Friends hubby addicted to (teen) porn normal!?

acuriouscat

A pal of mine (yes it's not me )
Just discovered her fella(42) is watching porn,A LOT! this is not her main concern,it's the content of the porn. He's been typing in "teen porn" teen gets destroyed" younger porn"and the most disturbing of all he typed in "tiny titless girls"
She's got a kid with him and she's freaking out thinking he's some sort of pervert/paedo
Is she overreacting!??
Oh and btw it's the only porn he's viewing
Poor girls out of her mind . Advice???

Zaph

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acuriouscat

Zaph wrote: »

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Where do I put it? Haha im clueless on this site

Zaph

I've moved it to Personal issues for you

SATSUMA

She needs to ask him about it and take it from there

acuriouscat

She has confronted him,he is not giving any real explanation. Just Making out its not a big deal

Gatling

Just because he likes small chested ladies doesn't mean he's a danger and I'd say teen porn is probably one of the most watched genre in porn imo .
She should talk to him first and foremost with an open mind .
Maybe his needs aren't been met and he's using porn to satisfy himself

Mr. Incognito

Oh no he has fantasies.

Get a grip and stay out of it.

acuriouscat

Gatling wrote: »

Just because he likes small chested ladies doesn't mean he's a danger and I'd say teen porn is probably one of the most watched genre in porn imo .
She should talk to him first and foremost with an open mind .
Maybe his needs aren't been met and he's using porn to satisfy himself

Do you not think what's he's typing though is skirting around something that's risky? The words,teen,younger is a little creepy in my mind and hers too

acuriouscat

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Oh no he has fantasies.

Get a grip and stay out of it.

I'm not in it,she asked me to put this up here for other opinions cause she doesn't use boards

Chloris

I think I'm your friend's boyfriend, because they're my most frequently searched faps too. Although I'm not a man, so possibly not.

For me, it's a size ratio thing. A huge guy and a small girl. I just like the idea of it, my boyfriend is huge and I'm small. Could be that.

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I really don't think it means anything at all. If he is on properly run sites, then the girls are all of legal age. I would imagine that it's nothing more than a fetish - some men like big breasts, some men like small. He likes small. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. His looking up "teen" porn doesn't mean he's going to turn into a paedophile or whatever you seem to be thinking.

acuriouscat

Chloris wrote: »

I think I'm your friend's boyfriend, because they're my most frequently searched faps too. Although I'm not a man, so possibly not.

For me, it's a size ratio thing. A huge guy and a small girl. I just like the idea of it, my boyfriend is huge and I'm small. Could be that.

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Thanks for your blunt honesty haha
Guess different strokes for different folks and all that. I think the fact he has a teenage daughter from a previous relationship creeps her out a little,he's looking at girls the same age range as her. Also he did date an 18 year old girl wen he was 32 before his wife so it's a fantasy he has acted on in the past. I know 18 is obviously legal but it is a little weird no?

acuriouscat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I really don't think it means anything at all. If he is on properly run sites, then the girls are all of legal age. I would imagine that it's nothing more than a fetish - some men like big breasts, some men like small. He likes small. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. His looking up "teen" porn doesn't mean he's going to turn into a paedophile or whatever you seem to be thinking.

But there's typing in teen porn and then there's typing in "younger teen porn" no?

fergus1001

Man likes porn. Absolutly shocked !

It really is a non issue tell your friend he's grand it's a common genre of porn so I wouldn't be worried at all

By law in the us of a women in the adult industry can't be any younger than 18

FYI a college in Canada tried to carry out a scientific study on the affects porn had on the body but they had to abandon the study ...... because they could not find any men who had never watched porn

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

But there's typing in teen porn and then there's typing in "younger teen porn" no?

I think you're reading too much into this. It's not a problem unless he is looking at underage girls and you don't know that he is. It's not your relationship so I'd stay out of it, if his partner wants to sort it out its up to her. His porn tastes are his/their business.

acuriouscat

eviltwin wrote: »

I think you're reading too much into this. It's not a problem unless he is looking at underage girls and you don't know that he is. It's not your relationship so I'd stay out of it, if his partner wants to sort it out its up to her. His porn tastes are his/their business.

