How long would it be before someone noticed you had disappeared?

BrokenArrows

Recent events got me thinking.

If you were to disappear how long would be take for people to notice and report you missing.

Consider the following scenario.
You finish work on Friday, leave the office and are never seen again.

2 years ago i think i could quite easily be missing for 1 week before people started asking questions. If i didnt have a job it could easily have been a month.

Im married now so hopefully an alarm would be raised in hours.

MilesMorales1

I'm pretty insignificant, I don't think anyone would notice really.

osarusan

Married, so just hours until my wife would notice it. Years until she would report it.

irritablebaz

kids are due home in about 2 hours. say they would start texting after and hour to find out where i was so 3 hours.

misstearheus

Yeah was wondering about that myself. I read somewhere there the other day that the Police have to contact the RNLI before they can be tasked. And it's like 7 or 9 days into the process. I couldn't believe that. But I suppose with protocol in place that rules out, them being called for anything and everything.

Graces7

maximum three days. My family in Canada expect to hear from me every day as I am far away and alone. So after 2 days they start fretting and the third day they call my landlord. Works well... when my satellite dish went down and a tree blocked the lane, I knew the third day would sort it and it did.

Captain Chaos

If I went missing on a Friday 3 days, any other days a day before my job would be looking.

loveisdivine

Probably no more than an hour. If I was going somewhere after work I'd tell the husband and I'm only 10 minutes drive from work, so I'd imagine after an hour he'd be pretty suspicious.

Magico Gonzalez

Few hours for the wife to notice, if we disappeared together her aul man would notice in about 2 weeks.

Senna

For the people who say work would notice, would your employers have emergency contact number or if they didn't, would they call the guards?

The Backwards Man

About two hours if I was lucky.

Bastards.

Pac1Man

Why? What are you planning on doing to me OP?

Azalea

I live alone so maximum two days (taking into account weekends) between friends, family and work.

Mint Aero

About 5 minutes.

timthumbni

Until my dead body started to cause a smell that alerted others.... Or my girlfriend decided to confess. Whichever is soonest.

tuisginideach

Next mealtime

diomed

About three weeks.

Neyite

About 10 minutes?

I've a toddler so cant even go for a sh!t in peace these days.

recylingbin

Family - a week
Friends - 2 weeks
Creditors - 36 hours

I've a friend who doesn't live anywhere near me but who I would be in contact with all day every day. She'd have the guards calling around in two hours if I hadn't responded to her :P

Menas

There was a time that i could drop off the earth for a week or so and not cause any alarm. I used to like it that way.
But these days it would be be hours, Tops.

fineso.mom

As soon as my teenage boys get hungry. Not until then though.

dark crystal

During the week: As soon as I didn't turn up to collect my son from his after school creche.

The weekend: As soon as one of the kids was hungry/needed a lift/lost their shoes etc.

Renegade Mechanic

I have a, er.. *cough*.... "family" elsewhere who start speculating and placing bets on what caused my death if I've been gone for more than a day, if that counts

LeeLooLee

I live in Spain on my own, don't know that many people locally (I have friends, but not the type I'd see more than once a week or so) and work from home, so......quite a while. That makes me sound like such a sad loser!

boobar

As I can't go to the jacks at home without my Mrs or kid shouting for me to do some job or other

I'd say about 7minutes

Lady is a tramp

I've thought about this before. I live alone (well, with a subtenant I never see) and I'm not working. My family text/call me most days, and would probably be concerned if I wasn't responding, but I'd say they'd probably leave it a week before raising the alarm.

RobertKK

Probably 24 hours, at most 36 hours, my cows would notice first if they were not milked and would really let everyone in the townsland know when they weren't fed, so they would be like my alarm systems that something wasn't right, along with hungry calves looking to be fed.
Sometimes I think if I had a bad farm accident and needed help and no access to the phone, I might be there for a long time and there would be no one to look for me until maybe it was too late.
This thread is slightly depressing...

A few hours only. If my phone rings out a few times I would have texts and voicemails asking me if I'm ok. That would be my dad and my best friend. It would be about a week before some other friends would notice.

I remember wanting to be able to just head off without having to say anything to anyone. I no longer feel like that. People would miss me

Ciderswigger

Im living at home at the moment so I'd be missed pretty much straight away.

This thread reminds me of the film I saw about the woman in England who died in her flat and wasn't found for over 2 years. It was a really sad story. I'm on my phone so can't link to YouTube or give much info but there's the wiki..

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joyce_Vincent

mansize

Eh, 2 days max, I live alone but family call frequently enough. Hopefully the cats wouldn't have eaten me too much - fcuk it they can eat me!!!

Toots

If it was after 8:30 am it could be 5 hours, but my son finishes playschool at 12:30 so if I was about 15 mins late collecting him, his teacher would be ringing. I know if she couldn't get me she'd ring my mum, who'd probably raise the alarm fairly quick.

Any other time it'd be 20 mins max, like Neyite, I've a little one, so I'm regularly interrupted even in the loo. Pissing with the door closed is like a distant memory :pac:

MadDog76

20 minutes tops ......... this Dog has been put on a tight leash in the last couple of years.

