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Memories of childhood.

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  • 08-11-2015 2:23pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 488 ✭✭


    I was just chatting with the missus about how our parents did things with us growing up (scolding, playing etc)

    The thing that popped into my mind was when my parents knew I was lying, they'd ask me to stick out my tongue. If I had "a black spot" on my tongue, then I was lying and had to tell the truth.

    Is that a common thing? What other weird things did your parents do bringing you up?

    Few belts of the wooden spoon would be fairly common, no doubt.


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  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I remember very clearly the delicious terror of my dad throwing me up into the air and catching me. In the way of all kids and dads, I knew he'd never drop me, but the frission of fear was great fun.

    I remember my older sister washing my hair when she was put in charge of bathing me when I was a little older, she'd do my scalp in little circular motions and I'd beg her not to stop. I had the cleanest hair in the country when I'd finally let her finish, complaining of finger cramp.

    When I was about five my mum went away for six months with work and I remember waving her off on the doorstep, worried she'd find another little girl she liked more than me and stay with her. I took a lot of convincing she was coming back.

    My favourite part of the week was Sunday evenings in my Grandmothers house, eating toasted sandwiches and being the centre of her and my Grandfathers attention. I never felt more special or important in my life, and I probably never will again. :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 883 ✭✭✭anto9


    Getting hair cuts from my Dad .He was a gifted Carpenter ,but a poor Barber.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,394 ✭✭✭Pac1Man


    Being allowed to stay up an extra half hour on a Sunday night to finish watching ER.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    Candie wrote: »
    I remember very clearly the delicious terror of my dad throwing me up into the air and catching me. In the way of all kids and dads, I knew he'd never drop me, but the frission of fear was great

    I remember my da pushing me so high on a swing, that I would be screaming and laughing telling him to stop but he wouldn't. I used to think I would float off into the atmosphere I was going so high.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,707 ✭✭✭whatismyname


    Not much tbh.

    Apart from their drinking problems, their inability to meet my basic care needs emotionally or physically leading to a whole childhood of neglect, oh and allowing me to be sexually abused for years, and being quite emotionally abusive.

    I'm not sure there was room for much else.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 255 ✭✭mattP


    I remember going into video shops with my sister and spending ages in there. They're all gone now unfortunately-since the early 2000s- and I don't think Netflix is quite the same. There was something special about them :P
    Oh and who could forget the pre-sky era, where you had to boil the kettle and make a mug of tea in under three minutes :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 32,688 ✭✭✭✭ytpe2r5bxkn0c1


    Just fun, using our imaginations in the garden, as Dad built tents and shelters while Mam sat and guided us through the safari we undertook in the vegetable patch.
    Care, love, and freedom sum it up.


  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    nits I so remember having nits. The shame of it :(
    Now we just get a note, and clean their hairs.
    But i remember feeling bad forever in school because of it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,707 ✭✭✭whatismyname


    dollyk wrote: »
    nits I so remember having nits. The shame of it :(
    Now we just get a note, and clean their hairs.
    But i remember feeling bad forever in school because of it.


    Oooh yeah forgot about that. got bullied for at least a year at school and called Fleahead due to my mother's inability to sort my nits problem.

    Nurse got involved at various points.

    At one point I'd wake in the morning and my pillow would be crawling with head lice. Disgusting.


  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    Oooh yeah got bullied for at least a year at school and called Fleahead due to my mother's inability to sort my nits problem.

    Nurse got involved at various points.

    At one point I'd wake in the morning and my pillow would be crawling with head lice. Disgusting.
    I so remember that, My mother had 14 kids, and cleaning headlice was not top of the list.
    My head was raw from scratching .


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,045 ✭✭✭Bio Mech


    Hopping into bed beside my mother for a Half hour snooze before school. After my dad had gone to work. He used to leave it nice and warm in the cold winter mornings.


  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    tbh fear, dry mouth fear of not knowing what lay ahead, I grew up believing
    that everyone in my school felt the same way.
    I remember when I got older feeling shocked that some kids
    loved their childhood memories.
    Maybe there was some good times, but number 6 in a family of 14
    didnt hold cherished memories for me .
    Hey im all grown up now, and view the world so different. ;)


  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    dollyk and whatismyname, I'm so sorry you have no happy memories of childhood. I feel sad for you both.

    I hope you make some happy memories going forward.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    I had a happy enough childhood (country is good craic!)
    Not without one big issue....but happy as could be expected with good enough parents....but I cannot really remember much of it if I'm honest

    Like I grew up with cousins around the one age...so we ended up a good crowd of us hanging around together :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    Candie wrote: »
    dollyk and whatismyname, I'm so sorry you have no happy memories of childhood. I feel sad for you both.

    I hope you make some happy memories going forward.

    Thank you Candie x


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,707 ✭✭✭whatismyname


    Candie wrote: »
    dollyk and whatismyname, I'm so sorry you have no happy memories of childhood. I feel sad for you both.

