Help please

Heartbrokenxxx

Was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years who I really thought was the one I was so in love we had our problems but we always got through them
But in feb this year without warning and the day before my 30th bday which a party was planned for he dumped Me through a phone call I was devastated didn't even want to celebrate my bday
Any way ff 7 months I still can't get over him I would consider myself attractive I always get attention from guys on nights out and I went on a few dates one of the guys was a fitness model who is big time pursuing Me but I can't get over my ex
On dates everything reminds me of him
When a guy wears the same after shave or drives a similar car or even listenining to the same music it breaks my heart
My question is will I ever get over him? Yes iv done the blocking and keeping busy it dosent work
I feel I can never love again
Ps may I ad he's moved on straight away playing girls all over the place and he admitted to Me a few weeks ago when I rang him to see if he wanted to talk that he's happier being single pulling loads of girls because he has no respect for women
HELP

desbrook

You shouldn't have his number - delete it . Unfriend him on social media. Avoid the pubs/clubs he goes to and it may be necessary to avoid mutual friends.

Overall you need to make a brand new ex free life. Now is the time to make all those changes is your life you possibly could. Change everything from your hair to the way your bed faces.

Primarily I'm saying go and do new things with new people.

Oh and accept you can't and shouldn't have him back.

Heartbrokenxxx

desbrook wrote: »

You shouldn't have his number - delete it . Unfriend him on social media. Avoid the pubs/clubs he goes to and it may be necessary to avoid mutual friends.

Overall you need to make a brand new ex free life. Now is the time to make all those changes is your life you possibly could. Change everything from your hair to the way your bed faces.

Primarily I'm saying go and do new things with new people.

Oh and accept you can't and shouldn't have him back.

Thank u so much for reply it's great advice I tried so much to do all that I had a complete Make over changed hair and clothes n had cosmetic surgery .,,
Gave my house a make over ,,changed the places we ate and hung out done everything but still I want him so much iv met amazing men 10 times better looking than him but I realised its not about looks of lust I truly loved him
Ironically he always questioned it and Always thought I'd fancy a better looking guy
God I would have been happy to spend the rest of my days with him
I'm in tears here
Why is it still so hard after this long

CollyFlower

"he has no respect for women" he sounds like a creep....... Respect yourself and forgot about him, I know it's not going to be easy to do after been together so long.

Heartbrokenxxx

If someone offered me a switch that I could press to turn these feelings off and be over him for ever then regardless the price I would beg steal or borrow but I'm telling u I'd get it
I just want to b happy again

Heartbrokenxxx

CollyFlower wrote: »

"he has no respect for women" he sounds like a creep....... Respect yourself and forgot about him, I know it's not going to be easy to do after been together so long.

Iv tried I have done everything I'm
Even thinking about going to see a hypnotist
Would that even work?
I'm so lost
I honestly thought this was it now I'm n limbo at 30 can't even stomach a guy past the first date yet he's 30 but openly flaunting his 20 year old conquests and how hot they are on Facebook it's such a kick in the face I feel ill

CollyFlower

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Iv tried I have done everything I'm
Even thinking about going to see a hypnotist
Would that even work?
I'm so lost
I honestly thought this was it now I'm n limbo at 30 can't even stomach a guy past the first date yet he's 30 but openly flaunting his 20 year old conquests and how hot they are on Facebook it's such a kick in the face I feel ill

He sounds very immature, what 30 year old would carry on like that? ... I don't think hypnotist will help.

DoYouEvenLift

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years who I really thought was the one I was so in love we had our problems but we always got through them
But in feb this year without warning and the day before my 30th bday which a party was planned for he dumped Me through a phone call I was devastated didn't even want to celebrate my bday
Any way ff 7 months I still can't get over him I would consider myself attractive I always get attention from guys on nights out and I went on a few dates one of the guys was a fitness model who is big time pursuing Me but I can't get over my ex
On dates everything reminds me of him
When a guy wears the same after shave or drives a similar car or even listenining to the same music it breaks my heart
My question is will I ever get over him? Yes iv done the blocking and keeping busy it dosent work
I feel I can never love again
Ps may I ad he's moved on straight away playing girls all over the place and he admitted to Me a few weeks ago when I rang him to see if he wanted to talk that he's happier being single pulling loads of girls because he has no respect for women
HELP

This guy's a scumbag. Not because he's pulling lots of women and has no respect for them, but because he openly said all of this to you, his ex of 7 years. Having been in a relationship with somebody for so long, unless it ended badly (i.e. cheating, betrayal etc.), it's sort of a given that the other person will find it hard to get over the breakup and just being nice and caring towards them during the process isn't exactly difficult to do since it's for someone they've cared about for so long.

