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A bad day, every day
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20-09-2015 12:34pm#1
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Monkeysgomad wrote: »I went to see my school counsellor on Thursday didn't do much. I am a nice person (I think) but I just always seem to come out as the bad one.
You come across as a nice person, op. Don't give up on the school counsellor, it can take a little time to sort through stuff. Don't forget, it's ok not to feel ok! Well done for realising it and double well done for telling someone.
For sure you can also speak to your gp or you can text Console if you would like to speak to an independent qualified counsellor:
http://console.ie/social/text-the-word-help-to-51444-if-you-need-someone-to-talk-to-we-are-open-24-hours-a-day-7-days-a-week-365-days-a-year/
Best of luck! You will come through this!!
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secondrowgal wrote: »You come across as a nice person, op. Don't give up on the school counsellor, it can take a little time to sort through stuff. Don't forget, it's ok not to feel ok! Well done for realising it and double well done for telling someone.
For sure you can also speak to your gp or you can text Console if you would like to speak to an independent qualified counsellor:
http://console.ie/social/text-the-word-help-to-51444-if-you-need-someone-to-talk-to-we-are-open-24-hours-a-day-7-days-a-week-365-days-a-year/
Best of luck! You will come through this!!
Thank you so much I might send them a text now. I've just never been this low in my life and it's really scary 0 -
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xfactorfan23 wrote: »Just checking in to see how you are doing today.
Hi, thank you so much for checking back with me. It wasn't a great day today. I did manage to go into school, although late (10am). I was in a pretty foul mood and ended up snapping at nearly everyone. I left early and have been in bed since. I have been quite sick with a chest infection also. Not a great day really.
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Re your earlier post I'm pretty sure you can take charge of your health care to an extent at 16 so you should be able to visit the GP on your own? Also if you're in cork or limerick there's a good few services even for teenagers, give it a google hope you feel better soon 0
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Mr Rhode Island Red wrote: »I went through something very similar last summer. Withdrew myself socially, always depressed.
It may be hard to believe or accept at times but it will pass. Everything does. It may take a few days, or a few weeks, or perhaps longer, but it will pass eventually. Some morning you'll wake up and you'll find that the spring in your step will be back, I guarantee it.
But I can't go on like this for that long. I want to be able to go into school without fighting with someone, or being snappy at them. I was to feel better than I do 0 -
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Don't dwell on your friends and not being invited to parties, OP. You'll look back on this at a later stage of your life and wonder why you gave a crap about any of that! Think of all the people you'll meet in the future - in college, at work, travelling, or whatever you decide to do. School can be a very difficult time for many young people, especially if you're insecure and introverted. But things will likely improve for you afterwardMonkeysgomad wrote: »Since I went back to school I've been in a down mood. I don't know if it's just school or what but I just can't seem to get out of it. I'm blocking all my friends out, some of them I've seen there true colours and don't know what to do anymore. There is loads of 18tg parties on atm and I'm invited to none, I just feel like I'm always in the way in school. I was thinking about moving but I'm in 6th year and to move to another school would be hard enough without it being your last year. I'm fighting with my parents all the time and can't concentrate on anything. I feel like I'm just existing not living it's like my world is falling down around me. 0 -
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Monkeysgomad wrote: »What does it mean so
Maybe they have their own stuff going on?
Maybe you are very good at putting on a "good" face?
Do you have a friend/relative/teacher that you can trust? You've reached out here, and well done for taking that first step, now take the next one.
Did you get a chance to text that helpline? That might help you even see what the next step is.
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My mistake. I sort of assumed you were a lad because your friends didn't open up, but in fairness it's more to do with the age of your peer group more than the gender. Girls generally talk about it more often, though, but it really depends on your friends and whether they are open to a personal discussion like that. It's likely that they don't think anything is wrong, or if they do, they don't want to interfere with your personal issues as they feel like they might be stepping on toes a little bit.
Anyway, keep the head up. 0 -
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malnurtured wrote: »My mistake. I sort of assumed you were a lad because your friends didn't open up, but in fairness it's more to do with the age of your peer group more than the gender. Girls generally talk about it more often, though, but it really depends on your friends and whether they are open to a personal discussion like that. It's likely that they don't think anything is wrong, or if they do, they don't want to interfere with your personal issues as they feel like they might be stepping on toes a little bit.
Anyway, keep the head up.
No problem, I can see how you thought it was a guy. Yeah may be so - but even for someone to say are you okay ? Even if you reply yeah that's it but I don't even get that! I haven't been in school in over a week!0 -
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Hey OP, I wanted to reply to your thread because I feel like I can relate to you a bit. Like you, I'm not invited to many parties and I'm socially awkward and shy. I have a few girls that I hang out with in class but I only have one really good friend. I really enjoy being alone but I feel embarrassed and ashamed of myself when I'm almost always with just the one girl. I love her to bits but only having one friend has made me wonder what's wrong with me? I sometimes think everyone hates me and thinks I'm weird or a loner. I've wondered why don't people want to be friends with me?
It's only recently that I've started to notice that people have tried to become friends with me, and I pushed them away. I was too shy to make an equal effort. I was self-absorbed, like most teenagers are. The people that tried to befriend me probably thought I disliked them when I wasn't as friendly to them as they were to me. Seeing as your friends are teenagers, they're probably thinking about their problems more than yours. When you snapped at them they might have been pissed off at you, but hunny, it doesn't mean they don't care about you! I know you feel like you have no one to talk to but I suggest you try and talk to a friend. Once they know what you're going through, they'll understand better and hopefully try to help you out.
As for your parents, they're only people too. I know the minute I get home my mom starts giving out to me about something or another. She gets mad at my sister literally ALL the time, but as soon as my sister leaves the room she expresses her concerns to me. My sister thinks our mom doesn't like her, but as an outsider looking in, I can see that mom absolutely adores her, but as is the nature of parent-child relationships, they get annoyed at each other and argue constantly. I urge you to please talk to your parents. If you find it difficult to get through the school day you need to know that there's somewhere comfortable and safe waiting for you.
And don't forget, it's your final year! How many of your primary school classmates are you still in touch with? Once you're out of school you might never see your classmates again so don't worry about them. **** their parties! Have your own fun! I used to feel so bleh when I'd be looking at stories of people in my year partying every week or when my friends went without me, but then I started thinking about the positives. I don't even like parties! I feel like an idiot hopping up and down with my hand in the air (does that even count as dancing?) and going around barely able to walk in my heels. Even if I was invited to some 18ths, I don't think I'd want to go. I'd be worried about who to talk to and what to to go and all the social cues etc. I'd much rather be relaxing at home doing something I love (art for me) or going into town or something. However, if you want to go to a party maybe you could invite a friend to go to a club/gig with you, or throw your own party!
Don't worry love, everyone has their ups and downs, our times will come!
Don't worry about what others think of you, just be true to yourself. And if you don't feel ready to talk to anyone in rl yet, you can DM me, I'd want someone to do the same for me 0
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