Sex after childbirth

scaredycat

Hi ladies,

Just wondering is anyone can help? I've had my first child almost 12 weeks ago and had him vaginally. I had a good enough labour, and just got episiotomy too.

My hubby and I tried to have sex 8 weeks after I had him and while we were advised to get lube, it still really hurt. It was like he was hitting a wall when he started to enter me? It was fine going in until he got to a certain point (which wasn't too far in) and then bang, it was like a barrier was up and I actually felt like if he went in further he'd rip me apart. Has anyone else experience this and if so, whats the best thing to do?

We tried again last night and same thing happened and I got very upset and bawled (like a baby) as I know its not fair on him either. He's so understanding about it and was trying his best to convince me its normal (not that either of us know that... ) but it was in my head then and I had to stop.

I've tried looking up info on net, but am even more confused now as to whats wrong?
We had foreplay for a good while before he entered and I was relaxed when he entered and not one bit dry (sorry for TMI) so I hadn't tightened up, then it just hit something and that was it for me, had to stop immediately.

Can anyone offer any advice or know what I should do?

Thanks a mill...

Sauve

Hi OP,

I'm afraid that we can't give medical advice on boards. You're best advised to see your GP or gynaecologist to see what the issue is.

Sauve.