Hopefully you've got friends standing by you, but take yourself out of the dating scene altogether for another while and concentrate on yourself or a project or something that will personally benefit yourself like working out, yoga, dancing classes or whatever. There's no specific amount of time for getting over someone, it's different for everyone, so just take your time.

Heartbrokenxxx

CollyFlower wrote: »

He sounds very immature, what 30 year old would carry on like that? ... I don't think hypnotist will help.

Well if they can help u give up drink and cigs I thought perhaps They might help me give up this addiction

CollyFlower

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Well if they can help u give up drink and cigs I thought perhaps They might help me give up this addiction

I've never heard of hypnosis to get over a relationship, maybe it works, check it out if you think it would help but please don't take him back.

Penny Tration

You said in your first post that you've blocked him on everything and cut contact.

But then you go on to say you rang him recently and you're talking about what you've seen on his facebook.

You're not going to get over him if you're checking his facebook and contacting him.

You need to block him on every social media or phone account you have. Then maybe you can start to move on.

desbrook

Most normal guys would hate an ex calling and going over old ground like this . Sounds to me like he likes the ego boost . You need to see this guy for what he is.

Alf Veedersane

OP, sorry to hear how this has all panned out.

All I can say is you will get over it but it will take time.

But you need to remove all chances of seeing him. You don't need to see his Facebook or any other social media. You need to avoid where you might see him.

Don't expect to find someone else so soon. You don't even need to date yet because you're clearly not ready for it.

It would help if you saw his behaviour since for what it is rather than fixate on the good times. And the future you imagined with him was predicated on him not being an ar*ehole which he has turned out to be.

Just take time for yourself to do things you enjoy and spend time with friends and family.

LegacyUser

I think he made that comment about not respecting women as a way of telling you to go away. That's a minor detail at this stage anyway. You haven't properly cut contact with him even though you said you did. You know far too much about what's going on in his life than it healthy for you. You're hurting yourself all over again if you are finding out what he's up to. It is also keeping him very alive in your mind.

Cutting contact means deleting their number and not phoning them. It means no texts or messages. No Facebook or Twitter or Snapchat. You also should be blocking his number on your phone so he can't call you. No good can come of him calling you - it would only be for his own gain.

In your frame of mind trying to date other men is not a good thing to do. Why so soon anyway? Are you the sort of person who can't cope with being single and needs to have a man in her life?

I don't know if hypnosis works for these things but if you can't move on you could try going to see a counsellor.

daisybelle2008

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Thank u so much for reply it's great advice I tried so much to do all that I had a complete Make over changed hair and clothes n had cosmetic surgery .,,
Gave my house a make over ,,changed the places we ate and hung out done everything but still I want him so much iv met amazing men 10 times better looking than him but I realised its not about looks of lust I truly loved him
Ironically he always questioned it and Always thought I'd fancy a better looking guy
God I would have been happy to spend the rest of my days with him
I'm in tears here
Why is it still so hard after this long

Not sure about hypnosis, but maybe spend some money on counselling, your self esteem seems very low. The relationship seemed very unbalanced and you have him up on a pedestal. The cosmetic surgery and make overs are all very well but it is your head that needs the work, not the outside.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,
I was in a similar situation to yourself this time two years ago, out of a 6 yr relationship. Tbh I was totally lost and confused for at least a year afterwards. I don't think getting over a long term relationship like that happens quickly. You have to do what is right for you. I had plenty of friends telling me to get out and date/shag as many men as possible and id get over it. But that wasn't for me, I was in no emotional state to date anyone, let alone anything else. I took time to myself, tried to get my life back that way it was before I met him, got into mindfulness and excercise to repair my self esteem and self worth and generally focused on myself and what made me happy. Two years later I'm just ready now to look at dating/relationships. Tbh it's like a bereavement, for the person and what you thought could have been. It takes time to get over that. Best of luck op.

Sunflower 27

Are you seeing this as a challenge to get him to want you again?

You mention the model chasing you and I am struggling to see the relevance of that. Why does that matter? Sounds like you want your ex to choose you over all the other women so as to make you feel as you are in some way more special than anyone else.

