BCP 99% effective? Which birth control most effective? My BCP & breakthrough bleeding

HisPresence

Sorry if anything in this post is TMI,
Sexually I only have one guy that is my husband, so excuse me for my ignorance in sex. I’m newlywed so I’m still new into this whole BCP thing. I mentioned in my other thread of mine, I recently got married on February 6th at a simple City Hall/Courthouse wedding.

Appreciated if you can help answers the questions below in bracket, thank you.
[May I ask. Is anyone here who are on BCP or are expert on BCP, BCP = Birth control pills. I have a few questions. What are the chances of get pregnant while on BCP? Not likely right? Because BCP is 99% effective if taking correctly right?

I guess I want to talk about BCP, anyone who know alot about BCP, please share your experience... And if anyone here who have alot of experience in birth control. Beside BCP, are there any other birth control out there is more effective? Like most effective birth control with least side effects. Please let me know, thank you.]

I took all my pills on time, exactly on the same time everyday. I never miss one pills, so I know I’m 99% safe. I am also NOT on any Antibiotics so it not messing up my BCP
Last month I got my period five days late, it turn out to come late, a 'breakthrough bleeding'. Heard this is normal for those who new to BCP as their body still adjust to the BCP

And this month, it is the 17th of April and I still have not get my period yet. That means I am 2 WEEKS late. I am way passed my placebo pills. Now this is kindda scary because I never been this late before in my life. Despite being 2 weeks late, I still take my pills on time everyday.

I been take this same BCP since December and now is April, so by now I should get used to the pills. Why my body still not used to it yet? Should I change BCP?

I’m 30 and husband is 29, and we married. My husband really really want a baby, he have baby fever. If unplanned pregnancy happen, then we will keep baby at all cost. We both against abortion, we both love babies.
But at my age 30, I’m not young anymore. Just three months into marriage and get pregnant, it not easy right? People tell me that the older you are the harder to get pregnant.

Anyone here that is not on Antibiotics, take their BCP on time and accidently got pregnant? Uh.. this is like playing the lottery. Husband told me to take the pregnacy test. I am scare to take the test, because I’m scare to see the positive pregnancy test result.

I havent' take the pregnancy test yet, and he already kiss my stomach. He say when I'm pregnant, he want to kiss my stomach Everyday for 9 Months untli the baby born. I can already tell he going to spoil the baby rotten!!

We been through alot of hardship to be together. From my Chinese mother disapproval of him to our huge cultural difference.
I do want a baby, but not now. I want more of ‘us’ two people time alone together as a couple before we have a baby. I hope I'm not being too selfish. Am I?
We have plan to have a baby in 2016 when we buy our own house. Right now we rent in a bad area neighborhood, and it not a good idea to raise a newborn baby here.

Sorry for my bad English grammars, English is my third language.

HisPresence

This whole week, I been having pregnancy scare. Like I said above, I’m on BCP and I’m 2 weeks late on my period.
I told my husband that I can’t be pregnant because I took the BCP everyday, exactly on time. And we only 3rd month into our marriage so my body still trying to adjust to the BCP; it probably just late again, breakthrough bleeing; heard this is normal when you new to BCP

My husband want a baby so he happy that I’m late, lol
He be THRILLED if I’m pregnant. Yestedady when he left to work, he already kiss my stomach. He told me take the pregnancy test and when I’m pregnant, he will kiss my stomach EVERYDAY for 9 Months until the baby born.

But uh.. he making his Chinese wife feel awkward. Kissing my stomach for 9 Months everyday until the baby born, is too much affections. He is a doting husband alright, but he going to suffocate his wife and the baby.

I have an abusive mother in my childhood, and I grow up in a very cold family with no affections. So now getting alot affections from my husband, I'm just overwhelmed!

I can already tell that he going to be the Dad that will spoil his kids rotten!!
I was raise in a strict traditional Chinese family, so I know I will be very strict to my kids. And him, he the Dad that will spoil his kids. The kids will always run to daddy daddy for everything because daddy spoil them rotten. Arg!!
Before we TTC, I think we need another talk on how we going to raise kids. We have the talk before, he said it himself that he will spoil his children.

When he wanted marriage, I constantly told him that there a big cultural difference between us. Sexually, I only have one guy that is him and he know this. Pretty much he said as long as I’m by his side, we go through these together and everything will work out.

I know he patience and he is a doting husband. He let me have things my way so I can be happy. But now to the kids issue, I don’t think he going to let me have it all my way. But uh.. we probably have cultural clashes on the ways we going to raise our children.

Lucyfur

MOD

Hi OP,

This really isn't a suitable thread for tLL. This is something you need to discuss with you husband. And/or doctor.

All the best,

Lucy