This is the last time I'll say this,she is here with me and i wrote this forum up at HER request and she's reading the responses

strandroad

There's no way of knowing. Perhaps younger, teens, titless girls is his clumsy shorthand to search for small breasted women, or perhaps he does have an interest in actual young girls which he may never act on in real life... But he may get some illegal material on his computer in the process. How's their sex life, is he still interested in her?

fergus1001

acuriouscat wrote:

But there's typing in teen porn and then there's typing in "younger teen porn" no?

Seriously it's a non issue porn is pure fantasy it's the same or similar to girls watching 50 shades of a mediocre movie

acuriouscat

mhge wrote: »

There's no way of knowing. Perhaps younger, teens, titless girls is his clumsy shorthand to search for small breasted women, or perhaps he does have an interest in actual young girls which he may never act on in real life... But he may get some illegal material on his computer in the process. How's their sex life, is he still interested in her?

yes that's a big fear of hers,that he stumbles on something that's gonna get him in trouble.
And if he does have an interest in younger girls does it make a difference if he acts on it or not when the thoughts are there?
Plus as much as people want to talk about it being legal what about the fact that these girls look to be 13/14
That's not normal.

acuriouscat

acuriouscat wrote: »

yes that's a big fear of hers,that he stumbles on something that's gonna get him in trouble.
And if he does have an interest in younger girls does it make a difference if he acts on it or not when the thoughts are there?
Plus as much as people want to talk about it being legal what about the fact that these girls look to be 13/14
That's not normal.

Sex life between herself and him is good,healthy and frequent.he seems to spend an unhealthy amount of time looking at these teen sites though( hours per day)

acuriouscat

fergus1001 wrote: »

Seriously it's a non issue porn is pure fantasy it's the same or similar to girls watching 50 shades of a mediocre movie

But 50 shades of grey didn't have a teenage boy who looked 13 in it

DoYouEvenLift

acuriouscat wrote: »

A pal of mine (yes it's not me )
Just discovered her fella(42) is watching porn,A LOT! this is not her main concern,it's the content of the porn. He's been typing in "teen porn" teen gets destroyed" younger porn"and the most disturbing of all he typed in "tiny titless girls"
She's got a kid with him and she's freaking out thinking he's some sort of pervert/paedo
Is she overreacting!??
Oh and btw it's the only porn he's viewing
Poor girls out of her mind . Advice???

Mother of God. Please show your friend the following and advise her to stop being such an absolute exaggerating IDIOT throwing around such serious and vitriolic assumptions and accusations! That's her husband. Has she ANY clue how damaging calling a man a paedophile can be?


We all know how Ireland is. First people would say he was looking up this porn, which is completely normal and natural for men to be attracted to, and then it would turn into a rumour about him Googling children, then turn into rumours about him being in a ring of paedophiles who groom little boys.

Ephebophilia is the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19.

Paedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children, generally age 11 years or younger.

If it doesn't affect their sex life and how he treats her, then what exactly is the issue? There's absolutely nothing wrong with looking at porn. The fact that they are teenagers won't make him a paedophile.

acuriouscat

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Mother of God. Please show your friend the following and advise her to stop being such an absolute exaggerating IDIOT throwing around such serious and vitriolic assumptions and accusations! That's her husband. Has she ANY clue how damaging calling a man a paedophile can be?

She's not calling him a paedophile obviously! These girls look as young as 13 so it's hardly exaggerating and so far she hadn't been able to establish if these are even legal sites yet. There young girls who are being practically forced on by old men. Please don't tell me u think that's notmal?
Cause if it is the norm for men i for one will choose to stay single

acuriouscat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

If it doesn't affect their sex life and how he treats her, then what exactly is the issue? There's absolutely nothing wrong with looking at porn. The fact that they are teenagers won't make him a paedophile.

So the fact they look 13 is normal u say?

strandroad

acuriouscat wrote: »

Sex life between herself and him is good,healthy and frequent.he seems to spend an unhealthy amount of time looking at these teen sites though( hours per day)

I'd have a serious chat with him myself. Porn is porn but spending hours a day gawking on 13-14 years old looking girls does not sound great at all. More in the addiction sense than any other.