Also, why would you want to be with a man that openly says he does not respect women? Is that not a red flag to you? Because it should be.

daisybelle2008

Sunflower 27 wrote: »

Are you seeing this as a challenge to get him to want you again?

You mention the model chasing you and I am struggling to see the relevance of that. Why does that matter? Sounds like you want your ex to choose you over all the other women so as to make you feel as you are in some way more special than anyone else.

Also, why would you want to be with a man that openly says he does not respect women? Is that not a red flag to you? Because it should be.

That is an interesting point, I re-read the OPs posts and they are really focused on looks/attractiveness, hers, his and others. OP you seem less interested in what kind of person he is (no respect for women, phone dumping after seven years) rather than validating yourself and your looks (cosmetic surgery) and winning him back from the hotties he is chasing. As I said in my last post, work on the inside and get counselling. The focus is very superficial and ego driven all round.

Heartbrokenxxx

Thank u all for the advice

via4

Sorry to hear about what your going through. You spent such a significant amount of time with him you are still trying to adjust. All the things you are doing fair play to you sounds like you are trying so hard to get over it. The guy might think you are having a great time and is a bit tit for tat and if he was truly happy he wudn't be writing all that stuff on fb that is cringe he is showing everyone how insecure he is. You should be laughing at him the way he is carrying on. It's only been seven months so give yourself more time and and beat yourself up. He will get fed up of that lifestyle and he will come crawling back to you trust me.

Funtrepreneur

7 months is not a very long time. It's no time at all really. It's been two years since I broke up with my ex girlfriend and I can only recently say that I have moved on. Even though I have moments still where I think about her. Time is the only healer. Try to avoid to much alcohol also as it depresses even more.

Heartbrokenxxx

Funtrepreneur wrote: »

7 months is not a very long time. It's no time at all really. It's been two years since I broke up with my ex girlfriend and I can only recently say that I have moved on. Even though I have moments still where I think about her. Time is the only healer. Try to avoid to much alcohol also as it depresses even more.

It's so hard
I find weekends esp hard waking up alone as this was always our time

Heartbrokenxxx

op here with an update
I had a bit too much to drink lastnight and rang him and his responce was wtf do u want? I'm having a great laugh about how pathetic you are with my friends, everyone's laughing at u,
Get this into ur head if u were the last woman alive and on fire I wouldn't piss on u to put u out
Fcuk off u psyco
Omg!! I'm still in shock and the hangover is making me more depressed
Jesus he hates me

Tilly

WTF? You brought that on yourself by ringing him. You were told to get rid of all numbers, emails and totally cut him out but you havent and now this has happened. I'm sorry to be so harsh with you but you really need to cut contact and delete EVERYTHING so you cant make a mistake like this again.

He's a nasty prick. No one wants someone as mean as him in their life. Just keep those words in your head if you ever feel the need to think about him with rose tinted glasses. He's a total dick!

Heartbrokenxxx

Tilly wrote: »

WTF? You brought that on yourself by ringing him. You were told to get rid of all numbers, emails and totally cut him out but you havent and now this has happened. I'm sorry to be so harsh with you but you really need to cut contact and delete EVERYTHING so you cant make a mistake like this again.

He's a nasty prick. No one wants someone as mean as him in their life. Just keep those words in your head if you ever feel the need to think about him with rose tinted glasses. He's a total dick!

I know I'm so dumb I know his num off as we were together so long
I'm silly for contacting him it was a moment of weakness brought on by the wine

Tilly

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

I know I'm so dumb I know his num off as we were together so long
I'm silly for contacting him it was a moment of weakness brought on by the wine

It's done now, no point stressing about it. I can bearly remember my name after wine so maybe if you didnt have it saved you might not remember it when drunk? He's an evil fecker for speaking to you like that. Just keep remembering how nasty that call was when you want to speak to him again.

BTW i seriously doubt any of his mates are even concered about you contacting him let alone laughing. He only said all that to get at you.

Heartbrokenxxx

Tilly wrote: »

It's done now, no point stressing about it. I can bearly remember my name after wine so maybe if you didnt have it saved you might not remember it when drunk? He's an evil fecker for speaking to you like that. Just keep remembering how nasty that call was when you want to speak to him again.

BTW i seriously doubt any of his mates are even concered about you contacting him let alone laughing. He only said all that to get at you.

