so, what attracts you more; personality or looks?

Ellie2014

maybe this is a shallow question but it'd be interesting to see what others think! personally, i am attracted to a good personality!, think it's really important for someone to be able to make you laugh and not take life too serious!, although when i was in my teens i'm not afraid to admit that i was more attracted to the "hottest" guy, and many of these had personalities like stone!! lol.. now that i'm in my mid-twenties i'd like to think i'm less shallow; but having said that; if they're good looking and have a cracking personality even better!! lol .. what's your opinion guys? x

eternal

A large penis.

suicide_circus

A large vagina

Lights On

Personality is great and all, but if you have an amazing personality and a face like a crusty pair of socks, I'd just keep you as a friend. Though a great body can make up for a bad face, and vice versa. But a terrible personality and great looks is a no go most of the time.

The Dogs Bollix

A large wallet stuffed with cash

BenedrylPete

Well looks obviously.

As louis ck says people only fck up or across.

ancapailldorcha

Personality traits: Wit, kindness & intelligence
Physical Traits: Tall and curvy.

Galwayguy35

Looks, no point having a great personality if someone fell out of the ugly tree.

NachoBusiness

Depends what I'm after.

ThinkProgress

They've gotta be physically desirable obviously... if you don't wanna rip their clothes off and pin them against the kitchen table, what's the point in that?

But they also have to be a bit of a lunatic, too... a little bit strange and unpredictable. Spontaneous... that's the word I'm looking for.

Nothing worse for me than being with someone who is very predictable and unimaginative! (imagination is more important than knowledge after all)

Sigma Path

The two are never mutually exclusive but if I have to pick one it'll always be looks.

Not putting effort into ones appearance is a trait I dislike in general so even a sparkling personality won't overcome that.

It's as easy to improve your looks as it is to develop a likeable personality so I see no reason why it shouldn't be done.

BoardsMember

Has to have a good personality for a relationship, but I could get a good few weeks of fun in the scratcher out of a good body/face.

Sometimes personality only reveals itself over time...when I first met my wife I was really attracted to her, great face and bod, but didn't like her. I tried getting the physical thing out of my system which was great fun, ended up falling for her. She happens to be one of the nicest people I've ever met, I was wrong about her. Some people are guarded in themselvws, or shy, so personality doesn't always reveal.

Yakult

50/50

I look for ladies who are attractive (to me) and WITH a personality. Don't need to chose one or the other.

myshirt

I said it once and I'll say it again, they all look the same face down in the pillow.*


















*Bar the pimply arsed ones, or ones with a fanny on them no better than a torn slipper.

GLaDOS

Both are important, though personality wins out over the long haul.

mad muffin

I'm afraid my looks only attract personality :pac:

wilhelm roentgen

Looks aren't everything, but you can't **** over personality.

ancapailldorcha

Mis-read the thread title. If there's no chemistry then not much is going to happen so I'd say personality.

eternal

eternal wrote: »

A large penis.

suicide_circus wrote: »

A large vagina

It would never work.

Penny Tration

Personality is more important to me, but looks are also important. Personality alone won't make me fancy someone.

somefeen

looks starts the attraction while personality sustains it.

I met a stunningly beautiful girl a few years ago. She was ****ing gorgeous, but I wasn't attracted to her after knowing her for a week because she had zero personality or if she did it was way off my own.

Yakkyda

As others have said, personality wins out in the end for a long term thing, it's all well and good having some fun with some stunner but if it comes out in the wash(and it always does) that they've a cnutish personality, that's deffo a deal breaker for anyone (or should be if your sane)

Likewise it's great to met someone with a great personality, enjoy their company and all that, but their also has to be some physical attraction to make it work otherwise your basically riding them for your own gratification, probably taking advantage of feelings they have for you that you aren't gonna reciprocate, and have no intention of. A sh!tty thing to do imo.

So, 50/50 really.

Breaston Plants

Waiting for " witty " reply from The Backwards man, followed by " wittier" reply from The Sidewards man....10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1........

KERSPLAT!

I suppose I'd be drawn to someone I find physically attractive but I find the more I get to know and like someone, the less I care about their appearance, if that makes sense..?

