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Stand up for yourself

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  • #32
    beano345
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,105 ✭✭✭beano345


    I let it go once or twice....then unleash an awful dose of truth,had to do it just recently poor fcuker got an awful dismantling,but at the end of the day its his problem....respect it costs you nothing.


  • #33
    Frito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 769 ✭✭✭Frito


    Pippy1976 wrote: »
    Not all of the people who do it are senior.

    Which leads me to believe that I'm the one with the problem in that I need to BE more assertive.

    Although, what if someone speaks back in an unsavoury tone in front of a gang of colleagues making you look foolish. What should be the default response there, short of punching them in the face?

    If possible then I think such behaviour should be challenged, but never make it about you, it's always their problem.

    So for instance, rather than saying "I don't appreciate the tone you're taking with me" I would say "I'm going to stop you there because you're being rude, and that is not the way to behave with your colleagues". Even though they've been rude to you, you've not made the situation about you but referred the problem back to them.


  • #34
    Tail Docker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,954 ✭✭✭Tail Docker


    Frito wrote: »
    If possible then I think such behaviour should be challenged, but never make it about you, it's always their problem.

    So for instance, rather than saying "I don't appreciate the tone you're taking with me" I would say "I'm going to stop you there because you're being rude, and that is not the way to behave with your colleagues". Even though they've been rude to you, you've not made the situation about you but referred the problem back to them.

    I both hate and admire people who can do this. I tend to just call rude people a cnut and wander off. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter..


  • #35
    KomradeBishop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,981 ✭✭✭KomradeBishop


    If assertiveness is an issue, I think there are assertiveness classes that can be taken as well, to help teach the skills and build confidence there - don't know what kind of quality they are though.


  • #36
    Frito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 769 ✭✭✭Frito


    Tail Docker wrote: »
    I both hate and admire people who can do this. I tend to just call rude people a cnut and wander off. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter..

    Maybe I'm a bit of a pessimist, but I think sometimes the worse thing you can do with professional bullies who like an audience is to let slip that what they're doing intimidates you, or undermines you. If you can correct them without drawing attention to how it makes you feel then all the better in those situations.


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