Kids photos on FaceBook...insensitive?

...have to say I hate seeing photos of children on FaceBook.

Not because I am that hung up about their privacy, and not because I dislike parents who lose their own personality and use their kids to harvest likes, although both are legitimate.

I just dislike them because I think it must be very boring for those who don't want children, and very upsetting for those who don't or can't have children but desperately want to.

So what is it about people who put up pics of their kids on FaceBook? Do they become completely ignorant of the potential it has to upset others? Or do they consider it and just think their need to show their loved ones trumps any such concerns?

darkpagandeath

Should not be allowed the children have no say about being dressed up as ladybirds.

eamonnq

Yeah, we should all stop doing anything in case it might upset some other people.

Ironé

If you don't like people posting photos of children just block them or un-friend them - no one is forcing you to look at them.

kneemos

Keep them indoors as well....just in case.

darkpagandeath

eamonnq wrote: »

Yeah, we should all stop doing anything in case it might upset some other people.

You mean you kids when their older :pac:

Dolbert

If people are that upset about the existence of children they wouldn't be able to go outside their front door.

Hannibal Smith

Ah here thats pushing PC too far! Should we keep our kids in doors too in case we upset people on the street?

Duggy747

Usually feels like I'm more friends with the child than I am the parent when they change the profile pic, cover photo and post nothing but things about the child.

I should post the same with my degu :pac:

5starpool

Don't use facebook and you won't see them.

I'm glad to remain blissfully unaware of most people's kids and associated other trivialities.

One eyed Jack

If only there was a way of communicating to these people that you have no interest in their progeny...

What? Tell them? Nah, sure that's too obvious. Much better to vent your frustration in a passive aggressive way elsewhere. That'll learn 'em :rolleyes:

hoodwinked

we tried keeping photo's of our child off facebook, then the grandparents posted them, and the relatives posted them and in the end we gave up trying.

then we ended up with relatives living abroad who wanted to see her progressing so we would post them up for them in a special album with the relatives being the only ones with access.

so it can come in handy.

LDN_Irish

Most ridiculous thread I've ever seen. Don't post photos of children because of people who don't want or can't have children. Fuxake.

anncoates

LDN_Irish wrote: »

Most ridiculous thread I've ever seen.

You must be new around here.

maximoose

Little Down Arrow - Unfollow

Problem solved.

scarbouro

Seriously, are you for real? Not allowed to post photos of our own children incase we upset someone else! This is just ridiculous to be honest.

MojoRisinnnn

Deleted User wrote: »

...have to say I hate seeing photos of children on FaceBook.

Not because I am that hung up about their privacy, and not because I dislike parents who lose their own personality and use their kids to harvest likes, although both are legitimate.

I just dislike them because I think it must be very boring for those who don't want children, and very upsetting for those who don't or can't have children but desperately want to.

So what is it about people who put up pics of their kids on FaceBook? Do they become completely ignorant of the potential it has to upset others? Or do they consider it and just think their need to show their loved ones trumps any such concerns?

Nail on the head. I think if you have to go through life documenting every single activity or event you attend with several pictures and an ' obligatory' check in, you're pretty much an idiot

Greenmachine

Where other people posting their picture of their own children are concerned: I think let people do as they please.
When I have children in future. I won't be publishing photos online, or won't okay others publishing photos of my kids online.

eamonnq

eamonnq wrote: »

Yeah, we should all stop doing anything in case it might upset some other people.

kneemos wrote: »

Keep them indoors as well....just in case.

Who suggested that. That would be patently stupid.

I think it is also stupid to suggest that "well if we can't put pics of them up on FaceBook, that's the same as not doing anything ever again and staying indoors".

I just think that people should behave on FaceBook as they do outside that forum. It would not cross my mind to hand photos of my child out to everyone I know and expect them to look at them.

Wha? That's possibly one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard!

People shouldn't have to hide their children because other people might get upset

scarbouro

scarbouro wrote: »

Seriously, are you for real? Not allowed to post photos of our own children incase we upset someone else! This is just ridiculous to be honest.

Would it never cross your mind not to show a photo of your child to, say, a friend who had cancer and can't have children?

Seriously?

I'm not saying "not allowed", I am saying someone who does so could be criticised for their ignorance.

Generic Dreadhead

Would have been too much work OP to actually make the thread title a sentence

MojoRisinnnn

scarbouro wrote: »

Seriously, are you for real? Not allowed to post photos of our own children incase we upset someone else! This is just ridiculous to be honest.

Yeah it would be called empathy? There's many reasons not to such as someone who can't have kids, lost a child, had a miscarraige etc seeing the post, this wouldn't apply to me as I would be on the side of not giving a **** what someones child is doing

hoodwinked

Greenmachine wrote: »

Where other people posting their picture of their own children are concerned: I think let people do as they please.
When I have children in future. I won't be publishing photos online, or won't okay others publishing photos of my kids online.

yeah like i said we tried that.... good luck with it, you cannot tell other people what to do, or force them into not sharing the photo's in your case.....

