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How do you deal with unwanted attention?

  • 28-07-2014 3:44pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,503 ✭✭✭


    There is a guy that comes into my job on a regular basis that will not leave me alone, constantly asking me out to dinner, cinema, drinks. I have politely made it clear numerous times that I am not interested but he just won't back down... He's doing my head in!

    So my question is, How do you deal with people who can't seem to take no for an answer?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,709 ✭✭✭✭Mr. CooL ICE


    I continue being an ugly bastard. Seems to work 100% of the time.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,123 ✭✭✭eviltimeban


    Agree to a date then stand him up.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    I just be myself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,789 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    So my question is, How do you deal with people who can't seem to take no for an answer?
    You need to move up to a better phrase. "**** OFF!"


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,313 ✭✭✭✭Sam Kade


    There is a guy that comes into my job on a regular basis that will not leave me alone, constantly asking me out to dinner, cinema, drinks. I have politely made it clear numerous times that I am not interested but he just won't back down... He's doing my head in!

    So my question is, How do you deal with people who can't seem to take no for an answer?

    Are you a man or a woman?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    Tell him you're gay. If you're a guy tell him you're straight


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,561 ✭✭✭Duff


    "Fúck off, ya silly cúnt"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Buy a cockroach and keep it in a matchbox until you see him coming, them discreetly place it in your hair when he approaches you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,928 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Blast them all with bleach.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,046 ✭✭✭Berserker


    Agree to a date then stand him up.

    Probably not the best move. It might give the guy the impression that Sinister Kid is interested when she isn't.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,281 ✭✭✭Gmol


    Stick a ring on your finger (and bells on your toes and you shall have music wherever you go)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,503 ✭✭✭Sinister Kid


    Sam Kade wrote: »
    Are you a man or a woman?

    Woman :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    I had a customer like that for a while.

    Easiest thing I found was to call security and get them to ask him to leave. Or tell your boss, and refuse to serve him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭FierceMild


    Just say "Oh, coffee sounds great, I have this great business idea that I want to share. The first thing to say is that it is NOT a pyramid scheme."


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,833 ✭✭✭CFlat


    There is a guy that comes into my job on a regular basis that will not leave me alone, constantly asking me out to dinner, cinema, drinks. I have politely made it clear numerous times that I am not interested but he just won't back down... He's doing my head in!

    So my question is, How do you deal with people who can't seem to take no for an answer?

    Tell him you're on a diet, you don't watch films and you're a recovering alcoholic. That should do it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 904 ✭✭✭Drakares


    Tell him you have the worst dose of the green furry the doc has ever seen. That'll keep him away :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 136 ✭✭Kaycee2


    Years ago, when I was a young one, I used to have this fella come into my job who'd try an chat me up and ask me out but I was having none of it. At first it was just like banter but he was getting more annoying and pushy every time.

    Then him and his friend came in one day and he was off his head on something, one of my co workers was getting a bit nervy with him being there, he stood in front of me for what felt like forever and I said can I help you with something then he says 'can ye feel the sexual tension between us it's like lec-tric-idee' it had been a very long day so I said I don't get paid enough to listen to this sh!t, then he went off on one, he swung a bag of cans he'd been carrying at me but missed and then threatened all sorts, had to get the guards but he'd cleared off by the time they got there

    Moral of the story is, 'I don't get paid enough to listen to this sh!t' is probably not the best line to use


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,624 ✭✭✭Little CuChulainn


    Tell him your boyfriend wouldn't be happy if you started dating customers.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 76 ✭✭anotherposter


    There is a guy that comes into my job on a regular basis that will not leave me alone, constantly asking me out to dinner, cinema, drinks. I have politely made it clear numerous times that I am not interested but he just won't back down... He's doing my head in!

    So my question is, How do you deal with people who can't seem to take no for an answer?

    tell him you are a lesbian


  • Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 896 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fuzzytrooper


    In 1972, a crack commando unit was sent to prison by a military court for a crime they didn't commit. These men promptly escaped from a maximum security stockade to the Los Angeles underground. Today, still wanted by the government they survive as soldiers of fortune. If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find them....maybe you can hire The A-Team.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,611 ✭✭✭✭blade1


    Tell him you've got blue waffle!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,477 ✭✭✭✭Knex*


    Tell him you can't go to the cinema as you have violent epilepsy.

    And a penis.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,042 ✭✭✭zl1whqvjs75cdy


    Stone cold stunner him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,559 ✭✭✭RoboRat


    Just fart, very loudly... I guarantee he will never look at you again.

