Is leaving your number weird?

turnikett1

I'm infatuated with the lady that works in a pub near me. I get the impression she might be into me too, and yesterday when she gave me my change she did so in the loveliest most charming manner, all of my friends were doing the "oooh" thing and told me I should leave my number.

I want to, but I feel if I'm wrong and the feeling isn't mutual then I can never go back to that pub again which would be a shame because it's a great pub.

What is your experience with this and would you be flattered or creeped out if someone did this? Horror/success stories?

I keep thinking of scenarios where it would go horribly wrong, like trying to leave her a note with my number and it falling to the ground and me picking it up and awkwardly fumbling it down on the counter while she comes back and I run out the door.

Something about hitting on someone at their place of work just seems a bit strange though... :eek:

No_Comply

Lady works in a pub serving customers and his friendly and attentive = she's into me. OK.

Edit: pulled the trigger too early.

She well may be, but leaving your number is lame and a bit cowardly. A lot of women don't want to make the first move.

Go in some day on your own at a time you know it's not too busy. Chat to her for a while. Actually show your interested in her and ask her out.


Worst case scenario is she says no. So what?

s15r330

More lazy than weird I think. Hard one to call as it is her job to be friendly. But, if you think she is interested then ask her out, and whatever you do, don't take her to a pub for a 1st date!

Slicemeister

As far as she's concerned she's on a stage acting the barmaid part. I wouldn't do anything until you could get to talk to her outside of the pub and suss out the vibes then. Try finding out off of another bartender do they head on to some disco after work maybe?

Summer wind

Just bite the bullet, be straight up and ask her out. You will soon find out if she is interested.

Banjo String

Op I've pulled about 4 barmaids in my time. I never pulled any while they were working mind you, but usually when they've finished the shift.

If you get the feeling she's into you, ask her something like if she fancies sitting on the same side of the bar as you, but in a different venue if she likes some evening. (Keeps the subject on topic without straight out implying it's a 'date')

She'll either accept your offer, or she'll not. It won't be as awkward as you think if she declines you.

Trust me.

aaakev

Go for it man! me and the brother were jn buying suits last year and the girl serving us was having a flirt back amd forth with the brother. He left her his number and she txt him later asking when he was bringing her out!

Cold War Kid

No_Comply wrote: »

Lady works in a pub serving customers and his friendly and attentive = she's into me. OK.

Well he also said:

turnikett1 wrote: »

I feel if I'm wrong and the feeling isn't mutual then I can never go back to that pub again which would be a shame because it's a great pub.

OP, maybe give it another while yet - I don't know if leaving your number at her workplace would be ideal either. I know pubs are less formal than other workplaces and it's not an "offensive" thing to do, but it might cause her a bit of awkwardness with you being a customer, conflict of interests and all that.

Leave things as they are for another while, you might get a clearer picture of whether there could be potential then (IMO).

thelad95

It sounds like you're about to break the Platinum Rule. Never, ever break the Platinum Rule.

No_Comply

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Well he also said:

OP, maybe give it another while yet - I don't know if leaving your number at her workplace would be ideal either. I know pubs are less formal than other workplaces and it's not an "offensive" thing to do, but it might cause her a bit of awkwardness with you being a customer, conflict of interests and all that.

Leave things as they are for another while, you might get a clearer picture of whether there could be potential then (IMO).

The only way he'll get a clearer picture is if he goes and chats to her. Trying to suss things out while the girl is working and purely attending to his needs as a customer can be difficult. Too hard to tell if she's into him or just doing her job.

Talk to her. I'm speaking from experience.

Cold War Kid

No_Comply wrote: »

The only way he'll get a clearer picture is if he goes and chats to her. Trying to suss things out while the girl is working and purely attending to his needs as a customer can be difficult. Too hard to tell if she's into him or just doing her job.

Talk to her.