LDN_Irish

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Who suggested that. That would be patently stupid.

I think it is also stupid to suggest that "well if we can't put pics of them up on FaceBook, that's the same as not doing anything ever again and staying indoors".

I just think that people should behave on FaceBook as they do outside that forum. It would not cross my mind to hand photos of my child out to everyone I know and expect them to look at them.

So don't post any pics? Or just pics of children?

Generic Dreadhead

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

Yeah it would be called empathy? There's many reasons not to such as someone who can't have kids, lost a child, had a miscarraige etc seeing the post, this wouldn't apply to me as I would be on the side of not giving a **** what someones child is doing

I never actually post on Facebook myself as I'm concerned people might see I am alive and they might know someone who knew someone who died in the last couple of decades

MojoRisinnnn

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

Yeah it would be called empathy? There's many reasons not to such as someone who can't have kids, lost a child, had a miscarraige etc seeing the post, this wouldn't apply to me as I would be on the side of not giving a **** what someones child is doing

Precisely.

Do people who insist on showing every move their loved ones make lose that empathy? It just strikes me as remarkable. No one would hand out photos around the pub, yet they have no issue showing them to hundreds online.

LDN_Irish

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

Yeah it would be called empathy? There's many reasons not to such as someone who can't have kids, lost a child, had a miscarraige etc seeing the post, this wouldn't apply to me as I would be on the side of not giving a **** what someones child is doing

So, how is FB any different to the outside world in that respect?

alroley

Are you serious?

If people were so upset over seeing kids, what are they going to do any time they leave their house?

LDN_Irish

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Precisely.

Do people who insist on showing every move their loved ones make lose that empathy? It just strikes me as remarkable. No one would hand out photos around the pub, yet they have no issue showing them to hundreds online.

Facebook isn't really like a pub though is it? It's a platform built specifically for sharing status, photos and videos.

LDN_Irish

LDN_Irish wrote: »

So, how is FB any different to the outside world in that respect?

People seem to treat it very differently.

If someone waved photos of their kids around the street they would be treated as mad and such a display would be laughed at. They too would surely realise that it might upset some who aren't so lucky.

Why do so many do it online?

scarbouro

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Would it never cross your mind not to show a photo of your child to, say, a friend who had cancer and can't have children?

Seriously?

I'm not saying "not allowed", I am saying someone who does so could be criticised for their ignorance.

There are a lots of people on Facebook going through all sorts of problems, illness, fertility problems ect but sure you can't put your life on hold because of someone else's unfortunate situation. If that's the case nobody would post or say anything on it. Facebook is supposed to be light hearted, if you get annoyed/upset over what people post maybe it's not for you.

scarbouro

scarbouro wrote: »

There are a lots of people on Facebook going through all sorts of problems, illness, fertility problems ect but sure you can't put your life on hold because of someone else's unfortunate situation. If that's the case nobody would post or say anything on it. Facebook is supposed to be light hearted, if you get annoyed/upset over what people post maybe it's not for you.

So the defence to a plea for a little empathy and consideration is "leave the forum"?

No, I choose to stay. And not have a happy clappy opinion about how others use it.

123balltv

I'm lucky I was an 80's baby
all my embarrassing pics are at the bottom of my parents wardrobe, i've seen
kids at parties having pics taken every minute you can tell there self concious
let the kids have there freedom.

MojoRisinnnn

LDN_Irish wrote: »

So, how is FB any different to the outside world in that respect?

Because in the outside world I wouldn't really know that some bird I went to college with is living for Saturday and a night out with girlos as it's the only thing getting her through the week

anncoates

Deleted User wrote: »

People seem to treat it very differently.

If someone waved photos of their kids around the street they would be treated as mad and such a display would be laughed at. They too would surely realise that it might upset some who aren't so lucky.

Why do so many do it online?

It's the internet.

If you went into a shopping centre and started trying to gather random strangers around for an impromptu discussion on dole scrounging or Syria, you'd probably get a punch.

You're not really thinking through your analogy very well.

looksee

I am much more irritated by the people whose only activity on fb is sharing innumerable pics/quotes/whatever from other people. I could unfollow but occasionally they post stuff that I would like to know, and is the reason I am 'friends' with them.

Turtyturd

I have to say I hate seeing threads like this on boards.

Not because I am that hung up about their stupidity, and not because I dislike posters who lack a personality and use these types of threads to harvest thanks, although both are legitimate.

I dislike them because I think it must be very boring for those who want children, and very upsetting for that have or can have children if they desperately want to.

So what it it with people who start threads like this on boards? Do they become completely ignorant of the potential it has to upset others? Or do they consider it and think their needs to appear to have a personality and garner a few thanks trumps any such concerns?

