People Who Blank You!

Electric Boobs

Seriously, joking aside about how I'm weird and all. It happens to everyone I guess, and most of the time it's from the people you'd least expect, which catches you completely by surprise. However I'll admit that sometimes it's the case that you might realise later that the person in question has glasses, or they genuinly mightn't remember you. But sometimes it's the case that you know they recognise you.

I think it's very immature... it's like as if to say, "I think I'm better than you, so I'll just remind you of it by blanking you". It can definitely lead to a lot of miss-understandings and because it annoys, I just don't bother saying hi to the people that do it.

It's also interesting to try and put yourself in their shoes, because I'd actually find it quite hard to just blank someone. Therefore it's something I just don't get.

roadrunner16

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Electric Boobs

roadrunner16 wrote: »

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It took me a second to get it!

Birroc

I'm gonna rock down to Electric Boob's shoes and then we'll take it higher.

The Backwards Man

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2D3-FkoXNU

JohnDee

Zero time for people that blank me, height of rudness, anyone that blanks I'm very happy to ignore. In same vein is when bumping into aquaintance who are in company of their other half and said other half turns arse to you.

solomafioso

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgvR3y5JCXg

Links234

The amount of times people have told me I unintentionally blanked them because I was wearing headphones! Sorry OP, I was away in my own little world tbh

MyNameIsMethos

I know that it doesn't apply to every person but, some blanking can be down to bad self esteem I've found: the person sort of can't put on the mask needed at the time or thinks that their situation is too crappy to go through the regular small-talk/catch-up so they try to evade catching up "just this once". Viscious circle though, as they can kinda beat themselves for the original blanking&compound whatever was initially up. I've danced this very tango myself at times; it can be addictive

tomwaterford

JohnDee wrote: »

Zero time for people that blank me, height of rudness, anyone that blanks I'm very happy to ignore. In same vein is when bumping into aquaintance who are in company of their other half and said other half turns arse to you.

to be fair...people I really don't like/want nothing to do with....I would just blank them....I would have very little time for small talk/false people who would talk to you and cut the back off you when your gone

I would sooner be rude/blank them than be bringing such annoyninces into my life



*it would take a fairly serious grievence for me to fall out to such an extent and if I did...they would be well aware why it is I cut them out!!

strobe

Sometimes I just don't want to have to stop and have a pointless ****ing 2 minute conversation that was identical and just as shallow and meaningless as the last one and the next one will be, four times over, on my way to the shop to grab a pint of bleeding milk.

Just leave me to go and get my pint of milk will ye!? If we meet up at a party in a few weeks, well, grand, I'll chat away to you for an hour or more if you want, but how great a conversation are we going to have as we stop for 100 seconds as we are both of us on our way somewhere else?

No. No small talk for you.

Electric Boobs

strobe wrote: »

Sometimes I just don't want to have to stop and have a pointless ****ing 2 minute conversation

You've got me wrong here. I mean people who don't even say 'hi' when passing you. You could at least do that!

strobe

Electric Boobs wrote: »

\You could at least do that!

Why?? For the love of god why? What difference does it make?

Plus a friendly "hi" only encourages a "so, where are you off to?" or something similar.

My milk is going to get warm.

Slunk

Id never do it to anyone I like but theres one manager in work who's an ignorant old ballix so I get great pleasure in blanking him. I like to set it up for a hello if I see him coming from a distance but as he gets closer just stare straight ahead and blank him.

Electric Boobs

strobe wrote: »

Why?? For the love of god why? What difference does it make?

So if someone you knew said 'hi' as passing by, you wouldn't even respond?

strobe wrote: »

Plus a friendly "hi" only encourages a "so, where are you off to?" or something similar.

Someone wouldn't be likely to say that unless they knew you very well. So inotherwords, you blank people you know very well?

Electric Boobs

Slunk wrote: »

Id never do it to anyone I like but theres one manager in work who's an ignorant old ballix so I get great pleasure in blanking him. I like to set it up for a hello if I see him coming from a distance but as he gets closer just stare straight ahead and blank him.

interesting

Pumpkinseeds

Maybe they just hate you for some reason.