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

She's not calling him a paedophile obviously! These girls look as young as 13 so it's hardly exaggerating and so far she hadn't been able to establish if these are even legal sites yet. There young girls who are being practically forced on by old men. Please don't tell me u think that's notmal?
Cause if it is the norm for men i for one will choose to stay single

There is nothing wrong with it. I, as a woman, enjoy porn and erotica that if it happened in real life would be considered a crime. It's fantasy, it's nothing to be outraged over.

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

So the fact they look 13 is normal u say?

Have you actually seen this stuff yourself or just going on her say so?

acuriouscat

mhge wrote: »

I'd have a serious chat with him myself. Porn is porn but spending hours a day gawking on 13-14 years old looking girls does not sound great at all. More in the addiction sense than any other.

Thank you! Finally someone who sees her concern is genuine and not just exaggerating and worrying needlessly cause apparently it's what men do!
Yes I agree it is not great and I think it's far from normal

strandroad

eviltwin wrote: »

There is nothing wrong with it. I, as a woman, enjoy porn and erotica that if it happened in real life would be considered a crime. It's fantasy, it's nothing to be outraged over.

TBH we don't know what kind of sites he's looking at. It may be staged stuff with older actresses or it may be something else.

acuriouscat

eviltwin wrote: »

Have you actually seen this stuff yourself or just going on her say so?

Iv seen a couple of links on his history yes. To me it's quiet disturbing!
And I actually love porn

fergus1001

acuriouscat wrote:

But 50 shades of grey didn't have a teenage boy who looked 13 in it

I'm sure your sick of hearing it but your friend is over reacting

Teen porn is one of the top porn search phrases in the world

And your friend would be better off talking with her husband rather than looking for an answer on the Internet

FizzleSticks

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acuriouscat

eviltwin wrote: »

There is nothing wrong with it. I, as a woman, enjoy porn and erotica that if it happened in real life would be considered a crime. It's fantasy, it's nothing to be outraged over.

Well I disagree when it comes to teenage girls!
If their under 18 or portrayed to be that's just sick!

acuriouscat

FizzleSticks wrote: »

I don't believe its fair to insinuate he IS a paedo because of a pretty mainstream search term on a mainstream porn website. Isn't "teen" porn mostly women in their late 20's wearing pig tails and young teens are actually 18-21, no?

Well she's not sure that's all it is.and Teens are from 13 to 19

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

Well I disagree when it comes to teenage girls!
If their under 18 or portrayed to be that's just sick!

That's your opinion but once the models are over 18 he's not doing anything illegal. Lots of men have school girls fantasies, it doesn't make them suspect or dangerous to children.

eternal

acuriouscat wrote: »

Iv seen a couple of links on his history yes. To me it's quiet disturbing!
And I actually love porn

Bigger fool he is not deleting his cache. Some of those actresses are older posing as younger especially if they are of Asian origin. You should keep out of their personal life anyway besides poking around his internet searches. And the word 'addicted' is bandied about whereas he may be just a casual user. Addiction is a whole other story.

DoYouEvenLift

acuriouscat wrote: »

She's not calling him a paedophile obviously! These girls look as young as 13 so it's hardly exaggerating and so far she hadn't been able to establish if these are even legal sites yet. There young girls who are being practically forced on by old men. Please don't tell me u think that's notmal?
Cause if it is the norm for men i for one will choose to stay single

If they actually do look 13, and it's not just her exaggerating for bigger impact, then that does change it. 15 is even really pushing it to be honest. Just tell her she has to confront him about it and talk about his addiction, because if he's spending hours looking at porn every day then that's definitely addiction, and how they can deal with it. Probably easiest to start with counselling really.

acuriouscat

fergus1001 wrote: »

I'm sure your sick of hearing it but your friend is over reacting

Teen porn is one of the top porn search phrases in the world

And your friend would be better off talking with her husband rather than looking for an answer on the Internet

He won't discuss it,he said first it wasn't an issue then said he felt ashamed and would go to speak to someone now he's saying it's not an issue.
She is being a cautious mother,if more women were like her then maybe more kids be protected from being abused so I don't think she's over reacting. Do you think any mother out there know their living with a paedophile?
She just wants to make sure there's not a serious problem

fergus1001

acuriouscat wrote:

Iv seen a couple of links on his history yes. To me it's quiet disturbing! And I actually love porn

If you actually loved porn you would know that as said bellow here is what the norm is and that there is nothing wrong with it

You need stronger evidence than search history to start freaking out over your husbands desires

FizzleSticks wrote:

I don't believe its fair to insinuate he IS a paedo because of a pretty mainstream search term on a mainstream porn website. Isn't "teen" porn mostly women in their late 20's wearing pig tails and young teens are actually 18-21, no?

