Weddings.

kneemos

Is there a written or unwritten law that says weddings have to be on a Friday or Saturday?
No wonder Hotels are booked up.

Menas

No rule. But have a wedding on any other day but saturday and people end up bitching about you behind your back for 'making me take a day off work'.
Cant please them all. I had mine on a friday, and a satuday!

kneemos

kneemos wrote: »

Is there a written or unwritten law that says weddings have to be on a Friday or Saturday?
No wonder Hotels are booked up.

Yeah. An unwritten one, based on common sense.

Everyone, and I mean everyone, thinks weddings on any other day suck. It forces guests to waste holidays to go to an event that they see as a chore anyway, and it is a bit inconsiderate by the couple. By all means have the day on a Thursday - and I have gritted my teeth and gone to a Thursday wedding - even ask people along, but just know that every single one of them is muttering under their breath that it just sucks. It can also look a bit cheap.

El Weirdo

If you're having a civil marriage, it can only be on a weekday, afaik.

Magico Gonzalez

Had ours on a Thurs...wasn't universally popular but it saved us a fortune and the people that mattered were there.

The Backwards Man

If I ever get married, it will be on a Monday.

It'll be 7.09pm on a Thursday or nothing for me. Anything else is too conformist.

Super-Rush

I thought i was getting married on a Saturday for about three weeks. It wasn't until we gave the date to the hotel that i realised it was on a Friday. Hope i remember to show up.

GTX 780

If I ever get married, I certainly won't be having a wedding.

Complete and utter waste of money.

Tombi!

Solomon Grundy,
Born on a Monday,
Christened on Tuesday,
Married on Wednesday,
Took ill on Thursday,
Grew worse on Friday,
Died on Saturday,
Buried on Sunday.
That was the end,
Of Solomon Grundy

So no, there is no specific rule.

MistyCheese

The Backwards Man wrote: »

If I ever get married, it will be on a Monday.

My husband and I married on a Monday.

A total of one person took time off work - my maid of honour. It was a small wedding though, >20 people.

noway12345

Weddings are so nice.

biko

Yup, I just checked my "guide to everything". It's right there in chapter 3.

Pherekydes

Married on a Tuesday. Most people were off work anyway, as it was the Tuesday between Xmas and NY.

xalot

I think having it mid week is a great way to get rid of the people you have to invite but dont really want there. Anybody who is very close to you wouldn't miss your wedding for the world.

I've been invited to mid week weddings for friends and didn't mind at all - it certainly beats being in work, and for anyone whose wedding I wasn't pushed about attending I had the perfect excuse of not being able to get the day off!

valoren

Getting married on a Tuesday.

In New York.

On our own.

Then cruising around the Caribbean. On our own.

Egginacup

MistyCheese wrote: »

My husband and I married on a Monday.

A total of one person took time off work - my maid of honour. It was a small wedding though, >20 people.

Your entire circle of friends and relatives are dolebirds?

awec

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding that's been on a weekend.

Presumably it's too difficult to get weekend dates unless you're willing to wait for a year or two longer
.

Menas

awec wrote: »

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding that's been on a weekend.

Presumably it's too difficult to get weekend dates unless you're willing to wait for a year or two longer
.

Or pay the big money! Hotels will also put you on a cancellation list if you dont mind arranging your wedding with less than optimal notice.

libelula

valoren wrote: »

Getting married on a Tuesday.

In New York.

On our own.

Then cruising around the Caribbean. On our own.

Bliss

Inspector Coptoor

We got married on a Wednesday but it was New Year's Eve so it worked.

Turtyturd

biko wrote: »

Yup, I just checked my "guide to everything". It's right there in chapter 3.

Chapter 3 - Stupid Questions.

A whip around in AH to get this for the OP could save a lot of hassle.

Sam Kade

Menas wrote: »

No rule. But have a wedding on any other day but saturday and people end up bitching about you behind your back for 'making me take a day off work'.
Cant please them all. I had mine on a friday, and a satuday!

Did you get married twice?

The only wedding I've been to that wasn't a Friday or a Saturday was one that took place in abroad and it was a Thursday, everyone going to the wedding took the week off and all spent it in the place the wedding was happening and basically made a week long wedding out of it.

Every other one has been a Friday or Saturday with most being Saturdays and I've been to 8 in the last year and more to come all set for Fri or Sat.

Menas

Sam Kade wrote: »

Did you get married twice?

Registry office on the Friday with just family and bridesmaid and best man.
Then the big reception on the Saturday.

kneemos

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

We got married on a Wednesday but it was New Year's Eve so it worked.

There's another thing.Do you not think people have enough to do and enough expense at that time of year without a bloody wedding thrown in?

Danna Thundering Superstar

Danna Thundering Superstar wrote: »

The only wedding I've been to that wasn't a Friday or a Saturday was one that took place in abroad and it was a Thursday, everyone going to the wedding took the week off and all spent it in the place the wedding was happening and basically made a week long wedding out of it.

Every other one has been a Friday or Saturday with most being Saturdays and I've been to 8 in the last year and more to come all set for Fri or Sat.

The year before last had 12 weddings, went to 11. The one we missed was midweek...and in France.

Of the 11, 9 involved hotel stays as they were "away".

One was on a Sunday, due to a family tragedy it had to be put back and they could only get a Sunday. Which was a first for me.

Very expensive year.

Inspector Coptoor

kneemos wrote: »

There's another thing.Do you not think people have enough to do and enough expense at that time of year without a bloody wedding thrown in?

Time suited us. Most of my friends/colleagues were either off work or were living very close to where we had the wedding.
People can always decline an invite.

