man.

Nope, sorry..I'd be extending a handshake before he could get within a meter of me.

Ush1

My son who is 1 and a half kisses me on the lips.....I say kiss, it's more he tries to bite my face. Still weird?

BattleCorp

Niemoj wrote: »

I have an uncle who ever time I see gives me a quick kiss on the lips

I am a grown man.

Em....................................*












* Slowly backs away.

Day Lewin

Never fancied the idea at all. Lip kiss is too intimate. I was very cuddly and kissy, generally, but lips are off limits with kids.

To me, a taste of mucous membranes and a swap of saliva just feels sexual and private: NOT for children. Not even comfortable with that for babies.

Niemoj

stoplooklisten wrote: »

Nope, sorry..I'd be extending a handshake before he could get within a meter of me.

Haha! In fairness I rarely see him so it isn't a big deal for me.

His wife is Czech and puts her hands around your face before plonking a kiss:pac:

Keane2baMused

I would be more inclined to ask why someone would think it's weird that anyone past infancy/ toddler years kisses their parent on the lips?

It's only weird if the intention is weird which clearly for the vast majority is not the case!

smash

katemarch wrote: »

To me, a taste of mucous membranes and a swap of saliva just feels sexual and private: NOT for children. Not even comfortable with that for babies.

Jesus... I'd hate to see your internet history!

JustShon

Keane2baMused wrote: »

I would be more inclined to ask why someone would think it's weird that anyone past infancy/ toddler years kisses their parent on the lips?

It's only weird if the intention is weird which clearly for the vast majority is not the case!

I wouldn't judge anyone else for doing it but for me it became weird to kiss my parents on the lips when I first became interested in the opposite sex. I think at that point a kiss on the lips changed (in my mind) from a sign of affection to a sexual act.

I think most kids themselves will stop going for a kiss on the lips at a certain age so there's no sense in worrying about when you should stop; they will.

Keane2baMused

katemarch wrote: »

To me, a taste of mucous membranes and a swap of saliva just feels sexual and private: NOT for children. Not even comfortable with that for babies.

What an odd thing to say.

Big difference between a peck and a full on Frenchy!

Niemoj

To be honest something like this is only weird if you make it weird.

Niemoj

BattleCorp wrote: »

Em....................................*












* Slowly backs away.

C'mere you!

*begins moving forward with lips pout*

howamidifferent

Probably too much if they have aquired bewbs or beard...

JustShon

howamidifferent wrote: »

Probably too much if they have aquired bewbs or beard...

What if they have both?

Toots

I still kiss my parents on the lips (I'm 30) just a quick peck to say hello and goodbye. Never occurred to me that it would be considered weird.

stoplooklisten

I've been trying to figure out why I find it weird, but I 'm not sure I can articulate why. Reading the article gave me the heebeejeebees. I think I have inbredophobia

Niemoj

Toots wrote: »

I still kiss my parents on the lips (I'm 30) just a quick peck to say hello and goodbye. Never occurred to me that it would be considered weird.

Same! Okay except for being 30.

It's a way of saying "I love ya ma/da", not " jaysus you're a ride can I've a go???"

conorhal

Ush1 wrote: »

My son who is 1 and a half kisses me on the lips.....I say kiss, it's more he tries to bite my face. Still weird?

Does he also enjoy fava beans and a nice Chianti?

JustShon

So they're going to be discussing this on Spin 1038. Question is, did they announce this earlier in the day and OP stole the idea from them or do Spin have some boards lurkers?

stoplooklisten

JustShon wrote: »

So they're going to be discussing this on Spin 1038. Question is, did they announce this earlier in the day and OP stole the idea from them or do Spin have some boards lurkers?

Daily mail has a story about it.

Ush1

conorhal wrote: »

Does he also enjoy fava beans and a nice Chianti?

Yes! And oddly sometimes refers to me as Agent Starling...

conorhal

Ush1 wrote: »

Yes! And oddly sometimes refers to me as Agent Starling...