Agreed 100 %

acuriouscat

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

If they actually do look 13, and it's not just her exaggerating for bigger impact, then that does change it. 15 is even really pushing it to be honest. Just tell her she has to confront him about it and talk about his addiction, because if he's spending hours looking at porn every day then that's definitely addiction, and how they can deal with it. Probably easiest to start with counselling really.

Yes they do look 13,she's going to find out if these are actually even legit legal sites and not something more sinister and take it from there

eternal

The insinuation that he might be a paedophile actually really grinds my gears. It really delves into the scaremongering that exists towards men - and it does exist and I've personally felt it before. It is a fetish, nothing more. As previously said and mentioned - some men have teenage fantasies, some men have school girl fantasies. It means nothing. And you've already confirmed for us that it hasn't affected their sex life, it hasn't affected their relationship - so what is the big deal? Tell your friend to calm down.

eternal wrote: »

Bigger fool he is not deleting his cache. Some of those actresses are older posing as younger especially if they are of Asian origin. You should keep out of their personal life anyway besides poking around his internet searches. And the word 'addicted' is bandied about whereas he may be just a casual user. Addiction is a whole other story.

Pft. Incognito mode all the way!

acuriouscat

eternal wrote: »

Bigger fool he is not deleting his cache. Some of those actresses are older posing as younger especially if they are of Asian origin. You should keep out of their personal life anyway besides poking around his internet searches. And the word 'addicted' is bandied about whereas he may be just a casual user. Addiction is a whole other story.

I'm not poking around,she came to me to talk. She had screenshots of his history.
Addiction in my mind is where he's meant to be working and yet he finds the time to spend 6/7 a day looking at teen porn

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

Yes they do look 13,she's going to find out if these are actually even legit legal sites and not something more sinister and take it from there

It would extremely unlikely a child porn site would be openly available on a mainstream search. They probably are fine, look at the site info page, see if it's affiliated to any anti child porn organisation like ASACP

acuriouscat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

The insinuation that he might be a paedophile actually really grinds my gears. It really delves into the scaremongering that exists towards men - and it does exist and I've personally felt it before. It is a fetish, nothing more. As previously said and mentioned - some men have teenage fantasies, some men have school girl fantasies. It means nothing. And you've already confirmed for us that it hasn't affected their sex life, it hasn't affected their relationship - so what is the big deal? Tell your friend to calm down.

Who's talking about just men? Women can be paedophiles too Ya know so you calm down

acuriouscat

eviltwin wrote: »

It would extremely unlikely a child porn site would be openly available on a mainstream search. They probably are fine, look at the site info page, see if it's affiliated to any anti child porn organisation like ASACP

Ok I never knew u could do that,I'll tell her to check into it
Thanks

acuriouscat

acuriouscat wrote: »

He won't discuss it,he said first it wasn't an issue then said he felt ashamed and would go to speak to someone now he's saying it's not an issue.
She is being a cautious mother,if more women were like her then maybe more kids be protected from being abused so I don't think she's over reacting. Do you think any mother out there know their living with a paedophile?
She just wants to make sure there's not a serious problem

See - it's not an issue. He probably only said he would speak to someone because he felt confronted about it. He probably felt that he had to speak to someone.

acuriouscat

eviltwin wrote: »

That's your opinion but once the models are over 18 he's not doing anything illegal. Lots of men have school girls fantasies, it doesn't make them suspect or dangerous to children.

Do you have a teenage daughter?

acuriouscat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

See - it's not an issue. He probably only said he would speak to someone because he felt confronted about it. He probably felt that he had to speak to someone.

Well if he's spebding 6/7 hours a day getting off to teenage girls then he should speak to someone

eviltwin

acuriouscat wrote: »

Do you have a teenage daughter?

Yes, as a matter of fact I do. Why?