how good are you at making conversation?

Robsweezie

How chatty would you be? Do you find it easy holding a conversation, making small talk with people you do and don't know? I'm average to be honest, I'm not overly chatty and hate forcing small talk, but around certain people the conversation just flows. Depends on your overall confidence and social skills.

Mr.Crinklewood

I'm OK

Penny Tration

I'm fine with it.

I don't have much confidence at all, but I work in a customer facing role, so learning the ability to shoot the breeze was necessary.

Into The Blue

Not good.. Mainly due to the fact that i don't care what Shiite people get up to/watch..

Birneybau

Meh. You?

One of the best things ever it having a lovely chat with a complete stranger.

I'm good with conversation, it's a skill you can develop even if you think you can't. I had to overcome shyness to be able to talk freely in my job, and now I can have an easy chat with anyone. I'm still shy, but I manage it much, much better.

NotCominBack

Who needs conversations when we have tInternet

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porsche boy

Absolutely terrible. I have panic attacks having to make small talk in social situations. I have learned to shoot the breeze with customers but that's usually taking about their car or motoring in general. Beyond that it's still a struggle.
I'm a independent person generally, could easily go weeks without talking to anyone and be perfectly happy. Kinda have to talk to the wife and kids though.

the evasion_kid

I'd talk the hind legs off a donkey

irelandspurs

I find it easier to have a conversation with a stranger than I do with someone I know.

kylith

So, em, what about this weather, eh? (x 10)

NachoBusiness

I bought a phone today off a guy on Donedeal and when I met him he said: 'Hi how are you?' and I said: 'Yeah, grand what are you up to?' He was French and just looked at me with awkward confusion. All was well then as we chatted for a few mins and as I was walking away he said "Take care" and I said "Cheers, you too, I'll leave you some good feedback". Ten feet on up the road it of course dawned on me that Done Deal.. yes, you're ahead of me.. doesn't have 'feedback'

So to answer your question: not very.

One eyed Jack

I'd say I'm fairly good at it. I'm often dealing with strangers who aren't as good at hiding their unease as I am, so I'll try to put them at ease because that'll make conversation easier. It helps to have a good general knowledge so I can switch easily between string theory and GAA on a whim if I have to.

It doesn't come naturally to me though.

Boring username

Well, I...eh [cough]...y'know...[inaudible]...divil a bit shure. Right, I'm off.

Peregrine

This is me:

https://vine.co/v/bEVxx5BaeXm

kylith

kylith wrote: »

So, em, what about this weather, eh? (x 10)

Reminds me of the most cringeworthy conversation I've ever had.

A few years ago:

Candie: "Hello Mr Wonderful On Whom I've Got A Secret Crush (name changed to protect the innocent), how are you?"

Mr WOWIGASC: "Hello Candie long time no see! I'm great thanks! How are you?"

Candie: "I'm great too, thanks! How are you?"

Mr WOWIGASC: "Eh...em, nice to see you! Bye now!"

steddyeddy

I was a society auditor and in my science role gave presentations to a lot of people so I'm good at the chats. I think a lot of Irish are good at talking.

tomwaterford

I'm woeful at it most times....like could just about manage a few lines about the weather with customers the odd time I meet them....

but being honest it's painful for all invovled small talk with me if you didn't know me

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

Reminds me of the most cringeworthy conversation I've ever had.

A few years ago:

Candie: "Hello Mr Wonderful Oh Whom I've Got A Secret Crush (name changed to protect the innocent), how are you?"

Mr WOWIGASC: "Hello Candie long time no see! I'm great thanks! How are you?"

Candie: "I'm great too, thanks! How are you?"

Mr WOWIGASC: "Eh...em, nice to see you! Bye now!"

Ah I remember that chat well

PizzamanIRL

I'm grand yeah..

Amirani

Not the best, but I get by.

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Ah I remember that chat well

Uganda was great, wasn't it?

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

Uganda was great, wasn't it?

Hapana Sana dada! Idi Amin kumi Sana!

Steppenwolfe

In my early 20's I had to buy a book in order to learn how to make conversation. I used to think there was something wrong with me, because I could not easily join in with small talk. Before reading it I thought you had to be sincere and have an interest in the banal shyte most people talk about. Which was the main problem for me. After reading that book I learned how to fake it. I became an expert and can talk shyte with the best of them. The difference is I only do it to get on and I know I'm talking shyte. Most people do it for fun and have no idea they are talking shyte.

Birneybau

NachoBusiness wrote: »

I bought a phone today off a guy on Donedeal and when I met him he said: 'Hi how are you?' and I said: 'Yeah, grand what are you up to?' He was French and just looked at me with awkward confusion. All was well then as we chatted for a few mins and as I was walking away he said "Take care" and I said "Cheers, you too, I'll leave you some good feedback". Ten feet on up the road it of course dawned on me that Done Deal.. yes, you're ahead of me.. doesn't have 'feedback'

So to answer your question: not very.

Ouch, I'd say your face was scarlet...

knird evol

NachoBusiness wrote: »

I bought a phone today off a guy on Donedeal and when I met him he said: 'Hi how are you?' and I said: 'Yeah, grand what are you up to?' He was French and just looked at me with awkward confusion. All was well then as we chatted for a few mins and as I was walking away he said "Take care" and I said "Cheers, you too, I'll leave you some good feedback". Ten feet on up the road it of course dawned on me that Done Deal.. yes, you're ahead of me.. doesn't have 'feedback'

So to answer your question: not very.

4/5

I'm reasonably happy with this post.
Delivery was on time.
Service friendly.
Was a little overlong.

