Ruined christmases?

cloud493

Has anyone else ever had weird christmas ruining moments? The ones that stick with you.

When I was younger, when my parents were divorcing. On the 23rd, my mum kicked my dad out of the house. Then on the 25th, she was working a late (2PM - 11PM) So it was myself, and my siblings in the house (2 brothers, 3 sisters) when my dad kicked the front door in, he was really drunk, and basically forced us all to climb into his car, drive an hour to his mothers grave, he smashed a bottle on it, then grabbed my sister by her wrist, dragged her into the car, and drove away., We had to walk home in the cold, call the police and my mum, they found him, and... that was a pretty rubbish christmas.

Makes you appreciate the good christmases

pmasterson95

Found daddy kissing santa

RobertKK

One of my dogs is missing, yesterday my brother in law/neighbour said he was happy she was gone.
I said nothing as I didn't want to start an argument on Christmas day, but lets just say I think someone was responsible for the missing dog and that comment didn't do anything to lower my doubt, and it has been on my mind since it was said.

The King of Moo

Last year I left it till too late to get Roses in the supermarket, and they were all gone.

HamsterFace

I found out that the man who I thought was my father really isn't.

My real father is actually a very well known musician but he has never recognized me.

pmasterson95

HamsterFace wrote: »

I found out that the man who I thought was my father really isn't.

My real father is actually a very well known musician but he has never recognized me.

Bono?

Mr_Muffin

Usually just drink to much and got depressed over the Xmas period.

More often than not it's a pretty good time of year.

HamsterFace

pmasterson95 wrote: »

Bono?

Wouldn't really be willing to say :-)

Gael23

Quite a few years back, a guy I knew had his mother in hospital over Christmas. Only a short while before dinner time a call came to say she had just died.

michael999999

HamsterFace wrote: »

I found out that the man who I thought was my father really isn't.

My real father is actually a very well known musician but he has never recognized me.

Now I see the resemblance!

The boom town rats?

PizzamanIRL

I was caught watching porn on my new laptop when I was 17. That ruined my mojo.

Steve F

HamsterFace wrote: »

I found out that the man who I thought was my father really isn't.

My real father is actually a very well known musician but he has never recognized me.

Can't be Bono then;)

Mickey H

PizzamanIRL wrote: »

I was caught watching porn on my new laptop when I was 17. That ruined my mojo.

That's what we call a failed danger ****.

You'll be learning.

Mongfinder General

cloud493 wrote: »

Has anyone else ever had weird christmas ruining moments? The ones that stick with you.

When I was younger, when my parents were divorcing. On the 23rd, my mum kicked my dad out of the house. Then on the 25th, she was working a late (2PM - 11PM) So it was myself, and my siblings in the house (2 brothers, 3 sisters) when my dad kicked the front door in, he was really drunk, and basically forced us all to climb into his car, drive an hour to his mothers grave, he smashed a bottle on it, then grabbed my sister by her wrist, dragged her into the car, and drove away., We had to walk home in the cold, call the police and my mum, they found him, and... that was a pretty rubbish christmas.

Makes you appreciate the good christmases

That is such a sad story. Families will break your heart.

Karl Stein

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9oiO6RVKrU

Macavity.

One year my Granny went mental and said she wished she was dead. Really awkward, but I don't think it ruined the Christmas for me.

Buona Fortuna

HamsterFace wrote: »

I found out that the man who I thought was my father really isn't.

My real father is actually a very well known musician but he has never recognized me.

Rolf Harris?

cloud493

Karl Stein wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9oiO6RVKrU

Its misrerpalling.

Karl Stein

cloud493 wrote: »

Its misrerpalling.

Der does be do be a lot of miserapplin' t'reads in AH lately.

I bet Joe is furiously masturbating to them.

Cee-Jay-Cee

cloud493 wrote: »

Has anyone else ever had weird christmas ruining moments? The ones that stick with you.

When I was younger, when my parents were divorcing. On the 23rd, my mum kicked my dad out of the house. Then on the 25th, she was working a late (2PM - 11PM) So it was myself, and my siblings in the house (2 brothers, 3 sisters) when my dad kicked the front door in, he was really drunk, and basically forced us all to climb into his car, drive an hour to his mothers grave, he smashed a bottle on it, then grabbed my sister by her wrist, dragged her into the car, and drove away., We had to walk home in the cold, call the police and my mum, they found him, and... that was a pretty rubbish christmas.