The King of Moo

Blanking can be a great way to avoid awkward social situations.
Like when you see someone coming and you don't know if you know them well enough to stop and talk, and you can see that they're thinking the same thing. So you decide that you'll just say "hi" and keep going, but as you do so they make to stop, so you stop, but then they're starting off because they thought you weren't stopping... and so on, until you either both leave awkwardly laughing it off, or you both stop to chat but you have nothing to say, but you can't admit that as you would both be acknowledging your own worthlessness in your own eyes and the other's, so you struggle on with the conversation until you run out of things to say.

P_1

Electric Boobs wrote: »

You've got me wrong here. I mean people who don't even say 'hi' when passing you. You could at least do that!

That's what the Nod is for...

ToddyDoody

I've been known to walk past people I know several times and not notice... I've learned to accept that people will be angry at me and I won't necessary know why

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

I've terrible eyesight and I've been told I blank people quite often because of it. Plus, because of my terrible eyesight I ended up waving and smiling at person shaped blobs that I was pretty sure were people I knew only to come into closer proximity to the blobs and realise they were strangers, so I kind of just gave up on saluting people unless I have my glasses on. Even if I'm sure who it is, I find it hard to judge the distance at which you're supposed to say "hello" because like, I don't want to roar at them from 20 feet away, but I don't want to stare at them til we get closer, so I just look at the ground and then by the time I look up to say hello they've often decided that I'm blanking them and turned it into a double-blank, and it's not like I'm going to poke them on the shoulder and explain the whole mess when we're both busy people who only half know each other because we both know Teresa and...ugh. I dunno why I bother my arse leaving the house.

my teapot is orange

I've noticed a few times with a couple of people, that they always wait for me to say hi or initiate conversation. Like saying "you chase me, I'm not pushed about talking to you". Sometimes I get sick of that and decide it's their turn, and if they don't, fine.

I think it's hilarious when someone moans about someone elses failure to make conversation when they didn't either.

JohnDee

tomwaterford wrote: »

to be fair...people I really don't like/want nothing to do with....I would just blank them....I would have very little time for small talk/false people who would talk to you and cut the back off you when your gone

I would sooner be rude/blank them than be bringing such annoyninces into my life



*it would take a fairly serious grievence for me to fall out to such an extent and if I did...they would be well aware why it is I cut them out!!

True Tom, I agree about not engaging with people I've no time for but I had in mind (didn't come across in my post) when you bump into someone and their partner (who I've never met) just ignores you. I don't expect them to be happy clappy but is it too hard to give a simple nod of the head in acknowledgement. Only happens very occasionally but enough to be pet peeve.

Electric Boobs

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

Maybe they just hate you for some reason.

I thought I accounted for predictable snide comments like that in my opener!

humberklog

Woohoo! I'm 14 again!

Electric Boobs

Scarlette CoolS Wedding wrote: »

I've terrible eyesight and I've been told I blank people quite often because of it. Plus, because of my terrible eyesight I ended up waving and smiling at person shaped blobs that I was pretty sure were people I knew only to come into closer proximity to the blobs and realise they were strangers, so I kind of just gave up on saluting people unless I have my glasses on. Even if I'm sure who it is, I find it hard to judge the distance at which you're supposed to say "hello" because like, I don't want to roar at them from 20 feet away, but I don't want to stare at them til we get closer, so I just look at the ground and then by the time I look up to say hello they've often decided that I'm blanking them and turned it into a double-blank, and it's not like I'm going to poke them on the shoulder and explain the whole mess when we're both busy people who only half know each other because we both know Teresa and...ugh. I dunno why I bother my arse leaving the house.

solution is to say hi to everyone you pass!!

Pumpkinseeds

Electric Boobs wrote: »

I thought I accounted for predictable snide comments like that in my opener!

Honestly, I'm not being snide. Sometimes people deliberately blank someone because they are pissed off at that person for some reason. There are of course reasons such as not seeing the person, but more often people blank someone because they just, for whatever reason, do not want to talk to them, or acknowledge their existence. If you didn't want responses that you don't like you shouldn't have posted the question.

beks101

I dunno, I'm all for compassion usually, but I think a rudimentary nod of the head or smile of recognition is sort of one of your more base social behaviours that doesn't really require much of anyone tbh.

I don't buy this 'afraid to be engaged in small talk' - acknowledging an acquaintance really does not mean that you're indebted to stop and stand there wasting time talking about the weather. Come on now. You smile and/or say hi and walk on. Pretty simple stuff.

