Childhood/teenage friends

JTL

Just thinking today that I'm not in touch with any of my friends from childhood/primary and secondary school/teenage years.

Hard to believe when I think back on how much time we spent together.

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

...And Justice

JTL wrote: »

Just thinking today that I'm not in touch with any of my friends from childhood/primary and secondary school/teenage years.

Hard to believe when I think back on how much time we spent together.

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

Most of mine were women, and I gave them all a good rattle, they've all got kids now and are married, we are all good friends, but we only see them about once a year

Cold War Kid

Only two - they're very close friends.

The rest are on Facebook - barely know them by now. But it's nice to be in touch with them still.

Hitchens

JTL wrote: »

Just thinking today that I'm not in touch with any of my friends from childhood/primary and secondary school/teenage years.

Hard to believe when I think back on how much time we spent together.

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

"a friend in need is a friend to be avoided"

KERSPLAT!

I don't have much time now with work and kids but I'm still friends with quite a few childhood friends 6 or 7 I talk to regularly and 2-3 I'd count as very close friends. I don't see them often enough but I have my things and they have there's, we see each other when we can and that's good enough

One eyed Jack

JTL wrote: »

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

I'm from the pre-online social networking age too (I can't use Facebook or any of that stuff at all, nothing wrong with them, but I just can't use them), and yet I keep in touch with a good many of my friends from secondary school (all boys) and the colleges and university I attended. I have one or two friends from primary school alright, but I wouldn't have a clue where a lot of them ended up.

We all keep in touch by phone, email and letters, postcards, that sort of thing. There's a good many of them on social networking sites, but me I just don't need to be on them as my life just isn't that exciting

...And Justice

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I'm from the pre-online social networking age too (I can't use Facebook or any of that stuff at all, nothing wrong with them, but I just can't use them), and yet I keep in touch with a good many of my friends from secondary school (all boys) and the colleges and university I attended. I have one or two friends from primary school alright, but I wouldn't have a clue where a lot of them ended up.

We all keep in touch by phone, email and letters, postcards, that sort of thing. There's a good many of them on social networking sites, but me I just don't need to be on them as my life just isn't that exciting

You seem to be able to use boards, no different to FB

One eyed Jack

...And Justice wrote: »

You seem to be able to use boards, no different to FB

Ahh I know how to use it (the technical aspects of it at least, probably better than a lot of people), but it's the front end stuff, I just can't take to it at all. Every once in a while my wife will ask me to audit and clean up her profiles, facebook, twitter, etc, I get a pain in my face from it tbh :pac:

LETHAL LADY

Moved to a different area from where I spent my early childhood when I was 10. I was so heartbroken at the time leaving all my friends behind that I cried throughout the journey to my new home and for weeks after.

It took me a while to settle in and make new friends but I did eventually and I'm still in touch with all of the new crowd. I even married my teenage best mates brother (kinky):pac:. Some of the old ones made contact with me through bookface so I suppose you could say we are still in touch.

Sir Osis of Liver.

No,most of them ended up in jail or dead.

...And Justice

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Moved to a different area from where I spent my early childhood when I was 10. I was so heartbroken at the time leaving all my friends behind that I cried throughout the journey to my new home and for weeks after.

It took me a while to settle in and make new friends but I did eventually and I'm still in touch with all of the new crowd. I even married my teenage best mates brother (kinky):pac:. Some of the old ones made contact with me through bookface so I suppose you could say we are still in touch.

Did you rattle any of them in your younger years? I rattled most of my friends (women) back in the 90's, most of the girls in my 6th year in school too. They all went on to have great careers, where as the lads, are dead from drugs or in jail.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

From primary school one of my best friends now was in my class. She's my cousin but we hated each other when we were little.
From secondary school id still be friends with all the girls but we wouldn't be as close as we were.
My best teenage friend is my other half. Been close almost 10 years. I feel so old.

wakka12

JTL wrote: »

Just thinking today that I'm not in touch with any of my friends from childhood/primary and secondary school/teenage years.

Hard to believe when I think back on how much time we spent together.

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

Its help is really over exaggerated, Im friends with hundreds of people on fb who I used to know from school..doesnt mean I talk to them anymore. I talk to the ones I would have talked to regardless of whether I had fb or not. If you want to keep a relationship alive it'll happen, internet or not.

osarusan

Only in (very rare) contact with one. That's all.

LETHAL LADY

...And Justice wrote: »

Did you rattle any of them in your younger years? I rattled most of my friends (women) back in the 90's, most of the girls in my 6th year in school too. They all went on to have great careers, where as the lads, are dead from drugs or in jail.

I rattled 'em all boy, rattled 'em all.

fepper

What does rattle mean??

