Do you get told it's just "banter" when offended?

Lau2976

I was scrolling through the main page and a thread caught my eye. I read it and was pretty disgusted tbh. I'm not even going to comment in it because I can already tell from precious posts that I'll just be told I don't have a sense of humour.

I had an encounter with someone today of the same nature who told me it was just banter to sit in a canteen and point out girls that they think are "down for it" based in their appearance.

This type of response just wears me down now. What about you ladies? Ever experienced it?

baby and crumble

Tbh "banter" is really code word for "I want to say whatever I want and blame everyone else for not having a sense of humour"

I hate the term. Drives me scatty.

It's similar to people going "don't be so pc!" Or "its pc gone mad!" When you tell them that a certain word or joke isn't cool to use.

Dolbert

Banter = "I'm an arsehole"

kylith

There is genuine banter where both parties are ribbing each other while aware that it's not serious. Then there's being a dick; which is what that is. If you have to tell people that it's 'just banter' then it's not just banter.

Mars Bar

I hate the word. It's very common in the football circle!

Jonathan Swift tried to have the word banished centuries ago.

I hate that ' what's wrong with ya I was only slagging ya!' Absolute crap.
Be mean, say what you want about some one & when they take offence, turn it back on them.

Or even worse, walk into a room, don't be all over someone then you get the ' are you in bad humour'
Well, I wasn't, but if you're going to say that, then you will probably make me in bad humour'.

meeeeh

I give a look for really offensive stuff and I just don't respond. It usually makes people too uncomfortable to come out 'it's just a banter line'. That being said I enjoy 'banter', I am not easily offended. Besides I think that sometimes the lines are blurred by those who feel comfortable and are affectionate about whatever or who they are trying to make fun of. When people are very respectful there is usually a bit of a distance present.

Just Another Girl

It boils my blood. I hate the word 'banter' in general.
People can have the 'banter' all they want, its when its directed at somebody elses appearance that it really annoys me.

RainyDay

https://twitter.com/sallystrange/status/502682117495459840

LeeLooLee

I hate the word 'banter'. It's just bullying, really, isn't it? I worked in London for a while and I couldn't get over all the misogyny, patronising comments and insults which were supposedly 'banter'. If the person you're saying it to isn't laughing, then it's not OK. If you have a close enough relationship with someone that you can have digs at each other and laugh at them, you don't need to label it 'banter'.

Teafor two12345

Lau2976 wrote: »

I was scrolling through the main page and a thread caught my eye. I read it and was pretty disgusted tbh. I'm not even going to comment in it because I can already tell from precious posts that I'll just be told I don't have a sense of humour.

I had an encounter with someone today of the same nature who told me it was just banter to sit in a canteen and point out girls that they think are "down for it" based in their appearance.

This type of response just wears me down now. What about you ladies? Ever experienced it?

I don't mind banter. I do mind snide comments from an anonymous source who then denies them. That's sometimes what the internet is. It's why a lot of it is not banter.