God I hope so
Even tho I never really see them
I just hope he's not making me out to be some crazy bunny boiler although lastnight after that call that's exactly how I felt

Banaba

OP I have had a bad break up in the past too but I think you should forget about meeting someone else for the time being and spend time on yourself. You say you cant stomach a fella past a first date, that shows you are not ready. Delete him off Social media what you dont know wont hurt you. I know it doesnt seem like it now but you had a lucky escape. Imagine being married with kids and he wakes up one morning and decided he wanted to be "single pulling women" how bad would that be. Take time to yourself and it will all work out. Best wishes x

Heartbrokenxxx

Banaba wrote: »

OP I have had a bad break up in the past too but I think you should forget about meeting someone else for the time being and spend time on yourself. You say you cant stomach a fella past a first date, that shows you are not ready. Delete him off Social media what you dont know wont hurt you. I know it doesnt seem like it now but you had a lucky escape. Imagine being married with kids and he wakes up one morning and decided he wanted to be "single pulling women" how bad would that be. Take time to yourself and it will all work out. Best wishes x

Very true I think I need to get him off that pedestal I have him on

Banaba

Yes OP he has too much free rent in your head which is understandable anyone would be the same. What he done was cowardly and cruel esp on your birthday and it will stick with you for a while but what I usually do when im dumped is focus on being the best I can be and then go out and try dating again but only when I feel good in myself and Im happy I am someone who would want to date me if that makes sense

Ursus Horribilis

You can't control your feelings but you can do something about your actions. You've told us that weekends are especially tough for you. Make plans for yourself so that you'll not be sat on the sofa getting drunk and wallowing in self-pity. Alcohol is a depressant so you need to watch that. If you have a smartphone there are apps that will stop you drunk dialing your ex.

I also wonder how wonderful your relationship actually was if this is the sort of person your ex has turned out to be. He has a vicious tongue in his head. Did he really keep that hidden for the 7 years you were together? I find it hard to believe that someone nice would turn so vitriolic out of the blue. You are coming across as very needy and the sort of person who can't function on her own. I wouldn't be surprised if he was the dominant one who called the shots and you were the weaker one who was over-dependent on him.

Hypnosis isn't a silver bullet either. If it was there wouldn't be a smoker left in the country. It works for some people but not for others. If you can't get over this guy and your dependence on him, spending your money on some counselling would be a better move. There is something wrong if you still have him on a pedestal after all this time.

LegacyUser

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years who I really thought was the one I was so in love we had our problems but we always got through them
But in feb this year without warning and the day before my 30th bday which a party was planned for he dumped Me through a phone call I was devastated didn't even want to celebrate my bday
Any way ff 7 months I still can't get over him I would consider myself attractive I always get attention from guys on nights out and I went on a few dates one of the guys was a fitness model who is big time pursuing Me but I can't get over my ex
On dates everything reminds me of him
When a guy wears the same after shave or drives a similar car or even listenining to the same music it breaks my heart
My question is will I ever get over him? Yes iv done the blocking and keeping busy it dosent work
I feel I can never love again
Ps may I ad he's moved on straight away playing girls all over the place and he admitted to Me a few weeks ago when I rang him to see if he wanted to talk that he's happier being single pulling loads of girls because he has no respect for women
HELP

my girlfriend dumped me about 6 months after 6 years and it took awhile seeing her on facebook on saturday nights really broke my heart but i think time dose help and i bet you felt abit better talking about it so head up and look forward theres got to be someone else out there at least thats what im thinking

Heartbrokenxxx

Odus fell down wrote: »

You can't control your feelings but you can do something about your actions. You've told us that weekends are especially tough for you. Make plans for yourself so that you'll not be sat on the sofa getting drunk and wallowing in self-pity. Alcohol is a depressant so you need to watch that. If you have a smartphone there are apps that will stop you drunk dialing your ex.

I also wonder how wonderful your relationship actually was if this is the sort of person your ex has turned out to be. He has a vicious tongue in his head. Did he really keep that hidden for the 7 years you were together? I find it hard to believe that someone nice would turn so vitriolic out of the blue. You are coming across as very needy and the sort of person who can't function on her own. I wouldn't be surprised if he was the dominant one who called the shots and you were the weaker one who was over-dependent on him.

