Your opinion on being called 'kid', 'lad', or 'love', etc

Electric Boobs

What's your opinion on being called 'kid', 'lad', or 'love', etc, by people you don't know closely. I've grown okay with older women(mainly working class) calling me 'love'. That's just they way they are... affectionate. Since I've noticed that this even happens to men aged 60 odd years, I said it's not a big deal and isn't anything to do with me. Another one that annoys me is when people say 'go on' as a substitute for 'good bye'. It's like as if they're saying "go on, get away from me". Am I right, or is this just something that as become part of being Irish to such an extent that it's not considered rude any more.

I initially presumed it was a sort of thing that might be more inclined to be done to you if you were viewed as being young or inexperienced, so that's why I get annoyed it's done to me by people who are younger. It's something, that if you are seen to correct someone on it, you look like you're making a big deal out of nothing, but yet it does annoy me when someone who's younger than me(they might think I'm younger), and earning less money, says something like "no problem kid". The other thing is that usually it's done when you least expect it, like at the end of an interaction, and the second you realise it, the fella's gone. Then you realise what you thought was an interaction of equally, the other person viewed as one where by he was being nice/patient with you!

I think that it's down right rude to address someone as 'lad', the first time meeting them. And I for one can say that I wouldn't call anyone 'lad' just because I might think that I'm superior to them. It's like reminding someone that you think you're better than them, and yet get away with being rude! In a way, this makes me think that preferred the days back in secondary school when all thoughts were out in the open and there was a lot more confrontation, rather than the cold cliquishness.

wazky

Well laaad, how's she cuttin' boy, fierce oul weather out, it's quare warm like.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Well beure

Czarcasm

Mr. E. Boobs it is then, or Ms. E. Boobs?

Either way...

DrumSteve

Czarcasm wrote: »

Mr. E. Boobs it is then, or Ms. E. Boobs?

Either way...

Mystery boobs?

The Backwards Man

Doesn't bother me at all pet.

Sh1tbag OToole

What i hate is Dubs who I dont know from adam calling me 'buddy'

ongarboy

Sounds like OP is projecting some insecurity issues on others innocent terms of endearment/affection or whatever. How could you possible be offended by love, kid or lad?

I'd be far more offended by someone who would rate me as inferior just because I was younger or earned less money (as OP seems to do). Stones and Glass houses come to mind....!

Electric Boobs

5 responses hell bent on being obtuse and sarcastic! That's extreme even for after hours

ahnowbrowncow

"How'ya horse" I especially dislike that one but its usually a good indicator of an ignoramus.

Electric Boobs

ongarboy wrote: »

Sounds like OP is projecting some insecurity issues on others innocent terms of endearment/affection or whatever. How could you possible be offended by love, kid or lad?

Would you call a doctor, judge or professor kid? It is somewhat unprofessional. I remember over hearing a staff member in fed ex not to address customers by bro, buddy etc.

Jimoslimos

Sh1tbag OToole wrote: »

What i hate is Dubs who I dont know from adam calling me 'buddy'

I'm not your friend, buddy.

conorh91

Electric Boobs wrote: »

In a way, this makes me think that preferred the days back in secondary school when all thoughts were out in the open and there was a lot more confrontation, rather than the cold cliquishness.

I never thought of these expressions as cold cliquishness. If anything, I take them as the opposite. It's a (possibly, sub-conscious) way of re-enforcing to a person that you are part of their 'group', and not outside it at all. All of those terms are affectionate.

Anyway I have to work now. Go on!

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Electric Boobs wrote: »

Would you call a doctor, judge or professor kid?

Sorry your honour, if I had known.

The One Doctor

Electric Boobs wrote: »

it does annoy me when someone who's younger than me(they might think I'm younger), and earning less money, says something like "no problem kid".

I bet your monocle dropped right out when that happened.

I love your arrogant snobbery by the way, very stylish.

Sunnyisland

In a restarant today and the waitress who was English was calling us all love and darlings, ah sure it was great.

Betty Bloggs

People "earning less money" than you OP speak this way to you?!
How very dare they address you in such a manner.
Do they not know their place? Despicable.

Sunnyisland

Sh1tbag OToole wrote: »

What i hate is Dubs who I dont know from adam calling me 'buddy'

In fairness I think you just hate Dubs, period.

Electric Boobs

conorh91 wrote: »

I never thought of these expressions as cold cliquishness

I didn't specifically mean that the actual expression are cliquey, but that there can be cliquishness in general

Steve_o

Electric Boobs wrote: »

What's your opinion on being called 'kid', 'lad', or 'love', etc.

I utterly despise it, Particularly "kid" and "lad"... I also hate being called "pet"! That's the worst!

Sky King

There was a skobe going round my home town inscribing things like 'She Twincam Lad' and 'Fare sideways lad' on the road signs.

Is this the cave art of the 21st century?

Bpmull

I wouldn't like to be called kid or love anyway. But most of them I don't mind. As for lad I use it a good bit I'd often use it talking with friends they would also, same in college. But at the same time I'd really only use it with people I know my own age. Wouldn't go up to a middle aged man and refer to him using the word lad. I think any of them words similar to lad used to refer to people or greet them are fine once you use them on the right people I suppose.

Electric Boobs

Steve_o wrote: »

I utterly despise it, Particularly "kid" and "lad"... I also hate being called "pet"! That's the worst!