5starpool

awec wrote: »

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding that's been on a weekend.

Presumably it's too difficult to get weekend dates unless you're willing to wait for a year or two longer
.

I'm guessing you haven't been to too many weddings then? The large majority (from around 50) of the ones I've been at have been on weekends, and my own upcoming one is on a Saturday as well.

Friday weddings are fine too, but ones on Monday-Thursday, especially if you aren't really good friends with (or it's through your partner) are a pain. At the end of the day though it's down to the preference/circumstances of those getting married and no one is forced to come.

awec

5starpool wrote: »

I'm guessing you haven't been to too many weddings then? The large majority (from around 50) of the ones I've been at have been on weekends, and my own upcoming one is on a Saturday as well.

Friday weddings are fine too, but ones on Monday-Thursday, especially if you aren't really good friends with (or it's through your partner) are a pain. At the end of the day though it's down to the preference/circumstances of those getting married and no one is forced to come.

Been to plenty. Almost all of them on Thursdays.

Though now I think of it I believe one of them was a Friday actually.

anncoates

I know somebody that had their wedding on the 2nd January and I think it was a weekday as well.

looksee

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

Solomon Grundy,
Born on a Monday,
Christened on Tuesday,
Married on Wednesday,
Took ill on Thursday,
Grew worse on Friday,
Died on Saturday,
Buried on Sunday.
That was the end,
Of Solomon Grundy

So no, there is no specific rule.

Yes but that was in the days when people (or at least people who were not aristocracy, or thought they were) just got married with immediate family maybe, possibly a couple of friends, and that was it. No massive organisation, hotels, dinners for 200 and gift lists. People who loved them might pop round with a little present to mark the occasion, or not, no hassle.

5starpool

awec wrote: »

Been to plenty. Almost all of them on Thursdays.

Though now I think of it I believe one of them was a Friday actually.

You're from NI though I assume (from the Ulster rugby avatar) so perhaps it's different there? I've only been to 1 wedding I think on a Thursday and aside from around New Years, the rest have been on Friday/Saturday. I've been to one wedding in the North (barely over the border though) but it was on a Saturday.

Mad how decent sample sizes from different people can be so different though.

fleet_admiral

I got married on a Monday

Jamsiek

My brother is getting married this year on a Thursday
I was best man at a wedding on a Thursday a few years ago
I was also at a wedding on a Sunday once also
All 3 weddings were/are in Ireland

anncoates

anncoates wrote: »

I know somebody that had their wedding on the 2nd January and I think it was a weekday as well.

Hmmmmm, so do I!

iDave

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Hmmmmm, so do I!

Me too.........or maybe it was the 3rd

MistyCheese

Egginacup wrote: »

Your entire circle of friends and relatives are dolebirds?

Nope.

Only two guests were unemployed, one of them had only recently been made redundant.

There were three people who work part time (with partners who work full time) who were not working that day.

Two others were in adult education and were off for the summer.

The remaining guests were shift and able to come after work as the wedding was at 3:30pm and their shift ended at 2pm.

anncoates

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Hmmmmm, so do I!

Well I told you we should have eloped in summer, but would you listen?

Atomico

A guy I work with is getting married on a particular day next year that is getting him a huge discount at the hotel where they are holding the reception...

April 1st!

The hotel told him he should be prepared to get a phone call on the morning of the wedding telling him it's all cancelled..

Fair play to him I say!

kneemos

Atomico wrote: »

A guy I work with is getting married on a particular day next year that is getting him a huge discount at the hotel where they are holding the reception...

April 1st!

The hotel told him he should be prepared to get a phone call on the morning of the wedding telling him it's all cancelled..

Fair play to him I say!

On a Friday.

PARlance

Atomico wrote: »

A guy I work with is getting married on a particular day next year that is getting him a huge discount at the hotel where they are holding the reception...

April 1st!

The hotel told him he should be prepared to get a phone call on the morning of the wedding telling him it's all cancelled..

Fair play to him I say!

Maybe he isn't getting a huge discount though.
They might have the last laugh when they hand him the bill on the day.

Atomico

kneemos wrote: »

On a Friday.

Aha!

Atomico

PARlance wrote: »

Maybe he isn't getting a huge discount though.
They might have the last laugh when they hand him the bill on the day.

Probably not huge as such, more reasonably significant I'd say. I'm guessing they made it good enough to have it on the date in question!

Baggy Trousers

Sunday weddings on a bank holiday weekend would probably be ok.

I reckon most people dislike weddings after they've been to 10 or more (unless they are close family maybe) so they will resent having to take a day off work. Weddings are becoming 2 day affairs now which is quite self absorbed in my opinion.

c68zapdsm5i1ru

I was invited to a wedding on the Saturday before Christmas, involving travelling down on the Fri afternoon and travelling back on the Sunday. Could have done without that in the middle of all the Christmas preparations.

StarBright01

No rule, I'm having mine on a Thursday! If you are having a civil ceremony there are restrictions as to what day you can have it otherwise you can have it any day you like!

swimming in a sea

xalot wrote: »

I think having it mid week is a great way to get rid of the people you have to invite but dont really want there. Anybody who is very close to you wouldn't miss your wedding for the world.

I've been invited to mid week weddings for friends and didn't mind at all - it certainly beats being in work, and for anyone whose wedding I wasn't pushed about attending I had the perfect excuse of not being able to get the day off!

No still pretty crap, you may have say 5 friends who don't mind taking the day off but they have 5 partners who don't give sh&t about your wedding that now have to take off one of their few holidays all because you didn't what some distant relative to turn up.

jsd1004

We all love a good welding.

Fred Swanson

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