Where are all the non drinkers?

The Friendly Newcomer

Hi
I am a 20 year old male and I don't drink

I have just started back at college.
I don't know anyone there but I find it difficult to make friends as all the social setting seems to involve drinking and usually heavy drinking at that.

Also I find it is difficult to meet women as most guys meet women in nightclubs and pubs where drink is also heavily involved.
Just to be clear I have no problem with people drinking but I just find when it become binge drinking I find it kind of uncomfortable in their company.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks

Pedro K

You could have a tea party...

The Friendly Newcomer

Pedro K wrote: »

You could have a tea party...

I've tried, no good. :P

Avada

Non Drinkers Forum >>>>>>>>>

paulthom8

Are you a dunker or a dipper?
It may be a contributing factor.

dmc17

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Hi
I am a 20 year old male and I don't drink

I have just started back at college.
I don't know anyone there but I find it difficult to make friends as all the social setting seems to involve drinking and usually heavy drinking at that.

Also I find it is difficult to meet women as most guys meet women in nightclubs and pubs where drink is also heavily involved.
Just to be clear I have no problem with people drinking but I just find when it become binge drinking I find it kind of uncomfortable in their company.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks

Are you sure you went back to the same college?

catallus

Just drink a soft-drink OP. But DO NOT drink water in a pub if you're out with your mates.

The Friendly Newcomer

dmc17 wrote: »

Are you sure you went back to the same college?

Haha, i've transferred after a few years out of education.

GLaDOS

Serious answer, try some of the clubs and socs in college. Good way to socialise with people without the need for alcohol.

dmc17

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Haha, i've transferred after a few years out of education.

I suppose you could try joining clubs/societies/sports and that sort of thing to meet people

SureYWouldntYa

OP You're a savage

The King of Moo

Have a look at joining a society that might interest you. There's a good chance that not all of their social gatherings would be heavily based on drinking, and you'll meet people who share your interests.

paulthom8

There are national tea days organised by official bodies.
Have a look around the associations online.
You might hook yourself a nice lass.

Or a nice mammy.

Two tea bags please.

Tail Docker

They're all over asking David Grey questions with a vague connection to music/Being David Grey. And pleck drums. Whatever they are.

TheBegotten

I'm genuinely not sure whether this is a thread about tea or alcohol. I don't drink much of either OP, but I can't help you on the tea front. On the alcohol: join clubs, societies, etc. When you meet up with people, doing during the day time for a specified purpose, e.g. go bowling or whatever it is the hip young people do. You don't need to abstain from clubs either, unless you're a recovering alcoholic, but you'll want to find ones that are more socialising and dance orientated than just a place to get drunk.

Otherwise, I'd advise biscuits or a nice slice of apple tart.

The Friendly Newcomer

For the record this thread has nothing to do with tea.

Tail Docker

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

For the record this thread has nothing to do with tea.

Shouldn't this be Tee-totallers? People who keep the score at golf matches? Have you tried a golf course OP?

catallus

No no no. It's for people who only wear tee-shirts.

Tail Docker

catallus wrote: »

No no no. It's for people who only wear tee-shirts.

I always mix them up. That and pioneers - rubbish btw, very flat sound and fiddly buttons.

The Friendly Newcomer

Thread title changed to 'avoid confusion'.

Tail Docker

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Thread title changed to 'avoid confusion'.

In a poll of 1000 people, three said "In the Pub". There's always a few, eh.

Hello I heard there was tea

catallus

bluewolf wrote: »

Hello I heard there was tea

So did I but now we can't drink it; non-drinkers only now, he changed the title of the thread and everything.

That's a bit mean, OP. Tea is pretty serious business like
Can I've a cup anyway since I came all the way in here and all

Tar.Aldarion

My boss doesn't drink but he does be all sly about it with his nonalcoholic beers. They could be any of us!

The Friendly Newcomer

bluewolf wrote: »

That's a bit mean, OP. Tea is pretty serious business like
Can I've a cup anyway since I came all the way in here and all

Believe it or not, I love tea but I am currently off it because I have found out I have an allergy to it.

Tail Docker

bluewolf wrote: »

Hello I heard there was tea

It was Tee. Keeps your balls up off the ground. Do you have balls that need lifting up? No. So, wrong thread there Missy.

The Friendly Newcomer

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Believe it or not, I love tea but I am currently off it because I have found out I have an allergy to it.

So because you can't have any we can't either? IS THAT IT? :mad:

Tail Docker

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Believe it or not, I love tea but I am currently off it because I have found out I have an allergy to it.

Jasus, next you'll be saying you don't drink. Weirdo.

NegativeCreep

Just take up drinking?
Problem solved.

The Backwards Man

It's my birthday and I'm sober!












So far . . . . .

catallus

Happy birthday backwardsman :mad:

OP how the hell can you have an allergy to tea? Why are you making stuff up?

Tail Docker

The Backwards Man wrote: »

It's my birthday and I'm sober!












So far . . . . .

The fact it surprises you speaks volumes. It's not mine, and I'm sloshed. Don't jealous.

The Friendly Newcomer

catallus wrote: »

Happy birthday backwardsman :mad:

OP how the hell can you have an allergy to tea? Why are you making stuff up?

It's true, it doesn't mean that I come out in a rash or my throat closes up, it just means that it affects my degestive system and liver.

catallus

You mean the wild shítes?

Tail Docker

catallus wrote: »

Happy birthday backwardsman :mad:

OP how the hell can you have an allergy to tea? Why are you making stuff up?

Damn, where's me manners?? Happy Birthday BWM! What are you? 60?

