How to Politely avoid telling someone your salary

TheCoolWay

Started a new job in recent months. The odd person asks whats the money is like out of pure nosiness. However a good friend has asked me several times what I'm on indirectly, feel bad not telling them though! We are not in the same industry or anything however.

Interested to know what ways you people use to get around this question?

P.s. I'm on 35 ;-)

smash

TheCoolWay wrote: »

Interested to know what ways you people use to get around this question?

I usually just tell them to fcuk off

silverfeather

TELL THEM YOU WORK FOR MAGIC BEANS!!

Silence... Lie...laugh ...lie....tell them you would rather not say....

Who ASKS that anyway ...????

MAGIC BEANS FTW!

silverfeather

smash wrote: »

I usually just tell them to fcuk off

Forget mine this!

Chucken

35 euro a day! Woohoooo.



Wish I had a job.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

"Jesus, the guards wouldn't ask me that."
Or "that's a very personal question, isn't it?"

The King of Moo

I don't answer, I've always found it rude when people ask directly.

DareGod

One of my best friends never has any problem asking me such personal questions, including questions about money. I find questions about money very rude. I dance around the answer and avoid giving a straight one. It's really not easy at all to say "Mind your own f-ing business" to one of your best friends.

Gone West

Depending on your age, 35 grand is basically shíte. Just tell them you're on more or less shíte money.

anncoates

Why would you not tell a good friend what you earn yet tell everybody here?

Jesus Wept

Fuzzy wrote: »

Depending on your age, 35 grand is basically shíte. Just tell them you're on more or less shíte money.

lovely

Chucken

Chucken wrote: »

35 euro a day! Woohoooo.



Wish I had a job.

Fuzzy wrote: »

Depending on your age, 35 grand is basically shíte. Just tell them you're on more or less shíte money.

How much is not ****e then?

smash

Chucken wrote: »

How much is not ****e then?

Double your age minus 7. Or 2.5 times your girlfriends age.

Chucken

smash wrote: »

Double your age minus 7. Or 2.5 times your girlfriends age.

Well this could get awkward

When do I tell my husband about the girlfriend?

DEFTLEFTHAND

A gentleman would never ask such a vulgar question.

smash

Chucken wrote: »

Well this could get awkward

When do I tell my husband about the girlfriend?

Just send him a snapchat, that's what all the cool kids are doing...

Flood

The Rodgers wrote: »

lovely

Bottoms

GalwayKiefer

I usually give one of three answers -
1. P*ss off and mind your own business
2. Are you working for the tax man or something?
3. Why, are you looking for a loan?

Chucken

smash wrote: »

Just send him a snapchat, that's what all the cool kids are doing...

Does my phone have a snapchat? http://www.mobilephonehistory.co.uk/nokia/nokia3210.gif

smash

Chucken wrote: »

Does my phone have a snapchat? http://www.mobilephonehistory.co.uk/nokia/nokia3210.gif

Hmmm... Send him a note through your carrier pigeon

Chucken

smash wrote: »

Hmmm... Send him a note through your carrier pigeon

Or dig him in the ribs?

Dangerous Man

Just be diplomatic and politely tell them to fuck off.

Lone Stone

One million dollars then touch their leg

smash

Chucken wrote: »

Or dig him in the ribs?

He might appreciate being woken up to such news

efb

LexieOnRale wrote: »

"Jesus, the guards wouldn't ask me that."

this

moc moc a moc

TheCoolWay wrote: »

P.s. I'm on 35 ;-)

I can see why you don't want to tell people, so. Just lie and tell them you're on 45. Fake it 'til you make it and all that.

Strumms

Lie, tell him you are on 78 grand a year and that as an aside you started to volunteer at St Vincent De Paul... And add that you saw someone very closely resembling him down there and if he needs a ' dig out ' you can't give him preferential treatment but he shouldn't feel bad about coming up and saying hello.

Toots

Lone Stone wrote: »

One million dollars then touch their leg

"The money's ok, but I'm always up for making a little extra on the side..." Leer and rub your fingertips down their chest and towards their belt buckle. Either they'll never ask again, or you'll get laid. Win win.

Ruu

"You'll want to know where I had a shite last next!"

HonestCry

I wouldn't see a problem telling somebody especially a good friend mind you my salary.

Whats the big deal?

gar32

glassdoor web site if you want to know what people are making. Then you don'T have to ask

Chucken

gar32 wrote: »

glassdoor web site if you want to know what people are making. Then you don'T have to ask

Do me. Do me. How much am I making?