Fortunate enough to end up back in the same town I grew up in, and married a girl I was in class with. So still in contact with my old national school and secondary school friends and will often head out for a pint with them. And even if many have moved away, Facebook keeps us in touch. Could probably earn about 3 times more in my job if I moved to Dublin or London, but hard to beat the comfort of life long friends in a good environment, the lifestyle is good.

osarusan

I mostly rattled myself back then.

Simpler times.

Datallus

fepper wrote: »

What does rattle mean??

I think it's shaking someone to see if they have skittles in their belly.

...And Justice

Datallus wrote: »

I think it's shaking someone to see if they have skittles in their belly.

Yep checking for skittles with a well greased purple headed warrior.

Aoibhinn_C

I've no longer friends with most of the kids I grew up with. Again like the OP, I finished school in '99 before the computers and internet really got going in Ireland so it was really hard staying in touch. Most of them moved away over the years and I lost track of them. My teenage best friend, Nicola, lives near my grandfather in Wexford so I meet up with her when I go down to see him. I'd actually lost track of her because she joined the army after school and was shipped off somewhere. Then about 7 or 8 years ago, I was down visiting my granddad and we went shopping together in Wexford town and I bumped into her in the queue in Dunnes. She's left the army and she's married with two kids now...

I had one bad experience with an old school friend. About ten years ago, I ran into another girl I'd been quite close to in secondary school but we had gone to different colleges so lost touch. We swapped numbers and arranged 4 or 5 meet ups over the space of a year. At first Leanne & I had loads to talk about since we hadn't seen each other in over 5 years, but after a few meet-ups when I got to know her better, I realised we didn't really have anything in common anymore and honestly I just didn't like her all that much (she'd become really clingy and annoying over the years). The problem was she felt the opposite way about me and kept telling me she was so glad we were friends again and she thought we were going to become really close again and I honestly didn't know how to tell her I didn't want to be friends with her because she seemed quite depressed and sensitive (I was afraid she might do something stupid). I kept telling her I was busy when she'd phone me and hoped she'd get the message eventually but she never did. I eventually had to change my phone number because she wouldn't leave me alone.

Datallus

...And Justice wrote: »

Yep checking for skittles with a well greased purple headed warrior.

? Is that a new rowntrees random?

Datallus

...And Justice wrote: »

Yep checking for skittles with a well greased purple headed warrior.

? Is that a new rowntrees random?

I like the purple ones and the red ones, I don't like the yellow ones.

fepper

We certainly didn't rattle any girls must have our innocence at the time

Pink Lemons

My two best friends I've known since 5th class & 1st year. Might go months without talking sometimes but when we do again after an absence it's like we haven't missed a beat. I still bump into other people I went to school with on the odd night out, usually around holidays, and after talking for 3 minutes I remember why I don't keep in touch with them

B.A._Baracus

I have no contact with the people I knew in my teenage years. In fact people who were my friends 5-7 years ago I have no contact with either.

In some ways I am kinda 50/50 about the whole thing tho as half of me realises that people naturally drift apart and that's just life. But the other half of me accepts now that the people I considered friends were nothing more than acquaintances.

It's sad to say but I do think deep down that most friendships are nothing more than acquaintances. Like there's the solid friends who are hard to come by and then there is everyone else.

...And Justice

Datallus wrote: »

? Is that a new rowntrees random?

I rattled most of 6th year girls during lunch breaks, and down the lanes in balrothery in 1995, they were gamey then.

Cold War Kid

Most of my closest friends are people from college and people who I met through others.

Datallus

...And Justice wrote: »

I rattled most of 6th year girls during lunch breaks, and down the lanes in balrothery in 1995, they were gamey then.

Yeah, the slags in my school would give it up for a 50p bag of apple-drops. Good times.

...And Justice

Datallus wrote: »

? Is that a new rowntrees random?

I like the purple ones and the red ones, I don't like the yellow ones.

If it's yellow then it's probably infected

...And Justice

Datallus wrote: »

Yeah, the slags in my school would give it up for a 50p bag of apple-drops. Good times.

And frosties

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Wait, Is the guy who's claiming to have rode a load of young ones judging them for sleeping around?? Wait what.

You're more of a dirtbag then surely, if you're going by your own standards

Datallus

...And Justice wrote: »

And frosties

Ah, you'd want to be badly stuck to be giving up your frosties for a rattle, so you would!

Smacks of desperation!

Cold War Kid

Datallus wrote: »

Yeah, the slags in my school would give it up for a 50p bag of apple-drops. Good times.

...And Justice wrote: »

And frosties

My goodness. It would have taken a LOT more for me to give up the goods. :mad:

Ten John Player Blue AT LEAST.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

And a cheese toastie at lunch time

Datallus

LexieOnRale wrote: »

And a cheese toastie at lunch time

How about a curry chip?

LETHAL LADY

Cold War Kid wrote: »

My goodness. It would have taken a LOT more for me to give up the goods. :mad:

Ten John Player Blue AT LEAST.