LDN_Irish

[Deleted User] wrote: »

People seem to treat it very differently.

If someone waved photos of their kids around the street they would be treated as mad and such a display would be laughed at. They too would surely realise that it might upset some who aren't so lucky.

Why do so many do it online?

Because like I said previously, FB is specifically for sharing status, photos and videos. What do you use FB for if not those things?

Frog Song

People putting up photos of their kids doesn't bother me when now and again they'll put up a photo or two and leave it for another while. It's the ones that put up photos a few times a week of their kid doing something amazing like puking up their breakfast that annoy me. The "I'm the only person to ever have a baby" types.

scarbouro

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

Yeah it would be called empathy? There's many reasons not to such as someone who can't have kids, lost a child, had a miscarraige etc seeing the post, this wouldn't apply to me as I would be on the side of not giving a **** what someones child is doing

The world has gone mad! The bloody PC brigade is out in force again, telling people what they can and cannot do. It's absolutely ridiculous, as I said in a previous post if Facebook upsets people that much then maybe it's not for you...

Babies or bacon ....

http://mashable.com/2012/08/01/unbaby-me-facebook/

One eyed Jack

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I just think that people should behave on FaceBook as they do outside that forum. It would not cross my mind to hand photos of my child out to everyone I know and expect them to look at them.

But sure that's exactly what people did before social media, they carried pictures in their wallet or they used make copies of photos for their relatives, or they used email photos. Social media simply made it easier to share photos.

I'm not a fan of sharing every minute of my relatives and friends lives, much less their children's lives, so I don't bother with Facebook. My wife likes to share her life on social media and is interested in her friends and relatives lives and likes to see how their children are getting on and so on, but that's her own business. I wouldn't ever suggest she should be conscious that her friends may not be interested in her life, because they're choosing to follow her on social media. She isn't forcing anything upon them.

MojoRisinnnn

LDN_Irish wrote: »

Because like I said previously, FB is specifically for sharing status, photos and videos. What do you use FB for if not those things?

One of my favoruite things about Facebook is following bands as it is usually where they will post tour dates, links to interviews, information on new albums etc. This is far more useful than seeing ' Mary added 82 photos to the album ' Day out at the Zoo'. Come on man, you can't say you've never gone on Facebook and thought 'Sweet suffering Jesus, shut up'

Geniass

A facebook law: The likes and "beauty" type comment children photos receive is inversely proportionate to how hideous they look in the picture.

It's the Law of Sympathy

El Horseboxo

I had to delete my Facebook account before I deleted my friends from real life. Some of the crap they put up was starting to change my opinion of them. Seems to be a bit of a want in those that feel the need to put their life on Facebook. I'm talking about specific types that seem to use likes as some sort of need. Like virtual compliments or reassurance.

MojoRisinnnn

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

One of my favoruite things about Facebook is following bands as it is usually where they will post tour dates, links to interviews, information on new albums etc. This is far more useful than seeing ' Mary added 82 photos to the album ' Day out at the Zoo'. Come on man, you can't say you've never gone on Facebook and thought 'Sweet suffering Jesus, shut up'

Thinking someone is a pain in the hole, is very different to thinking they're being insensitive.

LDN_Irish

MojoRisinnnn wrote: »

One of my favoruite things about Facebook is following bands as it is usually where they will post tour dates, links to interviews, information on new albums etc. This is far more useful than seeing ' Mary added 82 photos to the album ' Day out at the Zoo'. Come on man, you can't say you've never gone on Facebook and thought 'Sweet suffering Jesus, shut up'

Of course I have. Then I have a choice, I either suck it up and keep following in the hope that Mary will have something interesting to post in the future, or I block her. I don't pretend Mary is doing something that lacks empathy or is immoral using tenuous logic just because she's posting something I'm personally not interested in.

anncoates

scarbouro wrote: »

as I said in a previous post if Facebook upsets people that much then maybe it's not for you...

People can leave facebook, unfriend people that irritate them or use the settings to filter out stuff they don't like, if they really wanted to.

They don't want to do that though, as many actually want be 'confronted' by it so they can snipe with others on social media about it.

Can't think of many things more pathetic than being exposed to people you know - of your own volition - and electing to remain so, while mocking them behind their backs to strangers for thanks.

kunst nugget

I have a friend who posts memes about coffee. Should I tell her it's insensitive because I don't like the taste of coffee?

* (I've had to block her because, seriously, 3 coffee memes every fecking day is starting to boil me piss. Ho, so you aren't a morning person and you'll kill someone if you don't have your cup of coffee? That is just hilarious! As hilarious as the 2,700 other variations of this meme you've put up!)

Kenny Logins

There is an easy fix that removes all of the offending photos - press Ctrl + F4.