Mellor

Chucken wrote: »

Do me. Do me. How much am I making?

You're making the dinner. Now back in the kitchen

mulbot

HonestCry wrote: »

I wouldn't see a problem telling somebody especially a good friend mind you my salary.

Whats the big deal?

What's the big deal with them needing to know?

HonestCry

mulbot wrote: »

What's the big deal with them needing to know?

Curiosity i guess, i don't know.

When the Sun Hits

Say "Oh here it is" and gesture downward with your hand. Keep gesturing and they will move their head to where you are pointing. Boom. Penis in the face.

kneemos

35 grand.Twice the dole.

No wonder you're embarrassed.

DoYouEvenLift

Never understood the big deal in Ireland about talking about wages with friends. I wouldn't expect anyone to be completely open about it with strangers or even acquaintances but close friends should be people you're comfortable discussing everything with.

Mellor

kneemos wrote: »

35 grand.Twice the dole.

No wonder you're embarrassed.

If you think the dole is $17.5k you are in for a shock when you sign on.

efb

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Never understood the big deal in Ireland about talking about wages with friends. I wouldn't expect anyone to be completely open about it with strangers or even acquaintances but close friends should be people you're comfortable discussing everything with.

Really???

DoYouEvenLift

efb wrote: »

Really???

Nah, I just typed all that out because I didn't mean a fuking word of it

FURET

When I was first hired by my present employer, another new employee and I were sent abroad for some training. One evening he told me his salary in a very casual way and asked if mine was the same. I didn't tell him my salary but did say I was on "a little more". In reality I was on triple his income.

My brother asked me recently while he was on vacation in the country where I live. I didn't tell him.

One person I do tell is a friend who I studied with who is in the same profession as me. She and I started with the same employer but have both moved on since then. We like to keep each other informed so that we know what the market pays us.

fizzypish

Kinda said to myself years ago that when the day comes that I'm pulling in a grand a week after tax that I'm doing well. Pretty far away from that at the moment.....

As for how to politely avoid telling someone what you make maybe, "A starting position can make X and you can realistically make up to Y if you stick at it". "And where are you on that scale?". "I'm doing ok". Anyone that pushes after that isn't taking the hint. You have done your civic duty to maintain a certain level of politeness and its now acceptable to tell them to **** themselves.

Emsloe

Tell him to make a guess and then when he picks a figure say 'double it'. Should keep him quiet for a bit.

I have no problem telling people what I earn tbh, but I know I'm in the minority!

Gone Drinking

kneemos wrote: »

35 grand.Twice the dole.

No wonder you're embarrassed.

Wow, you're a dick.

What I would usually do when I get the "Whats the money like?" question, is say something like "Ah its grand, more than the last place so I'm happy!"

Usually people will get the hint from that sort of answer that you're not going to tell them exactly how much you're on. However, I have told close friends if we've gotten into a conversation that warrants the number to be mentioned.

Elessar

Just tell them. What's the big deal?

I'm on 31k. There you go. They're not asking can they shag your mother.

I can understand if it's some randomer, but if it's a work friend I don't see the problem. My workmates and I know all our salaries, we're kind of benchmarking. The discrepancies are huge. It helps me know what I should be earning, and what I will be worth, when I reach their experience.

There is a movement on Twitter at the moment called #talkpay. People are beating down the door of the taboo of disclosing your salary. It's helping people know that they are underpaid/nicely paid against their peers.

So what are you afraid of?

Saint_Mel

I worked with a guy in my 1st job many moons ago and he was obsessed with wanting to know everyones pay and would whinge to everyone in the pub on work nights out as he felt he should be earning x amount more than so and so ...

In general, most people found him to be a twat

kaloshma

It varies, depend on how much the company makes in a month. Nothing specific.

FURET

Elessar wrote: »

So what are you afraid of?

Well, when you have an income that is *much* larger than almost all of those of your family and friends, it's best not to broadcast it.

Emsloe

FURET wrote: »

Well, when you have an income that is *much* larger than almost all of those of your family and friends, it's best not to broadcast it.

I get this all the time, not because I am on huge money but because they happen to earn less. I'm interviewing for new jobs at the moment but won't tell them where as the first thing they'll go is google for the job ad to see what the salary is! I don't mind telling friends what I earn at all but family, no way.

magicmushroom

Fuzzy wrote: »

Depending on your age, 35 grand is basically shíte. Just tell them you're on more or less shíte money.

I would never consider 35k a year to be sh!ite money for anyone of any age