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Step daughter moved out because of me!

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    draiochtanois
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    Elliottsmum79
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    draiochtanois wrote: »
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    Absolutely, hit the nail on the head here I think. He's giving them an implicit ok to be disrespectful. And the "cant undestand you love them", we'll that'd drive me NUTS!!!!!!!! You've been left out in a cold wind on this one and I'm not sure your partner sees this happening at all and when the probem arises you're just seen as part of it/the reason for it. You may in effect be a repository for his guilt re the split up with her mom and hence getting the real short straw here. Time to get assertive about your needs I guess, they matter too. Keep us posted on progress.


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    mangotracy
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    Elliottsmum79 wrote: »
    Absolutely, hit the nail on the head here I think. He's giving them an implicit ok to be disrespectful. And the "cant undestand you love them", we'll that'd drive me NUTS!!!!!!!! You've been left out in a cold wind on this one and I'm not sure your partner sees this happening at all and when the probem arises you're just seen as part of it/the reason for it. You may in effect be a repository for his guilt re the split up with her mom and hence getting the real short straw here. Time to get assertive about your needs I guess, they matter too. Keep us posted on progress.

    Thanks, it is implicit so that is why he doesn't see it. He must know that. He's moved out for a few months now - we were supposed to talk about us - but he doesn't want to talk about our relationship at all, just his daughters.

    He said that his daughter wants to move back in with us and that he'd resent me greatly if he couldn't do this. Yet when I reminded him how resentful she was/rude he just seemed to lay blame on me, saying I could be 'more relaxed'. He's still moved out. Not sure what else I can do - it's not my house so I need to think about what my options are - I have no job as bringing up our toddler son!
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    draiochtanois
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