Trivial things that annoy you part 479

osarusan

'I drink in the local local.'

Rosie Rant

When you finally get home after having one of those days (rude customers, nothing going right, etc.) and you settle down to watch one of your favourite shows to cheer yourself up and then one of your favourite characters gets killed off. Cherry on top . And there's no chocolate here. For once .

KatW4

My inability to let things go. I'm so upset that my so called best friend has been spreading nasty rumours about me and I can't stop thinking about it. I know it's stupid but I can't help it.

Hugo Stiglitz

KatW4 wrote: »

My inability to let things go. I'm so upset that my so called best friend has been spreading nasty rumours about me and I can't stop thinking about it. I know it's stupid but I can't help it.

Sorry to hear that, K. *hugs* People can be so nasty.

KatW4

Hugo Stiglitz wrote:

Sorry to hear that, K. *hugs* People can be so nasty.

Thank you so unbelievably nasty. I actually feel sick at the thought of what else she's been saying and to who.

Hugo Stiglitz

KatW4 wrote: »

Thank you so unbelievably nasty. I actually feel sick at the thought of what else she's been saying and to who.

She'll meet her match someday.

Teafor two12345

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

She'll meet her match someday.

Don't bully the bully nor the cheerleader of those who bully a bully. Never trust that person again. Move on and don't look back. I repeat NEVER trust that person again. And don't become the bully. Get her and those who believe her lies out of your life. Too much drama.

KatW4

Teafor two12345 wrote:

Don't bully the bully nor the cheerleader of those who bully a bully. Never trust that person again. Move on and don't look back. I repeat NEVER trust that person again. And don't become the bully. Get her and those who believe her lies out of your life. Too much drama.

That's my plan. I'm not going to bother saying anything to her about it, just phase her out of my life.

OldNotWIse

The slowness of Boards lately

strelok

people typing *hugs* on the internet

it's unbelievably petty as they're just trying to show some compassion to another person but for **** sake, you're not hugging them. you're not doing anything other than typing six bloody letters onto a keyboard and then going back to whatever cat video you paused on youtube.

Clegg

My complete lack of concentration at work post bank holiday.

OldNotWIse

Clegg wrote: »

My complete lack of concentration at work post bank holiday.

I read this as "my complete lack of contraception over the bank holiday" :pac:

OldNotWIse

strelok wrote: »

people typing *hugs* on the internet

it's unbelievably petty as they're just trying to show some compassion to another person but for **** sake, you're not hugging them. you're not doing anything other than typing six bloody letters onto a keyboard and then going back to whatever cat video you paused on youtube.

General sugar coated outpourings of condolences on social media annoy me. Usually coupled with terrible grammar too. I don't know how many "angles" Heaven has gained lately Suffice to say there are no circles there anymore.

Clegg

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I read this as "my complete lack of contraception over the bank holiday" :pac:

I've had to reread my post just to be sure.

Not with it today

OldNotWIse

Clingy people.

I friended someone in work a while ago and now he wont leave me alone. I don't mind the occasional lunch or even the majority of lunches together but this is every single day. And it's not just lunchtime. 10:00 it starts- an email - "What time are you going on break?" God forbid we might not see each other for that half hour. Then at the end of break - "what time are you going on lunch?". Usually I don't know what time I'm going at that early stage so I say, "I don't know" and then he says, "ok email me when you know". If I don't email, I'll get one from him, "what do you want to do for lunch?". Fúcking maddening. It's not that I don't like him but I feel like I am being followed around. Sometimes I just want to sit by myself and have a sandwich and read the paper. Sometimes I want to go shopping and he will actually come with me and then stand in the woman's clothes shop looking like a lost boy and playing with his phone. Even if I say I am going to the library to rent a book he'll be like, "oh I have to rent one too". Really?????? before he started night courses, he had started travelling home at the same time as me too. If I left at 5 30 he'd be waiting for me in reception. If I purposely delayed he would still be there at 17 45, and if I got off early - he would too! And I worry that we are becoming so insular and that people will think we are socially retarded or that there is something going on between us - you know what office gossip is like. But how do I sort of dump him without being rude?

One eyed Jack

OldNotWIse wrote: »

Clingy people.

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But how do I sort of dump him without being rude?

Chances are he knows you're too polite to be rude to him already, and he's taking full advantage of it. You can't avoid being rude to someone like that, nor can you afford to leave them in any doubt that you do not require a chaperone everywhere you go.

I'm sure you'll think of something!

fussyonion

Has he another friend in the job or are you his only friend?
Do you think he fancies you?
I had someone clingy with me before; eventually it got so bad I had to start ignoring the person.
I'm sure it was very hurtful but this was edging on the obsessive and there was no other way round it.

eisenberg1

ONW, that's easy, he got da hots for ya!