Sorry yeah that's what I mean. But I don't think he should ask her out/leave his number, for the moment.

aujopimur

Wait 'til she starts giving you free drink, then you'll know you're onto a goodthing.

wakka12

A lot of men jump to conclusions and take practically any signs of attentiveness or friendliness in an attractive female as them being into you..a lot of the time it means nothing more than her being a nice person. Maybe ask to buy her a drink? get to know each other, when you start talking it'll be pretty clear whether she's into you in that way or not. Will work better than leaving your number

wakka12

Slicemeister wrote: »

As far as she's concerned she's on a stage acting the barmaid part. I wouldn't do anything until you could get to talk to her outside of the pub and suss out the vibes then. Try finding out off of another bartender do they head on to some disco after work maybe?

lol disco:o

The_Captain

1: She's just being nice to you because she wants you to tip her

2: If you genuinely think she's into you, just ask her out early into her shift before she has to deal with the other 15 drunks who think she wants them

3: If she gives you an excuse, just accept it and move on

Little CuChulainn

Just write down the web address to this thread. She'll get the hint.

Slicemeister

wakka12 wrote: »

lol disco:o

Wut?

Reiver

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

Just write down the web address to this thread. She'll get the hint.

I like it!

Phil Mitchell

If you ask her out and she says no, you can never go back to that pub.

If you ask her out and she says yes, you can never go back to that pub

Dont ruin the pub

Junkyard Tom

Get a large bowl of spaghetti and share it with her. Carefully select the other end of a string of spaghetti she has forked and while she's eating it you eat the other end until your lips meet. Then bashfully pull away and if she smiles she's yours.

rubadub

The_Captain wrote: »

1: She's just being nice to you because she wants you to tip her

That was my guess too. It is not clear from the OP if she is a barmaid (pulling pints) or lounge girl (bringing drinks to a table). In this country is it not really normal to tip bartenders.

Also do people really "leave their number"? I thought that only went on in cheesy US tv shows.

walkingshadow

I left my number in a pub once. It was a messy number 2, left all over the bathroom floor, having missed the toilet owing to inebriation from many pints of Guinness.

Lando Griffin

Get some other girl you know to go to the pub with you and sit at the bar laughing and joking all night while using 50 Euro notes to pay for every drink she having your false date talk up your sex drive.
When your false date goes to the loo let out a loud sigh and explain that although this girl is great the girl you really want is whatever features the barmaid has. If she doesent take the bait towards the end of the night have one of your mates come in and accuse the false date of cheating him and drag her out the door.
You cry uncontrollably and the water works will surly bag her.

Reoil

Just ****ing grow a pair and ask her if she's seeing anybody.

The Backwards Man

Follow her home and post your number in her letterbox. Be sure to sign your name to it too, or she'll just think it's from some weirdo.

myshirt

Tell her tonight is her lucky night. Proposition that you are drunk and you're desperate, so here's her chance.

She'll bite.

walkingshadow

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Follow her home and post your number in her letterbox. Be sure to sign your name to it too, or she'll just think it's from some weirdo.

Make sure you write your letter in blood.

Mint Aero

It's pretty sad OP. Doesn't even sound like you've spoken to her other than her giving you your change? and you wanna just leave your number there in the bar?!

Strike up a conversation and gauge whether she likes you or not like the rest of us do, other than that leave her to do her job.

wakka12

Slicemeister wrote: »

Wut?

Discos are for kids under 14..or for everybody if its the year 1970

anncoates

Leaving a number with a woman sometimes backfires because she might want to call but won't, for example, if she's shy or one of those ones thinks that woman shouldn't ask men out.

Just ask her out face to face.

No shame in being turned down either. Man up.

Robsweezie

Unless you're carly rae jepsen, yes.

Daenarys

A guy from my gym wrote his name, number & a compliment on a piece of cardboard and left it on my windscreen while I was in the gym.

I still have no idea who that guy was but I was FREAKED OUT.

Even if I did know of him, I would never go out with a guy that didn't have the balls to approach me in person.

OP just ask her if she's seeing anyone, and ask her out if she's single!

zzfh

wakka12 wrote: »

lol disco:o

i think he meant take her to a 'dance' in the olde townhall

Tony Beetroot

Stick it in