Yeah tis a shame they got rid of the ten boxes, sher I had to raise me standards after that.

Squall Leonhart

JTL wrote:

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Yeah... As previously mentioned by another poster, if keeping in touch is going to happen then it's going to happen. I finished secondary school more than a decade ago and though Facebook "friends" with a lot of them, I'm not really friends with any of them except for maybe 2 of them, even at that though I live in relatively close proximity to both, I don't meet them often.

Maybe I'm just bad at maintaining a friendship, maybe I just prefer my own company by and large. As another poster said, deep down I feel a lot of friends are actually acquaintances. People you are friendly with and utilise while living with /working with/ studying with, but aren't inclined to follow up on when you - or they - move elsewhere.

Sometimes it bothers me that I appear to have very few friends, other times I love the freedom that it can give me.

764dak

I miss this girl that I haven't seen since the 3rd grade (17 years ago).

764dak

764dak wrote: »

I miss this girl that I haven't seen since the 3rd grade (17 years ago).

I married the girl I met on the first day of Secondary School, 29 years ago.

She was the most beautiful girl in the class, she became even better looking since.

zeffabelli

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I married the girl I met on the first day of Secondary School, 29 years ago.

She was the most beautiful girl in the class, she became even better looking since.

I love stories like this.....😀 That is so sweet.

Menas

From primary school I am in touch with some of them on facebook.
From secondary school there was a group of 6 of us that are still my closest friends. Lucky to have fallen in with a decent group of people back then and still to have them as friends today. We have been thru it all with each other....good and bad.

pew

Yeah I'm still in touch with a few. 2 from secondary school live near me so we would see each other a lot. Another group from secondary school we have a Facebook group chat where we all keep I'm touch and organise meet ups.

I'm quite goo friends with people from college too. We would see each other a lot.

I have one close friend who I met on my 1st day of primary school and were still very close.

We have moved on with our lives but we still call each other regularly. We always meet up when both of us at home. Recently celebrated 20th anniversary too

fermanagh_man

I remember being in secondary school and our teacher saying take a look around the room and think about who you consider your friend - in 20 years you will realistically only be in regular contact with 1 off these friends

She was bang on the money

Menas

fermanagh_man wrote: »

I remember being in secondary school and our teacher saying take a look around the room and think about who you consider your friend - in 20 years you will realistically only be in regular contact with 1 off these friends

She was bang on the money

At our final assembly our principle told to look around that three of us would be dead in 5 years. He was right on that one. One accident. One shot by the British army and one Cancer.

zeffabelli

zeffabelli wrote: »

I love stories like this.....😀 That is so sweet.

I can make it even sweeter.

Met at 12, going out at 17, married at 29...and first baby at 40!

We didn't rush into anything!

Hotblack Desiato

So jealous of people who weren't forced to go to single-sex schools :mad:

Most of my schoolmates were total bellends and no longer having to be in the same room as them every day was a relief

Cold War Kid wrote: »

My goodness. It would have taken a LOT more for me to give up the goods. :mad:

Ten John Player Blue AT LEAST.

would ya do it for a Chewit?

would ya risk it for a biscuit?

would ya be willin' for a shillin'? :pac:

Conall Cernach

JTL wrote: »

Just thinking today that I'm not in touch with any of my friends from childhood/primary and secondary school/teenage years.

Hard to believe when I think back on how much time we spent together.

Finished school in days before internet made it easier to keep in touch and went our separate ways while moving on to college, first jobs etc.

Are there any other readers of this forum the same? If not, how many of your friends do you keep in touch with from that period of your life?

I'm sort of similar but years after leaving school and not having any contact with any of my old friends my sister started seeing and eventually upped and married a guy from my old class.

Fat Christy

I've been friends with 2 of closest friends since I was 12. Met them in secondary school. I also still hang around with a few others from secondary school.

Yesterday I met up with a girl I used to work with and after that I met up with a girl I used to go to college with.

You spend your whole life making friends and true friends will always stick. Buuuuttt it requires effort, which imo, is definitely worth it.

I kept in contact with no one from primary school because I didn't really make many friends when I was there. I hated primary school. I was a proper little weirdo.

Fat Christy

Hotblack Desiato wrote: »

So jealous of people who weren't forced to go to single-sex schools :mad:

Yeah I went to a mixed primary and secondary. 2 of my close friends from secondary are guys and we're still really good friends.

Couldn't imagine going to a single sex school. I don't think it would be for me. I also think it's daft seeing as you have to mix with both genders in the real world. Not only that but heterosexuals make up the majority of the population so you'll probably end up with someone of the opposite sex.

When we had matches and we had all girls schools coming to our school they'd be in hysterics to seethe fellas. We all thought it was fecking daft altogether.

Mena

Pre internet generation. I've lost touch (bar Facebook which doesn't count for jack) with most. Fact that I've moved countries, continents and hemispheres hasn't helped.