Your urgently need one of these....


http://img.izismile.com/img/img2/20090901/kids_in_cage_13.jpg

MadDog76

I think this is a non-issue if you don't sexualise showing physical affection towards your children ......... in any case, your kids will let you know when they no longer want you to hold their hand, kiss them in public etc.

howamidifferent

Maybe when they start moaning in response...:pac:

Jayop

MadDog76 wrote: »

I think this is a non-issue if you don't sexualise showing physical affection towards your children ......... in any case, your kids will let you know when they no longer want you to hold their hand, kiss them in public etc.

My wee lad wouldn't give his mum a kiss last night incase his buddies saw it. It was the first time hes ever done that at 8 years old.

MadDog76

Jayop wrote: »

My wee lad wouldn't give his mum a kiss last night incase his buddies saw it. It was the first time hes ever done that at 8 years old.

Yeah, we've been through that ourselves ...... 8/9 is about normal.

Stigura

Niemoj wrote: »

I have an uncle who ever time I see gives me a quick kiss on the lips, he spent a lot of time in eastern Europe and picked it up from there.

I am a grown man.

Can I, Please, unread that?

Jayop

Stigura wrote: »

Can I, Please, unread that?

Domestos on the eyes is the only solution

sareer

I moved abroad when 21 and have only been home once or maybe twice a year since then. I sort of grew out of it, likely also because I was living in Asia where PDA just is a massive taboo and kissing your kids on their mouth wouldnt even happen behind closed doors. I have to make quite an effort to turn my cheek towards my parents and grandparents to prevent them from kissing me on my mouth. They dont say anything but I know my grandparents are bewildered. Oddly enough they dont kiss my mom like that.

When my Asian hubby and I had our son I told my mom up front that I dont want them to kiss him on his lips as the idea grosses out my hubby and tbh me too by now. I dont think it's an appropriate habit as it's hard to say when to stop. I kiss my son on his head, cheeks and tummy but not lips myself.

Akrasia

Kiss on the forehead for all the kids every morning before I go to work

I'm sure it will evolve towards a hug or a handshake as the kids grow up

My mother keeps trying to kiss me on the lips and it's wierd.

Akrasia

sareer wrote: »

I kiss my son on his head, cheeks and tummy but not lips myself.

The lads in his Under 14's football team must think that's a bit wierd

Tasden

I never asked/expected my daughter to kiss me on the lips, never really occured to me. The odd time she would kiss me on the lips but i only really kiss her forehead.

I always found the whole "give your relative a kiss" thing kind of odd though. If a child wants to kiss or hug their parent they will. I think telling them to greet (especially distant) relatives in a certain way beyond hello is a little inappropriate. Not the kissing itself, but the telling them to be affectionate. It should be up to them and if they choose not to kiss or hug then so be it. My parents always said for us to kiss our grandparents goodbye and its just strange to me now looking back tbh.

I have a 16 month old and I kiss her on the lips and her nose and her ears and her forehead and sometimes I'll just put my nose into her neck and smell her and...I never really thought of it as weird...but maybe it is...

Idle Passerby

Dont start in the first place. I attribute my lifelong coldsore affliction to my parents overzealous slobbering. Thanks mum and dad for infecting your toddler with a contagious recurring virus >:(

JustShon

Idle Passerby wrote: »

Dont start in the first place. I attribute my lifelong coldsore affliction to my parents overzealous slobbering. Thanks mum and dad for infecting your toddler with a contagious recurring virus >:(

Your parents gave you herpes.

Idle Passerby

JustShon wrote: »

Your parents gave you herpes.

Im aware of that. Hence the unhappy face.

JustShon

Idle Passerby wrote: »

Im aware of that. Hence the unhappy face.

I just feel like calling it a coldsore is doing it an injustice.

MistyCheese

7:30pm because that's when she goes to bed.

I always found it weird personally
Not that I'm saying other people doing it is weird except in a "totally alien concept to me" way

IvyTheTerrible

My son does but only for messing, he thinks it's hilarious. (he's just turned four and he's a messer)