Clegg

OldNotWIse wrote: »

Clingy people.

That's a tricky one. I've had something similar happen. Made friends with someone who thought we were much closer friends than we actually were. It got to the stage where I had to tell him to back off a bit and to set a few boundaries. Ignoring is an option and I've done that before too. But that just leads to everyone feeling crap about it.

OldNotWIse

fussyonion wrote: »

Has he another friend in the job or are you his only friend?
Do you think he fancies you?
I had someone clingy with me before; eventually it got so bad I had to start ignoring the person.
I'm sure it was very hurtful but this was edging on the obsessive and there was no other way round it.

I don't think he has any other friends, but that doesn't seem to bother him. And I have noticed once or twice that if we do happen to be in a group, if I have deliberately invited other people along for lunch too, he will constantly try to turn the conversation to something that only we have in common. So I am there talking to someone else, or listening to two people beside me talking and he will start saying things like, "oh I had a lecture in XY or Z last night. Did you find that lecturer any good?" - because we are both studying the same thing (although I am a few years ahead). It's so rude because it automatically cuts everyone else out of the conversation and also - I don't want to talk about college when I am at lunch!

One eyed Jack

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I don't think he has any other friends, but that doesn't seem to bother him.

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It's so rude because it automatically cuts everyone else out of the conversation and also - I don't want to talk about college when I am at lunch!

If he's willing to be so rude to other people, it's only a matter of time before he's just as rude to you if you don't entertain him. I personally wouldn't be too concerned about sparing his feelings under those circumstances tbh.

Clegg

If you still want to be friends with him then take control of it. Let him know when you want to go out for lunch and when you want to do something. Don't be dictated to.

mud

Just had a conversation with a girl I was in college with. She's getting married and thinks it's totally natural that she has the final say in what wedding guests wear. (Guests not bridal party). I'm not close with her and it's her own gig but I think she's somewhat dragging the arse out of "her day". Not sure why it annoyed me. Probably the walking cliché aspect. For example her Mother wants to wear a hat but THERE WILL BE NO HATS at this wedding. Seems unnecessarily controlling to me. Oh well, I won't be invited or anything so it's none of my business.

OldNotWIse

I just "stood him up" for morning break :pac:

OldNotWIse

mud wrote: »

Just had a conversation with a girl I was in college with. She's getting married and thinks it's totally natural that she has the final say in what wedding guests wear. (Guests not bridal party). I'm not close with her and it's her own gig but I think she's somewhat dragging the arse out of "her day". Not sure why it annoyed me. Probably the walking cliché aspect. For example her Mother wants to wear a hat but THERE WILL BE NO HATS at this wedding. Seems unnecessarily controlling to me. Oh well, I won't be invited or anything so it's none of my business.

At least it's just for one day - the poor groom will probably have his wardrobe dictated to him for the rest of his life! Better off drowned at birth etc.

eternal

He sounds insecure and you give him attention which he feeds off. It doesn't seem like he is being rude, he is looking for confidence in the security of the things which you have in common to talk about. He might be extremely shy around other people.

sebcity

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I just "stood him up" for morning break :pac:

He fancies you. Simple

OldNotWIse

eternal wrote: »

He sounds insecure and you give him attention which he feeds off. It doesn't seem like he is being rude, he is looking for confidence in the security of the things which you have in common to talk about. He might be extremely shy around other people.

TA - Eternal's post makes me feel like a witch It is true though he is shy, which is why I haven't been hard on him. if he was a complete gobs*ite I wouldn't have a problem telling him to get along outta that :pac:

Colser

mud wrote: »

Just had a conversation with a girl I was in college with. She's getting married and thinks it's totally natural that she has the final say in what wedding guests wear. (Guests not bridal party). I'm not close with her and it's her own gig but I think she's somewhat dragging the arse out of "her day". Not sure why it annoyed me. Probably the walking cliché aspect. For example her Mother wants to wear a hat but THERE WILL BE NO HATS at this wedding. Seems unnecessarily controlling to me. Oh well, I won't be invited or anything so it's none of my business.

You know whats annoys me about things like that is that I bet if someone else had that kind of sh*t carry on at their wedding she would be the type to slate it but people seem to lose all reason when it comes to their own wedding and think the world revolves around them. They need to get over themselves and cop on as the whole thing has gone ridiculous imo.Just be thankful you wont be invited and have to endure her on the day.

Savage Tyrant

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I just "stood him up" for morning break :pac:

You got to do the same for lunch today too. Then you're well on the way to freedom.