Makes you appreciate the good christmases

You win, my story of when I forgot to buy the Christmas crackers one year couldnt compete against yours.

cloud493

Karl Stein wrote: »

Der does be do be a lot of miserapplin' t'reads in AH lately.

I bet Joe is furiously masturbating to them.

It do be terrible when the living do be eating the dead.

padd b1975

HamsterFace wrote: »

Wouldn't really be willing to say :-)

Dickie Rock?

AlmightyCushion

We ran our of quality street by 6PM on Christmas day about 5 years back. I still cry myself to sleep wherever I think about it.

Cork Lass

Three years ago my father died on 21st December. That put a damper on christmas alright.

Cork Lass

AlmightyCushion wrote: »

We ran our of quality street by 6PM on Christmas day about 5 years back. I still cry myself to sleep wherever I think about it.

I actually meant to buy them this year but forgot - have you any left?:)

cloud493

Cork Lass wrote: »

I actually meant to buy them this year but forgot - have you any left?:)

I have some celebrations?

hdowney

been very ill the previous three Christmases. no Christmas dinner, sweets or drink, couldn't watch telly, read or anything. vomiting constantly and trips to Caredoc. not the best :-(

Cork Lass

cloud493 wrote: »

I have some celebrations?

Any toffees left?

branie2

Thankfully, none.

cloud493

Cork Lass wrote: »

Any toffees left?

I think so.

Cork Lass

cloud493 wrote: »

I think so.

Can I have one🎅

cloud493

Of course *hands over handfuls of sweeties*





Oh, and my mum died. But that wasn't at christmas, and the young un still had a good christmas, so I guess it doesn't technically count.

steddyeddy

cloud493 wrote: »

Has anyone else ever had weird christmas ruining moments? The ones that stick with you.

When I was younger, when my parents were divorcing. On the 23rd, my mum kicked my dad out of the house. Then on the 25th, she was working a late (2PM - 11PM) So it was myself, and my siblings in the house (2 brothers, 3 sisters) when my dad kicked the front door in, he was really drunk, and basically forced us all to climb into his car, drive an hour to his mothers grave, he smashed a bottle on it, then grabbed my sister by her wrist, dragged her into the car, and drove away., We had to walk home in the cold, call the police and my mum, they found him, and... that was a pretty rubbish christmas.

Makes you appreciate the good christmases

Well done for being so candid about it. I had to defend my mother and little sisters from a drunk father. I did though.

Cork Lass

cloud493 wrote: »

Of course *hands over handfuls of sweeties*





Oh, and my mum died. But that wasn't at christmas, and the young un still had a good christmas, so I guess it doesn't technically count.

Thanks for the sweets. Sorry about your mum, I'm glad you had a good Christmas.

Frigga_92

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents fought pretty much non-stop for my entire childhood but it was always worse at Christmas. They used to wreck the place, pull down the decorations (that's if any were put up in the first place), break presents throwing them around the place etc etc, I won't go into too much detail.
Basically from age 0-18, until I moved out, Christmases were pretty horrible.
One Christmas that sticks out in my head was when I was 3 or 4. If my father thought he was in big trouble with my mother he'd use one of us as a barrier, thinking she'd go easier on him if we were there, never worked. This particular night they were raging away at each other and I came downstairs and my father grabbed me and put me sitting on his lap. I was roaring crying of course. My mother threw an ashtray at him and it hit me in the face. It was an old fashioned really heavy glass ashtray like this - http://thumbs2.ebaystatic.com/d/l225/m/mcFEb8y0sW7LpSMIHsb-CdA.jpg
I still have a noticeable scar between my lip and my nose and my nose is slightly crooked.

I never ever visit my parents at Christmastime. There's a few different reasons for that. They don't understand of course and just think I'm being awkward, there's never been any acknowledgment of how unacceptable their carry on was. I'm 27 now and I still find Christmas hard sometimes just thinking about all my childhood Christmases.
I go all out at Christmas now and my husband makes sure it's amazing because he knows why I need it to be like that now. I have Christmas traditions that probably seem childish and stupid to some people but it's just the way it has to be now. I felt like there were years where we didn't even celebrate Christmas when I was younger, we may have had decorations up and eaten a Christmas dinner but you were just on edge and couldn't enjoy any of it properly so it just went by unnoticed.