I've had it done to me a few times, most often when I'm back home and find myself in the direct eye line of some girl I went to school with and haven't seen for ten years or something. I'll maintain the gaze and prepare to say 'hi' only for them to look away or look right through me. Odd as all hell. Personally I'd find it twice the effort to blank someone than to give an old cursory nod of the head.

Leogirl

The Backwards Man wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2D3-FkoXNU

Love that scene!

strobe

Electric Boobs wrote: »

So if someone you knew said 'hi' as passing by, you wouldn't even respond?]

I'd spit in their general direction and steal their left shoe, to teach them a lesson.

Larianne

Irish people are great at looking at the ground!

























(Kinda need to with all the dog shít around!)

Corkgirl210

I believe those who blank others just haven't got the courage to face whatever they are avoiding with that person.. or they are just plain ignorant.. either way their stuff not yours..

manyoung

MyNameIsMethos wrote: »

I know that it doesn't apply to every person but, some blanking can be down to bad self esteem I've found: the person sort of can't put on the mask needed at the time or thinks that their situation is too crappy to go through the regular small-talk/catch-up so they try to evade catching up "just this once". Viscious circle though, as they can kinda beat themselves for the original blanking&compound whatever was initially up. I've danced this very tango myself at times; it can be addictive

This is very similar to myself. Couple of months ago, I seen a couple of people form school in a shop. They were in a circle talking and, due to irrational thought and crippling anxiety, I just proceeded about my business, ultimately ignoring them, although, I'm not sure this is "blanking" per se. It occurred to me on Monday morning, however, that I would have to face the music.

Personally, my own personality and anxiety can make me do stupid things. other people may just not be focused or may just be deep in thought.

And then there are the people who are just rude gobs1h1tes!

The Purveyor of Truth

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3-PRRNbMCA

_Whimsical_

I am really bad at remembering faces until right after people have passed me by. I'd say I blank people all the time.

I still cringe when I think of some of the times I've had people wave at me, looked straight at them,decided I didn't know them and presumed they must be waving at someone behind me only to remember who they were 2 mins later.

I think the vast majority of blankings happen like that. I've never once saw someone I recognised and thought "I'll just ignore him/her", never ever. I always presumed other people were the same and let people off with blanking me.

mikeyjames9

MyNameIsMethos wrote: »

I know that it doesn't apply to every person but, some blanking can be down to bad self esteem I've found: the person sort of can't put on the mask needed at the time or thinks that their situation is too crappy to go through the regular small-talk/catch-up so they try to evade catching up "just this once". Viscious circle though, as they can kinda beat themselves for the original blanking&compound whatever was initially up. I've danced this very tango myself at times; it can be addictive

I've done it too when things are really bad

I mean bad..

not the greatest idea though, very negative consequences

Electric Boobs

WESTERN_STAR wrote: »

there is a great book called forward look by L.C lamppost

oh by the way,the vast majority of the vast majorities are the vast majorities !!

Get out of my thread, or I'll have you banned

gugleguy

The boards equivalent is Boardsies who have put you on Ignore. Good news for you electric boobs, I will say hiya you're not on my ignore list. Only mingers and trolls are put on it.

con___manx1

MyNameIsMethos wrote: »

I know that it doesn't apply to every person but, some blanking can be down to bad self esteem I've found: the person sort of can't put on the mask needed at the time or thinks that their situation is too crappy to go through the regular small-talk/catch-up so they try to evade catching up "just this once". Viscious circle though, as they can kinda beat themselves for the original blanking&compound whatever was initially up. I've danced this very tango myself at times; it can be addictive

I have been in the same boat myself at one time. I reckon that there is a few people who think I'm an ignorant asshole ; )

Frank Lee Midere

I suspect this is more of a small town thing. As a recent migrant to Dublin I don't know enough people to blank them. In any case I don't always wear contacts. Basically if I'm walking around I don't expect to see people I know. I am in my little world. So I may have blanked people from work or other groups if people I know. Nobody has mentioned it.
Nothing to do with low self esteem either. I'm talkative enough.

But lighten up. If you have been blanked it's probably not anything to do with you. Unless everybody does it. If everybody is blanking you it's probably you. You're probably a prick.