Hypnosis isn't a silver bullet either. If it was there wouldn't be a smoker left in the country. It works for some people but not for others. If you can't get over this guy and your dependence on him, spending your money on some counselling would be a better move. There is something wrong if you still have him on a pedestal after all this time.

Good advice thank u
No he's always flew off the handle and said abusive things but always apologised
My sister told me she seen him on sat driving around with music blaring and he's arm is hanging outta the car waving at everyone in the best of form
So I'm here in Bits and he's never been better

Tilly

A 30 something driving around with the music blaring and his arm out the window? What a wanker! You're well shot.

Heartbrokenxxx

Tilly wrote: »

A 30 something driving around with the music blaring and his arm out the window? What a wanker! You're well shot.

I know she was directly behind him driving through town and she thought he was behaving so bizarre
His arm was out the window like he was leaning over to that side and she said he was gesturing a hello to nearly everyone that looked at him
She was like omg and yes the music was blaring she's only 28 and she said she was cringing for him

Sunflower 27

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

I know she was directly behind him driving through town and she thought he was behaving so bizarre
His arm was out the window like he was leaning over to that side and she said he was gesturing a hello to nearly everyone that looked at him
She was like omg and yes the music was blaring she's only 28 and she said she was cringing for him

I think you need to stop concerning yourself with what he does. He is a free agent now and can do whatever he likes.

I think you would be better off telling your family/friends to stop telling you what he is doing as you are only going to analyse it to death.

Heartbrokenxxx

Sunflower 27 wrote: »

I think you need to stop concerning yourself with what he does. He is a free agent now and can do whatever he likes.

I think you would be better off telling your family/friends to stop telling you what he is doing as you are only going to analyse it to death.

Yes that's good advice thank u

Ursus Horribilis

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

No he always flew off the handle and said abusive things but always apologised

So why did you stay with him if he was saying abusive things to you? He wasn't and isn't a very nice person. Why were you drawn to him if he treated you in this way? Do you think you don't deserve to go out with a nice man?

Heartbrokenxxx

Odus fell down wrote: »

So why did you stay with him if he was saying abusive things to you? He wasn't and isn't a very nice person. Why were you drawn to him if he treated you in this way? Do you think you don't deserve to go out with a nice man?

He has a very short fuse but he also had a fun loving side
He could fly off the handle about something but 2 mins later send me a message about how sorry he was n how much he loved me
I always forgave him because I hate drama n always wanted peace and harmony

Ursus Horribilis

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

He has a very short fuse but he also had a fun loving side
He could fly off the handle about something but 2 mins later send me a message about how sorry he was and how much he loved me
I always forgave him because I hate drama and always wanted peace and harmony

This isn't what goes on in a healthy relationship. Did you ever have a boyfriend before this guy? If this is the way he behaved, it's no wonder you're in the mess you're in. That sort of controlling behaviour messes with your head and turns you into a submissive person with no self-confidence.

You talked about hypnosis earlier so you must have cash to spare for this. Don't go to a hypnotist. Go see a qualified counsellor and talk this through with them. I think you will find that you will gain some insights into what happened here.

Dial Hard

Heartbrokenxxx wrote:

He has a very short fuse but he also had a fun loving side He could fly off the handle about something but 2 mins later send me a message about how sorry he was n how much he loved me I always forgave him because I hate drama n always wanted peace and harmony

Sorry, OP, but if you hate drama then why did you spend 7 years with a man who sounds like he was nothing but?

I really think you should look into counselling. You sound very naive and willing to accept really bizarre behaviour as normal. I would have thought both of you were in your teens if you hadn't mentioned your ages.

You absolutely deserve peace and harmony in a relationship. But one person continually tip-toeing around the other in order to keep it doesn't count. What you've described in your last post sounds borderline abusive.

conor8989

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years who I really thought was the one I was so in love we had our problems but we always got through them
But in feb this year without warning and the day before my 30th bday which a party was planned for he dumped Me through a phone call I was devastated didn't even want to celebrate my bday
Any way ff 7 months I still can't get over him I would consider myself attractive I always get attention from guys on nights out and I went on a few dates one of the guys was a fitness model who is big time pursuing Me but I can't get over my ex
On dates everything reminds me of him
When a guy wears the same after shave or drives a similar car or even listenining to the same music it breaks my heart
My question is will I ever get over him? Yes iv done the blocking and keeping busy it dosent work
I feel I can never love again
Ps may I ad he's moved on straight away playing girls all over the place and he admitted to Me a few weeks ago when I rang him to see if he wanted to talk that he's happier being single pulling loads of girls because he has no respect for women
HELP

my girlfriend left me after 6 years and seeing her out on facebook every weekend broke my heart but you will get over it in time lucky for you your managing to go out on dates i havet even done that yet talking helps and you will meet somebody special one day