Venus In Furs

It's heartbreaking how sh-t Christmas/life was for some of you when ye were little kids. I hope life is infinitely better now.

steddyeddy

26sdrawkcab wrote: »

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents fought pretty much non-stop for my entire childhood but it was always worse at Christmas. They used to wreck the place, pull down the decorations (that's if any were put up in the first place), break presents throwing them around the place etc etc, I won't go into too much detail.
Basically from age 0-18, until I moved out, Christmases were pretty horrible.
One Christmas that sticks out in my head was when I was 3 or 4. If my father thought he was in big trouble with my mother he'd use one of us as a barrier, thinking she'd go easier on him if we were there, never worked. This particular night they were raging away at each other and I came downstairs and my father grabbed me and put me sitting on his lap. I was roaring crying of course. My mother threw an ashtray at him and it hit me in the face. It was an old fashioned really heavy glass ashtray like this - http://thumbs2.ebaystatic.com/d/l225/m/mcFEb8y0sW7LpSMIHsb-CdA.jpg
I still have a noticeable scar between my lip and my nose and my nose is slightly crooked.

I never ever visit my parents at Christmastime. There's a few different reasons for that. They don't understand of course and just think I'm being awkward, there's never been any acknowledgment of how unacceptable their carry on was. I'm 27 now and I still find Christmas hard sometimes just thinking about all my childhood Christmases.
I go all out at Christmas now and my husband makes sure it's amazing because he knows why I need it to be like that now. I have Christmas traditions that probably seem childish and stupid to some people but it's just the way it has to be now. I felt like there were years where we didn't even celebrate Christmas when I was younger, we may have had decorations up and eaten a Christmas dinner but you were just on edge and couldn't enjoy any of it properly so it just went by unnoticed.

Yep me too man. The world and its dog knows you were in the right though.

blacklilly

The Christmases of '91-'99, I never got the pony I asked for. Then my dad obviously annoyed and frustrated at santa for ignoring my simple request bought me one in 2000:D

MagicMarker

blacklilly wrote: »

The Christmases of '91-'99, I never got the pony I asked for. Then my dad obviously annoyed and frustrated at santa for ignoring my simple request bought me one in 2000:D

Does he work for KPMG?

blacklilly

MagicMarker wrote: »

Does he work for KPMG?

Ya like totes babes. He bought me manolo blahniks this year:rolleyes:

steddyeddy

We're all better people for it right?

flas

This one,I have been sick all week,all over the place,I have to go back to work tomorrow and I am genuinely worried Il collapse or something in there but I can't ring in sick because I have been off all week even if it was just dying all week!didn't get to go out with friends or relatives or anything like that,**** I hate being sick at Christmas!

Highflyer13

26sdrawkcab wrote: »

I grew up with an alcoholic father and my parents fought pretty much non-stop for my entire childhood but it was always worse at Christmas. They used to wreck the place, pull down the decorations (that's if any were put up in the first place), break presents throwing them around the place etc etc, I won't go into too much detail.
Basically from age 0-18, until I moved out, Christmases were pretty horrible.
One Christmas that sticks out in my head was when I was 3 or 4. If my father thought he was in big trouble with my mother he'd use one of us as a barrier, thinking she'd go easier on him if we were there, never worked. This particular night they were raging away at each other and I came downstairs and my father grabbed me and put me sitting on his lap. I was roaring crying of course. My mother threw an ashtray at him and it hit me in the face. It was an old fashioned really heavy glass ashtray like this - http://thumbs2.ebaystatic.com/d/l225/m/mcFEb8y0sW7LpSMIHsb-CdA.jpg
I still have a noticeable scar between my lip and my nose and my nose is slightly crooked.

I never ever visit my parents at Christmastime. There's a few different reasons for that. They don't understand of course and just think I'm being awkward, there's never been any acknowledgment of how unacceptable their carry on was. I'm 27 now and I still find Christmas hard sometimes just thinking about all my childhood Christmases.
I go all out at Christmas now and my husband makes sure it's amazing because he knows why I need it to be like that now. I have Christmas traditions that probably seem childish and stupid to some people but it's just the way it has to be now. I felt like there were years where we didn't even celebrate Christmas when I was younger, we may have had decorations up and eaten a Christmas dinner but you were just on edge and couldn't enjoy any of it properly so it just went by unnoticed.

That actually broke my heart reading it. No child deserves that on what should be some of the best memories of their lives. I hate alcohol, its a curse on this country. I remember the fear I had when I was a child seeing my parents drunk. I felt no security at the time. I would cry myself to sleep at times. Though they would never hurt us, it still frightented me to see them fighting and threatening each other or falling all over the house.