'pet' is usually by women though

RDM_83 again

Steve_o wrote: »

I utterly despise it, Particularly "kid" and "lad"... I also hate being called "pet"! That's the worst!

I dont mind it when its an older woman but when its a shop girl that your a decade older than its just weird.

Leilak

what a trivial argument - get on with it :rolleyes:

jimgoose

No bodder, bah.

Electric Boobs

RDM_83 again wrote: »

I dont mind it when its an older woman but when its a shop girl that your a decade older than its just weird.

At last people are beginning to understand where I'm coming from!

dudara

Bud, mate, pal

Makes me want to punch the person involved. Use of these words when addressing me induces an over-the-top reaction of hatred

jimgoose

Electric Boobs wrote: »

Would you call a doctor, judge or professor kid?...

Of course not. The correct form of addess in these cases is "Mr. Kid, Surrr".

Electric Boobs

dudara wrote: »

Bud, mate, pal

Makes me want to punch the person involved. Use of these words when addressing me induces an over-the-top reaction of hatred

well if you hate bud, mate and pal, then you'd definitely hate kid, or lad!!

djflawless

Well saan

Chocolate Lions

Chatting to a girl about 5 years younger than me and she kept calling me kid. Trying to sound savvy or something, it just made her sound cringe/stupid.
I don't mind a "Well lad" or whatever from someone about my own age. It's just a hello.

I don't like the "loveen" treatment at all though. Fcuk off, you're not my grandmother.

Electric Boobs

Leilak wrote: »

what a trivial argument - get on with it :rolleyes:

we all have our pet peeves

Stuxnet

Well minge face

Timmyctc

Jimoslimos wrote: »

I'm not your friend, buddy.

I'm not your buddy, pal

FloatingVoter

The only people who ever had the right to call me "son" are dead. Do you wish to join them ?

gugleguy

What’ya sayin ’ toerag.

gugleguy

Timmyctc wrote: »

I'm not your buddy, pal

I’m not yer mate, bub.

Timmyctc

gugleguy wrote: »

I’m not yer mate, bub.

I'm not your bub, guy.

Galwayguy35

Sham and Scan, Tuam folk are always calling each other and the rest of us that when talking.

Another one is hun or babe, hate being called that.

gugleguy

I’m not your friend, turkey.

alias no.9

Electric Boobs wrote: »

What's your opinion on being called 'kid', 'lad', or 'love', etc, by people you don't know closely. I've grown okay with older women(mainly working class) calling me 'love'. That's just they way they are... affectionate. Since I've noticed that this even happens to men aged 60 odd years, I said it's not a big deal and isn't anything to do with me. Another one that annoys me is when people say 'go on' as a substitute for 'good bye'. It's like as if they're saying "go on, get away from me". Am I right, or is this just something that as become part of being Irish to such an extent that it's not considered rude any more.

I initially presumed it was a sort of thing that might be more inclined to be done to you if you were viewed as being young or inexperienced, so that's why I get annoyed it's done to me by people who are younger. It's something, that if you are seen to correct someone on it, you look like you're making a big deal out of nothing, but yet it does annoy me when someone who's younger than me(they might think I'm younger), and earning less money, says something like "no problem kid". The other thing is that usually it's done when you least expect it, like at the end of an interaction, and the second you realise it, the fella's gone. Then you realise what you thought was an interaction of equally, the other person viewed as one where by he was being nice/patient with you!

I think that it's down right rude to address someone as 'lad', the first time meeting them. And I for one can say that I wouldn't call anyone 'lad' just because I might think that I'm superior to them. It's like reminding someone that you think you're better than them, and yet get away with being rude! In a way, this makes me think that preferred the days back in secondary school when all thoughts were out in the open and there was a lot more confrontation, rather than the cold cliquishness.

You've little to be worrying about Chicken.

jimgoose

Aaah-reet duckie??

jimgoose

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Sham and Scan, Tuam folk are always calling each other and the rest of us that when talking.

Another one is hun or babe, hate being called that.

Shky-bah.

myshirt

A lot of the kids in Limerick call each other 'cuz'; as in 'Chalk it down cuz'.

It's just colloquial, I see nothing offensive.

Pumpkinseeds

I hate being called love or pet by someone I don't know, I hate it from people I know, what's worse is 'petal'. A couple of times when we lived in York, I'd have guys say 'aye up petal'.

curioser

Attractive blonde girl in Dunnes always calls me "love" - having just turned 60 it chuffs me no end.

Precious flower

Hate bro, love, mate, buddy, pet, hun, etc. it's not affectionate at all, for me those terms are used when you know someone very well, not complete strangers and even then I hate them. It's rude and unprofessional imo. And don't get me started on ''good girl'', when you're a grown woman, you don't say ''good boy'' do you?

dgt

Sky King wrote: »

There was a skobe going round my home town inscribing things like 'She Twincam Lad' and 'Fare sideways lad' on the road signs.

Is this the cave art of the 21st century?

"Shes a veh-i-cle for the bitches but a magnet for the ditches"

efb

Don't call me lad. Uurgh

Colinf1212

I've noticed since moving to Belfast again recently local women seem to call me love. Makes me feel all warm and happy inside.

Being called lad sounds cool (although lad culture recently has ruined it). People who say "dude" that aren't American or "mate" who aren't English annoy me quite a lot.