explaining death to a 3 year old

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My brother passed away in his late teens about ten years ago. My 3 year old son has started asking the difficult questions about his uncle... He asks can we visit him and or he visit us, how he got to heaven, can he give his toys back to him cos he might need them in heaven (plays with some "old" toys in my mother's when she minds him). I have tried to explain best I can and kept it simple but he seems frustrated with my answers and asks more questions. I am finding it really difficult dealing with this.I contacted my public health nurse for guidance but she suggested I go to a councillor to deal with my grieving. I feel I have delt with it a few years ago with the help of a councillor. I don't feel it is what I need to deal with this issue. I am looking for anyone's advice, opinion or guidance on how to help explain this to my son.
Thanks in advance.

John Mason

There is a lovely story called Waterbugs and Dragonflies which explains death to children.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Water-Bugs-Dragonfiles-Explaining-Children/dp/0829816240

Below is the link to the actual story

http://http://www.rainbowsbridge.com/belovedhearts/stories/Doris-WaterbugsandDragonflies-632617144169637500.aspx

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Thank you for your suggestion, looking into getting the book for him, he loves books! Much appreciated!!
Cheers SGD