OldMrBrennan83

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punisher5112

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steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Hapana Sana dada! Idi Amin kumi Sana!

Umekuwa kwa Africa pia, naona.

libelula

I *hate* smalltalk with a passion, but I can do it whenever the situation calls for it. It's nice to be nice an all that. But if I meet someone I can have an actual conversation with, about something DEADLY AND FUN, then I'll chat away for hours.

Then some days I just despise absolutely every single human that I meet and the thought of having to utter simple sentences like "good morning" or "can I have a plain white scone please" fill me with such a rage that is quite frankly worrying.
Then I eat the scone, drink the tea, and I'm all lovely again

KatW4

I'm useless at it. I dread going anywhere that will mean I'll have to make conversation with people I don't know. It makes me feel sick for days beforehand thinking about it. I especially hate talking in front of large groups. My heart pounds, I start to panic and my face goes bright red.

On the otherhand, if I am with my friends or drunk, I don't shut up!

castletownman

Not only was it a "thing" growing up in my immediate and extended families to be able to hold a conversation with anyone, but it is a necessity now in my career as a journalist too.

Nothing better though than striking up conversations with strangers in unfamiliar towns on nights/weekends away.

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

Umekuwa kwa Africa pia, naona.

Ndiyo dada Congo, Uganda, Tanzania, Ethiopia na Egypt. Badaye mini kuenda Congo tena.

Salama dada.

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Ndiyo dada Congo, Uganda, Tanzania, Ethiopia na Egypt. Badaye mini kuenda Congo tena.

Salama dada.

Nimekuwa kwa Ivory ivoire, Uganda, Misri, SA nami nitakwenda kwa Mali mwaka ujao. Chunga ndugu!

Chain Smoker

Fairly bad, either have nothing to say or I turn it into an inquisition asking all kinds of weird and invasive questions out of nowhere. The amount of times I've found myself talking about child abuse to a total stranger is far higher than it ever should be.

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

Nimekuwa kwa Ivory ivoire, Uganda, Misri, SA nami nitakwenda kwa Mali mwaka ujao. Chunga ndugu!

Do!! Visuri Sana. La la salama mini choka Sana dada.

bottlebrush

I'm good at starting a conversation in a group of people who don't know one another, then walking off and leaving them at it..
Just recently I was on a course with a group of other women none of which knew one another, having a coffee break and standing in a circle holding our coffee cups and shifting from one foot to another and nobody saying anything. I just admired somebody's earrings and asked her where she got them and that got the conversation started about jewellery, clothes, make up and the rest. I just faded into the background then.
I have no interest in jewellery or fashion !

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Do!! Visuri Sana. La la salama mini choka Sana dada.

I can't quite make this one out, but I will go soon! Well, probably next year.

Apologies to all native Swahili speakers for the language murdering.

Peregrine

Candie wrote: »

Nimekuwa kwa Ivory ivoire, Uganda, Misri, SA nami nitakwenda kwa Mali mwaka ujao. Chunga ndugu!

steddyeddy wrote: »

Do!! Visuri Sana. La la salama mini choka Sana dada.

Guys, English please!

Also, take it to PM :pac:

5ub

Yeah, I'm quite good at keeping a conversation going but I usually wouldn't be one for starting a conversation without a reason to. I'd always think I was just annoying someone or something...:o

Peregrine

Peregrine wrote: »

Guys, English please!

Also, take it to PM :pac:

Sorry Daddy!

blackcard

steddyeddy wrote: »

Do!! Visuri Sana. La la salama mini choka Sana dada.

Get a room, you two

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

I can't quite make this one out, but I will go soon! Well, probably next year.

Apologies to all native Swahili speakers for the language murdering.

Mine was perfect you cheeky! I have to get travelling again.

RayM

A bit like Brian Cowen in this video...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhYb6ZM-vds

I like the way he nervously unbuttons and then buttons up his jacket because he's socially out of his depth and doesn't know what to do with his hands. That's basically me in any social situation.

Wibbs

Very good at it in general. I'm the extrovert type, though I don't buy into the intro/extro thing so much. I'm a little of one and a little of the other, but more one, IMHO like the majority of folks, with the rest at the more extreme of the spectrum. I'm OK with most subjects though sport I'd struggle on, ditto with domestic type stuff. In any event conversation is as much, if not more about listening. People love being listened to. IMH and IME both extreme introverts and extroverts can miss that. Both types spring from a self centred view of the world, again IME and IMH.

ToddyDoody

It really does depend on who it's with. I can waffle on as if talking to myself with some, with others I'm saying 'kill me' in my head.

tomwaterford

RayM wrote: »

A bit like Brian Cowen in this video...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhYb6ZM-vds

I like the way he nervously unbuttons and then buttons up his jacket because he's socially out of his depth and doesn't know what to do with his hands. That's basically me in any social situation.

I will say this much....smartphones are a blessing in such situations as being in a big crowd talking if your struggling....there's ALWAYS something needs checking

Lia_lia

I grand with making conversation. I've worked in many customer facing jobs so I've had to be good at making conversation. Don't always enjoy it! I'm also fairly sociable. Not as much as I used to be, however..

Fox_In_Socks

ToddyDoody wrote: »

It really does depend on who it's with. I can waffle on as if talking to myself with some, with others I'm saying 'kill me' in my head.

For me, when talking to some people, there's no way out, it's awkward and I would much prefer to pretend that I didn't speak English.

Some unkind people would say my thick accent means I don't speak English as it is :pac:

lazybones32

I'm decent at conversation but intolerant of talking for the sake of talking.

"Say but little and say it well" - Irish proverb.