People who are nearly always only positive are selfish.

paleoperson

They know people will react better when they're positive, that they'll get on their good side and stuff.

Then when some negativity comes along they're like "jesus christ, wtf how dare you".

A subsection of this scenario, is that some people are used to people always sucking up to them, and then they can't handle a bit of dissent and criticism and go medieval on the person giving it as if it's all their fault.

The_Valeyard

paleoperson wrote: »

They know people will react better when they're positive, that they'll get on their good side and stuff.

Then when some negativity comes along they're like "jesus christ, wtf how dare you".

A subsection of this scenario, is that some people are used to people always sucking up to them, and then they can't handle a bit of dissent and criticism and go medieval on the person giving it as if it's all their fault.

So.......Your saying you are a grumpy git???

sonny.knowles

I'm very selfish and am also fairly negative. Your theory of a load of balls.

Nothing worse than positivity and enthusiasm. Particularly in the workplace.

paleoperson

The_Valeyard wrote: »

So.......Your saying you are a grumpy git???

Sometimes I am, when it's warranted. I like to look at everything objectively. I think looking on the positive is silly, positivity is almost like a drug... makes you feel good for a while but ultimately superficial and flawed because it's biased.

Some people are positive optimists, it's hard to regard that as a negative character trait.

I'd rather be stuck in an elevator with someone with a positive frame of mind and belief in themselves and others, than some negative doom-monger who thinks everyone is out to get them.

sonny.knowles

Candie wrote: »

Some people are positive optimists, it's hard to regard that as a negative character trait.

I'd rather be stuck in an elevator with someone with a positive frame of mind and belief in themselves and others, than some negative doom-monger who thinks everyone is out to get them.

There's more than positive and negative. Positive people are hard work. I generally find that enthusiastic people are poor on delivering, something else new and shiny often catches their eye before the finish the current task.

sonny.knowles

sonny.knowles wrote: »

There's more than positive and negative. Positive people are hard work. I generally find that enthusiastic people are poor on delivering, something else new and shiny often catches their eye before the finish the current task.

There's a difference between positive and hyperactive.

The positive people that I work with always deliver, they're proactive. The negative ones are barely bothered to do anything, and they do it with maximum misery and drama. There's nothing more draining than a misery guts, they suck the life out of everyone around them with their gloom. They also tend to be lazy malcontents, complaining much more than positive people do, since they see only the worst side or scenario in any given situation.

Samaris

What a weird way to look at things.

It's better for you, and healthier, to be positive rather than negative, but overall, there's a happy medium (sorry, should I say a terrible, dark, depressing medium?) where one isn't positive to insane levels, but one also isn't a moody git.

RDM_83 again

sonny.knowles wrote: »

There's more than positive and negative. Positive people are hard work. I generally find that enthusiastic people are poor on delivering, something else new and shiny often catches their eye before the finish the current task.

Overly positive people in my experience tend to be pretty negative when you get down to it, they just internalize all the grump, worries and stresses rather than let it all out.

The Backwards Man

Dee doo, Dee doo, Dee doo De doo De doo

PARlance

A lot of the really positive people I know are the most depressed.

sonny.knowles

RDM_83 again wrote: »

Overly positive people in my experience tend to be pretty negative when you get down to it, they just internalize all the grump, worries and stresses rather than let it all out.

It's like fat people being jolly.

Azalea

Spot-on Samaris.

sonny.knowles wrote: »

Nothing worse than positivity and enthusiasm.

There's definitely definitely things worse.

Being extremely negative all the time is self absorbed and draining for others. Ditto being robotically chirpy and incapable of uttering anything negative or even just realistic.

Thankfully there's a middle ground.

Drumpot

sonny.knowles wrote: »

Nothing worse than positivity and enthusiasm. Particularly in the workplace.

What about People moaning about other people being positive and enthusiastic... In the workplace.

paleoperson

RDM_83 again wrote: »

Overly positive people in my experience tend to be pretty negative when you get down to it, they just internalize all the grump, worries and stresses rather than let it all out.

yeah, it's like how comedians are so often extremely depressed and suicidal.

finglashoop

Im a cynical realist.

sonny.knowles

Drumpot wrote: »

What about People moaning about other people being positive and enthusiastic... In the workplace.

As long as they aren't being too negative it's fine.

XR3i

paleoperson wrote: »

They know people will react better when they're positive, that they'll get on their good side and stuff.

Then when some negativity comes along they're like "jesus christ, wtf how dare you".

A subsection of this scenario, is that some people are used to people always sucking up to them, and then they can't handle a bit of dissent and criticism and go medieval on the person giving it as if it's all their fault.

tldr

Fluffy Cat 88

sonny.knowles wrote: »

It's like fat people being jolly.

I'm not always positive. I am always fat though :pac:‚

PTH2009

when my mother was dying i knew she was gong to die by my sister kept staying positive which annoyed me a little bit as it would just give me false hope.

when people are too positive there not being realistic and just dont want to hurt your feelings. a really positive person will say to an ugly person they will find love and they are good looking but the mr positive knws in there heads there bull****ting this person but doesnt want to tell the truth.

Id perfer if people be honest with one another rather than lying to each other

sonny.knowles

Fluffy Cat 88 wrote: »

I'm not always positive. I am always fat though 😂

Are you also always fluffy?

Fluffy Cat 88

sonny.knowles wrote: »

Are you also always fluffy?

No. I'm not even a cat...

XR3i

the world is ****ed the world is ****ed

Fleawuss

No. They're just bad electricians.

sonny.knowles

Fluffy Cat 88 wrote: »

No. I'm not even a cat...

But you are either 88 or were born in 1988?

Fluffy Cat 88

sonny.knowles wrote: »

But you are either 88 or were born in 1988?

No - I'm a 70's kid! My username is all lies!

Really positive people do my head in to be honest. Worked with several of them over the years, all an act imo.

However I think it's a sort of survival mechanism. Usually these people have plenty of sh1t in their lives and try to keep it under wraps by drawing attention to your own negatives.

It's like the girl in work with anorexia/bulimia who looks at your lunch and everyone elses - criticises "oh I wouldn't eat THAT!" ... "what are you having - OH NO!" to the lad with the salad -"being good today are ya John". As she shovels down 4 baked beans and half a slice of toast then disappears to the jacks to regurgitate it all.

People. Just let it in one ear and out the other. As you get older you give less of a sh1t about people in general.

Samaris

Crikey, I think I'd prefer to work with a bunch of cheerful pleasant people I can have a laugh with than doom-and-gloom positive-people-are-awful types.

Electric Sheep

You are suffering from Paddyitis - the belief that negativity and whingebagging are normal. Emigrate.

Sunnyisland

I like positive realistic people,


Like someone saying realies you going to die soon, but saying it with a happy face as its no big deal.sure it will happen to all of us :-)

Kev W

sonny.knowles wrote: »

But you are either 88 or were born in 1988?

Or a nazi. :pac:

Edited to add: Just so we're clear, I'm DEFINITELY kidding.

Whitewinged

I don't know if I relate the two, selfish and positivity. I've known very negative and very positive people who are both very self absorbed too.

I don't think anyone can be "only positive" and if they seem that way then it is usually obvious that they are acting. I would relate someone being mostly or abnormally positive to passive aggression. They usually find some roundabout way to show their negative side. Like a person who can't say "no" or finds it hard to express negative feelings or get into any conflict.