    I hope you make some happy memories going forward.

    Thanks so much Candie.

    And sorry if I'm sharing anything inappropriate. I sometimes find it hard to judge as I seem to have this big 'it was my norm, and in order to accept it, I need to talk about it same as anyone else would talk about their norm' part of me.


  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I don't think anyone should ever stay quiet about the bad things that happen them. I think there's probably a kind of healing in sharing.

    Its easy for people like me to live in my bubble and not spare a thought for people who've had it harder, it's a good thing to remind me of others. :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    lol whatsitsname are you my sister .:D
    Im the same, but Im usually told not to talk about morbid things.
    Thank god I dont dwell too much on the past though, I dont worry about thing I had no control over.
    But If I used it as an excuse to be a bad parent, now that would be a different matter.:)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Pac1Man wrote: »
    Being allowed to stay up an extra half hour on a Sunday night to finish watching ER.

    Being allowed to stay up past our bedtime to watch David Attenborough documentaries.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,707 ✭✭✭whatismyname


    dollyk wrote: »
    lol whatsitsname are you my sister .:D
    Im the same, but Im usually told not to talk about morbid things.
    Thank god I dont dwell too much on the past though, I dont worry about thing I had no control over.
    But If I used it as an excuse to be a bad parent, now that would be a different matter.:)

    Lol dollyk, I am glad you said your parents had 14 kids, as I have siblings who experienced similar to me, so for a second was like 'sh1t, it can't be!'.

    My family had, and seem to mostly still have, a type of 'don't talk about bad stuff, and instead sweep it under the carpet' type of approach.

    I find this so very harmful, and took the different approach of being open about it and trying to get help to deal with it. (I wish I could take a 'don't dwell on the past / things I had no control over, but it affected me really badly, and I think I developed Complex PTSD). Years later, the lack of appropriate help to deal with it has made me very mentally unwell. To the extent that I very often wonder if I've done the right thing in taking this approach - especially since other family members who've buried it seem to have coped better than me.

    So it's good to hear from someone somewhat similar, even though I naturally never want to think of anyone experiencing quite so tough times, particularly in childhood.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 602 ✭✭✭dollyk


    my teenage sons staying up behind my back to watch the 3 min preview
    of babe station when sky came out first, and listening to the giggling
    for 3 mins

    They married now, hope they cope with their sons doing the same, but its full internet now lol


  • Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Kids used to hold buttercups under each others chins. Apparently if your chin lit up then you liked butter.

    Watching wrestling on TV and trying to emulate the moves.

    Playing Mortal Kombat and trying to emulate the moves. I think I had a few injuries. :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,166 ✭✭✭Tasden


    Kids used to hold buttercups under each others chins. Apparently if your chin lit up then you liked butter.

    Aww i remember this :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    I remember playing with my toys and acting out great adventures with them.
    After Toy Story came out, I stopped playing with them and left them to their own devices, to go on their own adventures..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,344 ✭✭✭Diamond Doll


    There were seven kids in my family, we used to go on regular cross-country road trips with all nine of us in an estate car. Sometimes with a couple of friends/cousins too. My parents in the front, with a baby/toddler on my mum's knee in the passenger seat, or even down in the footwell in front of her. A scatter of kids unbelted in the back seat, and a couple more of us in the boot. The boot was the best place, I was second eldest so usually managed to get a place there.

    Horrific to think of what would have happened if there was ever a crash (thankfully there never was!)


  • Registered Users Posts: 6,431 ✭✭✭MilesMorales1


    I'd say I have more bad memories of being a child (say until age 16) then good, but I give the good ones more than enough nostalgia in my mind. The village I grew up in still has the video shop! Its a little dusty, its had to expand into doing more than VCR's and video games, but its still there, same sign, same guy running it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,622 ✭✭✭Ruu


    Renting videos (and the video recorder until we got the hand me down top loader from our richer Dub cousins), renting a Megadrive and games for the weekend.

    Fairly good ones but the one I remember most clearly is being sick and staying home from school. I remember having my head resting on my Mams lap and her dabbing it with a wet cloth and the sun bursting through the curtains.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,506 ✭✭✭Titzon Toast


    My Dad coming home from work on a Friday evening with some chipper food and a bag of chocolate bars and sweets for all of us.

    The Sunday morning fry up.

    Playing outside until the street lights came on during the Summer holidays.

    Good times.


  • Registered Users Posts: 728 ✭✭✭Los Lobos


    Getting beaten for doing **** all.

    Getting beaten with a belt for doing something a little higher than **** all.

    God bless 80's Ireland.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 6,431 ✭✭✭MilesMorales1


    Los Lobos wrote: »
    Getting beaten for doing **** all.

    Getting beaten with a belt for doing something a little higher than **** all.

    God bless 80's Ireland.

    Sure I have those same and similar memories (although it was 90's/early 2000's england) but I try to gloss it over in my mind so to speak.


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