Funny thing is they still act like that and im 27 now. I've just learned to block it out completely and my relationship really is poor with them. I have tried to make them see sense and failed but thats their fault. They dont see a problem with heavy drinking. Sad really.

One thing I will never do is take a drink around my children.

EoghanIRL

After reading some of these posts it just reminds me how alcohol can bring out the worst in people .

I don't see why excessive alcohol use is more acceptable than other forms of drugs . Sad really.

lulu1

Highflyer13 wrote: »

That actually broke my heart reading it. No child deserves that on what should be some of the best memories of their lives. I hate alcohol, its a curse on this country. I remember the fear I had when I was a child seeing my parents drunk. I felt no security at the time. I would cry myself to sleep at times. Though they would never hurt us, it still frightented me to see them fighting and threatening each other or falling all over the house.

Funny thing is they still act like that and im 27 now. I've just learned to block it out completely and my relationship really is poor with them. I have tried to make them see sense and failed but thats their fault. They dont see a problem with heavy drinking. Sad really.

One thing I will never do is take a drink around my children.

Would you never tell them now how you felt when you were younger if they are still at the same carryon

Highflyer13

lulu1 wrote: »

Would you never tell them now how you felt when you were younger if they are still at the same carryon

Yep I have lots of times. Now I am relatively strong emotionally. I play lots of sports, hugely driven etc and work in an pressurised environment which demands mental strength. One night I cracked and rang my godmother who im close to and completely broke down. Id exhausted all options at this point. I was inconsolable on the phone. Some people just cannot be fixed in my conclusion. They have repeatedly failed to acknowledge a drinking problem. We have had interventions and everything.

Drinking heavily is normal and the only way to enjoy yourself in their opinion which frankly I find pathetic and sad. I drank heavily in my teens too but copped myself on and realised It wasn't normal.

TheBeardedLady

cloud493 wrote: »

Has anyone else ever had weird christmas ruining moments? The ones that stick with you.

When I was younger, when my parents were divorcing. On the 23rd, my mum kicked my dad out of the house. Then on the 25th, she was working a late (2PM - 11PM) So it was myself, and my siblings in the house (2 brothers, 3 sisters) when my dad kicked the front door in, he was really drunk, and basically forced us all to climb into his car, drive an hour to his mothers grave, he smashed a bottle on it, then grabbed my sister by her wrist, dragged her into the car, and drove away., We had to walk home in the cold, call the police and my mum, they found him, and... that was a pretty rubbish christmas.

Makes you appreciate the good christmases

****sake! Giz a hug! (((())))) How sad. Mad auld world. I'm full of the soundbites and cliches with a few drinks in me, so excuse me please. What I really want to ask you, though, is if you'd consider seeing a counsellor for a few sessions? Sounds like you haven't dealt with this at all. Big hug, matey. Look after yourself and happy new year to you.

humberklog

steddyeddy wrote: »

Yep me too man. The world and its dog knows you were in the right though.

It was written by a woman. Did you read it man?

Xenji

Ran out of drink one year and ended up having to drink Pimms of all things, really put a damper on the day and ruined my stomach as well!

Aeternum

This Christmas was awful and I blame drink completely - the drinking culture in this country is an absolute joke. Woke up on Christmas morning and my step-dad was absolutely hammered - had stayed up drinking all night and hadn't slept a wink. He had put our dog out the front and left him out there all night. Was supposed to be collecting my sister from work (she had to work the night shift) but was in too much of a state to drive. I drove out but only started driving recently and still on provisional. Collected her from work at 10, she had finished at eight and was waiting for someone to show up.

Had to send stepdad to bed and he started giving out to me and mam, saying he didn't need sleep. Honestly started crying cos the state he was in was ruining Christmas before it had barely started.

Finally got on with the day until got a call from my BF, asking me to collect him. His car wouldn't start and then his father went crazy at it because the NCT is out on the car and he's gonna get arrested, started saying he was a waste of space and crap. Went and got him and he was so upset.

Drink ruins everything.

FloatingVoter

I was 16. Showed up passed out drunk on the doorstep covered in blood.


The blood wasn't mine. As my mother put the pieces of my drunken memory together it turns out I'd glassed some idiot in the local pub. Spent hours on Christmas Day waiting for the police to arrive. That's a quiet house.

It turns out the bones in your head are very strong and the other guy wound up home in a similar drunken state. We shook hands and to my knowledge neither of us has gone near a black russian since.

Hello, Newcastle West.