Saipanne

10% Looks

90% Personality

petrolcan

ThinkProgress wrote: »

They've gotta be physically desirable obviously... if you don't wanna rip their clothes off and rinse them with anti-bac against the kitchen table, what's the point in that?

Indeed.

major bill

Chunky women with a cracking personality

Hemerodrome

A great personality....... is code for "a face only a mother could love"

Saipanne

major bill wrote: »

Chunky women with a cracking personality

I've only recently learned to appreciate this type. A pretty face, great personality and as Neil Hannon put it, an arse the size of a small country.

Azalea

I dunno is it a case of one or the other? I mean, you could meet someone who is nothing special looking (that's not code for ugly - just not utterly gorgeous, there's an in-between) and then a few hours in their company could make you fancy them intensely, based on their personality.

Jim Bob Scratcher

I love me a big aul booty, so I guesss looks

Lights On

Lights On wrote: »

Personality is great and all, but if you have an amazing personality and a face like a crusty pair of socks, I'd just keep you as a friend. Though a great body can make up for a bad face, and vice versa. But a terrible personality and great looks is a no go most of the time.

You could just turn the lights off?


All the looks in the world won't make up for a yawn of a personality, but looks certainly help with the initial attraction.

I'd like both, ideally, but if I was forced to choose I'd go for personality since looks go anyway, in the end.

lazybones32

The looks attract me and the personality will make me stay or leave.


I've plenty of friends with great personalities, so I don't exactly need another one.

Ellie2014

enjoyed reading these posts; some have made me laugh! and I agree with many of them, of course looks are important on a level but personality wins in the long run! its all about the chemistry

eternal

major bill wrote: »

Chunky women with a cracking personality

Pm sent.

Penny Tration

Hemerodrome wrote: »

A great personality....... is code for "a face only a mother could love"

Nah. I've a great personality. I just so happen to be a ride, too.

XR3i

any woman who'll buy me drink or good drugs can have me

Hemerodrome

Penny Tration wrote: »

Nah. I've a great personality. I just so happen to be a ride, too.

And with that username, that's all the boxes ticked for "PM sent".

KERSPLAT!

Azalea wrote: »

I dunno is it a case of one or the other? I mean, you could meet someone who is nothing special looking (that's not code for ugly - just not utterly gorgeous, there's an in-between) and then a few hours in their company could make you fancy them intensely, based on their personality.

Shift?

eternal

I think what someone's idea of what a ride is vastly different from another persons.

whiskeyman

A nice pair of personalities is important

tomwaterford

eternal wrote: »

I think what someone's idea of what a ride is vastly different from another persons.

Same for personality though??
As what some people find great personality others cannot stand and vice versa




I know people who everyone thinks is great but I just couldn't warm to them atal...completely different personalities

ThinkProgress

eternal wrote: »

I think what someone's idea of what a ride is vastly different from another persons.

You're right. Some people like stallions, while others like donkeys...

Me? I like the wild ones... the untamed. The un-tamable!

Summer wind

Hotness matters. You can't ride a personality:)

XR3i

i would definitely be impressed by a woman who had a good vehicle, say a good pick-up or powerful modern diesel car

NachoBusiness

eternal wrote: »

I think what someone's idea of what a ride is vastly different from another persons.

What people think is a great personality tends to vastly differ also

eternal

I'm only having light hearted laughs here but I'm getting the sinking feeling that I'm being told I don't have a nice personality or something.

Medusa22

Do I have to just pick one? I think that personality is more important, like someone who is only alright looking can be really attractive to you if you like their personality a lot, but if someone is a right pain in the hole and very attractive...there's no way I'm going near them (well, for anything more than a shag anyway ) For a relationship to work, you have to be attracted to the person and like their personality.

fatherted1969

Diddys

Dr.Robotnik

Medusa22 wrote: »

Do I have to just pick one? I think that personality is more important, like someone who is only alright looking can be really attractive to you if you like their personality a lot, but if someone is a right pain in the hole and very attractive...there's no way I'm going near them (well, for anything more than a shag anyway ) For a relationship to work, you have to be attracted to the person and like their personality.

Yeah same, in a nutshell, you said it better than I could!

XR3i

i look through the wanted ads every day in the paper,

but believe it or not i don't find her so hot if she ain't got the *do re me *(money)