Ursus Horribilis

conor8989 wrote: »

my girlfriend left me after 6 years and seeing her out on facebook every weekend broke my heart but you will get over it in time lucky for you your managing to go out on dates I haven't even done that yet talking helps and you will meet somebody special one day

Conor, if you haven't done so already you should be cutting contact with your ex. If you can't bring yourself to unfriend her on Facebook you should at the very least be stopping her updates from showing up on your feed. Looking at photos of her out at the weekend didn't do you one bit of good, did it? In fact it's just about the worst thing you could have done.

I don't think going out on dates is an indication of anything. It's not bringing Heartbrokenxxx any happiness because she's still pining for that horrible ex of hers. Trying to date someone when your head's all over the place is just about the worst thing you can do.

Heartbrokenxxx

Odus fell down wrote: »

Conor, if you haven't done so already you should be cutting contact with your ex. If you can't bring yourself to unfriend her on Facebook you should at the very least be stopping her updates from showing up on your feed. Looking at photos of her out at the weekend didn't do you one bit of good, did it? In fact it's just about the worst thing you could have done.

I don't think going out on dates is an indication of anything. It's not bringing Heartbrokenxxx any happiness because she's still pining for that horrible ex of hers. Trying to date someone when your head's all over the place is just about the worst thing you can do.

Yes I forced myself to do it hoping I could get over him but they made me miserable even been out with a guy who wasn't him I could feel my heart breaking so I'd drink more n then I'd wake up the next day feeling worse
It's so hard not to check fb tho just to see what they are doing

Heartbrokenxxx

Odus fell down wrote: »

This isn't what goes on in a healthy relationship. Did you ever have a boyfriend before this guy? If this is the way he behaved, it's no wonder you're in the mess you're in. That sort of controlling behaviour messes with your head and turns you into a submissive person with no self-confidence.

You talked about hypnosis earlier so you must have cash to spare for this. Don't go to a hypnotist. Go see a qualified counsellor and talk this through with them. I think you will find that you will gain some insights into what happened here.

Does counselling actually work tho I think I'd be embarrassed to admit I
Needed therapy to get over him

Heartbrokenxxx

Dial Hard wrote: »

Sorry, OP, but if you hate drama then why did you spend 7 years with a man who sounds like he was nothing but?

I really think you should look into counselling. You sound very naive and willing to accept really bizarre behaviour as normal. I would have thought both of you were in your teens if you hadn't mentioned your ages.

You absolutely deserve peace and harmony in a relationship. But one person continually tip-toeing around the other in order to keep it doesn't count. What you've described in your last post sounds borderline abusive.

I need to do something for sure because it's nearly
7 months since we split and if feels worse than ever

Ursus Horribilis

Heartbroken - what you should do right now is unfriend him. Unless his privacy settings are quite open, you'll no longer be able to view his page unless you are his friend.

Heartbrokenxxx

Odus fell down wrote: »

Heartbroken - what you should do right now is unfriend him. Unless his privacy settings are quite open, you'll no longer be able to view his page unless you are his friend.

I'm not on fb but his page is completely open
Everything is visable whether ur friends with him or not

Ursus Horribilis

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Does counselling actually work though. I think I'd be embarrassed to admit I needed therapy to get over him

You don't need to tell anyone that you're going to a counsellor. Why should you? It's your own business, not anyone else's. Yes counselling can work. It's not going to magically solve your problems because you've got to heal yourself. But you could do with talking this through with someone who doesn't know you. Someone who can help you understand why you're stuck and what you're doing wrong. Someone who can give you the coping mechanisms to move forward.

Eeden

Heartbrokenxxx wrote: »

Get this into ur head if u were the last woman alive and on fire I wouldn't piss on u to put u out
Fcuk off u psyco...

Everytime you feel sad and heartbroken, you should think of these words and try to realise how lucky you are not to be saddled with such an absolute sh*tbag. You don't deserve that. Nobody deserves that.

professore

He sounds like a lovely guy altogether. You've had a lucky escape !