The Backwards Man

Tail Docker wrote: »

Damn, where's me manners?? Happy Birthday BWM! What are you? 60?

Almost less than half that.

For those that believe in reincarnation, it's no coincidence that I was born less than a month after Elvis died.

Tail Docker

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Almost less than half that.

For those that believe in reincarnation, it's no coincidence that I was born less than a month after Elvis died.

He died so you could live. Sounds like a fair swap. He was a crap poster anyway. Always in the soccer forum, banging on about Man U. I prefer your style by miles.

The Friendly Newcomer

Can we get back on topic please.

Autosport

Non alcohol drinker here "waves"

The Friendly Newcomer

Autosport wrote: »

Non alcohol drinker here "waves"

Well there's one out there anyway

Tail Docker

The Friendly Newcomer wrote: »

Can we get back on topic please.

Relax bud, have another pint. You seem very wound up there.

Bpmull

I don't drink alcohol either. I'm in third year of college and I will admit it can be hard. It's unreal how much college is focused on drinking. Although I do go on nights out I find by about 12 or even earlier no one can any longer hold a conversation as there so drunk. I personally have nothing against people drinking alcohol. But I do enjoy going out more at weekends with friends from secondary school and home as although they drink it's not too the same extent and you can have some without them all been sh!tfaced. I suppose it's always just going to be one of them things about college.

The one thing that I find annoying is everyday you walk into college there has to be this huge conversation among the class group about who was out the night before how drunk they got. Everyone then thinks it's hilarious when someone drunk said something inappropriate. Then it's almost a failure of a night if someone didn't get sick on themselves. Theres social drinking and then there's what goes on in college at the other end of the scale really.

The Friendly Newcomer

Bpmull wrote: »

I don't drink alcohol either. I'm in third year of college and I will admit it can be hard. It's unreal how much college is focused on drinking. Although I do go on nights out I find by about 12 or even earlier no one can any longer hold a conversation as there so drunk. I personally have nothing against people drinking alcohol. But I do enjoy going out more at weekends with friends from secondary school and home as although they drink it's not too the same extent and you can have some without them all been sh!tfaced. I suppose it's always just going to be one of them things about college.

The one thing that I find annoying is everyday you walk into college there has to be this huge conversation among the class group about who was out the night before how drunk they got. Everyone then thinks it's hilarious when someone drunk said something inappropriate. Then it's almost a failure of a night if someone didn't get sick on themselves. Theres social drinking and then there's what goes on in college at the other end of the scale really.

I completely agree.

Glock Lesnar

People who don't drink and never have are seriously suspicuous.

the_syco

The non-drinkers drive home after a night out :P

Find a pub that serves non-alcoholic drink, buy it, destroy the label, and drink the non-alcoholic beverage. Drink non-alcoholic Koppaberg myself, and usually have 10 bottles of the stuff in the boot of my car if I have to drive home that night (work at 7am in the morning, etc), as otherwise I'll bring the alcoholic stuff.

Have gone to plenty of gigs, had a good time, and driven home afterwards.

Tail Docker

the_syco wrote: »

The non-drinkers drive home after a night out :P

Find a pub that serves non-alcoholic drink, buy it, destroy the label, and drink the non-alcoholic beverage. Drink non-alcoholic Koppaberg myself, and usually have 10 bottles of the stuff in the boot of my car if I have to drive home that night (work at 7am in the morning, etc), as otherwise I'll bring the alcoholic stuff.

Have gone to plenty of gigs, had a good time, and driven home afterwards.

I have visions of you struggling into the Point with ten bottles of de-caff jammed down the front of your trousers. And whipping them out at intervals, popping off the caps with your teeth.

--LOS--

OP..........club and societies, easy!


When I started college I had the problem of wanting to drink and not being old enough to drink, at least you have the choice!

Autosport

Glock Lesnar wrote: »

People who don't drink and never have are seriously suspicuous.

Yes we are we can drive home after a night out and don't suffer with a hangover the next day. Terribly suspicious

Trebor176

I'd class myself as a non-drinker, yet have a few when I'm out, but I am never close to being drunk. For a time, I'd have minerals, rather than alcohol, but would be egged on by others in the group, or even pestered as to why I wouldn't have a "proper" drink. Others couldn't make head nor tail as to why I didn't want to drink. But, somewhere along the way, I decided to have the bit of alcohol. Nights out can be great, but for me, things kind of go downhill a little as the night wears on, and many are drunk to the point where they talk jibberish, act up, or the odd time, can't stand up or end up being sick.

I know of some, who would be out every night of the week and get drunk each of those nights, complain the next day on Facebook about being hungover, they need a break from drinking, and a few hours later, are psyched up for yet another "session." No night for them is complete without getting wasted and then boasting about it the next day. It makes no sense. As a non-drinker, who, admittedly, isn't out every weekend, I have saved a good bit of dosh, so I don't need to worry or announce that I am skint after a weekend of drinking, as I have read many times on Facebook, or have heard about here and there.

You can go out, have the odd beer (or whatever alcoholic beverage you have), and stay sober for the rest of the night and be able to wake up the next day feeling fresh and being able to remember clearly what a good night it was instead of feeling sick with a thumping headache and complaining for having got yourself into a poor state from a few bevvies, maybe realising you lost your phone, wallet, or whatever, and not being able to remember where you left it/dropped it. And, if you're plastered on a night out, God knows what could happen to you, and good luck trying to remember details the next day, if God forbid, you got robbed, assaulted, etc. while in a drunken state.

paulthom8

If you gargle in monosyllabic tones over the course of a night, you should rarely have problems the following day.

Don't mix it.