WilyCoyote

Frank Lee Midere wrote: »

I suspect this is more of a small town thing. As a recent migrant to Dublin I don't know enough people to blank them. In any case I don't always wear contacts. Basically if I'm walking around I don't expect to see people I know. I am in my little world. So I may have blanked people from work or other groups if people I know. Nobody has mentioned it.
Nothing to do with low self esteem either. I'm talkative enough.

But lighten up. If you have been blanked it's probably not anything to do with you. Unless everybody does it. If everybody is blanking you it's probably you. You're probably a prick.

Or if not a prick,a first cousin of. Away with you and work on your self esteem, you miserable barsteward!

Frank Lee Midere

WilyCoyote wrote: »

Or if not a prick,a first cousin of. Away with you and work on your self esteem, you miserable barsteward!

Where did I say I had any lack of self esteem. I said I don't go around cities expecting to bump into people. So I don't always notice people. And am new to Dublin. Learn to read.

It's the hysteria of people being blanked which seems to be the self esteem issue. OMG someone who I barely knew at work didn't see me - start a thread on the Internet.

gugleguy

Frank Lee Midere wrote: »

Where did I say I had any lack of self esteem. I said I don't go around cities expecting to bump into people. So I don't always notice people. And am new to Dublin. Learn to read.

It's the hysteria of people being blanked which seems to be the self esteem issue. OMG someone who I barely knew at work didn't see me - start a thread on the Internet.

Thank you Frank , sir! The other coyote is on my Ignore list.

Wanderer2010

I do blank people but its only to people who have been rude to me. I always would nod to someone as Im passing them on the road/in work etc but a few pr!cks have ignored me or just looked at me like I have 2 heads when I try to be nice so those people go on my blank list..

The Strawman Argument

Gah, it all depends. There's loads of people I technically know because we've mutual friends and met on some night out, you've got to stop doing the awkward acknowledgements after bumping into them a few times though.

I'm agoraphobic or something anyways, cannot handle being stopped on my way to somewhere at all. Used to get really bothered about timing the nod or brief "hi" correctly so I wouldn't have to stop, but it's way too hard. What I do instead now is a wave when I'm 95% certain I know the person and then another excruciatingly awkward wave when I get nearer to remind them that I'm far too awkward to stop and talk.



Also, if I've made no effort to take off my earphones as I approach you, you really should take the hint.

ressem

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

I am really bad at remembering faces until right after people have passed me by. I'd say I blank people all the time.

I still cringe when I think of some of the times I've had people wave at me, looked straight at them,decided I didn't know them and presumed they must be waving at someone behind me only to remember who they were 2 mins later.

I think the vast majority of blankings happen like that. I've never once saw someone I recognised and thought "I'll just ignore him/her", never ever. I always presumed other people were the same and let people off with blanking me.

Ditto.

I can recognise people quickly enough in a location or premises in which I'd expect them to be.
Outside of that, unless I hear a voice or there's some highly distinguishing characteristic it takes ridiculous time to click, even for immediate family.

cookie24

Nothing wrong with ignoring people you dont wish to speak to

strobe

strobe wrote: »

Why?? For the love of god why? What difference does it make?

Plus a friendly "hi" only encourages a "so, where are you off to?" or something similar.

My milk is going to get warm.

You just nod and say hi and keep walking ... no small talk, no rudeness

hucklebuck

strobe wrote: »

Sometimes I just don't want to have to stop and have a pointless ****ing 2 minute conversation that was identical and just as shallow and meaningless as the last one and the next one will be, four times over, on my way to the shop to grab a pint of bleeding milk.

Just leave me to go and get my pint of milk will ye!? If we meet up at a party in a few weeks, well, grand, I'll chat away to you for an hour or more if you want, but how great a conversation are we going to have as we stop for 100 seconds as we are both of us on our way somewhere else?

No. No small talk for you.

Is that you Larry?

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5f2LJXz-l2k

mphalo1

strobe wrote:

Sometimes I just don't want to have to stop and have a pointless ****ing 2 minute conversation that was identical and just as shallow and meaningless as the last one and the next one will be, four times over, on my way to the shop to grab a pint of bleeding milk.

run to the shop then with an excuse already prepared (id go into more detail but I gotta run sorry

Electric Boobs

The Strawman Argument wrote: »

What I do instead now is a wave when I'm 95% certain I know the person and then another excruciatingly awkward wave when I get nearer to remind them that I'm far too awkward to stop and talk.

How is it that I know you're female!