    You can even use this tactic in uncomfortable work situations too.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,503 ✭✭✭Sinister Kid


    I had a customer like that for a while.

    Easiest thing I found was to call security and get them to ask him to leave. Or tell your boss, and refuse to serve him.


    Not really an option unfortunately!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,044 ✭✭✭Wossack


    fake your own death


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,477 ✭✭✭✭Knex*


    In a joking tone, tell him your boyfriend is a guard, and he'll get a restraining order written up if he keeps his crap up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,123 ✭✭✭eviltimeban


    Tell him that you'll meet him at the local Scientology centre. "oh you're not a member? here's where you sign up"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    tell him you are a lesbian

    That never, ever works, ever! They just get more excited. :(


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,607 ✭✭✭toastedpickles


    If you work in a garage and theres a power hose there blast him with that, then hand him a basket with some lotion in it


    "it rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again....."

    And so on, but no really, just say you're seeing someone


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 76 ✭✭anotherposter


    That never, ever works, ever! They just get more excited. :(

    just say you like the butch kind


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,197 ✭✭✭housetypeb


    Faint hear never won fair lady


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭FierceMild


    housetypeb wrote: »
    Faint hear never won fair lady

    I SAID, "DO YOU WANNA GET A COFFEE SOMETIME".


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    You could explain in the nicest possible way that you are seeing someone or just broke up with some one and are not just ****ing interested.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 560 ✭✭✭Philo Beddoe


    Ask him why he has ignored your repeated refusals. Then ask him does he not realise how disrespectful that is. You're now politely accusing him of bad behaviour which should have one of two results - he sees reason or he gets the hump. Either should get rid of him.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,745 ✭✭✭Macavity.


    Chop off his penis and send it to him in the post.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,691 ✭✭✭failinis


    Say that you are seeing someone, and if that fails, let your manager know and refuse to serve him.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,745 ✭✭✭Macavity.


    You're now politely accusing him of bad behaviour which should have one of two results - he sees reason or he gets the hump. Either should get rid of him.

    The OP doesn't want to hump him though.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 560 ✭✭✭Philo Beddoe


    Macavity. wrote: »
    The OP doesn't want to hump him though.

    No, she said she wasn't interested in dinner, drinks or the cinema. Humping options are being kept open!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 625 ✭✭✭roadsmart


    Stop working in an escort agency?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,577 ✭✭✭StormWarrior


    Look seriously, he is harassing you. If he is an employee of the company then tell him you consider his behaviour harassment and you will make a complaint about him if he continues. If he's a customer then tell your boss what's going on and ask him/her to handle it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,012 ✭✭✭Plazaman


    Tell him you can't possibly think of doing anything else until you kill John Chessington and his bítch wife. Start sharpening knifes at your desk when he comes in and print up a fake book cover "How to dispose of bodies" to put on a random book. Start asking him awkward questions like how much acid does he think it would take to break down an average sized body. A few hushed phone calls with strong threatening language then hang up suddenly when he appears.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,789 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    In all seriousness though, headbutts. Headbutts solve all problems.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭FierceMild


    ScumLord wrote: »
    In all seriousness though, headbutts. Headbutts solve all problems.

    So true. TV-license inspectors, locked doors, unsolicited callers, jammed lids on jars, broken tv remotes, getting a bank loan. People don't realize how multi-functional a headbutt is.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,503 ✭✭✭Sinister Kid


    No, she said she wasn't interested in dinner, drinks or the cinema. Humping options are being kept open!

    Haha Humping optons are deffinitly closed!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,577 ✭✭✭StormWarrior


    Or, in a really sympathetic way, like you're really sorry to be telling him this (so you don't get in trouble at work for being rude and so that it seems more believeable) tell him that you didn't want to have to tell him this but that you think he's really, really ugly and you could just never, ever fancy him. Maybe that will embarrass him so much that he stops trying. You could pick out personal flaws to make it more embarrassing - eg if he's slim say "I'm sorry but I just don't fancy skinny men because you look like a little underdeveloped boy and I would feel like a paedophile" or if he has a bit of xtra girth say "I'm sorry, I don't want to be mean but I'm just repulsed by fat men," etc. Just pick out something to embarrass him.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,577 ✭✭✭StormWarrior


    And say it in front of other people to make it more embarrassing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,166 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    Haha Humping optons are deffinitly closed!

    Why?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,577 ✭✭✭StormWarrior


    Tell him that you'll go out with him if he's alright with the fact that you're a pre-op transsexual.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,745 ✭✭✭Macavity.


    Your only choices are to go out with him and eventually marry the man or move towns and find a new job, build a new life. Good luck, OP.


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