Ruu

I often think about doing a disappearing act but being married and a little too predictable in my movements, would be easily found. That doesn't stop me from thinking about it though. Last Autumn I was going to get off the bus before work and take the next flight out of the country, I was that close but chickened out.

FanadMan

A couple of hours at the most. My elderly father would be looking for tea or something to eat so would raise hell. A couple of years ago I got delayed by a hospital appointment and had left my phone in the car. When I came back it was nearly dead with missed calls.......when are you coming home, what's keeping you, why don't you answer the phone etc etc :mad:

Adorable

Less than an hour, definitely. I live with my momma and she's super over protective of me. Hell, she'll even start to worry if I take too long in the bathroom/bedroom/anywhere that's not the living room. :P

Graces7

RobertKK wrote: »

Probably 24 hours, at most 36 hours, my cows would notice first if they were not milked and would really let everyone in the townsland know when they weren't fed, so they would be like my alarm systems that something wasn't right, along with hungry calves looking to be fed.
Sometimes I think if I had a bad farm accident and needed help and no access to the phone, I might be there for a long time and there would be no one to look for me until maybe it was too late.
This thread is slightly depressing...

Having heard hungry cattle we would hear them here in Kerry .. Not depressing and really yes a bad accident can happen and we not be found. When I fell two years ago I did try to raise help but they were out of phone range. Maybe this thread will encourage folk to take some kind of precaution? After all as one of my family is fond fo saying, YOU ARE NO USE DEAD.

Oranage2

During a weekday maybe like 2 days then my boss would probably try and find me, the weekend could be about 4 days, the weekend days I've off then the 2 work days my boss would try find me.

Buona Fortuna

The hens and Ducks get pretty pi$$ed if they don't get fed. The all come up and surround the house and quack and chortle.

Beasty

Was in casualty following a cycling accident. The accident happened around 7.30am on my way into work. Was concussed and unable to remember the wife's telephone number and she was away with the kids on holiday anyway. No one spotted me missing until I sent an email to work around 2pm saying I was not going to be coming in...

Teyla Emmagan

2 days if over a weekend. Work wouldn't notice for about a week if I didn't arrive in.

The team I was on got a new girl a while ago. She was only there a month or so so no one really had her number. She didn't turn up one Monday. We thought she had booked a few days off. On the wed we heard through someone (he coached her son's football team) that she'd had an aneurysm on the Saturday morning and died instantly. And there we were like gob****es all week. We hadn't even noticed which was the worse part. Certainly no one had thought to see if HR had a number for her. Poor woman. She was only 41.

There were always people starting and never coming back in that place case we all sound demented.

Buona Fortuna

Beasty wrote: »

No one spotted me missing until I sent an email to work around 2pm saying I was not going to be coming in...

Was quite tempted to do that just before I left the last job to move back here.

Would have answered the phone and sent the odd e-mail. Sure I could have hung it out for a month until something required my physical presence.

Ah but I'm too honest or too much of a coward. Sure there were those around doing exactly that though.

Samsgirl

I would give it 5 mins before the kids noticed.
I ring my Mam everyday so she would know something was amiss in a few hours.

Duggy747

Only the GF and work would notice, others wouldn't know I was missing for days, probably even a week or 2.

I don't post much on FB and my family / friends only ring when they need something fixed.

Bastards :pac:

Turtyturd

I am a person of habit so probably a couple of hours before my OH and the kids noticed something was up.

When I was living at home I probably could have gotten a bit longer, especially as I spent most weekends away.

My OH used to get an hourly call from her ma when we first got together. Used to annoy the hell out of me, and I started to think it was because of me but she is a possessive control freak with all her kids, until they need to get in touch with her then she is nowhere to be found.

hardCopy

My boss is off today and my wife is out with her friend tonight so I probably wouldn't be missed until 9 or 10pm.

My poor dog would definitely know something was wrong if he didn't get his dinner.

Buona Fortuna

hardCopy wrote: »

My poor dog would definitely know something was wrong if he didn't get his dinner.

Yep, I think the animals would miss me first by about a fortnight

Squeeonline

I think it would be 5-7 days before anyone actually physically checked. If I'm not at work people would assume I'm elsewhere. Otherwise I can be occasionally unsociable so friends might just assume I'm not around.

I think google would realise there was something wrong before a lot of people in my life would.

Kinda worrying.

beks101

I watched the most depressing documentary a few years ago called A Certain Kind of Death which showcased the horrors of people dying alone, not being missed and their decomposed remains being found weeks or months or sometimes years later.

It was deeply disturbing and unsettling. Really makes you think about how important it is to actually live while you're alive, to stay in touch with people regularly, get involved with activities and maintain social connections, lest you be found half-eaten by maggots and with no identifiable Next of Kin when you kick the bucket.

I can think of no worse fate in life than to die and never be missed.

jimgoose

It would largely depend on where I'd disappeared to. In view of that, it might vary from about half-an-hour to as much as two days!

I call my Gran every day and she gets anxious if I'm late calling or if I forget, so even if I wasn't in work I think I'd be missed within a day, max two days.